Dating Female Bodybuilders

[fembbfan]

Is it apporpiate to assume that most female bodybuilders are only into dating or relationships with other bodybuilders, or is this just an assumption.

[Emma-Leigh]

Is it appropriate to assume that most male bodybuilders are only into dating or relationships with other bodybuilders?

[fembbfan]

I'm just curious, because either way I look at it the situation can be viewed as being benefial as well as problematic. On one side, perhaps the female may feel as if she maybe appriected more by a male that is not necessarily into working out as often or intensely, but more into the women individually. In the other perspective, the female may feel inferior or not as appreciated by the male counterpart who focuses more on himself. I relize I used the female as the victim in this circumstance, but I suppose this situation may also be reversed.

[justanothagirl]

if anything, i would prefer dating a bodybuilder cos i go to the gym a lot and i have a lot of stuff going on so not really time for anything else........... but right now im not looking for a guy at all... (no time), plus slim/skinny/thin guys don't really attract me at all.. i'd much rather have a guy that's decent in size even with some extra fat

and they eat the same stuff and all which is good

[fembbfan]

Skinny guys are out, guys with some muscle maybe, what about guys who are not or don't consider themselves as bodybuilders. I am currently 220 lbs. at six foot and consider myself in pretty good shape.

[justanothagirl]

i would say... if you lift and you're not skinny, have nicely developed muscles etc. that would be good enough (i mean for the bodybuilding part right)...of course if you have large amounts of fat that would be a turn off for me... but a layer of fat over muscles is fine. would be nice if you ate the same things and such and understand what im doing

and then there's the personality chemistry part etc... which is far more important

yeah i dont know how much of it is muscle but you are definitely big enough

[GeneK]

agree, no skinny guys, and 220 is big enough in my opinion too (assuming relatively lean)

For me it really doesn't have to be a bodybuilder (no offense to anyone but a lot of times some of those big bodybuilder guys don't really have much inside. ie, mind & brain) But that's not true for everyone of course, bodybuilders have this absolute discipline, determination, inspiration and all that I absolutely admire. So it's hard to say actually.

But in any case, being a bodybuilder or not isn't so important to me, but being athletic and active is an absolute MUST (and VERY attractive to me, bonus if the guy is an athlete!). And with that, being in shape is just implied.

By the way I'm not a hard core bodybuilder but I do spend a lot of time in the gym, reading about bodybuilding... let's just say I'm really into it and I'm on the process of turning myself into a hardcore one.

[mommy*2*3]

Is it apporpiate to assume that most female bodybuilders are only into dating or relationships with other bodybuilders, or is this just an assumption.

No, that is a wrong assumption. I don't know what percentage exactly have bb spouces however I know many bodybuilders who's spouces are not into bodybuilding. They may workout and stay physically fit to some degree. My husband is not a bodybuilder.

[arsene wenger]

if anything, i would prefer dating a bodybuilder cos i go to the gym a lot and i have a lot of stuff going on so not really time for anything else........... but right now im not looking for a guy at all... (no time), plus slim/skinny/thin guys don't really attract me at all.. i'd much rather have a guy that's decent in size even with some extra fat

and they eat the same stuff and all which is good

bad choice

[arsene wenger]

Skinny guys are out, guys with some muscle maybe, what about guys who are not or don't consider themselves as bodybuilders. I am currently 220 lbs. at six foot and consider myself in pretty good shape.

skinny guys are NOT out
skinny guy can date the most beautifull princess ever from deep-rooted royal family
skinny guy does not need shallow girl
220 ibs is qualify you to the fats party or diet

[arsene wenger]

i would say... if you lift and you're not skinny, have nicely developed muscles etc. that would be good enough (i mean for the bodybuilding part right)...of course if you have large amounts of fat that would be a turn off for me... but a layer of fat over muscles is fine. would be nice if you ate the same things and such and understand what im doing

and then there's the personality chemistry part etc... which is far more important

yeah i dont know how much of it is muscle but you are definitely big enough

being skinny is not accusation or charge

[arsene wenger]

agree, no skinny guys, and 220 is big enough in my opinion too (assuming relatively lean)

For me it really doesn't have to be a bodybuilder (no offense to anyone but a lot of times some of those big bodybuilder guys don't really have much inside. ie, mind & brain) But that's not true for everyone of course, bodybuilders have this absolute discipline, determination, inspiration and all that I absolutely admire. So it's hard to say actually.

But in any case, being a bodybuilder or not isn't so important to me, but being athletic and active is an absolute MUST (and VERY attractive to me, bonus if the guy is an athlete!). And with that, being in shape is just implied.

By the way I'm not a hard core bodybuilder but I do spend a lot of time in the gym, reading about bodybuilding... let's just say I'm really into it and I'm on the process of turning myself into a hardcore one.

disagree

[TurbulentFluid]

Never dated a bb-er and probably never will.
Firstly, and quite on purpose, I date people who aren't in my line of work and aren't into my hobbies. It's because bf time is my leisure time when I don't want to do / think about either work or hobbies and just wanna relax. My current bf is a guitar player and I SO love when he goes off talking about arpeggies and chords as if I care, and I can turn off, say "uh-huh" every now and then and just... not think. It IS irritating when he tries to motivate me to play again (I haven't for 8 years), but I guess it's just what (most) men do - wanna make you do what they do. I saw it waaay too many times when bb guys bring their absolutely unathletic and disinterested gfs to the gym.
Secondly, I would NEVER under ANY circumstances let a nuisance in the form of a boyfriend come to the gym with with me. I take gym seriously and all I do there is work out, it's not socializing, or worse, make-out time. And... Maybe I'm paranoid, but I NEVER ONCE saw a guy come to a gym with his gf and NOT make an ass of himself trying to show off, and I certainly don't need embarrasments or distractions.

[pitmommy]

I like bodybuilders because its something we have in common. Only 3% of the male population like woman bodybuilders.

I dont like skinny men, they have to have nice chest, good legs , pretty feet , scultpted face and oh yeh good in bed. long hair a plus.

[sixzebra]

I'd love it if my husband were more into bodybuilding. Then we could work out together. we go to the gym together occasionally, but he does his thing and i do mine. I love it if he were into it as much as I was. I see a lot of couples at the gym working out together, spotting each other etc etc. that would be very nice to have that kind of relationship. but i'm not complaining, he's still supportive of me.

[Amris]

My boyfriend isn't a body builder. I adore him, regardless. It's all about being a genuinely good, high quality person. And that, he has in spades.

[ShadowRydr]

Only 3% of the male population like woman bodybuilders.

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Never really understood why but...I'm glad I'm one of the 3% that does.

[indiglo9124]

Dont really think it matters. What if you were married to someone and after a few years you wanted to persue bodybuilding? If things worked then it doesnt matter. I do however think that the common goal of health and fitness helps A LOT or at least the understanding of it. I dont have the same exact goals as my boyfriend but he respects what I have to do and I respect what he has to do. It works.

[worldofwiz]

I like bodybuilders because its something we have in common. Only 3% of the male population like woman bodybuilders.

I dont like skinny men, they have to have nice chest, good legs , pretty feet , scultpted face and oh yeh good in bed. long hair a plus.

I'm part of that 3%. They just look so good in jeans.

Hey I'm almost your type I just have a baby face. LOL

[ChokeOnStrength]

I tried that whole date the girl from the gym thing... I dated a fitness model, and I don't know if it was just her or what... but it just seems that she was one of the most insane people I have ever met in my life... Kinda stay away from girls at the gym now and who deep into the lifestyle... Sad but true. This isn't an overall assumption of everyone out there, just I'd rather not risk going through hell with a nutbag again. Lol. But I guess that can be any case. Just my two cents and current thoughts on the issue. Even though this isn't even answering the question at hand.

[mature_1_59]

I tried that whole date the girl from the gym thing... I dated a fitness model, and I don't know if it was just her or what... but it just seems that she was one of the most insane people I have ever met in my life... Kinda stay away from girls at the gym now and who deep into the lifestyle... Sad but true. This isn't an overall assumption of everyone out there, just I'd rather not risk going through hell with a nutbag again. Lol. But I guess that can be any case. Just my two cents and current thoughts on the issue. Even though this isn't even answering the question at hand.

Sounds like most of the women I have dated the last few years, and I haven't even met any women from my gym yet.

[arsene wenger]

I dont like skinny men, they have to have nice chest, good legs , pretty feet , scultpted face and oh yeh good in bed. long hair a plus.

shallow woman wants effeminate man

[cassie121]

I couldn't careless about looks. The whole idea is ignorant to me. Narsastic as it gets. But I think growing up with a obvious birth defect affected my veiws on "looks"

[mysteriouslady]

Ummmmmmmm Im not a bb builder. But my man is working on his pro card. I do workout with him and Im trying to get into shape. I want to look like i can compete but do not have a desire to ever compete myself.

[MauiZos]

For me, it's not so much about dating BBers or not, but about dating people that share similar values and lifestyle choices. I simply could not date a fat guy because I place a very high priority on health, fitness, and self respect. For someone to let themselves go to the point of obesity says that they clearly do not value those things like I do.

I want to date someone who will be a positive influence in my life; encouraging and motivating during stressful times of training and dieting. I cannot put up with someone constantly trying to get me to eat chicken wings and drink beer because I need to "relax and live a little". This lifestyle alientates me from a lot of what could be considered "normal" life, so I would want to feel like I was at least understood and accepted by my boyfriend. No weird looks when I buy 6lb tubs of whey protein, squat far more than I weigh, or eat nothing but fish for 4 months!

... and perhaps that's why I'm single :-)

[LiftingIsLife]

.... This lifestyle alientates me from a lot of what could be considered "normal" life, so I would want to feel like I was at least understood and accepted by my boyfriend. No weird looks when I buy 6lb tubs of whey protein, squat far more than I weigh, or eat nothing but fish for 4 months!

... and perhaps that's why I'm single :-)

dont give up hope yet MZ, there's lots of us out there who like buying/eating
the same stuff that you do~~

best,
~lifer

[ablakemedic]

For me, it's not so much about dating BBers or not, but about dating people that share similar values and lifestyle choices. I simply could not date a fat guy because I place a very high priority on health, fitness, and self respect. For someone to let themselves go to the point of obesity says that they clearly do not value those things like I do.

I want to date someone who will be a positive influence in my life; encouraging and motivating during stressful times of training and dieting. I cannot put up with someone constantly trying to get me to eat chicken wings and drink beer because I need to "relax and live a little". This lifestyle alientates me from a lot of what could be considered "normal" life, so I would want to feel like I was at least understood and accepted by my boyfriend. No weird looks when I buy 6lb tubs of whey protein, squat far more than I weigh, or eat nothing but fish for 4 months!

... and perhaps that's why I'm single :-)

I was married when I started this body-changing journey. When I started to change my life style it caused a lot of stress in our relationship. He began to feel left out and ignored and untrusting of me because of the time I started spending in the gym. He could have joined me, and he did a few times, but the lifestyle I wanted didn't suit him. This was not the only issue we had but it was a big one- and now we are divorced, though still very close.

For this reason I have to agree that the more things in common the better- especially when it comes to lifestyle choices. If this were a hobby or if I were doing it to meet a short term goal it wouldn't matter as much but this is something that is part of me- for life. I would love to have a BF that fully supported my efforts, worked out with me, ate with me, and mostly: motivated me and believed in me. I would totally be supportive of his efforts as well. Image what you could accomplish with that kind of partnership....sigh....

For now, I'll just keep coming here for motivation!

[hugs]

I used to date the "lean and lanky" type...not really having a body type preference but then I dated a man with thick shoulders and large muscles (bodybuilder with awesome arms and chest) and now that's the only type of man I'm attracted to. Maybe it's shallow, but that's my choice.

It's kind of sad, because most guys I have found really don't try to work out...makes me respect those muscular guys even more. And contrary to popular belief, this meat head I had is also the most intelligent person I know.

[arsene wenger]

For me, it's not so much about dating BBers or not, but about dating people that share similar values and lifestyle choices. I simply could not date a fat guy because I place a very high priority on health, fitness, and self respect. For someone to let themselves go to the point of obesity says that they clearly do not value those things like I do.

I want to date someone who will be a positive influence in my life; encouraging and motivating during stressful times of training and dieting. I cannot put up with someone constantly trying to get me to eat chicken wings and drink beer because I need to "relax and live a little". This lifestyle alientates me from a lot of what could be considered "normal" life, so I would want to feel like I was at least understood and accepted by my boyfriend. No weird looks when I buy 6lb tubs of whey protein, squat far more than I weigh, or eat nothing but fish for 4 months!

... and perhaps that's why I'm single :-)

its nice to have partener who share you many of your interrestes
but remember , the life is not only working which mean there are many other interrsts you can share with your partener away of working out
there is another thing i want to add
life is risk , to enjoy it you have to take the risk

[pitmommy]

shallow woman wants effeminate man

this shallow woman has married the very man she describes. No need to throw insults, perhaps you have a complex.