Deep down I think Im gay, I just dont want to admit it for various reasons. Family will be mad; social disapproval; not wanting to accept it; etc. But is it better to bury and ignore these feelings, or embrace gayness and have sex with guys?
I envision myself in the future giving in to it, so why not accept it now? I dont know. Something is telling me to put it off, so thats my only dilemna. What should I do.
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01-07-2006, 05:19 PM #1
Suppressing gayness
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01-07-2006, 05:22 PM #2
no dude hold out on accepting it, its best to do it when you are in your late 30s have a wife and 2.5 teenaged children and a nice "conservative" job
Never shall innocent blood be shed. Yet the blood of the wicked shall flow like a river. The three shall spread their blackened wings and be the vengeaful striking hammer of god
In the bb.com trenches fighting the good fight for anal love...*eyes narrow* straight anal love. Lieutenant Twizted of the PIITB army...
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01-07-2006, 05:23 PM #3
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just gotta learn to let go of what other people think and do what makes you feel right, life is too short to waste on account of other people's thoughts
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01-07-2006, 05:24 PM #4
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...07612&page=470
Welcome out. It sounds like you know what you feel and are having trouble admitting to it. Is there anyone locally you can talk to about it? For many of us, our families never have accepted it, for others they have.1. I thought all along you'd be the death of me, but I met one tonight who wants what's left of me!
2. You are so full of s***, maintenance is still unclogging the toilet.
3. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
4. This mission does not exist, nor will it ever exist.
5. I'd like to check you for ticks.
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01-07-2006, 05:28 PM #5
Hey Cowboy thanks for that link. Thats right I dont have anyone close to me to talk to. I know of a gay/lesbian hotline to call for these sort of things, but I feel cheesy doing it for some reason.
Also to that guy who said come out after I get married isnt going to happen because I wouldnt ever have kids or sex with a woman or marriage, because Im gay. So that is not a concern. What I meant is come out now, and stop living in denial like I am now in ordre to please family and society.
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01-07-2006, 05:29 PM #6Originally Posted by tellmethetruth1. I thought all along you'd be the death of me, but I met one tonight who wants what's left of me!
2. You are so full of s***, maintenance is still unclogging the toilet.
3. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
4. This mission does not exist, nor will it ever exist.
5. I'd like to check you for ticks.
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01-07-2006, 05:30 PM #7Originally Posted by tellmethetruth
it was a joke bro... good luck with your self discover... why not go to like a gay club 40 miles away from your house (so no one will see you) and see if it feels rightNever shall innocent blood be shed. Yet the blood of the wicked shall flow like a river. The three shall spread their blackened wings and be the vengeaful striking hammer of god
In the bb.com trenches fighting the good fight for anal love...*eyes narrow* straight anal love. Lieutenant Twizted of the PIITB army...
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01-07-2006, 05:35 PM #8
10-4 on the gay activity out of town, might try it!
My mom is always on me about getting a girlfriend, and Im running out of excuses to tell her. I used to rely on saying all girls from 18-21 are in party mode and Im not, which worked well. But now that Im getting older these girls are looking for serious relationships, and my mom knows this.
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01-07-2006, 05:44 PM #9Originally Posted by tellmethetruth1. I thought all along you'd be the death of me, but I met one tonight who wants what's left of me!
2. You are so full of s***, maintenance is still unclogging the toilet.
3. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
4. This mission does not exist, nor will it ever exist.
5. I'd like to check you for ticks.
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01-07-2006, 05:48 PM #10
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01-07-2006, 05:57 PM #11
Dude if your gay your gay, if people dont accept you....**** um....no not that way, i mean just forget um and move on with your life.
Dont fear to live your life as the person you really are just because some people in it might not approve, life is too short to live for others....read the james dean quote from my sig, says it how it is.
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01-07-2006, 06:03 PM #12
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Originally Posted by tellmethetruth
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01-07-2006, 06:59 PM #13
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Do what feels right, be yourself.
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01-07-2006, 07:24 PM #14Originally Posted by tellmethetruth
-EricIf you want to know where the power lies, then ask whom you cannot criticize. -Proverb
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01-07-2006, 07:28 PM #15Originally Posted by Mr. Independent1. I thought all along you'd be the death of me, but I met one tonight who wants what's left of me!
2. You are so full of s***, maintenance is still unclogging the toilet.
3. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
4. This mission does not exist, nor will it ever exist.
5. I'd like to check you for ticks.
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01-07-2006, 07:33 PM #16
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Do what makes you happy.
"Prayer and arsenic will kill a cow."
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01-07-2006, 07:38 PM #17
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Just accept it and be happy with who you are. No need to try to please everyone around you by pretending to be straight
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01-07-2006, 07:48 PM #18
You have to be who you are. You're already unhappy. You'll be unhappy being forever without a partner to love. You have to give up something, no matter what you do.
And you never know, you may be surprised that your family may just come around sooner rather than later.
Try what someone said earlier, give it a test drive in a distant town. If you find yourself in love with someone, find yourself feeling happier, then it's time to out with it. If you find it not worth it, then find a way to deal with the alone-ness of it in the name of family harmony.First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out -because I was not a Socialist.
Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out -because I was not a Trade Unionist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out -because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for me - and there was no one left to speak for me.
-attributed to Pastor Martin Niemoller (1892/1984)
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01-07-2006, 07:54 PM #19
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Have you ever been with a girl?
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01-07-2006, 08:15 PM #20Originally Posted by DJ Hogue1. I thought all along you'd be the death of me, but I met one tonight who wants what's left of me!
2. You are so full of s***, maintenance is still unclogging the toilet.
3. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
4. This mission does not exist, nor will it ever exist.
5. I'd like to check you for ticks.
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01-07-2006, 08:19 PM #21
Gay or straight, you still gotta lift, eat, sleep, repeat...
1. I thought all along you'd be the death of me, but I met one tonight who wants what's left of me!
2. You are so full of s***, maintenance is still unclogging the toilet.
3. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
4. This mission does not exist, nor will it ever exist.
5. I'd like to check you for ticks.
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01-07-2006, 08:21 PM #22Originally Posted by Mr. IndependentIf you drink and post
Your a Bloody Idiot
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01-07-2006, 08:39 PM #23Originally Posted by Toph
I agree
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01-07-2006, 08:42 PM #24Originally Posted by Toph1. I thought all along you'd be the death of me, but I met one tonight who wants what's left of me!
2. You are so full of s***, maintenance is still unclogging the toilet.
3. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!
4. This mission does not exist, nor will it ever exist.
5. I'd like to check you for ticks.
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01-07-2006, 09:26 PM #25
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Originally Posted by Mr. Independent
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01-07-2006, 10:23 PM #26Originally Posted by tellmethetruth
Even if you were straight, you're not somehow obligated to marry and start cranking out grandchildren. You're your own man, and ultimately, you only have to answer to yourself.
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01-07-2006, 11:08 PM #27Originally Posted by Mr. Independent"Methods are many, and principles are few. Methods often change, but principles never do."
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01-07-2006, 11:21 PM #28
cowboy athlete i dont even know you .. but get a life man .. freaken gay 44 year old .. you have to be kidding me?
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01-07-2006, 11:48 PM #29
What's wrong with that? Homosexuality is a part of who you are, just like heterosexuality - why should he be "kidding"?
tellmethetruth - "to thine own self be true", no truer words have ever been spoken. Live your life your way - if you feel you need to do this, then do it. Your family should love you for who you are, not for who you are attracted to sexually. Doesn't always work like that unfortunately, but there it is. You can't deny a part of who you are - you will be ostracised to an extent, face abuse, face prejudice, but people will do it regardless, whether you're skinny, fat, hetero or homosexual. Learn to be YOU - no-one else can do that except you.
Mr Independant, just because you're uptight and aren't homosexual, STFU. You cannot compare homosexuality with murder you moron - they're so dissimilar you can't even compare the two.
And if anyone mentions my second statement and then paedophilia in the same sentence, I'll e-slap you. You cannot compare paedophilia to sexually consenting adult partners.Viking to the core.
Fark yew.
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01-08-2006, 12:31 AM #30Originally Posted by 101101If you drink and post
Your a Bloody Idiot
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