So I did something kind of dumb the other day. I hit on a few girls over facebook (an online network site with people from your school), and while most of them werent interested, 1 of them wanted to go on a date with me immediately.
I asked her if she wanted to do lunch sometime and we met up on Friday. She's cute, but not as pretty as she was online, and also she has this condition where her heart is weak, and if it beats too fast she could get into serious trouble. So she has to limit her physical activity (cant play sports or anyhting like that) and she has a scooter that she stands on to go places, in order to limit the walking she has to do.
Well she seemed very interested in talking to me when we had lunch and she said she looked forward to meeting with me again sometime. (I said yeah, just message me over facebook or something) She has my number too, but luckily I dont think she'll call it much.
Anyways, I'm not interested in her, because I cant possibly date a girl if I cant get very physical with her (which would raise her heart rate) and also i dont even have that much in common with her if i cant be active with her.
she told me again over facebook that she had a really good time and that i was a very nice person, and she wants to do this again sometime. I'm worried she likes me.
What should I do? like have lunch with her once a week just to be nice? how could I break it to her that im not interested, without being mean?
10-29-2005, 11:25 PM #1
Help, I think a girl likes me but I dont like her
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10-29-2005, 11:32 PM #2
You don't necessarily have to make interest the key factor. Sounds like she can be a good friend. Anyone who's had a serious obstacle they've had to overcome, especially while young, often turns out to be a better quality person.
If you are willing, let it go for another few "dates", and tell her honestly you are not looking for a relationship at the moment. By then you would be much better off gauging your own impression of her as well. If she took things too seriously she would probably not attempt to talk to you anymore, and if not, bumping into each other on campus wouldnt be the worst thing.
Anyways, she might be able to be sexually active...tender sex .
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10-30-2005, 09:21 PM #14Originally Posted by CaliforniaLove
i couldnt see myself marrying someone if sex, kissing, or anything like that werent options.
i mean, why would you want to pledge your life living with someone that you are only basically friends with? lol. and you are also pledging not to be physical with anyone else. and yet you cant even be physical with her!!
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