Are men afraid of women with muscle?

[MsFitFern]

Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

[Crazymix]

Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I'm not 35 but, I will say some people just go to the gym to work out and not socialize.... I would definitely talk to you if I seen you around

[bodyhard]

Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Insecure men.....

[MsFitFern]

I am not asking to marry them, just say hi dammit........dont treat me like I am carrying the bubonic plague

[Insulin Ihsaan]

only ppl who have ever talked to me in the gym were my friends. i kinda consider the gym a non-social place, you are there for one reason, to workout.

[Bob45]

Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Come to my gym. I would defintely say hello to you!

[heatwave13]

MsFitness, I am one man who is not afraid of women with muscle and I am the "say hi" type. In fact, folks call me "mouth of the south" because I'm always talking, so.....I would more than likely say hi to you but I wouldn't bother you if I noticed you were in the middle of an intense set of deadlifts (or whatever lift).

I don't know the general answer to your question, though. I will hazard a guess and say that, basically, "younger" men would be a little more likely to be intimidated by women with muscle. Maybe it's a security issue, like, they're thinking "would I be man enough to handle that kind of lady?"

[P4D2A0]

msfitness, i would say hi to you! you have an awesome body! theyre just p*ssies

[EBA84]

I think the average man is going to be intimidated by a woman with muscle. Makes them insecure about themselves.

[Kaetli]

I don't know if it's muscle or not... I'm not all that musclely and I've been at my gym for 3 years... other than the staff, only one guy has ever spoken to me (and that was last month). From what I've seen in other threads the gym is not the place to socialize. Which makes me wonder where is the place to socialize, the meat section of the supermarket?

[ChocoChick]

Maybe it's your gym? I've been at my gym for a couple of years and while I am not there to socialise, I do exchange "hello's" and an occasional pleasantry with the other regualrs. It seems a bit odd not to, considering that we see each other every day! And yes, I am focused in the gym and not there to hook up, etc. Saying hello or nodding and smiling is just being civil, imo.

[Bob45]

Maybe it's your gym? I've been at my gym for a couple of years and while I am not there to socialise, I do exchange "hello's" and an occasional pleasantry with the other regualrs. It seems a bit odd not to, considering that we see each other every day! And yes, I am focused in the gym and not there to hook up, etc. Saying hello or nodding and smiling is just being civil, imo.

I had been going to my gym for quite a while and no one said hello. One day I told a women I see her there all the time. I asked how often she worked out. I got a 5 minute answer as I was resting between a sets, lol.

[ScubaDave]

I'd definitely say it's the intimidation factor. Not only is the fact that you're in great shape, but likely you move around the gym with confidence, purpose and direction. That alone can be enough to bring out the insecurities of others. That being said...keep doing what you're doing - you're looking great!!

[Arlecchino]

Not sure. A lot of guys will be intimidated, yes, especially when you consider that they seem to be cowed by simple things like the squat rack. Depends on the individual, the atmosphere of your gym, etc.

I avoid talking to anyone at my gym, but I am there to train, and it is the only time my phone is off during the entire week. My time in the gym I share with no one.

[KingofMinot]

Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I'm sorry. But in all honesty the reason why I wouldn't speak to you is because women tend to think every guy that say's Hello is trying to flirt with them. So when I go to the gym I don't speak I may give a head nod to a couple of bros but thats about it. Now if I saw you at Walmart I'd say hello Miss. But in the Gym you are there to workout and not be friendly so yes I'd avoid you to. So I won't get that feeling that you think that I think that you are a piece of meat.

[bgnb]

Ever think that the guys are just being polite?

Lots of women get freaked out if a guy looks at them
so many of us just don't look ...

there are lots of 'women only' gyms or gym with women only
areas simple because the women feel intimidated and often
disgusted by guys staring ...

well, the safe thing for guys is to simply look away.

that's all it may be ...

[GnomusMaximus]

ya what he said, my guess is they are actually trying to be nice. In my case I'd probably do the same thing until you said hello then I'd know it would be cool to say hello etc to you when I saw you.

[GnomusMaximus]

make that what "they" said

[1972girl]

I'd definitely say it's the intimidation factor. Not only is the fact that you're in great shape, but likely you move around the gym with confidence, purpose and direction. That alone can be enough to bring out the insecurities of others. That being said...keep doing what you're doing - you're looking great!!

One time I had a guy tell me I was intimidateding and I also think it has to do with confidence.But I also think people are not sure if its ok to say hello.

[ScubaDave]

I'm sorry. But in all honesty the reason why I wouldn't speak to you is because women tend to think every guy that say's Hello is trying to flirt with them. So when I go to the gym I don't speak I may give a head nod to a couple of bros but thats about it. Now if I saw you at Walmart I'd say hello Miss. But in the Gym you are there to workout and not be friendly so yes I'd avoid you to. So I won't get that feeling that you think that I think that you are a piece of meat.

Huh??? I think your giving yourself too much credit King.

There's nothing that says you can't workout, be friendly (you don't have to be over-talkative, a simple hello will do), and not be accused of flirting.

[DanVanVliet]

I like women with muscle, I like women without muscle I guess I just like women.Hey Dave.

[KingofMinot]

Huh??? I think your giving yourself too much credit King.

There's nothing that says you can't workout, be friendly (you don't have to be over-talkative, a simple hello will do), and not be accused of flirting.

I workout at an Army gym and I over heard two women today complaing about how the guy's look at them like a piece of meet.

I don't see how I am giving myself to much credit for not wanting to come off as the guy who looks at women like a piece of meet. But that's what I pick up on. I mean they come in wearing the tightest whatever they can find with alot of makeup on and then walk on the treadmill for 25minutes and then go to the hip abductor and do fire hydrants after that. No thank you I'm not going to say hello unless they say hello. I am only speaking of the women that go to workout when I usually go. It's a powerlifter female that's really cool and even helped me learn proper form she rocks.

[chodan9]

I dont find muscular women intimidating.
Some women like to keep to them selves some dont. I usually say hello and if they say hello back or are friendly I may strike up a conversation, they same as I would with a new guy at the gym.
You can tell if someone doesnt want to be bothered because they will many times avoid eye contact and go out of there way not to interact with others and thats cool, but I am a pretty social person so if you open the door I wil respond in kind.

[John Prophet]

they are probably intimidated moreso by the fact that u r in great shape as far as low bodyfat. If u look like "u have it all together" then its probably intimidating to them because 95% of gym rats never acheive low bodyfat etc...me included.

[John Prophet]

on a side note....people seem to find me intimidating because EVIDENTLY I must scowl a lot or look mad sometimes....which I dont intend to do. So people tend to not meet my eyes which is fine because I usually dont meet theirs.

In that case it would be interesting if u and I were the only 2 people in the gym on a slow night....we'd just walk around not looking at each other etc, lol

[mature_1_59]

I agree with the "being polite" theory.
I think most men have been conditioned not to bother the ladies at the gym for fear that they will be assumed to be hitting on them.
Myself, I would acknowledge you as I would one of the guys, with a nod and a "hey". However, if you wanted more of a conversation you would have to initiate it, thereby letting me know I was not a bother.

BTW, I love muscular women and appreciate the discpline and work that goes into getting that way.

[Shreddedgeek]

IMO It has Nothing to do with Muscles I think that it has a lot to do with the personality of the woman. If she is acting as if she is the best thing that ever walked into the gym, wearing the tightest outfit she could squeeze into I wont even give her the acknowledgement of existence, but is she is just there working out and 'sharing the gym' then she will get the 'GYM NOD'. or a spot if needed.
Now if Iris Kyle were in the Gym squatting in the rack next to me I would be intimated by her numbers.

[TANK25]

As far as saying hi,I think it might be more of the vibe you might be giving off then guys being afraid because of your muscles. Some people can give off a look that most people might take as(DON`T SAY A F-----G WORD TO ME).I know sometimes my girlfriend will come down in the basement while I`m working out. She will say to me"Who just killed your mom?"because of the tense look I have on my face.

[John Prophet]

often I am deep in thought....in the gym I am usually pretty dang "focused"....in those cases sometimes I might look right at someone but not even really realize they are there....they could speak or make eye contact but I wouldnt notice it.

maybe u r the same way??

in either case if u want more peeps to speak to you...speak to them first

[tolewfo]

Maybe it is because of insecurity. When you are not in shape and see a woman that is out of your league, you already feel defeated. I am a very social person, I bartend and can talk to anyone. I see the insecurities come out when they don't need to be there. I even will just say to a couple of the guys that come in... "Dude, just say Hi and buy her a drink... If she says no then you just saved yourself some cash... But I digress...I have a friend who would never date a woman that can beat him in sports. He likes them sort of too girly. I find a woman that can give me competition in any game is attractive. But, with that said... I have never approached someone in the gym. Maybe it's because I am sweaty, snot running out of my nose and I am breathing heavily, I am just a walking obscene phone call.