Male Ego (rant)

**Sable_Strenua** · 10-20-2005, 05:28 PM

so i'm standing by the weight rack doing my standing lateral raises minding my business. I decided to forego the mp3 player because i planned on making it a short shoulders day. BIG MISTAKE.

up walks this stocky male, looked like a powerlifter. He stops within one foot of my arm movement stares at me smugly, and says,

"Do you know what you're doing?"
wtf? I rolled my eyes mumble yes, and try to continue with my w/o
"Well, what are you working?"
i stop, visably annoyed and say shoulders
"well why are you working your shoulders?"
"why are you asking me all these questions? i work my shoulders to work those muscles"

and then...the sexist statement of the day:
"why are you working your shoulders? That's very unladylike to have big shoulders"

I stop and I was extremely pissed off. I moved to another part of the gym.
I thought about letting it go but decided that I had to say something back to him. I spotted him a few moments later doing seating bicep curls. I mimick his walk and strut right up to him right in his view of the mirror. I sarcastically repeated all the things he said to me. He chuckled uncomfortably and eventually walked up to me and apologized.

I had to throw in the fact that he didn't bother to say those things to ANY of the males in the gym. Of course he denied that.

K, by no means am i saying im perfect. But there's a difference between constructive criticism and straight up ig-nant (beyond ignorance)

alright. just had to share that with somone.

**VanillaBean_21** · 10-20-2005, 06:30 PM

I would have told him to shove his comments up his ass.

**Pink** · 10-20-2005, 07:10 PM

LM80 - Next time he asks "Do you know what you're doing?" Tell him "Sure, can I help you with your workout?"

**_Bladen_** · 10-20-2005, 07:13 PM

As a guy, yes I have a penis I am going to have to say he was just being stupid. I think the sexiest thing possible (attribute wise) is a girl that can walk into a gym, hit the free weights, and know exactly what she is doing. Keep up the good work.

**sword_** · 10-20-2005, 07:35 PM

Sounded a little bit sexist to me.

**Fatporker** · 10-20-2005, 07:41 PM

when he was curlin should did da strut and been like

wow strong arms

**mommy*2*3** · 10-20-2005, 07:52 PM

Wow...that's pretty rude to say the least. It was nice of him to apoligize. I don't know if I would have handled that situation as calmly as you did...

Recently, I had a guy friend come up to me and tell me I'm getting too big. I said "what?"..."that's impossible". He pointed to my boobs and said.."you don't want to lose THOSE do you?" I politely explained that I never had any to begin with....but the nerve of some people!

**jemtwist** · 10-20-2005, 07:56 PM

maybe he thought you were hott and in his ignorance couldn't come up with a better pickup line

**jeni5.0** · 10-20-2005, 11:39 PM

Originally Posted by jemtwist

maybe he thought you were hott and in his ignorance couldn't come up with a better pickup line

true

**TurbulentFluid** · 10-21-2005, 12:25 AM

I'm glad none of such people go to my gym... I love places where people pay just enough attention to me so not to bump into me. I did have a few people come over and give advice, I'd usually say "sorry, but I do not know you", and turn away...

**TurbulentFluid** · 10-21-2005, 12:26 AM

Originally Posted by _Bladen_

As a guy, yes I have a penis.

LOLOLOLOL I LOVE this statement!
Someone should imake a tatoo out of it!!!

**Signe** · 10-21-2005, 12:12 PM

I have two stock responses to this. After he informs me how unladylike it is to lift, I reply with:

1. **** off, buddy (with a good eye roll and the expression that says that you've just met the dumbest person on earth)

or

2. Well how long have you been lifting? You see, I'm not worried about getting bulky because after all, you've been lifting for X years and you're certainly not very muscular or fit.

Problem solved - he will never talk to you again!

**arose70** · 10-21-2005, 01:02 PM

Originally Posted by Signe

I have two stock responses to this. After he informs me how unladylike it is to lift, I reply with:

1. **** off, buddy (with a good eye roll and the expression that says that you've just met the dumbest person on earth)

or

2. Well how long have you been lifting? You see, I'm not worried about getting bulky because after all, you've been lifting for X years and you're certainly not very muscular or fit.

Problem solved - he will never talk to you again!

Damn! That is awesome...*starts taking notes*

**barenaked** · 10-21-2005, 01:13 PM

should've told him that your girlfriend loves big muscular shoulders. That probably would have shut him up.

**Sable_Strenua** · 10-21-2005, 04:32 PM

some of these responses are hilarious! I forgot to add that after apologizing he attempted to have a 5-min conversation with me and didn't understand why I wasn't responding to his questions/comments. Then, after previously saying how "unladylike" big shoulders were his last statement to me was "well at least you're working out"

WTF?

since i'm in a new area, this is a new gym 4 me. i've been there for about 2 weeks and hadn't had any problems until this dips**t stepped up to me with his overwhelming ignorance.

I told him he should learn the talent of thinking before he speaks.
but i guess that's just too hard for some people...

**beanbag** · 10-21-2005, 06:49 PM

what a jerk. I am assuming you're married, based on your user text. if you don't wear your wedding ring to the gym, you might think about starting. I wear a ring my parents gave me (and that most people think is an engagement/wedding ring), and so far the only guy who's ever had the nerve to approach me and start a conversation (positive or negative) has been a personal trainer who works there.

**TurbulentFluid** · 10-22-2005, 03:11 PM

Originally Posted by barenaked

should've told him that your girlfriend loves big muscular shoulders. That probably would have shut him up.

LOLOLOLOLOL I LOVE this one!!!!

**Sable_Strenua** · 10-23-2005, 06:54 PM

Originally Posted by beanbag

what a jerk. I am assuming you're married, based on your user text.

lol i'm not married, i just have a big crush on that pro bodybuilder

**beanbag** · 10-23-2005, 10:22 PM

Originally Posted by ladymystique80

lol i'm not married, i just have a big crush on that pro bodybuilder

hahaha. wow, that is my dumb moment for the day.

okay. so a similar solution...you could go to claires and buy a cheap ring with a huge rock (they tend to look real) and wear that instead.

**POrtergolf** · 10-24-2005, 08:51 AM

Originally Posted by ladymystique80

some of these responses are hilarious! I forgot to add that after apologizing he attempted to have a 5-min conversation with me and didn't understand why I wasn't responding to his questions/comments. Then, after previously saying how "unladylike" big shoulders were his last statement to me was "well at least you're working out"

WTF?

since i'm in a new area, this is a new gym 4 me. i've been there for about 2 weeks and hadn't had any problems until this dips**t stepped up to me with his overwhelming ignorance.

I told him he should learn the talent of thinking before he speaks.
but i guess that's just too hard for some people...

Hey are you in atlanta? I saw your post in the atlanta thread. What gym are you at. I think it was me who made the remark at the gym.. LOL, just kidding.

**Signe** · 10-24-2005, 03:30 PM

A few more of my favorites - "What the hell am I? Flypaper for morons?"

"People like you are the reason that people like me have caller ID"

"If I throw a stick, will you go away?"

**Thin Build** · 10-24-2005, 08:27 PM

thats not the male ego. he was trying to hit on you by negging you. but he failed miserably because he is a wannabe. i notice you said stocky powerlifter smug guy.

if that was an athletic good looking guy and he said that to you with a joking smile then asked you your number you would be gushing.

**semiotik** · 10-24-2005, 09:21 PM

Maybe, though I wouldn't be so quick to assume. A lot of people get into the zone whilst working out and are livid whenever anybody interrupts them, hot or not.

**Signe** · 10-25-2005, 11:15 AM

Originally Posted by Thin Build

if that was an athletic good looking guy and he said that to you with a joking smile then asked you your number you would be gushing.

Of course, any guy who says something that's that flat out stupid is no longer hot, regardless of what he looks like. On that note, guys who make condescending statements about people they don't know are pretty damn ugly as well.

**sillyvent** · 10-25-2005, 03:07 PM

Yea who gives a s*** if he was hot or not. If he said that to me he probably would have been rushed to the ER b/c I would have thrown the db I was lifting with right at his big empty mellon!!!!

**Sable_Strenua** · 10-27-2005, 11:55 AM

Originally Posted by Thin Build

if that was an athletic good looking guy and he said that to you with a joking smile then asked you your number you would be gushing.

INCORRECT. An @sshole is an @sshole, PERIOD. Where did you "learn" your info on women??

Originally Posted by sillyvent

Yea who gives a s*** if he was hot or not. If he said that to me he probably would have been rushed to the ER b/c I would have thrown the db I was lifting with right at his big empty mellon!!!!

funny...he joked about me throwing a dumbbell at him. I seriously considered it, but there were waaaay too many witnesses

**SexyChic** · 10-27-2005, 12:47 PM

Originally Posted by barenaked

should've told him that your girlfriend loves big muscular shoulders. That probably would have shut him up.

HAHAHAH

**Ninja J** · 10-27-2005, 12:50 PM

Originally Posted by beanbag

what a jerk. I am assuming you're married, based on your user text. if you don't wear your wedding ring to the gym, you might think about starting. I wear a ring my parents gave me (and that most people think is an engagement/wedding ring), and so far the only guy who's ever had the nerve to approach me and start a conversation (positive or negative) has been a personal trainer who works there.

I'm married and wear my wedding ring, but it doesn't matter anyway, because my lifting gloves cover it up. Where I work out now, I don't have to worry about that anyone, because everyone knows who I am, and who my husband is. But when we move we'll be going to a "public" gym, and might have to deal with that crap. The ring is a good idea I guess, but not with someone that wears lifting gloves. And there are still going to be people that don't respect the sanctity of marriage and still try to hit on you.

**sillyvent** · 10-27-2005, 12:57 PM

Originally Posted by ladymystique80

INCORRECT. An @sshole is an @sshole, PERIOD. Where did you "learn" your info on women??

funny...he joked about me throwing a dumbbell at him. I seriously considered it, but there were waaaay too many witnesses

Haha Thank god you think before you act, b/c I don't...phew!!! The worst I have ever got was someone try to correct my already correct form....ugh, just b/c I am a woman doesn't mean I don't know what I am doing buddy! MEN!

**ItFit** · 10-27-2005, 07:20 PM

Originally Posted by ladymystique80

so i'm standing by the weight rack doing my standing lateral raises minding my business. I decided to forego the mp3 player because i planned on making it a short shoulders day. BIG MISTAKE.

Moral of the story: ALWAYS HAVE YOUR MP3 PLAYER!!!!!

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Good one: "talent of learning to think before he speaks"

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