Just recently had sex for the first time. Actually twice over a 1 week period and I couldn't cum both times? and my girl seems like she feels bad about it.
I have a feeling she thinks it's because of her? and that certainly isn't the case. I'm VERY attracted and wouldn't wanna be with anybody else in bed, and I want her. But why the hell cant I go?
The first time after the sex it actually looked like I did? and I did have some cum in the condom but I never felt anything? Maybe the condom was to thick?
I changed the condom to a thinner one the second time and It feels MUCH better, But i still couldn't go this time. It was a little better tho?
I'm just afraid somethings wrong because I thought the first time you have sex most guys go in like 30 seconds? I was ****ing for 15 mins and couldn't do anything?
and would the condom being to small make a difference? I'm not trying to sound like some macho guy but the girl thinks I should try using a larger condom because it looks and feels to small.
Girl wants to go to the pill so maybe will try sex without a condom but i'm just afraid it's something to do with me?
It's definitely not the girl, and im 100% positive im not gay. Did anyone else feel anxiety to cum the first time they had sex? Has anyone had this problem? I feel alone because I've never heard of a guy not cumming during sex...Opinions please.
10-10-2005, 12:32 PM #1
Had sex for the first time and couldn't go?
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yeah, just relax and it'll happen. it happens to me sometimes and trust me, it makes it that much worse if you start trying to get off. just go with the flow and it should happen.
and by all means, make sure your girl knows it's not her fault. she'll feel all bad about it and that won't help the sex out either.
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10-10-2005, 01:23 PM #7Originally Posted by Odin87
lol sorry guys I'm usually a guest browsing bbing.com, and this is the only forum im on with guys who might be able to help me out.
So most likely it's the condom? and yes I have been thinking about it way to much during sex....both times. I just wanna make sure she see's im having fun to lol. As long as it's not just me? I just figured first time most guys probably go quick? with or without a condom.
10-10-2005, 01:29 PM #8
do you masturbate a lot? that could be the problem. If you do try not masturbating for a while. Then when you have sex, it should be an explosion. Also you are thinking about it too much and have anxiety issues which you are passing on to her. Relax and do it. also both of you get tested for STD's. If you both are clean you can get her on the pill and drop the condom. It will feel better. And if that doesnt work you are gay.
10-10-2005, 01:30 PM #9Originally Posted by mopar4x4
don't worry so much man, it was only 15 min. Hell the first time it was like 45 and I couldn't finish the deal. I was too nervous and worried about it. For God sakes though don't not wear an condom like some a*s clown previously stated. Don't change your biggest problem from "why can't I get off?" to "how much does it cost to take care of a baby?"
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and yes I did masterbate alot before the play-ful stuff in are relationship started. She actually wants to go on the pill because she heard it's better for the guy. I heard it causes depression for the girl so i dunno? and yes will both get tested before if we decide too...even know im 99.9% sure me or her dont have std's. The fact of no condom only scares me because of babies.
I'm definitely not making her feel likes it's her fault. From your guys post it mostly sounds like im trying to hard and thinking about it to much?
Was just scared because I thought first timers went fast? and it was just akward because i didn't go..and after all these years of thinking about it wtf?? lol. I Appreciate your post guys....thanks for the help and if anybody has any other comments please reply.
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10-10-2005, 04:51 PM #16
NO DUDE. DO NOT FORGET THE CONDOM AND PUT HER ON A PILL. My brother got this chick pregnant, and he's so screwed. My parents don't even like him anymore. That will be your biggest mistake. Well then again, you could always do that and cum on her tits. Just don't cum in her vagina or you'll be sorry.
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dont worry dude, i lasted 45min on my first go, i thought i was never going to cum. But now its a different story lol 10min and im done :P
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10-11-2005, 12:04 PM #26Originally Posted by mopar4x4
Look man if you guys have been together for a while and if your older then go for it, get her on the pill and your good. But hell if your like 15-20 years old that is dumbest thing you could do. You are gonna break up with this girl eventually and bang lots of other girls, do you really wanna take the chance of getting this one pregnant. Also if she is in her teens that is no good. I would NEVER trust a teenage girl to take her b.c. all the time and correctly.