Confessions of a Sexually Promiscuous girl: Doesnt end well dear women

[Nocturnal310]

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Sleeping around: My moment of truth happened at university

Even during my hedonistic teenage years, somewhere in the back of my mind I had a "checklist" for my life. I'd envisioned meeting the man of my dreams at around the age of 29, and marrying by 30ish.

I did meet the man of my dreams at the age of 29, but I guess we took a wrong turn somewhere, and our relationship ran into a ditch. But if there is any truth in the saying "life is what happens when you make other plans", I think that the same logic would also apply to love.

Sexually, I was an early bloomer and a pretty wild teenager. I had an S&M relationship with my 24-year-old French teacher and held naked make-out parties in my swimming pool on weekends.

But, although I was adventurous and curious, I was much more concerned with having all the right moves when it came to pleasuring the boys than pleasing myself. Because of this, until the age of 19, I'd never had an orgasm (although I did some Oscar-worthy faking).

My moment of truth happened at university, when I went to see a sex educator speak candidly about self-love and show a video of women touching themselves.

The next day, I went to the chemist and bought a Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator (saying it was for "neck pain"), locked myself in my bathroom and came out 45 minutes later a new woman.

Once I realised that I had to take responsibility for my own pleasure, sex and relationships in my twenties were all about experimentation. There were the one, two, and three night stands, the lesbian flings, the scuba diving instructor who gave me my first orgasm through oral sex, the sex parties, and the man who taught me that men could have multiple orgasms too all discovered through random, amazing encounters.

While worrying about protecting myself from pregnancy and STDs, as I approached my mid-twenties I realised that I was also protecting my emotions perhaps a bit too well.

So I let someone in, and experienced my first real heartbreak. But even then, I got over it quickly, since relationships then were mostly about self-discovery and sharing experiences with my friends, with the men in supporting roles.

I'm glad that I did things this way round, before I had children or a husband.

Now that I've just hit my thirties, I'm ready to confine my wild bedroom antics to one (very lucky) man, and am convinced that my sexual exploration will make me a much better partner, both in and out of the bedroom. I'm more stable, confident, and happier than ever.

But dating is harder, because there is more on the line. I'm still undecided about children, but the reality of the biological clock means that I feel I have less time to waste on the wrong person, just in case I do decide to have kids.

Maybe this is because women put too much pressure on themselves to have it all. Despite the fact Cameron Diaz, 36, and Jennifer Aniston, 39, are gorgeous, rich and have amazing careers, they are the subject of constant headlines asking why they haven't already found "the One".

Meanwhile, everyone wants to know who will be lucky enough to finally land 47-year-old George Clooney, instead of questioning the wisdom of going out with a guy whose most intense emotional connection to date seems to have been formed with a pot-bellied pig.

But I think we could all learn something from George. He doesn't care about convention, and is blazing his own trail. I'm hoping to do the same, live my life and eventually find someone who can give me a mix of great conversation and swinging-from-the-chandeliers sex that will be as fantastic at 60 as it is at 30.

the moral of the story? if you sleep with so many men..you lose your ability to enjoy a committed relationship with a man..and even if you meet that great guy..he ll never wanna be with a girl who has been banged in every orifice.

and even if he accepts you despite your past like i did...you wont be able to last because you ll miss your college years and all those sexual adventures..your brain has been re-programmed.

its great if you wanna be a single rich career cougar all your life....but even if you meet a man..you ll always crave the excitement of those one night stands etc....because your brain seeks that oxytocin rush ..and that isnt there in committed relationships/marriages.



as a woman...you reserve yourself for a great guy and half the work is done...you respect your vagina and he ll respect you.


i tried telling this to my ex as well..but seems like all that partying etc during her teenage years had programmed her brain to seek excitement from one-night stands..and not other hobbies such as sports, gyming, going to beautiful places etc.



discuss and give your opinion as a guy or a girl on the misc....i ll listen with an open mind.

[SpiderSense]

1. Why read this seriously? LMAO how some lucky guy is gonna get all her loving. OK and who's to say some fat whale didn't type that all up? I been on the internet long enough to know if a chick is candidly spilling her guts she's most likely a fat mong.

2. BRB wasting my time now and fantasizing how great sex will be in my 60's. I'm not trying to think about sex in my 60's I don't even wanna picture being alive TBH.

3. Yes too much sex does cheapen it and make it less pleasureable. I'm good on ****ing THAT much. I ain't trying to be some weirdo at 50 having to tie my balls up to a car battery to get off.

[Shepherd1125]

surely ur a wise brah.

samething applies to a man except for the orgasms lol.

[SteezyChr]

well since i dont believe in love or marriage ever lasting/working. I just think that in todays world people shouldnt be married and should just be free and able to go bang anyone they want. I feel marriage has caused a lot of problems, it brings out the worst in people and can mentally mess up the children who get caught in it.

[LikeAMachine]

Some bish tried to argue with me that it’s just as easy for men to get laid as women.


Lol women logic

[Bunpitsu]

Women sabotage their relationships though, then complain that 'it didn't work out'. Most likely the first time she 'let someone in', she went off and got a train ran on her by six guys.

Real talk.

[b0ngman]

agree and disagree

She states she is making a conscious choice to change. She wants to change and wants to lead a more traditional life.

I am sure she will have cravings for strange cawks and what not... but if she really wants this new life badly enough she will not listen to them and will stick to the plan. I dont think anyone can really become "ruined" as you put it. Bad experiences in ones past can definitely lead to a bad future... or they can be a valuable learning experience that prepares you to be a better person.

[Xinroth]

Nice thread, repped.

Will use the: "If you respect your Vagina, I will respect you" line from now on. Haha.. Women destroy their own relationships, agreed with the guy above. They control when to let guys in, they sabotage their own control when they get confused, meanwhile most men take the first step and if the girl is simply compatible, he would easily warm up to her.

[SpiderSense]

I feel marriage has caused a lot of problems, it brings out the worst in people and can mentally mess up the children who get caught in it.

Do you honestly believe that?

Answer wisely.

[SumblimeStyle]

GL finding a husband that's ok with you getting gang banged throughout your 20s. Slut logic never fails to amuse me.

[ace_gauntlit]

Now that I've just hit my thirties, I'm ready to confine my wild bedroom antics to one (very lucky) man, and am convinced that my sexual exploration will make me a much better partner, both in and out of the bedroom. I'm more stable, confident, and happier than ever.

Raged hard at this part. Get teh **** out of here with this bull****, you whore.

Who the **** wants to marry this trash after she whored herself out for over 10 years? holy ****ing ****. Strong delusion.

Hilarious and pathetic at the same time how some women try to justify their antics. From cum dumpster to future mother. yeah sure. Said "lucky man" is going to get every STD there is.

[foreverascone]

Funny, I don't hear much about porn stars getting emotional breakdowns.

[hai2dehfolks]

da fuk.


thats gross. no thanks.

[kickblake]

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the moral of the story? if you sleep with so many men..you lose your ability to enjoy a committed relationship with a man..and even if you meet that great guy..he ll never wanna be with a girl who has been banged in every orifice.

and even if he accepts you despite your past like i did...you wont be able to last because you ll miss your college years and all those sexual adventures..your brain has been re-programmed.

its great if you wanna be a single rich career cougar all your life....but even if you meet a man..you ll always crave the excitement of those one night stands etc....because your brain seeks that oxytocin rush ..and that isnt there in committed relationships/marriages.



as a woman...you reserve yourself for a great guy and half the work is done...you respect your vagina and he ll respect you.


i tried telling this to my ex as well..but seems like all that partying etc during her teenage years had programmed her brain to seek excitement from one-night stands..and not other hobbies such as sports, gyming, going to beautiful places etc.



discuss and give your opinion as a guy or a girl on the misc....i ll listen with an open mind.

I think the moral of the story is that college age bishes aren't concerned with settling down because they're hot, and they have time to spare. Then they hit the wall (i.e. aren't as hot), and start pressuring the dudes they date to settle down.

So the real moral is to date college age bishes if you don't want to settle down because they don't either.

The secondary moral is that bishes want it all: they want to be freaks, and then when they're ready (and their beauty is fading) men are supposed to still want to wife them. Sadly: beta *******s will. As men, its our responsibility to say "no, bish, you can't have your cake and eat it to, I'm not settling down with you, I'm goingto bang the more interesting more attractive younger version of you who doesn't put pressure on me to wife her. Tough shiz if you don't like it, you shouldn't have waisted your hot years experimenting."

[ace_gauntlit]

I think the moral of the story is that college age bishes aren't concerned with settling down because they're hot, and they have time to spare. Then they hit the wall (i.e. aren't as hot), and start pressuring the dudes they date to settle down.

So the real moral is to date college age bishes if you don't want to settle down because they don't either.

The secondary moral is that bishes want it all: they want to be freaks, and then when they're ready (and their beauty is fading) men are supposed to still want to wife them. Sadly: beta *******s will. As men, its our responsibility to say "no, bish, you can't have your cake and eat it to, I'm not settling down with you, I'm goingto bang the more interesting more attractive younger version of you who doesn't put pressure on me to wife her. Tough shiz if you don't like it, you shouldn't have waisted your hot years experimenting."

agreed

[LikeAMachine]

Funny, I don't hear much about porn stars getting emotional breakdowns.

Not sure if srs

[foreverascone]

Not sure if srs

Aware me on the truth then.

[Isabeli]

She'll end up with her male equal that shares her liberal views on sex. They'll be that old, groce couple at swinger parties *lol*

[guvanata2]

Fuk that **** I am NEVER marrying a used up slut nor am I ever going to get in a relationship with one of those bitches. Like she thinks that once her beauty fades she will get a nice guy? We need to convince the beta ******* nice guys to never give into 35+ year olds looking for marriage and/or gf. Those bitches deserve no love. They use up their best years slutting around and then expect that a good honest man will take her in when she starts to become ugly? You gotta be fuking sh!tting me. That aint happening on my watch.

[John$Galt]

I ain't trying to be some weirdo at 50 having to tie my balls up to a car battery to get off.

don't knock it til you try it bro

good thread OP. Girls don't realize this sh*t til it's too late, and the only guys willing to settle down with them are beta as fuk. Imagine a woman who's used to getting fukked hard and expertly by alphas, then all of a sudden she's supposed to spend the rest of her life with some supplicating bitch who has trouble getting hard and keeps asking her what she likes during sex. It's no small surprise that they cheat.

The best girl I know, best wifey-material I mean, is 25, and she's been looking for "the one" for a few years. A year ago I had a long conversation with her about dating/marriage/life, and she was already worried about aging and finding a good guy to start a family with. She has not whored around, has had 3-4 long-term boyfriends over the years, and I'd be surprised if she's slept with anyone (other than me trollface.jpg) outside of relationships. She's beautiful and has a very tight runner's body, and is in med school btw. She's the polar opposite of the girl in the OP.

[kickblake]

Fuk that **** I am NEVER marrying a used up slut nor am I ever going to get in a relationship with one of those bitches. Like she thinks that once her beauty fades she will get a nice guy? We need to convince the beta ******* nice guys to never give into 35+ year olds looking for marriage and/or gf. Those bitches deserve no love. They use up their best years slutting around and then expect that a good honest man will take her in when she starts to become ugly? You gotta be fuking sh!tting me. That aint happening on my watch.

It happens every day. And the worst part is, they've actually convinced men that its their job to do this. We're told that we should "man up" and settle down with some wore out bish instead of continuing to bang women we're actually attracted to.

[Bracket199]

This can go both ways. It's what I believe, and another female poster advocates. (she's low reps, but she has a good mindset).

Women who have a high number of partners are trash to me. Men who have a high number of partners are trash to me. Forget this whole 'difference' thing that men can go bang around. Go talk to many non-sluts and I bet they won't want to think of marrying/dating a guy who's slay count is over 50.

I think people who don't value the act of sex (making love) as something serious, then it's their choice. Call me ******* all you want, but I respect people who keep their number low for the reason that it's more respectful to them.

Many men and women don't want to marry someone who's been a slut/manwhore. It can go both ways on this.

But oh well, lots of people think in short-term, such as this writer, and now it is biting her in the ass. Tough ****. I think the same for people who go away for school, with useless degrees, and then complain when they have high debt and cannot find a job. You pick a short-term fling/fun time, expect a harder future.

[SwayWay]

cant turn a hoe into a housewife been a qoute as old as time cuz its true. once the brain has been reprogrammed for the dopamine rush of flings, etc its really hard for them to do anything else. dont waste time on trashy women.

[itsRyan]

Haven't read full post except that she was an early bloomer sexually.

My question is: Why should I give a fuk about this girl's sexual life?

Edit: Ok read your post. Makes sense, but I think brain's can be "re-programmed" with lots of abstinence, kind of like when porn addicts abstain from porn, the craving for the oxytocin/dopamine rush is decreased greatly.

[anonymousceleb]

Looks like everyone's just seeing "promiscuous woman" and saying whatever they feel on that vague subject, not what the article is actually about.

[itsRyan]

Some bish tried to argue with me that it�s just as easy for men to get laid as women.


Lol women logic

It is as easy for men to get laid, but men gotta pay..lol.

[Clever Mouse]

kind of like when porn addicts abstain from porn, the craving for the oxytocin/dopamine rush is decreased greatly.

Careful when generalizing on these two chemicals. Oxytocin (and endorphins) is something that grows stronger if you're close with ONE partner, and can significantly enhance your life and happiness, while 'sloots' and 'players' are dependent on the quick dopamine/adrenaline rush (craving) from NEW partners all the time to fuel their life.
Sure it's more complicated than that, but basically oxytocin is why you can (may) stay happy with one partner for decades of life.

[Clever Mouse]

Now that I've just hit my thirties, I'm ready to confine my wild bedroom antics to one (very lucky) man, and am convinced that my sexual exploration will make me a much better partner, both in and out of the bedroom. I'm more stable, confident, and happier than ever.

edit: B!tch is in for a surprise.

[sword_]

Some dude will scoop her up and be the "lucky" man LOL. Men gotta come correct and not tolerate that. When women approach 35 they go crazy wanting a man and wanting to settle down. Why would a man want that woman when every other man has already had her? Pathetic.

Scoop a girl in her early/mid 20s and wife that up. Not a mid 30s girl with mileage.

[kickblake]

Careful when generalizing on these two chemicals. Oxytocin (and endorphins) is something that grows stronger if you're close with ONE partner, and can significantly enhance your life and happiness, while 'sloots' and 'players' are dependent on the quick dopamine/adrenaline rush (craving) from NEW partners all the time to fuel their life.
Sure it's more complicated than that, but basically oxytocin is why you can (may) stay happy with one partner for decades of life.

Oxytocin is released by orgasm. I don't think the brain cares if its a new person or the same person that caused it...