Talking about screaming - it's time you guys started being more Vocal - some tips

[icuii2004]

I was reading this thread about "the craziest thing a woman ever screamed during sex" and wondered - what about our side? are we considered deaf or indifferent to sounds?

Some guys think that the vocals in sex are the responsibility of the girl only but this is so so wrong. You have no idea how much hearing a guy moan, grunt and talk dirty can improve things up and make it much hotter for the woman part. I have been with a few guys who were completely silent in bed and when we got to talk about it and I suggested that they should express their fun in sounds and words they were surprised - specially about the sounds part (less about the words) and some admitted they were afraid it would seem less manly to make sounds.....damn NOT! it is the hottest thing for a girl to hear the pleasure sounds of a man, not just when cumming (though this is the favorite vocal) but also before.
During my grad school I even had the chance to test the hypothesis that loud men (in bed) are more attractive for women. We played a soft porn scene with the same male actor for 60 women : for 30, we played the scene with the male actor moaning and being very vocal and for the other 30, the sounds was off - women who watched the vocal scene rated it as 40% more arrousing...so remember that.

Now - some tips about dirty talking. I would group dirty talking into 3 major groups :

1. Expressions of excitment - when a guy says how it feels good (and even better when he specifies what feels good and gives a more rich description of how good it feels) such as : " being inside you makes my cock explode" , " damn, I never felt so horny for a girl before".
These expressions are very important in order to give the girl reassurance and boost her sexual self esteem. When a girl is reassured, she ussualy feels less inhibited and less defensive.

2. Fantasy sharing - when a guy says what he wants to do to you (or want you to do to him) - during the foreplay or when he is actually doing the girl. Again, the very basic line of " I want to **** you " , " I wanna taste you" are very effective but variety and diversity can add a lot, for instance : "My balls are craving for your tongue", "I think I should check the sweetness of your cherry" etc etc...

3. Sexual Mirroring - this is the most difficult and most arrousing and intimate kind of dirty talking. When you notice something that your partner wants sexually (and doesnt say it) and you simply do it and say it out loud directly for them. For instance, when you sense your girl wants you to lead and be the active one (she let you go on top or pushes you to be more agressive) and you tell her : " you like how I take charge of you huh?", "you enjoy being my little bitch in bed " or the contrary : " I think you would love to pin me down and ride me like there is no tomorrow".
When someone actually succeeds in reflecting the right desire and says what the other really feels, it created an extreme sense of closeness and intimacy that heats up the sex. However, you have to be careful with that and do it only when you get to know the other person. Being too bold too early might create a problem.

[naweaver]

Originally Posted by icuii2004

I was reading this thread about "the craziest thing a woman ever screamed during sex" and wondered - what about our side? are we considered deaf or indifferent to sounds?

Some guys think that the vocals in sex are the responsibility of the girl only but this is so so wrong. You have no idea how much hearing a guy moan, grunt and talk dirty can improve things up and make it much hotter for the woman part. I have been with a few guys who were completely silent in bed and when we got to talk about it and I suggested that they should express their fun in sounds and words they were surprised - specially about the sounds part (less about the words) and some admitted they were afraid it would seem less manly to make sounds.....damn NOT! it is the hottest thing for a girl to hear the pleasure sounds of a man, not just when cumming (though this is the favorite vocal) but also before.
During my grad school I even had the chance to test the hypothesis that loud men (in bed) are more attractive for women. We played a soft porn scene with the same male actor for 60 women : for 30, we played the scene with the male actor moaning and being very vocal and for the other 30, the sounds was off - women who watched the vocal scene rated it as 40% more arrousing...so remember that.

Now - some tips about dirty talking. I would group dirty talking into 3 major groups :

1. Expressions of excitment - when a guy says how it feels good (and even better when he specifies what feels good and gives a more rich description of how good it feels) such as : " being inside you makes my cock explode" , " damn, I never felt so horny for a girl before".
These expressions are very important in order to give the girl reassurance and boost her sexual self esteem. When a girl is reassured, she ussualy feels less inhibited and less defensive.

2. Fantasy sharing - when a guy says what he wants to do to you (or want you to do to him) - during the foreplay or when he is actually doing the girl. Again, the very basic line of " I want to **** you " , " I wanna taste you" are very effective but variety and diversity can add a lot, for instance : "My balls are craving for your tongue", "I think I should check the sweetness of your cherry" etc etc...

3. Sexual Mirroring - this is the most difficult and most arrousing and intimate kind of dirty talking. When you notice something that your partner wants sexually (and doesnt say it) and you simply do it and say it out loud directly for them. For instance, when you sense your girl wants you to lead and be the active one (she let you go on top or pushes you to be more agressive) and you tell her : " you like how I take charge of you huh?", "you enjoy being my little bitch in bed " or the contrary : " I think you would love to pin me down and ride me like there is no tomorrow".
When someone actually succeeds in reflecting the right desire and says what the other really feels, it created an extreme sense of closeness and intimacy that heats up the sex. However, you have to be careful with that and do it only when you get to know the other person. Being too bold too early might create a problem.

Everytime I have tried the dirty talking it ended up not going well.

I am just going to buy a mirror and place at the end of my bed, and fuk every girl in front of it. Also going to buy one of those sex couches (liberator).

I have known that women love the moaning, but how do you just become a moaner or to really get into it vocally? I am too busy being focused on trying to get her off to think about moaning.

[Kiwi_Fella]

Sometimes I'll start talking **** to her if I've been drinking. But for the most, its just grunts and then:

Im going to Ejaculate!

[daddybeast]

I make plenty of noise. I can't really get into talking dirty because I always go over board with it. I have a buddy though that got the police called on him a couple of time from his nutting scream. I crashed at his house one night on the couch in the basement while he was on the 2nd floor with a chick and it woke me up.

[user9438904904]

im usually too busy eating chicken and brown rice or mixing a protein shake to make much noise. occasionally ill say "hold up, woman! you're making me spill my drink!"

not really...thanx for the post. good to know this stuff.

[Tip Top]

Originally Posted by naweaver

I have known that women love the moaning, but how do you just become a moaner or to really get into it vocally? I am too busy being focused on trying to get her off to think about moaning.

it just takes practice...i was wicked shy when i first started out but now it's not that hard...just start with grunts and then slowly turn it up a notch.

also, try thinking of you making those sounds as a tool you can use to get her off...then you can still think of trying to get her off while doing it

[Ace_2004]

I just breath heavily and the odd "mmm yeah thas good."
Anything else would seem weird as hell.

[dazzlepecs]

i am so bad at dirty talk, its like Mr Bean trying to be sexy

[AdamL00001]

Some guys just can't open up vocally in the sack. It's just unnatural for them. Fortunately, I don't have that problem.

But isn't there a such thing as too much, i.e. the infamous porn clip where the black guy screams so loud when he busts that he distorts the sound in the camera mic? Furthermore, the chick trying her hardest not to laugh her ass off?

And one other thing--a lot of times, we shut down vocally because they shut down vocally. Being one-sidedly loud as a man makes me feel awkward. My ex was the silent type, and I felt so damn weird any time we would do anything.

[Pad264]

Originally Posted by Kiwi_Fella

But for the most, its just grunts and then:

Im going to Ejaculate!

QFT, that's how real men do it.

[Dickbiggenstein]

I got a boner from reading the OP.

[BballBuilder]

haha I talk so much **** to my girl in bed.

my fav is "spit on my cock"

I love it.

[icuii2004]

Originally Posted by naweaver

Everytime I have tried the dirty talking it ended up not going well.
, but how do you just become a moaner or to really get into it vocally? I am too busy being focused on trying to get her off to think about moaning.

If you turn off all your "how will I seem like" inhibitions, I am sure moans will come out. They just express pleasure and yeah - they will get her off too.

Originally Posted by Kiwi_Fella

Sometimes I'll start talking **** to her if I've been drinking. But for the most, its just grunts and then:

Im going to Ejaculate!

LOL....couldnt say it in a sexier way MR ejaculate

Originally Posted by harrybeast

I make plenty of noise. I can't really get into talking dirty because I always go over board with it. I have a buddy though that got the police called on him a couple of time from his nutting scream. I crashed at his house one night on the couch in the basement while he was on the 2nd floor with a chick and it woke me up.

Dont be afraid to go overboard. Its hot!

Originally Posted by onlydeadlifter

im usually too busy eating chicken and brown rice or mixing a protein shake to make much noise. occasionally ill say "hold up, woman! you're making me spill my drink!"

not really...thanx for the post. good to know this stuff.

try and implement some of this stuff.

Originally Posted by Tip Top

it just takes practice...i was wicked shy when i first started out but now it's not that hard...just start with grunts and then slowly turn it up a notch.

also, try thinking of you making those sounds as a tool you can use to get her off...then you can still think of trying to get her off while doing it

Good advice!!

Originally Posted by Ace_2004

I just breath heavily and the odd "mmm yeah thas good."
Anything else would seem weird as hell.

Why would it seem wierd? come on. feel free and say whatever is on your mind.

Originally Posted by dazzlepecs

i am so bad at dirty talk, its like Mr Bean trying to be sexy

why is that?

Originally Posted by AdamL00001

Some guys just can't open up vocally in the sack. It's just unnatural for them. Fortunately, I don't have that problem.

But isn't there a such thing as too much, i.e. the infamous porn clip where the black guy screams so loud when he busts that he distorts the sound in the camera mic? Furthermore, the chick trying her hardest not to laugh her ass off?

And one other thing--a lot of times, we shut down vocally because they shut down vocally. Being one-sidedly loud as a man makes me feel awkward. My ex was the silent type, and I felt so damn weird any time we would do anything.

Good point. It takes two to tango and scream : Im cumming....

Originally Posted by Dickbiggenstein

I got a boner from reading the OP.

It's a pleasure for me as well lol

Originally Posted by BballBuilder

haha I talk so much **** to my girl in bed.

my fav is "spit on my cock"

I love it.

So she spits and not swallow?

[Fred Flinstone]

most men dont grunt and arent vocal because it doesn't really do anything. there's no point. its like grunting when you are lifting.. it doesnt help with anything and just sounds and makes u look stupid

[BballBuilder]

no no, I mean before I cum, the more saliva, the better..... none of this sandpaper blow job **** for me. I want spit running down my legs.

[Channel1]

Originally Posted by Kiwi_Fella

Sometimes I'll start talking **** to her if I've been drinking. But for the most, its just grunts and then:

Im going to Ejaculate!

Damn, you got to it before me.


LOL

[Amel]

thanks

it sounds like a great tip

I am always dead quiet until I cum...

[icuii2004]

Originally Posted by Fred Flinstone

most men dont grunt and arent vocal because it doesn't really do anything. there's no point. its like grunting when you are lifting.. it doesnt help with anything and just sounds and makes u look stupid

I hope you can believe me that it doesnt make you look stupid, just make you whole lot sexier

[user9438904904]

Originally Posted by icuii2004

I hope you can believe me that it doesnt make you look stupid, just make you whole lot sexier

what about talking about sports? i did that before during a bj. didnt go over well. but maybe ur a different kind of girl.

[Mr Boom]

Thanks for reading my thread.Pm me.........

[rhollan]

Originally Posted by icuii2004

I hope you can believe me that it doesnt make you look stupid, just make you whole lot sexier

I suppose, since it makes my partner sexier to me when she vocalizes.

But, there are several issues at play here:

1) Vocalization is a feedback mechanism for communicating what you like about what's being done to you. When a man takes the lead, he desires feedback from his partner, but has little feedback to give. Take the lead yourself, and expect more vocalization from your guy.

2) I dunno about others, but when I get close, if I vocalize (and I like to), I get there faster. That's not always a good thing unless my partner is close herself.

[icuii2004]

Originally Posted by rhollan

I suppose, since it makes my partner sexier to me when she vocalizes.

But, there are several issues at play here:

1) Vocalization is a feedback mechanism for communicating what you like about what's being done to you. When a man takes the lead, he desires feedback from his partner, but has little feedback to give. Take the lead yourself, and expect more vocalization from your guy.

I see what ur saying but even if you take the lead, someone is following you and gives her body and mind for this to be as hot as possible, so feedback is still needed.

2) I dunno about others, but when I get close, if I vocalize (and I like to), I get there faster. That's not always a good thing unless my partner is close herself.

I agree - vocalizing turns on not only the partner but yourself. I enjoy my own screamings, even though I prefer having some background noise so that it will mask the screamings from the neighbours.

[captainhorseboy]

i am very vocal and direct and it's always been a good thing for me and the girl

[icuii2004]

Originally Posted by captainhorseboy

i am very vocal and direct and it's always been a good thing for me and the girl

examples please so everyone can learn!

[Tip Top]

Originally Posted by Fred Flinstone

most men dont grunt and arent vocal because it doesn't really do anything. there's no point. its like grunting when you are lifting.. it doesnt help with anything and just sounds and makes u look stupid

i thought this too until my girl started asking me to vocalize...and it really worked once i got comfortable with it

[rampagefc77]

"my dick feels like corn"

(yes dane cook)

[Ya Boy Dave]

I picked up a girl at a bar a month or so ago, we went back to her place and got down to business but the sex was so bad I decided to let rip with the Coleman quotes since I'd just watched his DVD a couple of nights before.

"Yeaaa buddy" when I was on top and "light weights baby" when she was riding me. (yes serious)

She was looking at me like WTF. Surprisingly we never saw each other again.

[woofburger]

Originally Posted by Ya Boy Dave

I picked up a girl at a bar a month or so ago, we went back to her place and got down to business but the sex was so bad I decided to let rip with the Coleman quotes since I'd just watched his DVD a couple of nights before.

"Yeaaa buddy" when I was on top and "light weights baby" when she was riding me. (yes serious)

She was looking at me like WTF. Surprisingly we never saw each other again.

lol... I like to ask how they feel about sperm enema's.

[stone fox]

Originally Posted by Ya Boy Dave

I picked up a girl at a bar a month or so ago, we went back to her place and got down to business but the sex was so bad I decided to let rip with the Coleman quotes since I'd just watched his DVD a couple of nights before.

"Yeaaa buddy" when I was on top and "light weights baby" when she was riding me. (yes serious)

She was looking at me like WTF. Surprisingly we never saw each other again.

hahaha you re my hero. im definitely doing that next time i get laid (June 2012)


Yea as others have said I feel uncomfortable talking especially now that its mainly latin chicks im banging so doing it in Spanish feels extra weird and sleazy. ("Si,sI, Sii........... SIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!")

will try it out though. good thread.

[icuii2004]

Originally Posted by stone fox

hahaha you re my hero. im definitely doing that next time i get laid (June 2012)


Yea as others have said I feel uncomfortable talking especially now that its mainly latin chicks im banging so doing it in Spanish feels extra weird and sleazy. ("Si,sI, Sii........... SIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!")

will try it out though. good thread.

I actually find spanish a very sensual and sexual language. Anything in this language sounds like dirty talking 2 me lol