An interesting paragraph on 'confidence'

[tommy240_old]

This made a lot of sense to me, thought I'd share

It relates to confidence and comfort levels, in the context of trying to 'PUMP YOURSELF UP' to go talk to a girl/get a phone number/get your dick wet.

If you woke up and were going to eat cereal in the morning, you would most likely just wake up and eat it without thinking about it. You wouldn't try and pump your confidence up by saying things like 'Yeah! I've totally got this! I'm the cereal MASTER!" this would be ridiculous; you know that you can easily eat the cereal, so there's no need to pump yourself up.

We only really think positive thoughts and psyche ourselves up for something that is hard for us to do. For things that come easily to us, we do them automatically and without thinking about them.

Although it is counter-intuitive, during dates/sets/sex, thinking thoughts like 'I'm a pimp' or 'I can get any girl I want, no problem' only reinforces in your mind that the task at hand is hard for you. During interactions, don't aim for a head full of positive thoughts.

Aim for IMMERSION, the absence of thoughts

[the_Yush]

This made a lot of sense to me, thought I'd share

It relates to confidence and comfort levels, in the context of trying to 'PUMP YOURSELF UP' to go talk to a girl/get a phone number/get your dick wet.

don't know about that

[Brutotal]

Pumping yourself up makes things easier.

[tommy240_old]

don't know about that

You're right, it musta been from the Kellogs website
nothing gets by you, man

[self_made_hawk]

Wow good point

[unclejeff]

yeah but the cereal never gives you the bitch shield and doesn't allow you to eat it. just sayin. if 1 out of every 3 times i tried to eat cereal, the cereal told me it wasnt interested in being eaten......i would be nervous as **** to poor it in the bowl lol.

[DatDereCe11Tech]

yeah but the cereal never gives you the bitch shield and doesn't allow you to eat it. just sayin. if 1 out of every 3 times i tried to eat cereal, the cereal told me it wasnt interested in being eaten......i would be nervous as **** to poor it in the bowl lol.

you're complaining about a 66% success rate?

[unclejeff]

you're complaining about a 66% success rate?

not at all, i am happy with that. it might be a little higher actually. but i am always on the look out for the ladies that seem interested. most of the time i only initiate when i am almost certain i cant fail. my non success is basically related to me getting super waxed and hitting on the ladies just to be hitting on something lol. (no e-game)


my previous post was a joke btw.

[DatDereCe11Tech]

don't a lot of chicks give false signals though?

[tommy240_old]

yeah but the cereal never gives you the bitch shield and doesn't allow you to eat it. just sayin. if 1 out of every 3 times i tried to eat cereal, the cereal told me it wasnt interested in being eaten......i would be nervous as **** to poor it in the bowl lol.

No doubt... that's my problem too

[unclejeff]

don't a lot of chicks give false signals though?

of course. i ran into one a few weeks ago. i felt like an ass, i gave her the thumbs down and walked away. the feeling lasted about 20 seconds, and then i started talking to someone else.....no biggie man.

[EZ-Bar]

yeh i noticed a whle back that they best way for me to talk to people was to shutup my brain and not think about anything really..

kinda hard to explain it just felt natural. Still got the rush and everything, but I wasnt thinking about what to say next.

[Ex-Terminator]

The best way to gain confidence is to take an honest look at most of the women around you. Once you see them for what they really are, you won't give a damn about them anymore. Thus, confidence.

[tommy240_old]

Once you see them for what they really are, you won't give a damn about them anymore.

True, but easier said than done... it can be all too easy to care too much..
(no matter how much cover up they have on )

[luckylynch]

This made a lot of sense to me, thought I'd share

It relates to confidence and comfort levels, in the context of trying to 'PUMP YOURSELF UP' to go talk to a girl/get a phone number/get your dick wet.

here;

confidence....who cares what other people think of you....you cant please everyone....take chances and put yourself out there...if people like you then thats ok....if they hate you then f em.....

by luckylynch

[DYnomyte001]

You wouldn't try and pump your confidence up by saying things like 'Yeah! I've totally got this! I'm the cereal MASTER!" this would be ridiculous; you know that you can easily eat the cereal, so there's no need to pump yourself up.

You know, I'm gonna start saying this now on. I think it's pretty awesome.

[appropriatename]

This made a lot of sense to me, thought I'd share

It relates to confidence and comfort levels, in the context of trying to 'PUMP YOURSELF UP' to go talk to a girl/get a phone number/get your dick wet.

It is the same thing athletes do.

You think about what your doing only when you are practicing, so that you can fix things. Then when you are in a game you just do it, go on instinct and don't think about it... if you've prepared yourself properly you will succeed.

I used to play baseball in college, had to stop because of career ending shoulder surgery, and I never thought during a game "man I gotta use my hips more and lengthen my stride by 2 inches and make sure to pick the ball's rotation out of the pitchers hand." Thats all stuff you did in practice, in the game I just swung as hard as I could (I hit cleanup.. so I was allowed to do that ). Either hit the hell outta the ball or struck out (see: Ryan Howard).

Too bad you can't "practice" the type of confidence stuff you guys are talking about (picking up girls) without it being "real" to a certain extent.

[YuMadThough]

Good post i agree.

You can train your mind as well, when your about to do something that you concider hard or your nervous about meeting someone ect you can force yourself into not giving a sht just by saying to yourself, whatever happens, happens and if i fck up i'll get the oppertunity to learn from it so its a win win situation no matter what the outcome.

I can remember one point where i had this date with a wonna-be model (no brag) and i purposely tried to fck up the meeting so i could learn from it and become better for the future.
Its a good state to be in imo, it just needs self belief.

[Curtiz]

don't a lot of chicks give false signals though?

to you YES, to a normal man NO

[captainhorseboy]

females are just people. nothing to be scared of, guys.

[tmac4real]

females are just people. nothing to be scared of, guys.

Yeah but the fact you are attracted to them makes it more difficult, that's why gay guys usually don't hae problems making friends with hot girls.