Broke up after 3 years.

AsianInvasion1 · 10-01-2007, 07:20 PM

Oh man, I'm so confused on what to do, it's so hard..
first of all, me and my ex-gf had been dating for 3 years since we were 14,
everything was so good during the first two years we were so happy and so in love..about 6 months ago I found out that she was cheating on me, I was so heart-broken I mean I was depressed for at least 5 months....
she started acting like a bitch,started partying,drinking and even smoking, god I hated her but part of me loved her so much I missed her so much..well after 6 months I found out the guy she cheated on me with dumped her
she came back crying to me, I still loved her so much so I started to talk to her again things have been so good for the past 5 months she started acting the same way when we first started dating, but this month she's back to her old ways of being hateful toward me so we started argueing again.she starts to lie to me about wheres shes at and everything again...this time I just couldn't take her **** anymore so I broke-up with her, I feel so stupid even taking her back after the first time, the funny thing is that she's not even hurt by the fact that we broke up, but I'm starting to miss this chick, I mean I love her so much I treat her so nice but I get **** in return.
I honestly want to get over her his time, but I can't it is so hard..I don't know what to do..I'm so ****ing pissed!...

limniade · 10-01-2007, 07:27 PM

Erase her completely from your life (no homocide). Don't call her, take her off your social networking profile of choice, delete her username from your IM lists, and create a completely different set of routines and regular hangouts so you avoid bumping into her. Out of sight, out of mind. And if you feel yourself slipping, remember that she had two chances and treated you like **** both times. Two strikes. Don't make it three.

Jasel84 · 10-01-2007, 07:28 PM

That's rough dude. But it seems pretty obvious that you should let that girl go. She sounds like trouble and she definetely doesn't seem like the trustworthy type in the slightest. Any other girls that you're kind of interested in? I think the best way to get over someone is to just consider other options. Or at the very least pick up a new hobby.

FluffyButt · 10-01-2007, 07:28 PM

You gave her a second chance and she blew it. It's going to be hard, but time will help you get over her. Just keep yourself busy.

Bulldog0520 · 10-01-2007, 08:04 PM

Um, have some pride in yourself man. Yeah it sucks, but step back and take a look at it. YOU'RE LETTING HER WALK OVER YOU!

So my advice, to be blunt, stop being a pussy and realize SHE'S the one that doesn't deserve you, not the other way around. You can obviously do better, the sooner you grow some balls and do it the better.

LunicaAshes · 10-01-2007, 08:25 PM

Never take her back. She was given more chances from you then she deserved. This **** happens a lot at your age (or any age, but the younge ryou are, the more it happens.) You obviously deserve better than her, and time will heal what you are feeling right now. It might not feel like it, but trust me. Just give it time and rest easy in the fact that you're better off without her.

YeBro · 10-01-2007, 08:26 PM

- fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me -

You fell for her again, she is bad news. I know its gonna be hard so try and confide in some close friend to help you out. Eliminate all strings. When u start to think of her again, remember all the bad stuff she brought to your world. Smoking, drinking, bitchyness, and most off all cheating on you.

Your deserve better girls, and believe me there out there for you

Amel · 10-01-2007, 08:31 PM

lol

thank god you dumped her ass

shes young and you too, dont worry about relationships

sweety_ · 10-01-2007, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by limniade

Erase her completely from your life (no homocide). Don't call her, take her off your social networking profile of choice, delete her username from your IM lists, and create a completely different set of routines and regular hangouts so you avoid bumping into her. Out of sight, out of mind. And if you feel yourself slipping, remember that she had two chances and treated you like **** both times. Two strikes. Don't make it three.

i completely agree with this.
cut her out... trust me, it's going to do you good in the long run. if you don't cut her out... this cycle is not going to stop & u're going to be dealing with this for a long time.

AsianInvasion1 · 10-02-2007, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by limniade

Erase her completely from your life (no homocide). Don't call her, take her off your social networking profile of choice, delete her username from your IM lists, and create a completely different set of routines and regular hangouts so you avoid bumping into her. Out of sight, out of mind. And if you feel yourself slipping, remember that she had two chances and treated you like **** both times. Two strikes. Don't make it three.

Thanks for all the advice guys, it really helps, but the only damn problem is that I'm in a nursing program and we're all pretty much in one class room from 8-4 and guess what? she's also in that program, so I'm stuck seeing her every damn day, and it doesn't help at all..

wannaBmoy · 10-02-2007, 04:33 PM

Give her a black eye and a broken nose. That way everytime you see her you'll laugh instead of having feelings of remorse.

niospecv · 10-02-2007, 05:20 PM

You are young and this was bound to happen. Every young person given the chance wants the chance to go out and just be a man-whore/whore. You have sooooo much ahead of you. You'll have at this years from now when you look back.

Michael Bao · 10-02-2007, 06:43 PM

Damn, you're the buffest asian I ever seen around my age =O (no homo).

Bravodor · 10-02-2007, 06:45 PM

Shes just using you.

You can do better.

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YUL · 10-02-2007, 06:45 PM

dating the same girl since you were 14?

wow! welcome back to life. Go out and enjoy it!

BayAreaMike · 10-02-2007, 06:47 PM

forget her man...your too buff to care about girls...they aint nuttin but trix n hos!

Jrockin629 · 10-02-2007, 07:05 PM

Tell her exactly how she makes you feel and how you see her ways. Say it to her face. Shes hurt you hurt her back! Break even, then kill any type of relationship and let your, love, hate, tears, sweat, blood, emptiness and every emotion she has brought to your heart as FUEL to take your MENTAL and PHYSICAL strength to the next level... and there is not place better to that then at the.....

GYM!!!

Seems like you've got a great base to start from, plus you've got your age and time on your side. If you focus on yourself, soon enough you'll go from every thought being of her to anything but her.... and when you finally beat her out of your head you will have reached more of your OWN goals then you would of imagined... I promise you that! GL to you OP

82nd_Fister · 10-03-2007, 12:03 AM

Kill her. With a Shovel.

sHaDyOneDeath · 10-03-2007, 12:30 AM

Quit being a fuken pushover. Grow some balls and develope some self respect.

MantisShrimp · 10-03-2007, 12:45 AM

A girl who is willing to put you in the #2 spot once is willing to do it 1000 times, or permanently. The girls you want are the ones who can't help place you at #1 and keep you there.

If you gotta see her everyday, think of it like this. Her ****ty character is causing you pain. So find another girl in your class whom you're sweet on, kiss her hard in front of her, and MEAN it. Problem solved, karmic balance maintained.

MrDreamWeaver · 10-03-2007, 01:19 AM

CONGRATULATIONS.

Dude you broke up with her. Good for yourself. Way to have respect for yourself. Listen up bro, you're 17. 17. 17.

Get hyped up man. Imagine the next chick you're going to ****? It's gonna happen man. Sooner or later you're going to be in a bed with someone you don't know! ****en exciting man.

It's natural to be upset. Realize that this girl isn't good for you.

AsianInvasion1 · 10-03-2007, 12:41 PM

Damn, it's gonna be hard but it's true I need to grow some damn balls, I'm young and have plenty of time to meet way better girls..thanks for all the help and advice..

wannaBmoy · 10-03-2007, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by AsianInvasion1

Damn, it's gonna be hard but it's true I need to grow some damn balls, I'm young and have plenty of time to meet way better girls..thanks for all the help and advice..

atta boy!

2coop · 10-03-2007, 01:26 PM

i was gunna say....3 yr relationship and you are 17....so much more 3 yr relationships and the thousands of ONSs in between to go

MaddenMuscle · 10-03-2007, 01:32 PM

Doesnt look good bro. No more chances for a cheating wh*re.

Jrockin629 · 10-03-2007, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by MrDreamWeaver

CONGRATULATIONS.

Dude you broke up with her. Good for yourself. Way to have respect for yourself. Listen up bro, you're 17. 17. 17.

Get hyped up man. Imagine the next chick you're going to ****? It's gonna happen man. Sooner or later you're going to be in a bed with someone you don't know! ****en exciting man.

It's natural to be upset. Realize that this girl isn't good for you.

HAHA... that is some of the best and most truthful stuff I've ever read on this forum. Rep'd

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Originally Posted by AsianInvasion1

Damn, it's gonna be hard but it's true I need to grow some damn balls, I'm young and have plenty of time to meet way better girls..thanks for all the help and advice..

Like that guy ^^^ said. Imagine all the possibilities that you've now opened yourself too! you just BUMPED your life... to the top baby!!!

blockmonkey · 10-03-2007, 01:53 PM

Best advice I never took. once is a mistake, twice is a pisstake. I loved my ex so much that I took her back after she cheated on me not once but twice. It destroys your confidence man . You are 17, your life as not even begun yet. go out with your mates, got to the gym anything to take your mind of this hoe, and in a few months you will start to forget all about her.