how could i have handled this situation better? first time being AMOGed

DarkForteGS · 09-09-2007, 10:29 AM

First off definition of AMOG: Alpha Male Of the Group... but in this case, Annoying Male of the Group

the verb is similar to a guy in a group cockblocking you.

Approach:

My friends and I were at a sandwich place last night, and this place was next to the bar, and it was where all the drunk people hung out.

We saw this chick who was wearing a 1-piece shirt/skirt that was extremely short, and didn't seem to be wearing any underwear... (sorry no pics)

I decided to approach, with the basis of calling her out on that. I slowly walked up to her table (she was with 1 other guy at that time) and made sure she saw me coming.

Me: hey mind if i ask you a question?
her: sure.
Me: My friends and I were discussing this, and we were wondering if you just rolled out of bed wearing that.
her: *smiles, but didn't answer question*
Me: Personally, I think if you have the goods, girls shouldn't have to flaunt it around like that. (sarcastic)

A different guy comes around, apparently more than friends with her, starts shouting "I chose that outfit for her! blah blah blah You should respect a girl like her. She's beautiful blah blah blah"

He starts pushing me around and the workers in the store go "if you're gonna do this, take it outside." I didn't really want to fight (yes have had previous run ins with the cops, and learned how to keep my cool and not fight). I told him I wasn't disrespecting her, and I was just starting conversation. Because I didn't want to get in bad terms with the law, I decided to just walk away. During this whole time, the girl was just laughing and not knowing wtf is going on. We made eye contact several times while the guy was being a dick, and she just threw up her arms showing she wasn't aware why this guy was acting this way.

My friends and I walk out of the store and start joking about the situation.

Half a block down the road, the come up to us and he continues yelling "why do you disrespect a girl like that? blah blah blah." Knowing cops patrol the area a lot (yes around a school), this wasn't a good time to fight -- and without any attachment to the argument, there was really no desire for me to fight. He starts pushing me around, and I'm trying to keep him calm by not shouting back or pushing or whatever. At this time, the girl was about 5 feet behind them, still laughing about the situation. I shout over these guys' heads, and told her "if I insulted you in any way with my question, I apologize for that." The guy continues shouting, and I'm just smiling and trying to knock some sense into this guy (not physically). A cop car was rolling down a nearby street, and turns into our street (happened to be watching the whole time I think... he was behind me and couldn't see). At this time, his friends tell him the cops are coming and they walk away. My friends go wtf and lol...
LOL

btw, during this time, his 2 friends also start yelling, and throwing out random "insults." One of them says "would you be fine if I asked 'why are you asian?'" or "why is your penis so small?" I'm saying no I wouldn't mind because I was born that way. wow strong insecurity. I also wanted to say "genetically like that" but they wouldn't have gotten it.. hahaha.

Cliffs-
-tried to pickup attempt. calling a girl out on her choice of skimpy outfit.
-attempted to be AMOGed by guy friends (boyfriend?? dunno), he starts shouting why do you disrespect her? girl lol's and wasn't insulted at all.
-i keep my cool, and smile and talk to him
-cops come, they bolt. we walk back to apt.

Lessons learned-
-be in everyone's good side first, then approach.
-Better opener would've been "I love your outfit, how did you choose it?" then follow up with whatever i said earlier.

how could i have better handled the situation? no i don't fight over a stupid girl, since i've had runins with the law before.

TheVirtualTaco · 09-09-2007, 10:36 AM

You handled things well. When some guy (and this guy obviously wasn't her BF - probably some nice guy friend that has a hard-on for her) starts getting irate, the best idea is to keep playing it cool. Especially if the cops are nearby. I can't stress that enough.

Focus on the good part. You made an attempt and it sounds like she was digging it. Just a shame some d-bag had to feel like he needed to be her White Knight or some such BS.

Well played, sir.

But no pics of the girl so I have to neg you.

J/K.

Handsome Maxout · 09-09-2007, 10:39 AM

There's a difference between a joke and putting a girl down. Be thankful she understood what you were saying but keep in mind saying something nice isnt gonna get you kicked to the curb either.

tmac4real · 09-09-2007, 10:47 AM

I think u got lucky that the girl was nice and didnt bitch out of you. I know alot of girls probably woulda gone off on you for saying that.

wasabe · 09-09-2007, 12:08 PM

I don't think it's a good idea to go up total strangers and start ragging on their clothes. In fact, I don't think it's a good idea to approach girls who are in the company of other guys. It's disrespectful.

cheerupemokid · 09-09-2007, 12:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DarkForteGS

First off definition of AMOG: Alpha Male Of the Group... but in this case, Annoying Male of the Group

the verb is similar to a guy in a group cockblocking you.

Approach:

My friends and I were at a sandwich place last night, and this place was next to the bar, and it was where all the drunk people hung out.

We saw this chick who was wearing a 1-piece shirt/skirt that was extremely short, and didn't seem to be wearing any underwear... (sorry no pics)

I decided to approach, with the basis of calling her out on that. I slowly walked up to her table (she was with 1 other guy at that time) and made sure she saw me coming.

Me: hey mind if i ask you a question?
her: sure.
Me: My friends and I were discussing this, and we were wondering if you just rolled out of bed wearing that.
her: *smiles, but didn't answer question*
Me: Personally, I think if you have the goods, girls shouldn't have to flaunt it around like that. (sarcastic)

A different guy comes around, apparently more than friends with her, starts shouting "I chose that outfit for her! blah blah blah You should respect a girl like her. She's beautiful blah blah blah"

He starts pushing me around and the workers in the store go "if you're gonna do this, take it outside." I didn't really want to fight (yes have had previous run ins with the cops, and learned how to keep my cool and not fight). I told him I wasn't disrespecting her, and I was just starting conversation. Because I didn't want to get in bad terms with the law, I decided to just walk away. During this whole time, the girl was just laughing and not knowing wtf is going on. We made eye contact several times while the guy was being a dick, and she just threw up her arms showing she wasn't aware why this guy was acting this way.

My friends and I walk out of the store and start joking about the situation.

Half a block down the road, the come up to us and he continues yelling "why do you disrespect a girl like that? blah blah blah." Knowing cops patrol the area a lot (yes around a school), this wasn't a good time to fight -- and without any attachment to the argument, there was really no desire for me to fight. He starts pushing me around, and I'm trying to keep him calm by not shouting back or pushing or whatever. At this time, the girl was about 5 feet behind them, still laughing about the situation. I shout over these guys' heads, and told her "if I insulted you in any way with my question, I apologize for that." The guy continues shouting, and I'm just smiling and trying to knock some sense into this guy (not physically). A cop car was rolling down a nearby street, and turns into our street (happened to be watching the whole time I think... he was behind me and couldn't see). At this time, his friends tell him the cops are coming and they walk away. My friends go wtf and lol...
LOL

btw, during this time, his 2 friends also start yelling, and throwing out random "insults." One of them says "would you be fine if I asked 'why are you asian?'" or "why is your penis so small?" I'm saying no I wouldn't mind because I was born that way. wow strong insecurity. I also wanted to say "genetically like that" but they wouldn't have gotten it.. hahaha.

Cliffs-
-tried to pickup attempt. calling a girl out on her choice of skimpy outfit.
-attempted to be AMOGed by guy friends (boyfriend?? dunno), he starts shouting why do you disrespect her? girl lol's and wasn't insulted at all.
-i keep my cool, and smile and talk to him
-cops come, they bolt. we walk back to apt.

Lessons learned-
-be in everyone's good side first, then approach.
-Better opener would've been "I love your outfit, how did you choose it?" then follow up with whatever i said earlier.

how could i have better handled the situation? no i don't fight over a stupid girl, since i've had runins with the law before.

The goal is to get the guy to look like a tool and devalue himself a good way to go about doing that is to get him on the defensive. He told you he picked out her outfit, right?

So you could have looked at the girl and said: "Oh, so you have your own personal shopper? He'd probably deny it and you could then pretend to be supportive and make comments about him not having to be embarrassed it's the 21st century and all.

The goal obviously being to imply that he's a homosexual and to get him to be defensive about it, so that when he attempts to intimidate you with physical contact you can remind him (and her) that you don't swing that way. He was an idiot who apparently could only communicate through physical intimidation, so he almost certainly would have become his means of physical intimidation became equated with homosexuality.

If you're going to approach groups of girls with guys sometimes there will be physical confrontations. Usually not because most guys are clueless tools but sometimes it's not avoidable and sometimes you might have to run for your life.

MILFWNAB · 09-09-2007, 04:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DarkForteGS

Me: hey mind if i ask you a question?
her: sure.
Me: My friends and I were discussing this, and we were wondering if you just rolled out of bed wearing that.
her: *smiles, but didn't answer question*
Me: Personally, I think if you have the goods, girls shouldn't have to flaunt it around like that. (sarcastic)

You disrespected her. Her friend defended her. He did go overboard, though.

DarkForteGS · 09-10-2007, 07:33 AM

nice to see a 30+ woman post their opinion... thanks.

repped all posters, will rep MILFWNAB on recharge.

in the end, i believe it was worth the risk for the experience and lessons. you can't go by life just by staying with what you're comfortable with. I do realize that even though I'm free to put myself in new and probably uncomfortable situations, I shouldn't be putting others outside their comfort zone.