WEEK TWENTY-ONE :: What Is The Best Way To Meet The Opposite Sex?

[selinagome]

try to be familiar with him or her...................................

[eniko22]

Personally, i would say in the morning around , lets say 6:30 ish. Because:
A: Your testosterone levels are alot higher in the morning than in the after noon or night.
B: your more focused, relaxed because you've like slept for 6-8 hrs.

[eniko22]

Nashville Tennessee. And I am new to eBaum's world.

[eniko22]

Standing barbell curls would be my exercise of choice for biceps. Make sure you pay careful attention to correct standing barbell curling form, although I agree with Arnold that it's fine and good to *sometimes* swing the weight a little on the last

[eniko22]

concentration curls
switch in other lifts but these are my 2 favorite and got the best results as far as peak/size goes.

[eniko22]

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[gregoryswan]

On arms day

TOPIC: What Is The Best Way To Meet The Opposite Sex?

For the week of: April 1st - April 7th.

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Okay, so this week's question isn't directly related to bodybuilding, but many people that are trying to improve their body are doing it to impress the opposite sex.

Why is it that some guys seem to have no problem meeting girls? What do they do that is different than the guys who can't get a date no matter how hard they try?

Is there a best way to dress? A best way to act? A best "line" to meet them? How can you make it so that the girls come and talk to you instead of having to go and talk to them? Do nice guys finish last? Is it really all about money and looks?

What types of things cause girls to avoid guys? What are the biggest things that guys do that make it so they have no hope of getting a girlfriend? What would you say to a guy who says that it is hopeless for him, no matter what he does?

Give detailed examples and use personal stories from your experience if possible!

BONUS QUESTION: What is the best place to take a first date? What can you do on the first date to make the best impression?

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[tadpole25]

Why is it that some guys seem to have no problem meeting girls?
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They are confident, outgoing, not too worried about being rejected. Also, because they probably were alpha males in high school, so those social skills carried on. Not just skills they learned with girls, but social skills in general. People who were "nerds" and bullied in high school will need to take a while to rebuild their self-image. But its definitely possible!

What do they do that is different than the guys who can't get a date no matter how hard they try?
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They talk to many women, and as soon as possible instead of focusing all their effort on one girl. They go outside and meet people instead of reading PUA blogs all day (lol). They probably have experience from previous interactions, or have had experienced people to teach them.

Is there a best way to dress?
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Good quality clothes, but not necessarily expensive name brands. Stylish clothes, but not flashy or flamboyant. If you are above age 18, stop wearing Ed Hardy (or otherwise colorful graffiti-like t-shirts, Baseball Caps, Plastic Jewlery. Not too much cologne - 1 spray is enough. And for god's sakes, if you are wearing a polo or a button-down, don't pop your collar. We don't need to see your chest hair. Don't overdo it, you don't need a suit. T-Shirt and Jeans is fine, as long as they aren't wrinkled stained or have holes.

A best way to act?
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With the mentality that many girls are going to reject you, but just move on. With the mentality that she is not anything special (until you get to know her and earn her respect). With the mentality that you aren't expecting a relationship, friendship, second date, or even first date, but are cool with whatever happens. If she's gone, there's plenty more out there for you. With the mentality that you can easily find a woman as good looking and with a unique personality like her, but if she wants, you two can try it and see where things go.

A best "line" to meet them?
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No cheesy pickup lines. Just say something relevant to the situation. School? Talk about classes. Work? Talk about the job. Nightclub? Ask her how she's enjoying the night scene. Then transition the conversation away from the starting subject into her hobbies, passions, etc.

How can you make it so that the girls come and talk to you instead of having to go and talk to them?
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Walk slowly, don't be occupied with a cell phone or ipod or book. Don't wear sunglasses. Look friendly and approachable. Also, do something noticable. If you are in class, participate a lot, for example.

Do nice guys finish last?
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Often, but not necessarily. The problem is that "nice guys" are often desperate. They don't offer a challenge. They are needy, clingy (giving her too much attention) and overaffectionate to a stranger he never even met. Women don't want a guy who treats them like royalty. They want a guy who can tease her every now and then. They definitely don't want a guy who feels she's doing him a favor by dating him. An arrogant jerk will do much better than the nice guy. Jerks usually have the confidence and provide the challenge. But a nice guy can have those qualities too without being an a**hole. If you have self-esteem and aren't desperate, then there is no harm in being a nice guy.

Is it really all about money and looks?
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Money, no, unless you are poor, jobless (and not a student). Looks? To a degree, but I've seen really ugly dudes get great looking women. Anyone can look good if they take care of themselves, dress well, comb their hair, etc.

What types of things cause girls to avoid guys?

What are the biggest things that guys do that make it so they have no hope of getting a girlfriend? What would you say to a guy who says that it is hopeless for him, no matter what he does?

Give detailed examples and use personal stories from your experience if possible!

BONUS QUESTION:
What is the best place to take a first date? What can you do on the first date to make the best impression?
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The best place to take a woman out on a first date is something simple. First of all, it's not economical of you to spend more than $10-20 on a first date, especially if you are dating several women a month. Second, if you take her to a concert, movie, sports game, play, etc., you don't really get to talk or know each other. You should know by the end of the date, whether there is potential or not. A face to face conversation with little distraction can do that. A cafe like Starbucks is best for the first date.

[tadpole25]

The 4 C’s:

1. Be a little Cocky : When I say this, please don’t take it to the extreme. You must give yourself an image that shows the opposite sex that you are better than the others they could get with, but don’t just tell them that you are better. Act a little more cockier than you are normally are.

2. Be very Confident : There is a difference between cockiness and confidence. It is great to be confident around the opposite sex so that they know they have a person that is sure of himself.

3. Be Charming : It is always great to be charming. If you ask a girl, they are always looking for prince charming to sweep them off their feet. I believe you should be charming as soon as you meet the person you want to get with. I normally put cocky and charming together when giving them a compliment to really mess with them. I like using: “Do you know why I look so good right now?” (She should have resentment on her face) “Because I am beside you.” You will be shocked how well that works; they will say it is the sweetest thing they have ever heard.

4. And a Comedian! Now don’t take this to the extreme . Women love to laugh. But don’t be overly funny, and don’t be rude. Watch out for religious, racial, and other sensitive jokes. You don’t know much about her yet, and if you want to find out a lot more

I would add 1 more C to that list: Challenge.

Be a challenge to the other person. Not by mind games or artificially making yourself look busier than you are, but by your wit, humor and personality. Challenge her to take a step each time you make a step, instead of you stepping in 90%. Don't give out yourself too easy. Make her earn your respect. What is harder to attain is more valuable to us.

Though overall, you sound like you have great field knowledge on how dating works.

- Taker her to the movies (DUH).
- A local sports event that you'll both enjoy (baseball, basketball,soccer).

I don't really agree. Events like that are distracting as you can go the whole event without knowing much about each other. Face to face at a Starbucks is best. If you two don't connect, you'll know immediately.

[saintgryfen]

get off the computer and go out in the real world.

Hilarious, but so real at the same time xD

[webcreations]

When both are alone

[mclarengts]

conversation on site

[jamesrustin]

THinking less and trying to talk...

[Timmyyy]

Be an extrovert

[Zephyranthes]

Pickups line do not work. You have to come off as natural and approachable.

[bodybyrj]

Two words: Internet Dating. = Been married for 6 years now (:

[beatbox101]

get off the computer and go out in the real world.

I so agree with you on this one mate.. lol..
This is indeed ture..

[syed2011]

Just don't fake yourself by acting like someone in front of your crush.. coz you may get her love but you will lose yourself in that process !

[Sammywin]

get off the computer and go out in the real world.

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[analisaana]

sometimes u can practice flirting or just sexy chat to a girl just relaxing in your own room. And u can even choose what girl u like best , this way you might feel more inspired. i ve used flirtcamsvideo.com to get experienced

[david194]

Great topic.

[EYZE]

1. Your Body Language
You've heard it plenty times before, and it's true: your body language and your actions tell quite a bit about your personality. For men to attract the opposite sex through body language, give off the illusion that you truly are dominant and in control. Most importantly,you should obviously be yourself. Refrain from chewing gum or gnawing at your fingernails. This chewing or munching implies that you are worried or frustrated, and these emotions don't qualify as appealing or attractive. Sadly, there is no magic "line" to pick up girls,so abstain from using "pick-up lines" as they usually make one appear nonsensical and quite foolish. If you're composed and amiable, you'll have girls coming to talk to you, instead of you having to go talk to them. Stay calm and be yourself, and you'll be fine.

Body Language: I agree, it is a huge factor. I went to a bar with a bunch of friends this one time last summer and my one buddy you could tell he was pissed off about having to stand in line to get in for so long. Once we finally did get in we stood at the overcrowded bar trying to get a drink (in separate areas). The place was packed and there were great looking girls everywhere, I forgot about the line immediately. I could see him standing there across the bar all grumpy and pissed off looking; he didn’t look very approachable at all. I decided to do a little body language experiment. I stood on my toes to add a few inches to my already 6’1 height and put a smile on. All the bartenders were female and had been ignoring me and my friends up until this point. Within a minute or two I had this gorgeous bartender smiling at me asking what I would like and I was served promptly before anyone of my friends. After I got my drink I walked over to my still pissed off angry looking friend and jokingly asked what was taking him so long to get a drink (I knew what was taking him so long, he looked just had the worst day in his life). Long story short he still had not been served and I was on drink number three before I decided to buy him a drink and I explained what the deal was. He tried it and sure enough it worked and he was served much faster throughout the night.
All we did was stand on our toes and smile. That small adjustment to our body language not only made us noticeable but approachable as well.

[miaelker658]

Actually to impress the opposite person not make the body. You try to keep her happy always and give her best gift that she is like. So try to understand your partner and try to full fill her want.

[BlackSwan88]

1. Be clean. Nothing turns a woman off more than a guy that either stinks or is ungroomed.
2. Show the Bling. Studies show that based on evolution, girls like guys that can take care of them and any resulting children. So show evidence that you have some $. Wear a Rolex watch, drive a Vet, dress in a suit. It would probably be a good idea if you actually DID have a 6 figure job and a MBA.
3. Women like playfulness. If you are flirty in a playful manner, they eat it up. Don't be overtly sexual either. That makes you look like a perv.
4. Fight fire with fire. Ask a hot female co-worker to be your wingman, eh..wingwoman. Nothing makes a woman pay more attention to you than another hot girl hanging out with you. In their mind, that girl has already "checked you out", and if she wants you, well then...that's good enough for her.
5. Compliment here in an unusual way. Instead of saying she looks beautiful. Say she looks like a girl you used to date that went on to be a model. That both compliments her and lets her know you are used to being with someone of her caliper.
Where to take her on a first date? Somewhere adventurous…like a water park or rock climbing.

[futurebody90]

The club. and make sure to wear a shirt that shows your muscles. you cant loose lol

[divalicious247]

I wrote a whole essay and it disappeared on me.
this is my first post in here. I am a newbie.
I just wanted to add some pointers to the wonderful points brought over.
Firstly, lets back track and look at some of the lovely people already in our lives. Our friends. Our siblings's friends. Any one with potential. Dont be shy. We have the gift of social media, a mouth, phone and friends who are willing to help us with this.

I tried hitting on my bro's friends casually not like completely hitting on them as an insult but i find that many of them are not willing to let their friendship get ruined. It can be good and bad both.
Most are afraid of dating their friend's younger bro or sister because it can get awkward.

About what turns women on/off:
No job, No Career goals, laziness and inability to have decent conversations without resorting to sexual topics when you first don't even know some one is a big turn-off. Some men go straight to talking about sex and related topics if a woman gives them a chance to get to know them.
You know what happens when you act like that?
Stupid women will play with fire but smart women will ignore you or show your stupid messages and silly S*** to everyone. You will get disrespected by anyone in her circle. ( same goes with men)
We all know everyone's intentions on social media and other sites. They think that they dont get those lines with everyone else.
Its good and bad. I've read some funny articles by guys claiming they are pick up artists saying that they must keep bringing such conversations in the fore front with girls they like. if they laugh oh yes its a GO BRO and if not dump them. that's childish behaviour. both talking about such dirt and going for the kill.


Lets be realistic here.
From experience in my social circle, men/women are generally rejected based on race, personality, style and skill age, physical appearance and bank balance.
While this is a good strategy to be choosy for your benefit, I think we also sometimes give men a real hard time for them to please us.
We know there is competition and we look for the best that we can get.
If we all get real picky and would like to DREAM date handsome film stars and models- then we would be no where because we are not perfect ourselves.
Men, take your time and go on casual dates. With all sorts of women and no I don't mean kissing, intimate dates, I mean just women going out with women who are friends. Why?
Because you get to know what's good for you and develop communication and skill.

I may be running on tangent here. I will stop for now.

Oh yes I went on a date with a friend who turned out to be a real loser. He completely showed another side of him. When on a date, even if men give a jerk vibe. They are outsted. Such as Unclean hands,not holding the door, they walk in front of the girl, spitting on the floor and cursing. Its considered rude to make fun of a girl while eating. Or laughing at a girl all the time during the date. Men with no table manners, burping, swearing, calling women bitches to their face.
WE are not your buddies. I refuse to be treated like one of the BROs. TIP: If you would like to get to know a girl No matter how you much cared and loved your ex, you do not go about talking about religion, politics and especially how annoying your EX did blah blah or that your ex was amazing at xyz..... she is your EX for a reason...

[godlyginger]

bitches love a nice beach body

[Brycepz]

Easily.

[bokarild]

too bad its already late.

[nikola99]

Love this topc
Start by not approaching as a pick up but as a friend mentality.... Then if you have a little in common and feel it could spark up ask her for her number.........
Smiling make a joke and compliment her.... BOOM if that doesn't work!
Next....
Don't go cinema first date that's crazy yous can't talk and aren't comfortable enough for silences just yet mayb 3/4 th date....
Don't act so into her/ him sends them running we all like a challenge
Dunno bout that much male grooming end of day mans a man not meant to look like he got dressed t to look like one........
Fresh smell clean clothes ..... Damn would you have anything else!

Oh and don't stare in the gym approach if you want starers are scarers!