Sex Issues....

[SunniSkies]

My boyfriend and I have been together for three months now and we are having some issues relating to sex. He is only the second guy I have been with my previous boyfriend we were only together a couple times. My boyfriend has been with a couple other women I haven't asked how many but almost everyone is more experienced than me.

I love him and I enjoy being with him but I am having some issues on my end. Basically I don't know what I am doing. I am getting self conscious about it and it is making me not want to be with him cause I'm sure I'm not as good as the other girls he has been with.

He keeps asking me to do different positions, basically all of them would be me on top. I don't like that cause I'm not sure what to do also I don't like feeling like I am "on display" I'd rather he not watch me bounce around. I don't know how I am suppose to move on top also I don't know if I should be doing anything while I am on bottom?

Another issue is oral sex. I've never done it before. I tried a couple times with him basically I just give up after a couple minutes cause I don't know if he likes it. I keep asking him but I can't get a straight answer. Only thing he has told me is to use my tongue and suction? I don't even know what he means by that.

I don't want to discuss this with him or any of my friends because I feel like a baby. At my age I should know more and it's quite embarrassing. I've just been avoiding sex altogether at this point. So I was hoping to get some tips I'm not really sure what else to do at this point.

Thank you,
Anna

[AJ7123]

There are a lot of guy on here that like virgins and actually want to 'teach' their gf stuff.

Should find one of them

[turboface]

Just keep at it woman, were you an expert at riding a bike the first couple of times you took one out? Of course you weren't.

The thing you should be more concerned about is improving over time. My ex was a dead fish in the sack and to be honest, I preferred it that way vs girls that like to "participate". I'd rather just hold you still and slam the **** out of you than have you trying to gyrate around or something. If he's trying to get you to go on top and put in work, well then good luck cause I don't think it's exactly easy to bounce up and down on a dick if you haven't worked at it much.

The suction thing for blowjobs is pretty self explanatory... suck on it like you'd suck on a popsicle. Bonus points if you can handle pre-cum or a load in your mouth without gagging/puking or complaining. Best idea if you suck at it is to basically give him a handjob and use your mouth on the rest of it above your hand.

Have fun though and stop being so insecure, I'm sure your dude loves having you on display and will take whatever for sex.

[AJ7123]

Just keep at it woman, were you an expert at riding a bike the first couple of times you took one out? Of course you weren't.

The thing you should be more concerned about is improving over time. My ex was a dead fish in the sack and to be honest, I preferred it that way vs girls that like to "participate". I'd rather just hold you still and slam the **** out of you than have you trying to gyrate around or something. If he's trying to get you to go on top and put in work, well then good luck cause I don't think it's exactly easy to bounce up and down on a dick if you haven't worked at it much.

The suction thing for blowjobs is pretty self explanatory... suck on it like you'd suck on a popsicle. Bonus points if you can handle pre-cum or a load in your mouth without gagging/puking or complaining. Best idea if you suck at it is to basically give him a handjob and use your mouth on the rest of it above your hand.

Have fun though and stop being so insecure, I'm sure your dude loves having you on display and will take whatever for sex.

WHAT????? Why would you prefer that?

[turboface]

WHAT????? Why would you prefer that?

Well, she was still vocal and positionable. She just didn't really do anything asides from angling herself in such a manner that allowed my penor to go to work.

You're right though in a way - I'd take a girl that likes to use her hands / mouth a lot while getting fuarked over the fish technique. It's the gyrating with the puss trying to "hump back" I don't like. She was submissive, and I guess it was just natural for me to do all the work eh?

[AJ7123]

Well, she was still vocal and positionable. She just didn't really do anything asides from angling herself in such a manner that allowed my penor to go to work.

You're right though in a way - I'd take a girl that likes to use her hands / mouth a lot while getting fuarked over the fish technique. It's the gyrating with the puss trying to "hump back" I don't like. She was submissive, and I guess it was just natural for me to do all the work eh?

k whatever works for you......


I need to know if other guys prefer the dead fish

[Khclife]

You don't need to be an expert. I he like you he will except the fact you're not a pro. Practice makes perfect just remember that

[SunniSkies]

Just keep at it woman, were you an expert at riding a bike the first couple of times you took one out? Of course you weren't.

The thing you should be more concerned about is improving over time. My ex was a dead fish in the sack and to be honest, I preferred it that way vs girls that like to "participate". I'd rather just hold you still and slam the **** out of you than have you trying to gyrate around or something. If he's trying to get you to go on top and put in work, well then good luck cause I don't think it's exactly easy to bounce up and down on a dick if you haven't worked at it much.

The suction thing for blowjobs is pretty self explanatory... suck on it like you'd suck on a popsicle. Bonus points if you can handle pre-cum or a load in your mouth without gagging/puking or complaining. Best idea if you suck at it is to basically give him a handjob and use your mouth on the rest of it above your hand.

Have fun though and stop being so insecure, I'm sure your dude loves having you on display and will take whatever for sex.

Thanks for responding. I understand what you are saying about suction but I feel when I do that I hurt him with teeth. I do not know how to keep my teeth out of the way it's awful.

[jujuB]

you need to just youtube and google those topics.

you'll find directions on getting better with whatever you're trying to get good at.

[SunniSkies]

I don't know how you are about porn but you can go to any porn site and look up "how to give a BJ' and you'll get a dozen videos giving you tips. The same with other aspects of sex.

One thing I noticed is you make it all about him. Sex is a whole lot better if you think in terms of you two as a couple.

TBH, I loved the gf's I had that were not experienced. It wasn't embarrassing, it was hot because I was the first to do a lot of things with them. I never looked down on them for being inexperienced.

I feel as if he is down playing his experience for my benefit. I really don't like certain things about my body I don't like the idea of him focusing on them during sex. I haven't been fully naked with him. Ive tried looking up porn websites but I just end up feeling badly about my body when I do.

[jizzbruh]

you want good sexor? watch porn. srs

i learned how to lick pussi from watching lesbian porn. 100% srs

[AJ7123]

I feel as if he is down playing his experience for my benefit. I really don't like certain things about my body I don't like the idea of him focusing on them during sex. I haven't been fully naked with him. Ive tried looking up porn websites but I just end up feeling badly about my body when I do.

I doubt any guy expects you to look like a porn star. If you don't want to feel badly about your body while watching porn trying watching the amateur stuff most of those people are gross naked.

[aj0538]

k whatever works for you......


I need to know if other guys prefer the dead fish

Umm no. The first time my wife and I hooked up I was living in an apartment and I'm pretty sure I heard my neighbors clapping when we were done. The mattress moved off the box spring and the lamp ended up on the floor.

[aj0538]

I feel as if he is down playing his experience for my benefit. I really don't like certain things about my body I don't like the idea of him focusing on them during sex. I haven't been fully naked with him. Ive tried looking up porn websites but I just end up feeling badly about my body when I do.

He may be but don't dwell on it either way. It doesn't matter.

I've been around the block a few times and I can tell you that I have never met a woman that was 100% happy with her body. I have met some that were more confident about themselves but they could still tell you things they didn't like. My wife is smoking hot with a big boobs and a small waist and she can still rattle off 10 things about herself that she's not happy about. I'm sure you are being too hard on yourself.

I can tell you from a guys point of view that he is not judging your body while you're having sex. He is focused on having sex.

And as far as watching porn, are you telling me your boyfriend is 6 foot 5, completely ripped with a 9 inch penis? If so congratulations. If not I'm assuming you still find him attractive, right?

There are plenty of videos with amateurs and people that are not completely made of silicone that you can watch. Watch them and learn so you can feel more confident. The other option is to talk to your bf and tell him how you feel.

[JustPissening]

k whatever works for you......


I need to know if other guys prefer the dead fish

Do not listen to him.

[Tiffany Wantsmore]

OPie, the guy's having sex with you, he finds you attractive, he wants you to be "on display" ... but you can keep a bra on if you want, being completely nekkid isn't mandatory. Or keep a camisole on if you'd feel more comfortable. If you don't know how to move on top I'm sure he'll grab your butt cheeks and guide you. Or ask him what feels good.

As for BJs, put your lips over your top teeth and your tongue over your bottom teeth. You can massage his banjo string with your tongue while sucking. Also look him in the eye, they like that.

Good sex is about communication. It's not meant to make you feel awkward or uncomfortable. Talk to him.

[Vake7000]

Being on top: when you're bouncing on his dick, make sure to get the majority of his cock. I.e. the bounces end with your butt smacking against his pelvis, and at the peak you're around the bottom of the head of his penis.


Sucking:Keep your jaw apart enough that your teeth will never touch him. Suck hard with a firm grip with your lips . When you're going down and up, use the extra space when in movement to twirl your tounge around his dick. I'm not sure how hard that last part would be, cause I've never sucked a mean dick before. (no homo) ( a little homo ) (jk many pls accept me)

And hand jobs dude. I hate it when girls think my dick is some dead baseball bat. The tip is very sensitive. If the head is ever touching your palm directly: YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. Practice from soft to hard by putting a grip towards his body and jerking the shaft backwards. You jerk at the shaft, not the head.The foreskin does the light head work. Dunno about uncircumcised brahs.

[Exemer]

OPie, the guy's having sex with you, he finds you attractive, he wants you to be "on display" ... but you can keep a bra on if you want, being completely nekkid isn't mandatory. Or keep a camisole on if you'd feel more comfortable. If you don't know how to move on top I'm sure he'll grab your butt cheeks and guide you. Or ask him what feels good.

As for BJs, put your lips over your top teeth and your tongue over your bottom teeth. You can massage his banjo string with your tongue while sucking. Also look him in the eye, they like that.

Good sex is about communication. It's not meant to make you feel awkward or uncomfortable. Talk to him.

Yep, everything on that is right. Don't be afraid to throw some vulgarity into the mix "I love how you look at me when i do this", "I want you to cum in my mouth" or even "i want you inside me right now, i can't farking stand it anymore". As far as sex goes it is up to you how to experience on it. Just don't stop having sex altogether. That only puts negative thoughts into his head like "is she cheating on me""she doesn't seem to be attracted to me anymore""what went wrong". Takes time and trial to gain experience.

[turboface]

Do not listen to him.

Haha, every girl is different mate - that just happened to be what worked best for both of us.

[Vake7000]

k whatever works for you......


I need to know if other guys prefer the dead fish

Ahahahaha. That's disgusting mate. The dead fish makes me want to cry on the inside. The kinda moaning here and there i wish you'd moan again dead fish makes me want to cry too.

[AJ7123]

Umm no. The first time my wife and I hooked up I was living in an apartment and I'm pretty sure I heard my neighbors clapping when we were done. The mattress moved off the box spring and the lamp ended up on the floor.

You're doing it right

Ahahahaha. That's disgusting mate. The dead fish makes me want to cry on the inside. The kinda moaning here and there i wish you'd moan again dead fish makes me want to cry too.

Ok good to know..I don't like it when I'm on top and they guy just lies there so mind=blown that some guys would like that.

[Vake7000]

You're doing it right





Ok good to know..I don't like it when I'm on top and they guy just lies there so mind=blown that some guys would like that.

You'd rather he moan?

[AJ7123]

You'd rather he moan?

I'd rather he pick his hips up and move with me.

But sure some manly moans are good too.

[giffed]

communication is key here. Sex should be fun for the both of you, trust me when the bloods pumping your 'insecurities' aren't that big of a deal.

[Montre]

My boyfriend and I have been together for three months now and we are having some issues relating to sex. He is only the second guy I have been with my previous boyfriend we were only together a couple times. My boyfriend has been with a couple other women I haven't asked how many but almost everyone is more experienced than me.

I love him and I enjoy being with him but I am having some issues on my end. Basically I don't know what I am doing. I am getting self conscious about it and it is making me not want to be with him cause I'm sure I'm not as good as the other girls he has been with.

He keeps asking me to do different positions, basically all of them would be me on top. I don't like that cause I'm not sure what to do also I don't like feeling like I am "on display" I'd rather he not watch me bounce around. I don't know how I am suppose to move on top also I don't know if I should be doing anything while I am on bottom?

Another issue is oral sex. I've never done it before. I tried a couple times with him basically I just give up after a couple minutes cause I don't know if he likes it. I keep asking him but I can't get a straight answer. Only thing he has told me is to use my tongue and suction? I don't even know what he means by that.

I don't want to discuss this with him or any of my friends because I feel like a baby. At my age I should know more and it's quite embarrassing. I've just been avoiding sex altogether at this point. So I was hoping to get some tips I'm not really sure what else to do at this point.

Thank you,
Anna

Why don't you just be an adult about it and ASK. It's sex. It's meant to be fun, not stressful. Pretty sure he's going to enjoy himself regardless. Typical woman tho, willing to ruin things because she's afraid she's ruining things. Classic.

When he says use your tongue, he means use your tongue on the head, twirl around the tip and ****. Do a bit of research, the head is the most sensitive area, therefore feels the best when stimulated. Despite the name "blowjob" you don't actually blow, so feel free to suck a bit. Unless he outright tells you you're doing it wrong, you're probably doing an alright job.

I've done all kinds of stupid **** during sex, including falling off the bed, who cares. Once the D goes back in and her eyes are rolling into the back of her head I'm 90% sure she doesn't give a ****.

Jesus, just have fun. We're men, a stiff breeze will get half of us hard, and for the other half any amount of dick in mouth is a bonus and a good day.

[corpsedub]

watch porn together. srs.

[Montre]

There are a lot of guy on here that like virgins and actually want to 'teach' their gf stuff.

Should find one of them

Your advice is to dump and him and find a new BF because she's insecure as ****.

Just stop posting. That is the most pathetic, passive **** I've ever heard in my life. Holy ****. Do you buy new shoes when you can't get the laces tied up too?

[Vake7000]

I'd rather he pick his hips up and move with me.

But sure some manly moans are good too.

Lmao @ manly moans

There is no such thing.

[AJ7123]

Your advice is to dump and him and find a new BF because she's insecure as ****.

Just stop posting. That is the most pathetic, passive **** I've ever heard in my life. Holy ****. Do you buy new shoes when you can't get the laces tied up too?

Oh sweet Jesus I wasn't being serious calm your tits

Lmao @ manly moans

There is no such thing.

Lol well anything to show enjoyment is good

[Montre]

Oh sweet Jesus I wasn't being serious calm your tits



Lol well anything to show enjoyment is good

Thank the lord jesus