Girlfriend who doesnt want to have sex...

**phrozen** · 08-13-2007, 10:17 PM

Were both the same age and I'm highly attracted to her and like her, but she does not want to have sex until she is married.

I'm filled with testosterone and love sex very much so I don't know how I am going to deal with this. She says she just doesn't know if she will ever be able to trust someone enough to have sex with them and not regret it.....shes afraid she will regret it. Shes horrible at handling guilt and stress so thats why shes so scared.

and its so hard to kiss her and make out with her and the not be able to do anyhting else.....she has mentioned shes against oral sex too.

I don't want to break up with her over the fact that she doesn't want to do anything sexually with me its just very hard having these needs and a beautiful girl at my dispense but not being able to have sex with her.

Shes a virgin obviously. what do you think?

**Dickbiggenstein** · 08-13-2007, 10:19 PM

Get married, **** her, then divorce her ass for being stupid.

**cal62887** · 08-13-2007, 10:20 PM

how long have you been with her?

**DYnomyte001** · 08-13-2007, 10:21 PM

Would you like to get sex from her but at the same token destroy her dream of no sex before marriage and morals? I can help you with that, but it's a choice you should decide.

What I'd do is work something out: Like handjobs are ok as are blowjobs... if it can keep you content. If she is unwilling to do this, then tell her you are unwilling to make out as it makes you want sex.

**getbig3193** · 08-13-2007, 10:23 PM

Ask her if she cares if you hook up with other girls. (if that is what you want)

If she says no. Leave her

**Scotty.** · 08-13-2007, 10:26 PM

Would be a dealbreaker for me, no question.

**slothasor** · 08-13-2007, 10:55 PM

if you don't feel the same regarding sex/marriage, then leave... simple as that.

on the flip side, girls like that are hard to find these days, so if your looking for a wife, then it may be worth the wait.

**Illuminatus** · 08-13-2007, 11:07 PM

You are young... don't let your youth go by without having lots of crazy sex.

**kfizzzle19** · 08-13-2007, 11:08 PM

Girls that dont want to have sex at an early age are very hard to find. I would definetly keep her because she'll be very faithful and probably isnt to slutty :\. Think about it hard..do you want a girl whose already been ****ed before you lay your hands on her or you want a girl who you can trust?

**sugicalmike** · 08-13-2007, 11:09 PM

Nudes or negs!!!

seriously though..... talk to her about her boundaries and what's ok with her concerning where you can go and what you can do with her.....

also, for the miscs sake..... try and see if piitb wil fly as "not having sex" with her....

**FIVE OAKES** · 08-13-2007, 11:21 PM

Originally Posted by kfizzzle19

Girls that dont want to have sex at an early age are very hard to find. I would definetly keep her because she'll be very faithful and probably isnt to slutty :\. Think about it hard..do you want a girl whose already been ****ed before you lay your hands on her or you want a girl who you can trust?

Either that or she'll get married, have sex, realize what she was missing and decide she wants to see how it is with other guys then end up cheating on her husband or just acting like a complete bitch until he can't take it any more and tries to divorce her, giving her half his net worth in the process.

And I'd always choose an experienced partner over a virgin....more fun and nowhere near as many "issues".

OP: Respect her convicions - if you want to have sex before marriage, find someone else.

**phrozen** · 08-13-2007, 11:28 PM

ive only been "dating" her for about a month but ive liked her for a lot longer then that and I don't know.

I just don't want to break up with her but the whole no sex is horrible for me. Sure she will be faithful but lets face it we won't be together forever and she even gets mad if I insist we will.

So basically shes telling me I'm never going to get to **** her.

I don't know what to do...and as for boundaries I did ask...its basically just second base...and shes actually gorgeous. I can't handle it.

**backinbusiness** · 08-13-2007, 11:33 PM

How long have you been dating him? Sometimes a man says that in the beginning but after a while when he has become more comfortable he will losen up (no pun). Start off by attempting hj/bj from him and work your way up, or in this case, him to work his way down.

Dude its been a month. God damn stop acting like its the end of the world. You can't love a girl in a month so stop using that word too you ****in idiot.

**cyr** · 08-13-2007, 11:36 PM

From everything I've gathered from this thread, she can't say no if she's dead.

Just sayin..

**backinbusiness** · 08-13-2007, 11:38 PM

Originally Posted by cyr

From everything I've gathered from this thread, she can't say no if she's dead.

Just sayin..

Chloroform always has the answer.

**DP_Assain** · 08-13-2007, 11:38 PM

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=4136233

You 2 can help each other

**phrozen** · 08-13-2007, 11:50 PM

Originally Posted by backinbusiness

How long have you been dating him? Sometimes a man says that in the beginning but after a while when he has become more comfortable he will losen up (no pun). Start off by attempting hj/bj from him and work your way up, or in this case, him to work his way down.

Dude its been a month. God damn stop acting like its the end of the world. You can't love a girl in a month so stop using that word too you ****in idiot.

I don't love her....wtf
negged for one....I just wanna pound her and it sucks that i can't....and I don't want to dump her....don't you see them problem....who said anything about love....I just want to get my dick wet.

**Whiteheart** · 08-14-2007, 12:46 AM

A girlfriend who wont have sex....More useless and stupid than a car without wheels and an engine.

**phrozen** · 08-15-2007, 01:06 PM

yeah....it sucks

**Sach** · 08-15-2007, 01:08 PM

if ya'll don't have the same morals then there is nothing you can do about that. Do you love her? Are you willing to wait? If no then find some other girl who will.

**5x10** · 08-15-2007, 01:10 PM

your needs arent being met
time to find someone who is willing to meet those needs

**Pad264** · 08-15-2007, 01:21 PM

What is the point of having a girlfriend at the age of 18 and not having sex with her? I'm being serious. The only time I could imagine having a gf and not having sex with her would be if I was 85, my wife was dead, and I couldn't get it up.

The single worst decision you could make in your life would be getting married to a girl you never had sex with. The divorce rate in that scenario is 99%...with the other 1% being suicide.

**SquatTillYaPuke** · 08-15-2007, 01:22 PM

Originally Posted by phrozen

Were both the same age and I'm highly attracted to her and like her, but she does not want to have sex until she is married.

I'm filled with testosterone and love sex very much so I don't know how I am going to deal with this. She says she just doesn't know if she will ever be able to trust someone enough to have sex with them and not regret it.....shes afraid she will regret it. Shes horrible at handling guilt and stress so thats why shes so scared.

and its so hard to kiss her and make out with her and the not be able to do anyhting else.....she has mentioned shes against oral sex too.

I don't want to break up with her over the fact that she doesn't want to do anything sexually with me its just very hard having these needs and a beautiful girl at my dispense but not being able to have sex with her.

Shes a virgin obviously. what do you think?

That type of thing is designed purely to get you into marriage. Your body needs sex so it starts to trick you into thinking you love her when you really shouldnt , so it can get sex. Dont play that game with her. If she cared about you shed take care of you , if she wont then she doesnt. This type of thing can cloud your judgment extremely bad , and extended periods of this will have you thinking you truelly love her when its really just your body tricking you. DO NOT PLAY THIS GAME. Its hard enough when its somebody else trying to trick you , its damn near impossible to tell when its you tricking yourself. Otherwise youll find your self married , and after 2 minutes of recovering after sex youll be saying to yourself "why the hell did I marry her".
Marriage is a commitment , dont let a chick destroy your life for sex. Of course you could just get an anollment.

**nithos** · 08-15-2007, 01:29 PM

Originally Posted by Pad264

The single worst decision you could make in your life would be getting married to a girl you never had sex with. The divorce rate in that scenario is 99%...with the other 1% being suicide.

I am going to go with the opposite. I bet the divorce rate for couples that never had sex before marrage is extremely low.

**NYY** · 08-15-2007, 01:30 PM

Originally Posted by Whiteheart

A girlfriend who wont have sex....More useless and stupid than a car without wheels and an engine.

Or better yet like a Ferrari without a transmission.

**SquatTillYaPuke** · 08-15-2007, 01:30 PM

Marriage is a huge commitment , and if she is not going to show you all her cards why commit to her. If she's going to hide things from you why would you ever marry her. Sexuality is a huge part of your personality. Not to mention the fact that you may be together 5 years before you actually get married and her making you endure that way is absolutely disgusting.

**Pad264** · 08-15-2007, 01:38 PM

Originally Posted by nithos

I am going to go with the opposite. I bet the divorce rate for couples that never had sex before marrage is extremely low.

The term "low divorce-rate" hasn't been applicable for over a decade.

**hunter1492** · 08-15-2007, 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by phrozen

Were both the same age and I'm highly attracted to her and like her, but she does not want to have sex until she is married.

I'm filled with testosterone and love sex very much so I don't know how I am going to deal with this. She says she just doesn't know if she will ever be able to trust someone enough to have sex with them and not regret it.....shes afraid she will regret it. Shes horrible at handling guilt and stress so thats why shes so scared.

and its so hard to kiss her and make out with her and the not be able to do anyhting else.....she has mentioned shes against oral sex too.

I don't want to break up with her over the fact that she doesn't want to do anything sexually with me its just very hard having these needs and a beautiful girl at my dispense but not being able to have sex with her.

Shes a virgin obviously. what do you think?

Your only 18 and your girl will not give up sex or oral then listen to me very closely. LEAVE HER! You can beg, wait, beg some more, grovel then beg some more, or you can say you respect her wants but since her want's don't include your happiness it's time for you to move on.

There are litereally millions of girls out there so if you are not happy then move on. Yes its hard, always is, you'll get over it. Yes you will tag some trampy girls but who cares, your 18...wrap it, tag it and move on.

Think about this for one second. There are millions of men who would love to be your age and if they could they would pay big $$$ to be 18 again. Enjoy your youth to the fullest, it goes by way too fast.

**JonZ** · 08-15-2007, 01:50 PM

You want sex, she doesnt.

Move on.

**Step_Up** · 08-15-2007, 02:00 PM

Do whatever you can to take her virginity... even if it means roofies or chloroform. Then IMMEDIATELY dump her. That oughta show her.

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