Online dating: Have you ever tried it? Would you? (Serious)

[WhiteCollarBoy]

The other night, I was watching TV and saw one of those Match.com commercials for the 10th time so I figured I'd check it out and see what all the fuss was about. So I go to the site, and it lets you search for women without signing up, although I think you need to make a profile to look at other people's profiles.

Anyway, there seems to be some decent women on there (or so they seem decent) among a bunch of battle toads and women with one arm, or three eyes.

That being said, I'm actually beginning to think that the online dating scene is a completely untapped resource for women that I have never thought of looking into before. I think the stigma of online dating has died down since its conception, so I actually don't feel that wierd thinking about it.

I mean, I could just sit here as I am right now and send out these random e-mails, see who bites, and set up a date to meet up and talk in real life. It's probably no different than meeting a girl at a bar, calling her a few days later and setting up your first date.

Anyone agree? Disagree? What are your thoughts about online dating?

[microsize]

Wouldn't. I've always wondered what reasons these women have for dating online, and not in real life...

[Sevada]

Originally Posted by microsize

Wouldn't. I've always wondered what reasons these women have for dating online, and not in real life...

x2

[vanilla sky]

the only time i could see a 9 or 10 using an online dating site is to decline every guy just to increase her own ego

[Below 30]

Fast Food- It's ready prepared and tastes really good [super high fat content, limited nutritional content]

Automatic Transmission Cars- Set to drive and go, no clutch pedal to operate [higher fuel consumption, inefficient use of engine power potential]


Things in life that have an easier alternative usually have side effects or other limitations. In some cases, the side effects aren't worth it and meeting girls online I thing is ultimately a waste of time. Just like how good-looking females are treated on this forum, I think HB's sign up to those sites for the attention. It's fun for them to get hundreds of emails from guys, that's all -30-

[Immichaelski]

Hey man these days online dating is the safest way to meet a match. You could always bring a friend along if you were scared. Also like in the kind of town I live in there is nowhere to go to meet people and white peopel are a limitation so its really the only thing we have to do.

[LordHalbert]

I've used this site to great success:
http://adultsheepfinder.com

[Amoral]

I dont really know much about online dating, but as far as I can tell it seems like there are two types. A kind that is like myspace where you try to hook up with random useless broads, and another kind where they try to set you up to get married. Two things that I dont want in life.

[Poppa Pump]

I feel that it's easy for people who are college age and younger to think that online matching sites like that are stupid. I'm in that demographic and though i wouldn't consider using one myself at the moment, i think that it is very useful. Think about what life is like after college for those of you who are younger. You work regular jobs. There's no more big social events and parties that you can go to and meet people. You dont have classes to meet people in. Things get way more routine. I can definitely see why people who are in all respect good catches would look to the internet to help them meet people. Trying to find someone out in the world takes time that they may not have. Or maybe they spent a lot of time going on dates and they want to find someone who is really compatible with them. Obviously you will find people on there with bagage and this and that, but of course it's not like you have to go on a date with everyone who sends you a message. If you want to try, go for it. You have nothing to lose. And as far as stigma goes, there will always be one. But as time goes on these online dating sites are being seen as more common. I remember maybe a year back reading articles about how the internet is basically the new bar.

[Pharos]

I've tried it and had limited success. Met up with about 7 girls in total in about three months. Bagged one of the girls, but she was a bit mental so nothing came of that, and didn't really click with any of the others.

If you go into it with very little expectations you might be surprised.

[loney]

I seem to meet up with loads of girls from online, i met 2 last week, and hopefully another 2 this week. And I met these girls not long ago, no late night MSN chats or whatever. I speak to them on MSN, then on the phone a while then arange to meet up. When I'm about to meet them I feel nervous, but as soon as I meet them/hug them, that feeling vanishes.

It's weird, I can't go up to a random girl, but I CAN go up to a random girl who I've spoken to on the phone for a few minutes. I hate it.

[peng]

I'm meeting up with one in about an hour. I'll keep you guys updated on whether or not shes an old fat man who wants me dead.

[xagdxvips]

Originally Posted by loney

I seem to meet up with loads of girls from online, i met 2 last week, and hopefully another 2 this week. And I met these girls not long ago, no late night MSN chats or whatever. I speak to them on MSN, then on the phone a while then arange to meet up. When I'm about to meet them I feel nervous, but as soon as I meet them/hug them, that feeling vanishes.

It's weird, I can't go up to a random girl, but I CAN go up to a random girl who I've spoken to on the phone for a few minutes. I hate it.

What site and what was your opener?

[agm22]

I've heard some actual real life success stories from e-harmony. To me if you feel like that's what you want to do, go for it. I wouldn't feel ashamed or rule anything out, you may find the right person.

I think the main idea behind all this is to think positive. If you think negatively like some of the posters above, you'll probably have a hard time meeting a girl you like. Instead, keep an open mind and you may find happiness. Good luck.. oh and I've also heard enough negative stories about match.com.

[dumac]

i tried it for the hell of it and it is really gay and dumb don't do it.

[JewMasterKrunk]

lol at battletoads.

[Ex-Terminator]

There's one thing you must always remember (applies to men): If you're looking for a woman, you can't find one. If you're not looking, they appear. This applies to online dating. Regardless of how popular it has become, there's still a stigma attached to anyone (both men and women) and that is that you're assumed to be a "loser who can't get any" if you're on one. I didn't make these rules, but that's what they are. Most of the good looking women you see on there, or at least the real ones, are there for one reason: "Hey, everybody! Look how HOT I am!" They're attention-whoring and, ironically, they're "too hot to date a loser who would join a dating site."

And just so you know, when you see where a woman puts the line, "Tired of game players," or something like that, this is a case of projection. It's because they themselves are major game players and they don't want competition.

EDIT: I forgot this part. A woman doesn't want a man who is "looking for a woman." By inference, if you're on a dating site, that's exactly what you're doing. A woman wants a man who thinks he's too good for her.

[Pool_Shark]

The stigma attached to it only comes from narrow minded individuals.

There is nothing wrong with meeting people online. The internet is simply another resource. People use the internet to find cars, homes, careers, why not use it for finding a mate?

There are women (very attractive women) who choose the route of online dating because they get to have indepth conversations with a person before deciding whether or not to meet face to face. If a guy in a club is harassing a woman, she eventually has to leave to get away from him. If a guy online is harassing a woman, she only has to click a button and never hear from him again.

Online a woman can meet a man on her own terms from the comfort of her own home. She doesn't have to worry about some drunk, bad breath dweeb trying to be alpha all over her.

Not all women play games anymore than all men play games. That is usually left up to the young and immature.

[dazzlepecs]

I did and got laid from it - I would suggest hitting on the older women 25+



Heres some tips I would have given myself; dont try too hard, dont write ****loads of waffle on your profile, keep it snappy, and defo somewhere in your pics have a nonchalant picture of your buffness. But be blithe about the whole working out thing.

[nithos]

I used e-harmony on a whim one day (just put my IM on the site to avoid the high cost). After college, all my friends were married so I wasn't getting the same steady flow of new faces that I was in college.

If you are looking for a party girl, this probably isn't the place to be looking. Most were busy professionals who didn't really hit the bars much. That wasn't really a problem with me.

Met some really nice ones and some super boring ones.

[user67987300011654]

Originally Posted by Below 30

Fast Food- It's ready prepared and tastes really good [super high fat content, limited nutritional content]

Automatic Transmission Cars- Set to drive and go, no clutch pedal to operate [higher fuel consumption, inefficient use of engine power potential]


Things in life that have an easier alternative usually have side effects or other limitations. In some cases, the side effects aren't worth it and meeting girls online I thing is ultimately a waste of time. Just like how good-looking females are treated on this forum, I think HB's sign up to those sites for the attention. It's fun for them to get hundreds of emails from guys, that's all -30-

hahah the man has spoken

[user67987300011654]

there is a guy that works in my building

he is the geeky dungeons and dragons playing guy, now fat and overweight
he is on one of those sites and tells me he is doing great having sex parties and all that, big orgys and things like that


one day he says my girl is picking me up. OMFG, OMFG, OMFG, I would seriously kill her to put her out of her own missery, she was about 900 pounds, no teeth, and drove a Ford Escort

WHOLLY FUK, how can someone be so ugly

than a few weeks later he tells me he has a new girl, I saw her too, she is about 300, fat, she has a mullet, no front teeth, and Im willing to bet anything she lives in a trailer


OMFG, I will never trust any woman on the net after I saw how those things looked


I dont even know why people like that want to live

[es2007]

There are some things I'll never do:

1) Prostitutes
2) Blind dates
3) Internet dating

I just think its a bottom of the barrel approach to dating. I think that if you were so desperate for companionship, there's bigger fish to fry in terms of priorities. Maybe I have it all wrong but I don't think I'll ever get desperate enough to date online.

There's one thing you must always remember (applies to men): If you're looking for a woman, you can't find one. If you're not looking, they appear.

Explain this one.

I've never went out in pursuit of a girl or a girlfriend, was popular, had a ****load of friends, was in the popular crowd, football player, but not a single girl appeared. They never made themselves available. By what you're saying, I should have been fending them off with a stick. The same with college except I'm not in football any more. (No derail intended)

[Daneman]

Originally Posted by WhiteCollarBoy

The other night, I was watching TV and saw one of those Match.com commercials for the 10th time so I figured I'd check it out and see what all the fuss was about. So I go to the site, and it lets you search for women without signing up, although I think you need to make a profile to look at other people's profiles.

Anyway, there seems to be some decent women on there (or so they seem decent) among a bunch of battle toads and women with one arm, or three eyes.

That being said, I'm actually beginning to think that the online dating scene is a completely untapped resource for women that I have never thought of looking into before. I think the stigma of online dating has died down since its conception, so I actually don't feel that wierd thinking about it.

I mean, I could just sit here as I am right now and send out these random e-mails, see who bites, and set up a date to meet up and talk in real life. It's probably no different than meeting a girl at a bar, calling her a few days later and setting up your first date.

Anyone agree? Disagree? What are your thoughts about online dating?

My thoughts about online dating are somewhat negative.

Match.Com was sued as one of the subscribers claimed that he eventually dated a Match.Com employee. Personally, I think some online dating companies post fake ads. Most of these online dating Web sites have a feature called a "wink.' If you find a person attractive, you can send them a "wink."

I think you tend to get more "winks" when your subscription is about to expire. Who would want to drop their subscription when lots of hotties are sending you "winks"? Who's actually sending you all of these winks is debatable.

For people living in rural, isolated areas, online dating may be okay. For people living in a large city like myself, it doesn't appeal to me.. There's just so many opportunites to meet people in a large city.

Bars are fun but I don't think it's a particularly good place to meet Mrs./Mr. Right. If you're looking for sex you'll find it, but something long-term is more difficult to find. Certainly a month or longer. A year? Forget it!

I think it's safe to say that if you're having problems dating in the real world you'll also have problems with online dating, too. Mainstream, extroverted guys will probably do well, but introverted guys will have more problems.

[PokerInTheBack]

I read somewhere that in about 5 years dating people you met on the internet will no longer be considered weird/taboo/awkward.

[AlphaBlack]

Originally Posted by dumac

i tried it for the hell of it and it is really gay and dumb don't do it.

ur 17.


my mom tried it. hooked up with 3 different guys on eHarmony. the relationship lasted for about 4 months max. Why? because i acted like an ass to all of them

[user437490845hjgf]

I have an account on a free dating site called okcupid.com, knock it all you want but ive met 4-5 girls on there who are actually really cool. Theres ALOT lot lot lot of weirdos but theres a few diamonds in the rough and if ur a semi normal guy, u will be the online cassanova.

Even if u dont want a relationship, its good to find a **** buddy. RL is better, but online dating is cool for when ur bored and have nothing else to do besides go on the misc section. lol

[Daneman]

Originally Posted by Ex-Terminator

There's one thing you must always remember (applies to men): If you're looking for a woman, you can't find one. If you're not looking, they appear. This applies to online dating. Regardless of how popular it has become, there's still a stigma attached to anyone (both men and women) and that is that you're assumed to be a "loser who can't get any" if you're on one. I didn't make these rules, but that's what they are. Most of the good looking women you see on there, or at least the real ones, are there for one reason: "Hey, everybody! Look how HOT I am!" They're attention-whoring and, ironically, they're "too hot to date a loser who would join a dating site."

And just so you know, when you see where a woman puts the line, "Tired of game players," or something like that, this is a case of projection. It's because they themselves are major game players and they don't want competition.

EDIT: I forgot this part. A woman doesn't want a man who is "looking for a woman." By inference, if you're on a dating site, that's exactly what you're doing. A woman wants a man who thinks he's too good for her.

I agree with you that good things tend to happen when you least expect it.

Don't take a shower for a month. Hotties will be wanting to bed you. When your apartment/home is super clean, there's not a chick in sight. When your apartment/home is looking like a dump, you don't want to give her a personal tour of your pigpen. Of course, unless she's a pig herself.

[striker543]

The profiles seem all generic, every girl puts "I'm outgoing, like to party and have a fun time"

I'm thinking, no **** does anyone actually go out of their way to have a bad time?

[Daneman]

Originally Posted by dazzlepecs

I did and got laid from it - I would suggest hitting on the older women 25+



Heres some tips I would have given myself; dont try too hard, dont write ****loads of waffle on your profile, keep it snappy, and defo somewhere in your pics have a nonchalant picture of your buffness. But be blithe about the whole working out thing.

Yeah! Keep everything simple.

Just say you make a $1,000,000 a year. That should get you quite a few dates.