anybody as big of a loser as me?

[Cubs2007WS]

so yea I am 18, never had a g/f, never been on a date with a girl. I am going to my first party ever on friday. I dealt with alot of confidence and social anxiety issues for my life but I am slowly overcoming those

I am a pretty good looking guy, 5'10' 208 13% BF, I make good money and I am moderately intelligent. I have only been trying to go out with girls for the last year or so however and it's been a massive failure so far.

[T.I.T.A.N.]

im pretty much was as much a failure as u...never got my first party tll 19 tho...still no gf yet

[DanielBloomberg]

so yea I am 18, never had a g/f, never been on a date with a girl. I am going to my first party ever on friday. I dealt with alot of confidence and social anxiety issues for my life but I am slowly overcoming those

I am a pretty good looking guy, 5'10' 208 13% BF, I make good money and I am moderately intelligent. I have only been trying to go out with girls for the last year or so however and it's been a massive failure so far.

im 22, 123ib, gay but never did anything, i have major social anxiety issues

[Cubs2007WS]

it's pretty strange (and infuriating) to see all the worthless douchebags out there banging fairly attractive girls. 'tis life, however.

[NYY]

so yea I am 18, never had a g/f, never been on a date with a girl. I am going to my first party ever on friday. I dealt with alot of confidence and social anxiety issues for my life but I am slowly overcoming those

I am a pretty good looking guy, 5'10' 208 13% BF, I make good money and I am moderately intelligent. I have only been trying to go out with girls for the last year or so however and it's been a massive failure so far.

I'm the same, minus the confidence and anxiety issues, you're not a failure.

[Cubs2007WS]

I'm not sure if there's even any point in trying anymore, I just don't care about it anymore I suppose.

[getbig3193]

I'm not sure if there's even any point in trying anymore, I just don't care about it anymore I suppose.

Obviously you do

You can get over it too. Most of it is in your head.

It will take some time and pain that you have to be willing to put yourself through


If you worked hard you could be a playa in 1-2 years...promise

[Cubs2007WS]

Obviously you do

I am mostly desensitized to it nowadays. I don't even get frustrated or irritated when a girl rejects me anymore (just more of the same old same old).

I pretty much expect failure and then just go on with my life.

[getbig3193]

I am mostly desensitized to it nowadays. I don't even get frustrated or irritated when a girl rejects me anymore (just more of the same old same old).

How many girls rejected you in the past 2 months?

How have they rejected you? Why?

Where do you meet girls?

Are you decent looking? How do you dress?

[Da Blazin Azn]

I guess I am the same. But I've had some what of a girl friend. I've been on about 10 dates through out my life. How ever I feel the same as you guys. I feel as though no girl actually wants me. So you guys are not alone. I guess you can never be happy with anything.

[mkpat]

One thing about overcoming confidence issues is dealing with what makes you lose it, first hand. Which means if theres a girl you want to ask out, be yourself and DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT SHE'S THINKING. Bro to be honest Im in the same boat but one thing I've learned is chicks can smell confidence issues from a mile away. Just be yourself

[getbig3193]

I guess I am the same. But I've had some what of a girl friend. I've been on about 10 dates through out my life. How ever I feel the same as you guys. I feel as though no girl actually wants me. So you guys are not alone. I guess you can never be happy with anything.

I feel that every girl wants me. Try it for a while. Think that all day. You may start to find it coming true, or find signs of it.

[BenchnCurls]

One thing about overcoming confidence issues is dealing with what makes you lose it, first hand. Which means if theres a girl you want to ask out, be yourself and DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT SHE'S THINKING. Bro to be honest Im in the same boat but one thing I've learned is chicks can smell confidence issues from a mile away. Just be yourself

what if yourself sucks?

[Cubs2007WS]

How many girls rejected you in the past 2 months?

5

How have they rejected you? Why?

they showed signs of interest then eventually rejected me in one way or another (nothing straightforward but I am not ****ing stupid)

Where do you meet girls?

everywhere I can

Are you decent looking?

I have had 3 older people (women between ages of 35-45) comment that I am a good looking guy in the last 3 months

How do you dress?

typical calvin klein, nautica, guess, all that ****. Clothes look great me on me as I am 5'10' 207.

[getbig3193]

what if yourself sucks?

Change

Make yourself better

[KennyK]

well, you are a cubs fan.

[getbig3193]

they showed signs of interest then eventually rejected me in one way or another (nothing straightforward but I am not ****ing stupid)

everywhere I can

I have had 3 older people (women between ages of 35-45) comment that I am a good looking guy in the last 3 months
.

Okay, this isn't enough info for me. Here is what we will do. Post in this thread how things at the party went. I want the whole story. Then I will help you. I am sure others will love to help too.

I am not sure how bad your anxiety issues are but..

Here are your goals for the party. First is to say hi to 3 people you don't know and have a few minute convo.

Then is to make a girl laugh a few times over a 5-10 min convo. Just enjoy yourself and make her laugh nomatter how you have to do it. If you can't get her to laugh a few times move on to another girl. That is it. After that do whatever the hell you want. Try to get numbers or hook up with drunk chicks or even leave.

[Fearless_]

I feel that every girl wants me. Try it for a while. Think that all day. You may start to find it coming true, or find signs of it.

It's true. A lot (definitely most) of it has to do with attitude. I hate to talk like this, but the "energy" or vibe you give off has a great deal to do with attraction. If you are confident and happy with life, you will give off a positive vibe and girls (actually people in general) will pick up on it. No one wants to hang out with someone who has no confidence and thinks he is a loser. Like getbig said in his last post, improve yourself and make your life better. Not only will you have more fun every day, but you will attract girls as well.

[Cubs2007WS]

First is to say hi to 3 people you don't know and have a few minute convo.

wouldn't be a problem at all, I had social anxiety issues a while ago, nowadays I make friends with people within minutes.

Then is to make a girl laugh a few times over a 5-10 min convo. Just enjoy yourself and make her laugh nomatter how you have to do it. If you can't get her to laugh a few times move on to another girl. That is it. After that do whatever the hell you want. Try to get numbers or hook up with drunk chicks or even leave.

I have a really ****ty sense of humour, dunno why.

[mkpat]

what if yourself sucks?

Ever wonder why the ugly, fat, or just average chicks always have a thing for you? Part is because they're desperate, but the other part is because you're not trying to impress them when you're around them. Its who you are, the reason your friends still hang out with you.

EDIT: not you in general. lol I meant everybody

[getbig3193]

wouldn't be a problem at all, I had social anxiety issues a while ago, nowadays I make friends with people within minutes.

So what exactly is your problem?

Sounds like you have none but call yourself a loser? Stop that

[Cubs2007WS]

It's true. A lot (definitely most) of it has to do with attitude. I hate to talk like this, but the "energy" or vibe you give off has a great deal to do with attraction. If you are confident and happy with life, you will give off a positive vibe and girls (actually people in general) will pick up on it. No one wants to hang out with someone who has no confidence and thinks he is a loser. Like getbig said in his last post, improve yourself and make your life better. Not only will you have more fun every day, but you will attract girls as well.

not sure what more I can do to improve myself, I am a straight A's student in college earning around 1,600 a month at my job (will be over 2,000 soon) as an 18 year old. I expect to be making 100 thousand a year within 7-10 years. I have achieved considerable success in bodybuilding as I am probably the biggest 18 year old I have ever met.

[xDevianTx]

positive thinking goes a long way, and this coming from a fat bastard, heh.

im working on the fat bastard part, got into working out this year and dropped 20lbs really quick and still working on it, and have already had some girls interest and floored me.
a few friends that happen to be girls told me I seem different and more outgoing etc...got lil action but no pootang, which is not really what Im after, but hey sometimes you gotta take that.(a girl that doesnt cheat, and has goals and is not a party animal wow is that so hard to find?, yes thus far it is.)

MY diet, my body and mind have all been changing for the better and I dont even have a good job, but my positive thinking helps that, cause I believe hard work pays off, and any bad now will be overcome with good.

dont give up man

ive been suicidal and all that gay **** over a girl but hang in there and learn from your mistakes and improve your game.

[Fearless_]

not sure what more I can do to improve myself, I am a straight A's student in college earning around 1,600 a month at my job (will be over 2,000 soon) as an 18 year old. I expect to be making 100 thousand a year within 7-10 years. I have achieved considerable success in bodybuilding as I am probably the biggest 18 year old I have ever met.

Then why are you not confident? Surely there must be a reason somewhere. That is what you should work on.

[neowings]

I am worst that most of you guys. I am 21 and haven't had a gf yet. Also, I act differently towards other type of people. Some times I am quiet, some times I am talkative. And everyone thinks that I am gay but I am not.

[Cubs2007WS]

Then why are you not confident? Surely there must be a reason somewhere. That is what you should work on.

issues from childhood/high school I suppose, issues from getting rejected over and over again.

I am a very very strange individual, the average guy who fits the description of me has probably been laid a million times.

[mkpat]

I am worst that most of you guys. I am 21 and haven't had a gf yet. Also, I act differently towards other type of people. Some times I am quiet, some times I am talkative. And everyone thinks that I am gay but I am not.

haha, if i didn't know any better I'd say I wrote that. except I'm 20. My mom thinks I'm gay because I've never had a gf.

[Govithoy]

A lot of it is just getting out there dude. Gotta quit being so gunshy.

I've been, uh, "involved," a couple of times and been on a few dates. Never had a GF of any time longer than a couple weeks though. I haven't tried -- literally, at all -- in the last couple months because I've been broke-ass poor (still haven't gotten my first paycheck from my job I've been at for 3 weeks now!) and I'm living with my parents again until halfway through August or so (I've been here since the end of April) so even if things were to happen, it would be kind of hard to find somewhere private. Getting back on the horse soon though.

The key is just putting yourself out there though. You miss every shot you don't take.

[Cubs2007WS]

You miss every shot you don't take.

seems like I miss every shot regardless.

[getbig3193]

issues from childhood/high school I suppose, issues from getting rejected over and over again.

I am a very very strange individual, the average guy who fits the description of me has probably been laid a million times.

Okay then. Get out more and get rejected more. YOu will succeed some times. No biggie. I have been turned down more than 5 times in a week before.


Play the numbers.

If you can hook up with just 1/20 girls you meet and find attractive you could have a new girl every month. Get to work