Ive only been working out for about 2 months now, but already I have lost all motivation. Ive increased my eating almost every week since I started and havent seen any gains at all. I am still the exact same weight as when I started, and now, I just find myself being too lazy to go to the gym. WTF?!
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10-22-2004, 11:09 AM #1
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I've lost all motivation to work out
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10-22-2004, 11:10 AM #2
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10-22-2004, 11:23 AM #10
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pounds don't come easy for me. I have the highest metabolism I have ever seen. I eat at least 3000 calories a day and about 250-300 grams of protein a day. Don't tell me to eat 4000 calories a day, cause I cant. I weight 160 pounds and I already have to force myself to eat most of the time. I eat a lot of oats and peanut butter, but it just doesnt work.
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10-22-2004, 11:25 AM #11
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10-22-2004, 11:27 AM #13Originally Posted by cmc0108
Oh - and are you getting 8 hours sleep a night?"We know Burns has the trillion dollar bill somewhere in his house, but all we've been able to ascertain from satellite photos is that it's not on the roof".
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10-22-2004, 11:27 AM #14
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10-22-2004, 11:34 AM #16
This is just one of those things... (I'm going to put aside the resentment I've built up for the people I've tried to help train who couldn't make it past this first motivation wall, and try to put this in the terms I used/see.)
I'm sure a bunch of other guys are going to say: "How's your nutrition?" And "Maybe you need a rest week."
So I'll chime in on the motivation factor...
First off, in my oppinion, while this might seem odd... I think the biggest improvement weight lifting gives is a mental one! There are lessons about character, motivation, patience, determination, strength of will, desire to keep learning, confidence, and even a little faith, that come along the road.
Everybody has these goals of adding 20 pounds of muscle, ten inches to their chest and what have you... I say... Add nutritional goals, and most importantly add Motivational goals!
I'll share with you my little story of how I transformed lifting from a hobby into a lifestyle...
In the past I only worked out from Mid fall to early spring... Just enough to get back into the same shape or a little better, never getting much more...
I started again, almost a year ago now... In January I read an article that said "If you really want to make something a lifestyle change, you have to do it for six months in order to ingrain it into your mind."
So I found my six month point... Found my supportive friends, and found my Toxic, tricycle kicker friends... And put to them a bet... If I don't keep it up for 6 months, I have to buy each of them a Porterhouse steak... If I do keep it up for six months, they have to buy me a Porter. 15 bets... about $12 a steak... I'd be out some serious ching!
Also... Every workout I put in, I put a dollar away... By Mid May... I had $78 saved up, and a Freezer with 15 porterhouse steaks in it!
What I learned along the way though, was priceless. Sticking to something, developing passion for it... Having patience to let it grow... And how it makes you more of a man on the inside, those are the real benefits of sticking to it, whether you plateau, struggle, get bored, get tired, get lazy.
And for me, while I had the noob gain thing, where I could lose fat and gain muscle at the same time... It was once I got past the 6 month mark that the "Gains I love" showed up...
After 6 months, is when I could feel the horseshoe in my tri's... After 6 months, is when my pecs stood out from the collar bone... When my sternal attachment rose up from the bone, when the seperation of the different heads showed up in my quads...When the crazy contours showed up on my back. And surprisingly it was after 6 months, that I even found out that I had butt! Before it was just two legs that met at a back. Now I've got a butt that women like!
But if I wouldn't have had the motivation to take it to 6 months... I would have never known, or grown those things.
Now when I struggle, or hit a small plateau, instead of thinking "Gee, maybe I should give up..." and trying to conjure some cheesy excuse... Now I think "Hmmm... How am I gonna break this, cause there's no way I'm stopping... I'm gonna hit XYZ, like I caught it stealing my goddam bike!"6'4"
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"There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth: not going all the way, and not starting." The Buddha
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10-22-2004, 11:38 AM #17
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10-22-2004, 11:38 AM #18
Just take it one day at a time.
Nail your nutrition and your workout, then throw out your scale and mirror.
If you're constantly looking and measuring trying to find your gains, you'll never be satisfied since gains don't happen fast enough to notice day by day.
People say keep your eye on the prize, but it doesn't work, because the prize is always too far away to be of any use. Focus on the process - your diet and workouts are all that matter, just forget about the rest.
And when that process becomes automatic, a habit, something that you no longer have to think about, there will be no stopping your gains; even adjusting stuff to avoid plateaus will become automatic.Last edited by mybodysucks; 10-22-2004 at 11:48 AM.
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10-22-2004, 11:59 AM #19
I've heard it said that the first 12 weeks of lifting you really don't build much size, and more that you develop mind-muscle connections. Eating the calories is not a problem. At 5'10" 145lbs, I managed to stuff 5000 calories in my grill every day and I'm now 170lbs about a 4 months later with about the same level of bodyfat. Now that I've got all the elements of training/nutrition down, I'm planning on another 20lbs by next summer. I have a very fast metabolism, and I've had between 7-12% bf for probably my entire life, while eating crappy foods.
You can make your goals happen. I worked out for about 4 years before I started making any real progress. I gained 10-15lbs over that time but it wasn't worth noticing because I was skinny to begin with. I was not armed with all the right knowledge and I was not eating enough. Once you have the nutrition down and you are training hard, all you need is the desire to reach your goals.
Picture yourself a year from now, not working out, still looking the same, not confident. You can deal with thinking about how you tried to do something that could change you and better your life but didn't have the resolve.
Now picture yourself a year from now. You sent your ass back to the gym and your looking pretty good. You aren't the biggest guy in the gym but you now have the right attitude to shatter all of your goals and plateaus. The self-discipline and confidence have changed your life.
I used to struggle with depression sometimes. Now, I can't even remember the last time I was depressed, or even thought about it.
Visit some of the pro BBer websites. I found Skip La Cour had some good motivational readings. Surf the boards here and pick up information about nutrition and how to train. Equip yourself with all you need to succeed then get your ass back to the gym. Scream at yourself in the mirror if you have to.
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10-22-2004, 12:01 PM #20
you're probably not eating enough carbs honestly. Tons of protein and no carbs will get you umm not alot if you're trying to get big. I've eaten 3 large pizzas this week, after each training session...I weigh 270 and only eat about 3500-4000 calories a day only drinking 1 maybe 2 shakes a day or a protein bar here and there and i'm growing, biceps just recently went up a quarter of an inch. I eat fast food about 3 times a week sometimes less, sometimes more. Don't go about this trying to just instantly live off just protein powder, tuna, etc. and training 7 days a week.
Post up your routine and diet and sleeping patterns and any supps you are taking so we can help you out more.
You're not gonna become a muscle monster overnight, maybe not in a year, maybe not in 5 years but you will be doing your body a favor and if your goal is muscularity, steadily approaching that goal. Consistancy is the key. If you lift m,w,f go every m,w,f for about 9-12 weeks then take a week off.-=PRO MMA FIGHTER CREW=-
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10-22-2004, 12:34 PM #21
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10-22-2004, 12:56 PM #22
Try walking into a room that has large full-length mirrors. Look at yourself from all angles in your underwear.
Then when you realize you are skinny, yet your pecs, stomach, ass, & shoulders droop...and that you lack complete motivation to do anything besides sitting around...and the fact that most people older than you are in better physical shape...and the fact that when you walk into a bar or God forbid on the beach with your significant other- guys hit on your girlfriend/wife because they take you as a joke....well those were all reasons for me to kick my ass into shape.
PLUS, if you have a bit of a confidence problem, physical training really helped me feel more secure with myself, more outgoing with other people, and DAMN IT lets admit it, just better looking.
Oh yeah, I was also the guy in high school who played drums in the school band. Now, I may be married to the head cheerleader, prom queen, dated the star running back woman...but for once I look like I should actually be with her.
Plus, NOW people actually assume I had to have played football in college.
So, the EGO BOAST is one of the best reasons to lift.........for me! There is all that blah, blah, blah about lifting for better health, and for the feeling of self-accomplishment...****, I do it to look better and be bigger than that guy checking out my wife. F*ck It, I said it!
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10-22-2004, 01:00 PM #23
If you're ready to throw in after only two months, I say do it. You are just wasting your time if you ain't man enuf to make it through only two months. My guess is your intensity and dedication is lacking.
Just remember that it's all your fault and no one else's.============================
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BODYBUILDING'S TOP FIVE FACTORS IN ORDER OF IMPORTANCE
1) Attitude - Think big to become big.
2) Nutrition - You can't build anything without raw materials.
3) Routine - Work hard, but smart.
4) Recovery - Muscles grow in bed, not in the gym.
5) Supplementation - Icing on the cake.
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10-22-2004, 01:02 PM #24
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10-22-2004, 01:10 PM #25
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2 months is not going to create a drastic transformation. Why is everyone in such a hurry to see changes? It doesn't happen overnight, especially if you're 100% natural. Enjoy the journey. It's half the fun IMO.
Your other option is to quit and I will go out on a limb here and bet that won't get you any bigger
So choices are, keep at it, learn and adjust as needed or quit and look the same for the rest of your life. Easy, you only have 2 choices.
Now stop being a baby and decide what you really want.
Good luck."Franco is pretty smart, but Franco's a child, and when it comes to the day of the contest, I am his father. He comes to me for advices. So it's not that hard for me to give him the wrong advices." - Arnold Schwarzenegger - Pumping Iron
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10-22-2004, 01:18 PM #26
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I realized two months isnt going to create a drastic change, not looking for one. I jus wanted to see some gains. Anyways...I just got back from the gym and today I pushed myself harder than I ever have before...it felt good. I actually was proud of myself, so I decided maybe I should stick to this for a few more months and see what happens. If anyone wants it still, I will post my workout when I get back... I gotta run some errands right now
Thanks Nainoa, the story made me think....thanks everyone else too.
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10-22-2004, 01:22 PM #27Originally Posted by Eric_FXST============================
----I wanna be SUPER HERO BIG!----
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BODYBUILDING'S TOP FIVE FACTORS IN ORDER OF IMPORTANCE
1) Attitude - Think big to become big.
2) Nutrition - You can't build anything without raw materials.
3) Routine - Work hard, but smart.
4) Recovery - Muscles grow in bed, not in the gym.
5) Supplementation - Icing on the cake.
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10-22-2004, 01:26 PM #28Originally Posted by cmc0108============================
----I wanna be SUPER HERO BIG!----
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BODYBUILDING'S TOP FIVE FACTORS IN ORDER OF IMPORTANCE
1) Attitude - Think big to become big.
2) Nutrition - You can't build anything without raw materials.
3) Routine - Work hard, but smart.
4) Recovery - Muscles grow in bed, not in the gym.
5) Supplementation - Icing on the cake.
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10-22-2004, 01:31 PM #29Originally Posted by PsYoP78
Don't ask me to make special exceptions for you. You did it to yourself. If you are not able to enter or fit in something, it's your own damn fault.
Very harsh, I know. But, our society seems to make amends for everybody and everything but what is really needed!
Don't even get me started on everything starting to become bilingual in America! WTF?!
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10-22-2004, 01:49 PM #30
re: cmc0108
A book that was very helpful to me to answer most of my questions from diet to exercises to timeframes, etc and to help you start a good foundation, which in turn, once you have the knowledge then motivation should follow: Arnold Schwarzenegger-The New Encyclopedia of Modern Bodybuilding. Waldenbooks carries it for about $25.
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