Just found out my wife cheated on me.

[iLiRaM]

First she told me she was going to her sisters house to clear her head a day ago. Then today I called her and she finally spilled the beans. She had sex with an old high school lover a few weeks ago. And not only that, but she's at his house right now, not her sisters. I am absolutely heart broken. I told her I would forgive her if she came home immediately and so we can talk it through because we are married and we can get through anything. She said she wants to stay there. So I told her it was either me, or to stay there. And then she told me she rather stay there. So I guess we are going to get a Divorce. We've been together seven years and married for almost 3 of those years. I am devastated.

[fihe]

I wouldn't stand for that. Good that you're getting a divorce.

I just hope she doesn't leave you desolate.

[iLiRaM]

I wouldn't stand for that. Good that you're getting a divorce.

I just hope she doesn't leave you desolate.

i feel overwhelmed with emotion. i feel weak, and sad. i don't have any friends to begin with. all i have is my parents to turn to. i am in complete havoc.

[Jacwald]

First of all brah , I'm really sorry for what happened to you. I hope you don't have kids together. Just go to your room and feel that pain. Cry if you have to. Go talk to your parents about it. I'm pretty sure your ex wife will eventually come back, but don't take her back because she's a phucking bich .
Just expect to experience some serious emotional pain , but with time you'll get better.
I'm really sorry. You'll make it brah

[FU3L]

There's no 'guess' about it, you have to get a divorce if you have the slightest shred of self respect. It's very unfortunate that this happened but be thankful she was honest and showed her true colors.

Don't delay, don't give her another chance, just start the divorce process asap as it's clear she isn't interested in being faithful to her husband.

[iLiRaM]

i am very very sad right now words can't express

[Nicklol]

jesus christ

im sorry my brother

[BlackScorpio91]

That sucks that happened to you, get that divorce asap and talk to someone you can trust about this.

[sardis3207]

Divorce ASAP OP you deserve better. SRS

[SwoleCat23]

First she told me she was going to her sisters house to clear her head a day ago. Then today I called her and she finally spilled the beans. She had sex with an old high school lover a few weeks ago. And not only that, but she's at his house right now, not her sisters. I am absolutely heart broken. I told her I would forgive her if she came home immediately and so we can talk it through because we are married and we can get through anything. She said she wants to stay there. So I told her it was either me, or to stay there. And then she told me she rather stay there. So I guess we are going to get a Divorce. We've been together seven years and married for almost 3 of those years. I am devastated.

In those 7 years that you were with her, did she ever present any red flags (slooty past, suspicious behaviour etc.) that would lead her to where you are now?

[usersignup2]

fuk all the consolation advice.

YOU NEED A FINANCIAL EXIT STRATEGY NOW
cut off CC, change passwords on accounts, etc. cause you can bet she'll be thinking about money sooner rather than later

[Alkosh]

Do you have any kids? This is gonna be hard for you and feel like the world is ending but trust me.. divorce her and move on to better things.

Not sure if you are religious or not.. but I'd pray and talk to God


Gl op

[LordDNP]

Sorry to hear bro... some girls are just crazy... girl at my graduate school is engaged but is flirting with me on the daily. Gave me her number and all that. I feel bad for the guy.

Anyways, keep your head up, you're better than that. Cut her out ASAP. It's easier said than done, but it's the truth. Even if she does come back and you let her, it won't work out. Not with what you know now.

[iLiRaM]

thank you everyone. i'm heart broken. i haven't cried like this in years. at least i will be able to rekindle with my family and old friends that i haven't talked to in so long. i know once the initial move out and divorce is finalized i will feel better. i still care about her. and i still love her. so this makes it very hard. knowing she fukked someone makes it a bit easier to handle. but none the less, i am a mess right now. i can't handle it and just shake it off.

[TommyRO]

Funny how people can give up 7 yrs for an old hs fling that will go no where and she knows it, all about how she feels right now. Either way let her family know ( so she doesn't paint you as a villain) and secure your financials and get a devorce. She will come back begging when he moves on don't allow it. Save your dignity and move on with your life

[Thebunz]

Look at it this way, you won't have to bang that same boring pussy anymore. It's Saturday night, get out here and fuk some hotter sloot.

But srs, divorce is your only option. Get her out of your life as soon as you can and begin creating a new one for yourself.

[Zer0Wolf]

- Plan an exit strategy
- Get an attorney
- Expose her infidelity to everyone including her family and friends
- Go no contact
- Find a good therapist to speak to
- Important to stay no contact, she will know you are emotionally vulnerable and exploit that.
- Stay strong

[TommyRO]

thank you everyone. i'm heart broken. i haven't cried like this in years. at least i will be able to rekindle with my family and old friends that i haven't talked to in so long. i know once the initial move out and divorce is finalized i will feel better. i still care about her. and i still love her. so this makes it very hard. knowing she fukked someone makes it a bit easier to handle. but none the less, i am a mess right now. i can't handle it and just shake it off.

Don't move out when she's the one cheating make that broad pack up and leave and expose her. Dear god expose her slootiness to her family

[SipNPiz]

Don't let her take anything else from you change the password to absolutely everything and go to the bank first thing Monday morning withdrawal everything in cash and give to someone you trust to hold onto until the divorce is final. Sign over any assets you have to said trusted friend too especially if it says you "or" her on the title. Leave that cheating sloot with nothing

[Kraken]

fuk all the consolation advice.

YOU NEED A FINANCIAL EXIT STRATEGY NOW
cut off CC, change passwords on accounts, etc. cause you can bet she'll be thinking about money sooner rather than later

Beat me to it. If the CCs are in your name, she could potentially rack up the bills and put them on you. If they are in her name, I advice you max them out yourself, because she might end up with more than you in the divorce. Trust me in this, don't go easy on her, because she will find an attorney that will make all the hard decisions for her and royally screw you.

It really, really sucks to have to think about this right now, but if you don't, you will get hosed.

[Zer0Wolf]

Also, you need to focus on self-preservation. It is all about you. I know it is a hard pill to swallow but if you follow the advice given here, you will heal without that sloot in your life.

[JD805]

I told her I would forgive her if she came home immediately and so we can talk it through because we are married and we can get through anything. She said she wants to stay there.

Bruhhhh what the fuk man. How can you still have feelings for her. I can't imagine what you're going through but just know that you're worth it and this will only make you stronger. Learn from this.

[sardis3207]

thank you everyone. i'm heart broken. i haven't cried like this in years. at least i will be able to rekindle with my family and old friends that i haven't talked to in so long. i know once the initial move out and divorce is finalized i will feel better. i still care about her. and i still love her. so this makes it very hard. knowing she fukked someone makes it a bit easier to handle. but none the less, i am a mess right now. i can't handle it and just shake it off.

Fukk dude, sorry you're where you're at right now. Please do one thing though, even with the pain, protect yourself as much as you can, financially etc. It wont feel like it means anything right now probably, but your future self will thank you.

You deserve better.

[TrotonKat]

Sorry to hear bro... some girls are just crazy... girl at my graduate school is engaged but is flirting with me on the daily. Gave me her number and all that. I feel bad for the guy.

Anyways, keep your head up, you're better than that. Cut her out ASAP. It's easier said than done, but it's the truth. Even if she does come back and you let her, it won't work out. Not with what you know now.

If you actually felt bad for the guy you would have told the chick get fk and stop being sloot. No you would prefer to get your dink wet regardless if female is single married engaged or has a bf ...

To op **** you have to go through this and it is going to take time for the pain to heal. Time heals all pain and if you ever need someone to chat to I'm happy to listen.

To add keep all her text confirming she walked out on you and she cheated on you, you may want to delete them because of the pain but it will benefit you when / if she tried to fk you over in court

[Pterodactyl314]

Jesus man, all of that down the drain. Please divorce bro. Do y'all have any kids together?

I know it's not the same but after my 2 year relationship I was left with no friends or social circle. Pick up some hobbies. I started lifting and built a social circle through that and through school.

[RiceBrah93]

Send your story to Brazzers OP so they can make it a reality. Maybe they'll even let you play as the cuck in the porn video.

[LordDNP]

If you actually felt bad for the guy you would have told the chick get fk and stop being sloot. No you would prefer to get your dink wet regardless if female is single married engaged or has a bf ...

To op **** you have to go through this and it is going to take time for the pain to heal. Time heals all pain and if you ever need someone to chat to I'm happy to listen.

To add keep all her text confirming she walked out on you and she cheated on you, you may want to delete them because of the pain but it will benefit you when / if she tried to fk you over in court

I should've told you the rest of the story. I told the girl to f*ck off in a very polite way as what she's doing is not right. She texts me to date, I don't reply.

I'm not the type of guy to do such a thing. I have respect for everyone.

[imperialmisc]

Don't move out when she's the one cheating make that broad pack up and leave and expose her. Dear god expose her slootiness to her family

This^

Take a few days to process everything but do not even talk to her. Delete her number, get rid of/sell whatever you have the brings back the feels. When you get tired of being sad, turn that into anger and use it to get back in the gym and stay in shape.

I can't imagine what you're feeling, but I've been cheated on before (we weren't married) and nothing good happens. She already ended the relationship for you.

If it makes you feel any better, you aren't alone. My best friends wife cheated on him while he was at boot camp in the marines. Nobody told him during boot camp because he was already under enough stress. He had been sending her payments for rent and she spent it on booze. She also took his credit cards, jewelry and left with the guy to Texas.

He came back from boot camp with literally nothing and a piling amount of debt. He made it through. It happens more often than you think, but as hard as it is, keep yourself occupied and go forward with all of the legal stuff. Don't let her get anything. She wasn't right for you, and I'll bet you'll find someone that makes you happier eventually.

[5x10]

Stay strong op
Now is time to hit the gym harder than ever


Curious, now active was your sex life

[MuzzieChik786]

It will be tough right now.

But tomorrow, wake up, and go on autopilot. Sort out the finances, be fair. Keep what you brought into the marriage, and give what you think is fair to her.

The rest of the day, pack up all her necessities in boxes and place them by the door. Give them to her if and when she comes by. No need to let her come in.

Monday, go file for divorce then go and get a free consultation from a lawyer.

Change your locks.

Only after all these things are done should you sit down an mourn as you need to.

Don't listen to sad music. Don't look at her things. Make sure you eat and at least go on a walk outside.

Good luck. I have confidence in your ability to overcome this.