Wheres Sauces' Sticky?

[bearfan34201]

I also realized online I have so many incriminating pictures of me with two girls in practically every picture. Either all 3 of us making out, kissing on the cheek or me grabbing some girls boob in a picture.

The man whore status is getting a little out of hand so I might have to lay low key for a bit and start bringing girls to parties instead of looking for some. I gotta change that.

[microsize]

Got eye contact with a chick most guys would dream of like 8 times tonight. Still, I didn't dare to say a word to her. ****, I'm depressed now, but - believe it or not - I think this was a good thing. Time to change again.

[BMEgrad]

http://varter.mazca.com/lesson.txt



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Oh yeah just gonna bump my lil update on the story about a number I got from a girl in the car driving next to me a couple nights ago..

Just called her up...lol I didnt even speak ONE WORD to her that night I got her number, so it was sort of a "cold" phone convo. I made the best of it though...I just kept it short and to the point:

me : "yoo (name of college we go to) girl"
her: "yeah?"
me: "you know who this is right?"
her: "the guy we drove by the other night?"
me: "yeahh whats goin on?"
her: "nothin" (and i thought she said "i was foolin around with you"
me: "you suck!"
her: shes like "whyyy??" so just to clarify what she said im like..(because now im thinkin maybe she didnt just say she was just ****in around with me that night...hmm??)
me: "what did you say you were doin?"
her: nothing
me: yea you suck thats boring haha...you know i dont even know your name...i just have you down in my phone book as (name of college) girl. whats your name?
her: haha, its (name)
me: and im (name)...what did you do today?
her: nothin i worked..
me: oh you work...where do ya work?
her: i babysit
me: sweet i bet you bring in a lot of money...i work at (place)[cashier] actually
her: oh that sounds like fun
me: yeah i make a lot of money..like 1000 a week haha (exaggeration obviously lol)
her: haha yeah right
me: yeah...actually i work until 7 tomorrow, we should meet up at (place) tomorrow
her: yeahhh sure, give me a call tomorrow
me: alright, i gotta go now actually, ill talk to ya later
her: byeee


thats how pathetic i am with my convo skills....and she didnt seem interested at all. what would you expect, when youve only seen my face, and havent even talked to me? hey, at least im TRYING. if anything DOES goes down tomorrow...should I bring along my friend? or should I just go solo...even though she'll prolly bring a friend cuz im just some guy she doesnt know at all ?

is this the real text or a joke (serious)? reps if it is...

[AJ010]

is this the real text or a joke (serious)? reps if it is...

You mean the SauceHead notes? Those are the real lessons.

[bearfan34201]

You mean the SauceHead notes? Those are the real lessons.

I reccomend those but in truth you guys, your never going to get anywhere sitting around and reading. I wasted too much time last year reading and NEVER reacting.

[Morbid_Mind]

I reccomend those but in truth you guys, your never going to get anywhere sitting around and reading. I wasted too much time last year reading and NEVER reacting.

It's good to read the stuff, but it doesn't do much good if you don't apply and try it.

[bearfan34201]

Tonight I'll be visiting my friend Nicole at her college. It's about 2 hours and 45 minutes away but I called her yesterday, told her I wanted to come down and she was all for it. It looks like I'll be bringing noone but myself. Tonight I guess we're going to some frat party with her and her other friend Britt. Not bad one guy and two girls showing up to some party. My other buddies want me to go with them to some other College, where it'll be like 6 of us guys and not even for sure where we're going. I prefer bringing one other person or just myself knowing I'll have a good time and liking my odds a lot better.

Sucks I'm going down by myself, but when you think about it. Who gives a ****. Ya know? Gotta get outta her and meet some new people. I'll start tonight. I'm sure the girls curiosity will be full wondering who the guy bringing two girls is.

[bearfan34201]

Just got back from the State College and man was that a good time. Frat parties, women, beer, whatever. I can't believe I'm going to a Community College and not a University. I got some stories of things that makes me want to slap my face but it's good nonetheless.

Got down there around 9:30 and the town was just swarming with college kids wandering around. I found that to be extremely awesome and wanted to meet every person out there(I'm crazy like that). I finally set up in my Girl Friend's dorm and we go out and party. I met these two girls that came with us to this party and I could tell it was on by the way they we're acting. If I played my cards right there was a good chance it was a 3some. We decided we we're going to leave our little group we we're with and do our own thing and hit up some other party they knew of. I was all for it but I wanted to go to every damn party I could so I said after this one we'll leave. I eventually wandered around, socialized with randoms and found my way to the keg. Unfortunantly I lost the two girls (One was a 7.5 the other a 6.5), both very doable. The 7.5 was hot and I planning on getting with her last night. Stupidly, I did'nt bother or think to get their cell phone numbers before they left. So I was left all alone, wandered around the party and decided to head back to my friends Dorm to meet up with her and her friend. As I was leaving I noticed this cute blonde(7.5), So I decided to go up and ask her if she knew where blah blah was. We eventually noticed that we knew eachother through someone and hung out a few years back. She wanted me to go with her to her groups little apartment 20 minutes away. It was totally on with this girl. As she was rubbing my stomach she said "Come on Bearfan, You'll have a good time." At the last second I didn't go, I did not know where I was going and she was the only one I knew. Including there was a lot of parties I didn't go to and the last thing I wanted to do was being stuck in some guys apartment while feeling like I'm missing out. So I got her number and as she texted me asking me if I had a girlfriend she blantly told me "Bearfan you need to come out soon, me and you can have alot of fun". It's on next time I'm going down there.

I had her and the other two girls offer their dorm room for me if I had no where to pass out. And how tempting that would have been! Unfortunately the cards didn't play out the way I wanted them too, but next time I'll be more familiar with the scene and I'll def have a idea of what to do.

I talked to a few other cute girls at the parties, some ignored me completely and some we're open about it. I know I'm a good looking guy, and even I get rejected, so don't be afraid of rejection. I had a couple of misses with some girls who we're giving me the f me eyes. I mean there was at least 2 times where some smoking hot girls we're just staring at me smiling, as I smiled and walked past them I wanted to talk. But they we're surrounded by guys and I was leaving the party so my opportunity passed me by. Even though I didn't get any I def set myself up for some good chances later on. No doubt.

I was on my A game last night by how social and open I was, I was getting free beer and the guys we're being cool. A lot of the girls seemed to come with some people they already knew and seemed very against the idea ofbeing picked up at the Frat parties, I really can't blame them. Frat guys seemed like creeps and the girls I we're staying with we're getting hit on by some creepy pick up lines. I could'nt believe some of the **** that was said and done. Alot of the guys that hit on the girls have no idea how to do it, there so like weird about it. One guy went up to my friend and sniffed her, said she was wearing 'one' perfume and said she smells great. No "Hey how's it going", no he just said she sniffed her. We got a good laugh out of that one. A few others tried just dancing with my friends and they seemed weirded out by it. I tried talking at a few frat parties but there was no way I could do it inside, way to loud and to many guys hunting for some girls. It was a tough enviorment just because so many girls come with so many people. Next time I'll try to work on talking to them while at the frats. The ones I talked to we're walking on the streets where we could actually talk, a few we're at some house parties and one or two we're from the frats while outside.

Overall it was a great experience and I can't really see how much more difficult College is than High School. For me, I usually don't get with drunk girls so I would have a hard time at the parties but I can really see myself down there in a year or two meeting some girl while going to class or whatever, and meeting up with her and going to some parties and ending the night back at my Dorm/Apartment. Bars, I could do really well down there. I knew once I got in a College Enviorment I would do really good because of how social I am, and it didn't fail.


Just wait till I go down to the other Colleges next week.

[bearfan34201]

Follow up tonight with a post of my experience and learning I did this summer and how far I have come. A lot of you guys will learn a lot from it, I'm not one of the guys who talks a big game. I'm out there constantly talking, getting numbers, hasseling, and having a lot of fun.

[GriT-]

/me waits impatiently

[GriT-]

bump

[exbunobooga]

bearfan how do you deal with meeting so many girls and they all want to hang out with you?

From my experience I had to blow girls off several times, not something I liked to do but it had to be done. Im at a club and there is 4 girls ive been tuning or hooking up with and its all dodging and weaving. I got a steady gf (for) now so my days of playing around are on hold for a while.

[bearfan34201]

What I've learned...

I don't deal with it, I've struggled with it. I've noticed I never can settle for a few girls and work on seeing them on a regular basis, instead I constantly go after some new person I've never met. It's quite maddening that I can't let myself truely get to know a person because of my constant desire to see or do something else. It's great, I've met many new people but at the same time I would like to slow down to the point where I am comfortable talking to a lot of new people but at the same time enjoying what I currently have. I'm working on it and in the past I would have had a girls interest, and instead of continuing to talk to her or whatever I would completely leave her alone and flirt with some other girl. But I'd learned so much this past year I can't help but feel proud of myself and who I am now. About a year ago now is when I got serious, and if some want a given estimate of the amount of girls I've 'Hooked Up' with it would hover around 40-50. Thats not saying sex was often, I have had sex twice and if you ask me they don't count. Girl meant nothing and it was raw sex of pure nothingness. Hell, I'd lost my virginity in a 3some and I can't say for sure whether I regret it or not.

But what I really wanted to post is what I've learned this summer. It's been a crazy one and as College starts for me, I'm ready for a new step with a new slated sense of confidence in myself. Looking back on all those parties I went to hooking up with slutty hot girls was fun, but now I find it fun but degrading at the same time. I still party but I hold myself to really high standards and don't let myself down. One drunk girl, who I am still talking to, was never a big drinker and the night I met her she was hammered. I refused to get with her for the fact that she was drunk. Her reply to me the next day? I was classy. Too me, that was a huge compliment. How I got that way? Heres some ideas of what I've done.

I stayed in sometimes and read. I really can't explain why that has helped me become more confident and a better individual, but it has. I've learned about myself a lot more through just reading novels and relaxing. I love reading books about traveling the road of the unknown, experiencing life, etc. I'm currently reading John Steinbecks Travels with Charley, In Search of America and it's really interesting. But blah on that. Read, for some odd reason it has helped me become more mature and well rounded.

-Confidence. Lately I've become a super confident individual. No more faking it or thinking I am. I know I am. I went to visit a friend in College and she said I'm one of the most social people and people seem to be drawn to me because of my personality. Yes, I love meeting new people and thats probably what I get really excited about. I'd maintained confidence through constantly interacting with people. Guys when I say that I don't mean stumbling your way to getting a number or hoping to get a number in 10 minutes of conversation. But in general, just talk and be social. I remember it seeming so hard to talk to somebody random, feeling the world was going to crash.

Guess what? The world never crashed and people actually liked me. Who figured when I thought all along I was a loser and noone would think I was cool.. And I learned that if they don't. Tough ****. There loss, what makes them better than you?

- I still play scenarios out in my head, It never works. I don't do it often but if theres a hottie I want to talk to and I think about what to say. It'll never work, I'll stumble and not be able to pick up the conversation. Go with the flow guys. If you make eye contact, smile and say something. Just think about the endless possibilities of the night/day. If this girl doesn't like you, thats fine. We're young and we can move onto the other without thinking twice. Who knows, maybe she'll find that a attractive quality. Hey, it's happened.

-Feel good about yourself. I use to never feel good about myself unless some girl liked me. If some guy said something negative about me, I was crushed. Now? I blow it off and laugh at his negativity. You only live once, and if your wasting your breath on laughing at me than you obviously have self-esteem problems. I can't tell you how many times people have made fun of me talking to girls and thinking I'm an idiot. Some of those guys are the same ones who say I'm going to make something of myself while they stay around here, some are the same ones who sit in a corner, drink a beer and only talk to a girl if there buddy comes with. Some have even admitted I'm better than them. It comes with the territory my friends.


It's quality not quantity. Yeah I've gotten with a lot of girls and have great stories from this summer. Been called a player or man-whore countless times. But in truth it has given me a bad reputation to girls that I find more respectful. It's not a bad thing but lately I've realized that if 'class' is what I want, then I have to become class. That means starting to have some high standards. Thats not to say act like a yuppie, go to star bucks and make fun of all the drunks having a good time at a party. Enjoy yourself, I party constantly. But I don't have to drink. I go out a lot but I also stay in. It's a mix that makes things more level for me. If some girl doesn't reach your standards then move on.

Be willing to walk away- Now by this I mean don't say " I'm walking away from you because your a bitch." Na. At that college I tried saying Hi to some girls walking by, some completely ignored me. Know what I said to myself? " Shes obviously a lesbian." or " Well, I wouldn't want someone like that anyways." It's true, I wouldn't want some stuck up snob. Not in my cards.

SELF RESPECT- My friend has no self-respect. He gets trampled by girls and has been known to cry over it on occasion. He looks at me as some crazed ******* man whore. I told him I'm not but merely respect myself, his reply was he's a nice guy and she needs to like him for him. Whatever man, I tried to help. Love yourself, it's your life and a girl doesn't make or break it.

Realize you live once. Thats enough motivation for me to take all the risks I want to take. It's experience and life that's important. Not money, materialistic pleasures, sex, whatever. It's about improving yourself to be one with yourself. I mean becoming a better individual takes time but it also takes a want. You want to have it, you take it.

Theres opportunities every day you walk outside the door. It's up to you to view it that way and take advantage of it.

Long post.. Now I wanted to end for my owning bragging rights of what I've accomplished this summer.

MILF- 37 year old mom. Met her at a concert and we hung out the next few nights.

Read a lot of books- Accomplished some goals of finishing some series and found it gratifying that I did it in a certain amount of time. G

Found a lot about myself- Through reading and music I've learned tons about myself and in return I've become a much more confident and slick person. When I started concentrating on myself I became great.

I think this covers it all. If you guys have any questions, ask. It's not a true guideline but it is what I found helpful. It's about yourself, once you become comfortable with yourself. There is no fear of social barriers.

[bearfan34201]

Bump. As much as I like threads like The Confidence Thread among those stories. I think people will learn more from this whole thread. If people want to learn how to get stories like that they have to learn from experience and reading on what to do.

[CHOOSE]

bearfan, what kinda truck do you have?

[bearfan34201]

bearfan, what kinda truck do you have?

haha? S10 and trucks suck. I got some money saved up and with my parents love I'm hoping within the next few months get a 2000 Black Trans am with a T-Top or something. I'll be Personal Training, Managing at the gym and going to school. Gotta have a flashy ride.

[CHOOSE]

haha? S10 and trucks suck. I got some money saved up and with my parents love I'm hoping within the next few months get a 2000 Black Trans am with a T-Top or something. I'll be Personal Training, Managing at the gym and going to school. Gotta have a flashy ride.

DUUUUUDE if it's 4wd (or especially the zr2 model) go mudding!!!

(no redneck)

although trans am is great too. as long as it's not a ricer.

do you think your truck kills sex appeal any or does it not even make a difference at all?

[exbunobooga]

choose, a car is a car. Ever been to a party IN your car? no. Ever been clubbing IN your car? no. Do you drive your car inside the mall? Course not. Car dont matter for ****. Im cruising round in a POS dented up nanna's car and im nailing a chick who is hot as fcuk! On the flip side my friends with nice new cars ALL have zero girls or dating some fugly swamp donkey.

beafan im thinking next on your agenda is being great in the sack. Its good getting all these girls but you gotta be able to give them something to remember. Getting a F buddy is good for this.

[varter]

choose, a car is a car. Ever been to a party IN your car? no. Ever been clubbing IN your car? no. Do you drive your car inside the mall? Course not. Car dont matter for ****. Im cruising round in a POS dented up nanna's car and im nailing a chick who is hot as fcuk! On the flip side my friends with nice new cars ALL have zero girls or dating some fugly swamp donkey.

beafan im thinking next on your agenda is being great in the sack. Its good getting all these girls but you gotta be able to give them something to remember. Getting a F buddy is good for this.

I agree with you, but only in the long run. Cars are an oddity with girls. It depends on the girls and where you are.

I used to drive a 2004 Saab 9-3 SE convertible (I'll get into "why?" later). Not the most fancy car for a late teenager, but definitely in the upper tier. I've had girls swoon over it and throw themselves at me, I've had girls try and USE me by being all "take me for a ride in your car!! awww, let's go to Wendy's!! awww I forgot my purse!! buy me food!! and I've had girls actually be turned off by it, thinking I'm an irresponsible, spoiled rich kid.

In high school, most girls were either of the former 2, but in college most girls were in the latter category.

So while I fundamentally agree with you that cars are pointless, there can be some short-term situations where it can be helpful. It's possible, just not always likely.





So bearfan...do you even GO to the gym anymore? just teasin'. awesome post. My favorite part is:

I can't tell you how many times people have made fun of me talking to girls and thinking I'm an idiot. Some of those guys are the same ones who say I'm going to make something of myself while they stay around here, some are the same ones who sit in a corner, drink a beer and only talk to a girl if there buddy comes with. Some have even admitted I'm better than them. It comes with the territory my friends.

...because since I started going to college, this has been my #1 BIGGEST PROBLEM. Many of my CLOSEST friends are like this and it's so hard to tell them off and be the way I wanna be because I LIVE with them and have to deal with them EVERY DAY. And most of them are RELENTLESS with the chastising. Even when one succeeds in hooking up, if the girl is not a SHB9 or higher, no one hears the end of it. They do it purposely too, with the deliberate agenda of making me angry. It sucks but... thanks to your post, I'm hoping to make a change this year in how much I value their opinions. I just wanted to tell you how you and I understand this plight of the rising don juan.

take care,

[ClearlyCanadian]

Update

its been about a month since I've done an update. Alot has changed in the past couple weeks. I just recently got diagnosed with guttate psoriasis and its slowly covering my whole body. Its treatable but its with you for the rest of your life.

I've been hooking up with this girl for about a month, its fun and she's comin over in about an hour.

Been hitting on girls left and right at work and am debating whether to hook up with a coworker or not since I leave next week.

[AJ010]

I'm thinkin of a way to get this chicks number at work. Well, I work with this really cute chick at a supermarket, okay. Well, I'm thinkin of buying something on sale during my break, and to get the sale price you need either a card for the store, or the customers phone number. So I'll just be like "let's try your phone number okay? " and I'll whip out my cell phone haha. I usually buy food for my break anyways, so its not like I'm going out of my way...

I worked with her yesterday and she was on the register next to me so we were talking like all shift...negging each other and laughing and ****, so I think I've built up some interest with her.

Game? or Lame?

[Jay Rawd]

I'm thinkin of a way to get this chicks number at work. Well, I work with this really cute chick at a supermarket, okay. Well, I'm thinkin of buying something on sale during my break, and to get the sale price you need either a card for the store, or the customers phone number. So I'll just be like "let's try your phone number okay? " and I'll whip out my cell phone haha. I usually buy food for my break anyways, so its not like I'm going out of my way...

I worked with her yesterday and she was on the register next to me so we were talking like all shift...negging each other and laughing and ****, so I think I've built up some interest with her.

Game? or Lame?

Don't do that. I've learned that trying to be slick when asking for something as meaningless as a phone number either doesn't work, or just makes you look like you put way too much thought into it. Not good, because that means you're the one who is putting the effort, not her. You want HER to try and do **** like this.

Just go up to her and ask her:

US: Hey, you busy on X day?
Her: No
US: Good, I'm going up to XYZ on that day, come with me
Her: Okay
US: Gimme ur number so we can set up a time to meet

Get the number BECAUSE you're going somewhere with her, not as a way to get her to go, but right after you know she is.

[Morbid_Mind]

Well, I'm thinkin of buying something on sale during my break, and to get the sale price you need either a card for the store, or the customers phone number. So I'll just be like "let's try your phone number okay? " and I'll whip out my cell phone haha.

Don't do that, it's way too gimmicky and she'd think you're a giant loser for pulling some crap like that.

Just go up to her and ask her:

US: Hey, you busy on X day?
Her: No
US: Good, I'm going up to XYZ on that day, come with me
Her: Okay
US: Gimme ur number so we can set up a time to meet

Get the number BECAUSE you're going somewhere with her, not as a way to get her to go, but right after you know she is.

Good suggestion, it's easy to remember and works. If she turns you down play it off, who knows, maybe she just didn't want to go to XYZ and she may offer her number anyways.

[bearfan34201]

I agree with you, but only in the long run. Cars are an oddity with girls. It depends on the girls and where you are.

I used to drive a 2004 Saab 9-3 SE convertible (I'll get into "why?" later). Not the most fancy car for a late teenager, but definitely in the upper tier. I've had girls swoon over it and throw themselves at me, I've had girls try and USE me by being all "take me for a ride in your car!! awww, let's go to Wendy's!! awww I forgot my purse!! buy me food!! and I've had girls actually be turned off by it, thinking I'm an irresponsible, spoiled rich kid.

In high school, most girls were either of the former 2, but in college most girls were in the latter category.

So while I fundamentally agree with you that cars are pointless, there can be some short-term situations where it can be helpful. It's possible, just not always likely.





So bearfan...do you even GO to the gym anymore? just teasin'. awesome post. My favorite part is:



...because since I started going to college, this has been my #1 BIGGEST PROBLEM. Many of my CLOSEST friends are like this and it's so hard to tell them off and be the way I wanna be because I LIVE with them and have to deal with them EVERY DAY. And most of them are RELENTLESS with the chastising. Even when one succeeds in hooking up, if the girl is not a SHB9 or higher, no one hears the end of it. They do it purposely too, with the deliberate agenda of making me angry. It sucks but... thanks to your post, I'm hoping to make a change this year in how much I value their opinions. I just wanted to tell you how you and I understand this plight of the rising don juan.

take care,

It should'nt matter about the car you drive. Man you are so lucky going away to college, I can tell you right now based off my ONE night there. It's going to be a lot of fun for you! I can't tell you how many people I met, associated with and partied with that night if the oppurutunities made it that way. I turned down a lot of invites just because I had no f'n clue where I was at. But if you ask me, thats the fun part. This weekend I'll probably be going again to visit some friends. I'm sure it'll be great!

Yeah I practically live at the gym now haha. I could make myself a bed and sleep there if I wanted too.

[AJ010]

Good advice Jay, reps.

What would be some good places though? I'm only really familiar with local places, and they aren't so interesting lol. Would the mall be a good idea? I dunno if itd sound gay though bein like "im goin to the mall, you should come with me" lol...

write back bro

[bearfan34201]

beafan im thinking next on your agenda is being great in the sack. Its good getting all these girls but you gotta be able to give them something to remember. Getting a F buddy is good for this.

It's something I'm reluctant on doing for being that I have built this huge image of me and to suck and blow my load in a minute or two would be downright embarrassing. But if the opportunity arises soon I truely doubt I'll turn it down. I have a few who would be more than happy to F so I'll consider that tonight.

[AJ010]

just one of my more interesting women i talked to on the job today (cashier):

49 year old asian woman (looked 30 somethin tho) ended up askin how old I was and then i asked her why and she said she was lookin for a young guy to have fun with. I tried to get her number, but then she started hesitating sayin she was too old for me, saying she was prolly older than my mom. WTF? she seemed into me and her havin some fun at first..wtf?

[bearfan34201]

Damn dude I'd do her if she was hot. That 37 year old milf was twice my age, I just lied and told her I was older than I was. It was'nt the smartest idea but it atleast set me up on a date with her. Next time you might wanna... "Exaggerate" how old you are.

[AJ010]

Damn dude I'd do her if she was hot. That 37 year old milf was twice my age, I just lied and told her I was older than I was. It was'nt the smartest idea but it atleast set me up on a date with her. Next time you might wanna... "Exaggerate" how old you are.

Yeah bro I can't believe I just messed up on a good opportunity! Maybe I'll see her again I'm not gonna worry about it though.

i wanna be the milf master too though haha..

[Morbid_Mind]

Next time you might wanna... "Exaggerate" how old you are.

Never a bad idea when dealing with the cougars.

As for me, I went clubbing again last night with some buddies from work. It was a loooong night and I had brought about 3 different groups of girls back to our area. Would take way too long to type up, but things went pretty well. Had a lot of chemistry going with different girls, had some drinks bought for me again. Ended the night leaving the club with my arm around the waist of our waitress and we headed off to some after-hours club. My friends and I decided not to go in when there was a $20 cover and we saw 2 flamingly gay guys walk in.