Talking to girls at the gym

[Arkansas Dave]

I go to the gym at 5:30am M-F. I have gotten into the routine of just putting on my IPOD and busting through my work outs. I have noticed there are some girls in the gym that I would not mind getting to know. They have noticed me as well because I can see them checking me out.
The problem is they too are secluded with the IPOD.

Question is how to break the ice. What can I say to them? How can I get them to engage with me?

I am not a shy person and have no problem at bars picking up broads. It just seems like the gym is an odd place for me to build up the courage. Maybe its cause there are so little fish in the sea at 5:30am and the fear of getting shot down I dont know.

Guys and Gals give me some good insight on what to do? These girls are in their mid twenties.

Thanks

[younggunz20]

Dude you're reading my mind! I was just gonna start a post like this. I lift at my University, and there are tons of great looking chicks. They check me out all the time, as I do them. I am faced with the same exact problem though: I walk around with my IPOD going at all times, but even worse, so do they. What are you supposed to do, tap 'em on the shoulder and say "Hey, take your headphones out, I want to talk to you." LOL It's a tough situation. I still havn't solved the problem. I'm about to head to the gym right now, and I think today I'm just going to go for it. I'm just going to walk up to one of 'em and say "Hey I see you in here a lot, and I think you're cute. I was wondering if I could get your number, and maybe we could hang out sometime?" I don't really know what else to do, but at least this way I'll either get the number, or get shot down and not have to worry about how I'm going to approach her, lol.

[Mikey1]

The problem is they too are secluded with the IPOD.

they are wearing an IPOD FOR A REASON.......they dont want to be disturbed!!!!!......only complete idiots and rejects of society look for dates at the gym

[MainEvent]

your a flat out pussy dude

[carsondales]

haha mah boyssss see what you gotta do is this-

1. Smile at them everytime you walk past them to go to the drink fountain or w/e
2. I guarentee there ipods arnt turned up to loud so to break the ice do this after they walk away from a piece of equiptment walk up to them (not behind them) so they will see you.
3. Talk normally ask hey do you have anymore sets on this..they will answer if there ipod isnt to loud, if it is loud they will pull the earphones out and say sorry what did you say and then repeat yourself they will answer and say thank you and smile.
4. if this works and they didnt just look at you wierd and walk away then later on when they are finishing their work out time yours to be done aroudn the same time so you catch them leaving same time you are.... then say hey what your name anyways and introduce yourself after that youll see her everytime your there and youll get to kow her better.

****** what is awesome about saying hey do you have any more sets left on this people around you will hear it and think nothing of it so if she shrugs you off people around you will think shes a bitch and you were askin nicely eh eh ? what you think boys>?

[carsondales]

they are wearing an IPOD FOR A REASON.......they dont want to be disturbed!!!!!......only complete idiots and rejects of society look for dates at the gym

Uhh actually they gym is a fine place to look for ladys. You must NOT got the skills my son.

[soccah]

when thay are looking at you just whip out ur dick and shake it a little bit and smile at them.

[MrBrain-]

Uhh actually they gym is a fine place to look for ladys. You must NOT got the skills my son.

nope. not many girls come 2 my gym but when there was a hot one she had one of those 'sheets' for marking off her workout (the ones the gym gives u when u sign up) so I went up to her and asked her if shes new, not even realising she had headphones on...so then she takes them off is like 'what was that sorry?' and then I repeat myself...and we hav a laugh and a bit of a convo...and then from there we were 'aqaintance friends' and its just game on from there...headpones arnt a real barrier but they r intimidating if you THINK ABOUT IT. which you shouldnt do.

[gunshow91]

haha mah boyssss see what you gotta do is this-

1. Smile at them everytime you walk past them to go to the drink fountain or w/e
2. I guarentee there ipods arnt turned up to loud so to break the ice do this after they walk away from a piece of equiptment walk up to them (not behind them) so they will see you.
3. Talk normally ask hey do you have anymore sets on this..they will answer if there ipod isnt to loud, if it is loud they will pull the earphones out and say sorry what did you say and then repeat yourself they will answer and say thank you and smile.
4. if this works and they didnt just look at you wierd and walk away then later on when they are finishing their work out time yours to be done aroudn the same time so you catch them leaving same time you are.... then say hey what your name anyways and introduce yourself after that youll see her everytime your there and youll get to kow her better.

****** what is awesome about saying hey do you have any more sets left on this people around you will hear it and think nothing of it so if she shrugs you off people around you will think shes a bitch and you were askin nicely eh eh ? what you think boys>?

Strong Kenny Doane resemblence.

[flateric]

I've always felt like a skeez hitting on girls who are working out. I know that as much as I go there to see and be seen, my main goal at the gym is not to get ass, it's to work hard. I imagine many of the women there are of the same mindset.

That said, I freely and frequently hit on the girls who work the counter. I always chat them up when they swipe my card and always smile and say thanks when I'm leaving. While it may seem like a small thing, building positive rapport will help when you finally (and you will) see them in the real world.

[carsondales]

nope. not many girls come 2 my gym but when there was a hot one she had one of those 'sheets' for marking off her workout (the ones the gym gives u when u sign up) so I went up to her and asked her if shes new, not even realising she had headphones on...so then she takes them off is like 'what was that sorry?' and then I repeat myself...and we hav a laugh and a bit of a convo...and then from there we were 'aqaintance friends' and its just game on from there...headpones arnt a real barrier but they r intimidating if you THINK ABOUT IT. which you shouldnt do.

yeah...but I bet you didnt ask her if she was free anynight...hmmmmmm

[maryeliz]

I go to the gym to work~ not to get hit on. Plus, who says all the girls that are at the gym are single anyway?

That being said, I don't think its out of line for a guy to introduce himself to me, especially if I see him on a regular basis. I've had guys hit on me in the gym before, and I've had guys introduce themselves and have a short conversation~ there's a big difference, and that difference is respected. If a guy hits on me in the gym, I usually wait til he's done with whatever lift and then do exactly what he just did to make him feel like a little girl~ usually gets em to shut up

I don't think there's anything wrong with getting to know the ladies you work out with every morning, just make sure you do it in a way that doesn't make them feel like they're being checked out every second~ cause there focus [and yours] should be on the weights, not the ass.

[The Experiment]

You don't.

Smiles and acknowledgment nods are the furthest I go.

[AHood]

do not **** where you sleep.

you go to the gym to work out thats it. if you meet a girl and date hook up what ever and it goes bad you will see her all the time and it WILL effect you and your workouts at the gym. i would hate to have to talk to girls at the gym when im trying to hit the squats or something it just ****s up your mental preparation.

[IronGame08]

To the OP:

You're 6'2" and weigh 178 pounds. Stop worrying about meeting girls and get your ass in the squat rack.

[Below 30]

I have a theory on this situation. I agree that the gym is no place to be trying to pick up girls. If a man has to ask how to go about picking up girls at a gym, he may not be the smoothest PUA anywhere else. So even if he were to make an attemp at a gym, with solid advice from a forum, he'd fail large.


-30-

[EdgarAllanPoe]

there are a ton of hot girls at my gym.....but i too am into my mp3 player and don't like being bothered at the gym, so i usually just leave them be.

Honestly, I don't even make much contact because I don't wanna tempt myself. I just pretend i'm taking off my gloves or something and walk by them.

[JPunisher]

do not **** where you sleep.

LMAO

[teriyakisaki]

do not **** where you sleep.

you go to the gym to work out thats it. if you meet a girl and date hook up what ever and it goes bad you will see her all the time and it WILL effect you and your workouts at the gym. i would hate to have to talk to girls at the gym when im trying to hit the squats or something it just ****s up your mental preparation.

very true. the same thing applies to the workplace. it doesnt matter how hot she is, never screw somebody from work. all it will do is cause problems down the road when **** inevitably hits the fan. if its your boss, theres obvious places where things can go wrong. hell even if its another department, there is a good chance you may end up having to work together on something, and it will not go well given past history. plus having to see the person every single day would make it pretty crappy too.

[JesusTookMyBike]

christ you're skinny, LIFT, EAT, SLEEP, LIFT, EAT, SLEEP.

[Samihassan]

christ you're skinny, LIFT, EAT, SLEEP, LIFT, EAT, SLEEP.

no not really, im 5-11 and weigh 162 and im happy with my weight

[Flcnfan]

I think it is usually prett obvious the girls that are not there to meet people and the ones that are. If they have make up on and are standing around with their friend talking more than working out than you can probably be sure that they are there to be noticed. A good move is to follow them around to every exercise and ask them if they need a spot. If they say no they are probably just playing hard to get so just start spotting them regardless so they know you are a take charge kind of guy.

[Itchy Nads]

I go to the gym at 5:30am M-F. I have gotten into the routine of just putting on my IPOD and busting through my work outs. I have noticed there are some girls in the gym that I would not mind getting to know. They have noticed me as well because I can see them checking me out.
The problem is they too are secluded with the IPOD.

Question is how to break the ice. What can I say to them? How can I get them to engage with me?

I am not a shy person and have no problem at bars picking up broads. It just seems like the gym is an odd place for me to build up the courage. Maybe its cause there are so little fish in the sea at 5:30am and the fear of getting shot down I dont know.

Guys and Gals give me some good insight on what to do? These girls are in their mid twenties.

Thanks

Tell them their iPod is better because yours only plays faggy boy bands. If it played decent music to train to, you'd probably be bigger.

[Blake Austin]

Op, you're at the gym at 5:30 am. Who would want to get hit on at 5:30 in the morning!?!? I'm a guy and I don't think even I would. LOL

Smile, make eye contact, say hello, that's about it. Maybe make some small talk about working out. I wouldn't take it any further. Like someone said above, how do you know these women are single?? You could be just wasting your time and their time by hitting on them, and making an ass out of yourself and then you'll have to see them in the gym all the time. Could be embarrassing huh?

And just because they may seem to be checking you out, well that doesn't mean jack sh!t. I get looks at the gym, it doesn't mean anything to me. What are people supposed to do, stare at the floor or wall between sets?? Haha. We get looks everywhere everyday. The mall, a restaurant, work, grocery store, they're just looks. Doesn't mean every woman wants you to approach her, does it?

So tread with caution here. Focus on your workouts. If one of these girls are really into you, she'll somehow let you know that it's ok to talk/approach her.

/rant

[maryeliz]

I think it is usually prett obvious the girls that are not there to meet people and the ones that are. If they have make up on and are standing around with their friend talking more than working out than you can probably be sure that they are there to be noticed. A good move is to follow them around to every exercise and ask them if they need a spot. If they say no they are probably just playing hard to get so just start spotting them regardless so they know you are a take charge kind of guy.

QFT

[drstrangepimp]

I think it's better to keep it short.

Better to make shorter comments, be friendly but don't make a big deal out of it or check them out AT ALL.

Make your comments along the lines of pacing the reality like man it's crazy busy tonight or you mind if I get at those 50s or hey check out that guy shadowboxing in the corner, I bet he still wets the bed or he walks around naked constantly in the shower it's really gross. lol

After a while you see them a few times you can talk a little more.

That way it's more natural. It's just like making friends with anyone.

If you try to hard in the beginning and you walk up to them and plant yourself it's going to feel weird. You need to make it feel natural like you would have talked to her if she was a guy.

Later as you talk more you can stay longer and you now have a friend, it feels ok.

[roxy42277]

i get annoyed when guys hit on me when working out. but they seem to ignore the fact you have an ipod on. I dont like to lose my focus and pump.

my advice, wait till shes done and maybe try to bump into her in the pk lot...or just pray you see her out and about and you can use the hey you go to my gym remark lol,

[luckylynch]

ye i wouldnt hit on women at the gym

If you break up then the rumours will fly around...and you will have to see her--

Its best to leave em alone at the gym

[AHood]

i get annoyed when guys hit on me when working out. but they seem to ignore the fact you have an ipod on. I dont like to lose my focus and pump.

my advice, wait till shes done and maybe try to bump into her in the pk lot...or just pray you see her out and about and you can use the hey you go to my gym remark lol,

the hey you go to my gym line is priceless.

[tonym9428]

I've never hit on a girl at the gym, but i always see girls who i want to approach, or who i've seen glancing at me.....