Forgave my GF a year ago for cheating, help me figure something out

[Biggo123]

Yes you read it right, I'm THAT beta but try and take this seriously. A little under a year ago I forgave my girlfriend for cheating on me. Here's basic cliffs of what happened.

- Met her, she's a little long distance (3 hours away)
- We both had exams so we agreed to meet up in exactly a month
- Comes to the week before, we're super excited
- Night before we meet she goes out drinking with friends to celebrate exams finish
- Wake up the next morning to texts sent at 4am
- She had gotten too drunk and a guy took advantage of her, forced her to give him a "2 second bj" and a lot of tongue kissing in the park
- I'm devastated, break it off with her, think for a month and get back with her

Recently we brought it up again, and she said "It was a month into the relationship, we hadn't seen eachother, I was stupid..."
This made me think if she was telling the truth about that night, what do you think misc?

Ever since things have been great but I can't really let this slip my mind. How do I get the truth? Things would've been perfect for us if she hadn't gone out that night. I don't know what to do now.

[TelephoneLines]

She slutted it up and you took her back like a *******. End of story, grow a pair and leave or have fun with the same problem in the future.

[baraka28]

She said the exact lie any sloot has ever used to minimize their slooting.

brb I was "forced"
brb the bj was only 2 sec
brb we just did kissing nothing else bb

Sorry OP I don't want to ruin it but there is a 5% chance she's telling the truth, and a 0% chance she'll tell you what really happened now if she lied. so either you put it behind you, never bring it up again and move on, or you break up and go NC. There is no halfway solution brah sorry

[SugarFree1]

I know it sucks but you did forgive her so let it go unless you think she's still not being unfaithful. To keep bringing it up is only going to hurt both of you and your relationship. If you cant let it go, its time to move on anyway. It sounds like it was early enough in the relationship that you's were not totally committed yet so I wouldnt worry to much on it. Its different now that you have been together a year

[Biggo123]

She slutted it up and you took her back like a *******. End of story, grow a pair and leave or have fun with the same problem in the future.

On the verge of leaving now anyways, I just want to know how or what I could ask her to get the truth.

[jerkeife]

You believed that? As in actually believed it? You cannot be serious.

[Biggo123]

You believed that? As in actually believed it? You cannot be serious.

Better believe it. The reason I believed it was because she's of a very honest Catholic background and she was the most innocent person I'd ever met, although maybe I was wrong

Has anyone any ideas on how I can get the truth though? Anything I could ask?

[mjf100215]

On the verge of leaving now anyways, I just want to know how or what I could ask her to get the truth.

Then just leave. Why are you wasting everybody's time with a trivial issue. It doesn't matter why.

[SugarFree1]

Better believe it. The reason I believed it was because she's of a very honest Catholic background and she was the most innocent person I'd ever met, although maybe I was wrong

Has anyone any ideas on how I can get the truth though? Anything I could ask?

There is nothing you can ask thats gonna make you feel better. Either let it go as something that happened before you were fully committed or leave. I think what you should be worrying about is the present and whether or not it would occur now.

[baraka28]

On the verge of leaving now anyways, I just want to know how or what I could ask her to get the truth.

You can't do or say anything that will make you 100% sure she'll tell the truth unless you have actual evidence brah. When you argue with a woman she is not answering in a rational way but in an emotional one. It is not intentional but her brain will turn the event in a way that will make her feel good about herself, and it can involve "selective memory" or lying. The principle is called cognitive dissonance. From Wiki : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance

In psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental stress or discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time
[...]
When inconsistency (dissonance) is experienced, individuals tend to become psychologically uncomfortable and they are motivated to attempt to reduce this dissonance, as well as actively avoiding situations and information which are likely to increase it.

[JamesLI]

she was not"forced" to give a 2 second bj lol, she blew him

what you do is up to you. idk, i may not care if it was long distance and tha happened. like wtf, we never see each other and its not some long term thing we have at the moment. chit happens.

on the other hand, wtf lol you JUST got into a relationship and already are fookin around. depends how serious you guys were.

[Boffothe]

The reason I believed it was because she's of a very honest Catholic background

holy phucking guacamole

Anyway, your girlfriend lied about getting raped because it was easier than telling you the truth, you weren't smart enough to see through her ridiculous lie, and you weren't strong enough to move on. You're worried about "getting the truth" but it's just silly at this point

[US_Ranger]

- She had gotten too drunk and a guy took advantage of her, forced her to give him a "2 second bj" and a lot of tongue kissing in the park

Lol. Come on bro, seriously?

I went full retard once and one of my ex-gf's told me she didn't bang some guy when she got drunk with him at a party. They just slept in the same bed. The next morning I woke up and was like "wtf...lol" and ended ****.

Meanwhile, you've gone how long now still believing that ****? Let's get a couple things straight:

1) You're never going to get truth
2) At the minimum, she gave someone a BJ, she most likely had sex with him


Just leave and go no contact. (srs)

[Biggo123]

The only option for me is to leave I suppose, if anyone has anything else let me know

[django0508]

You're pathetic if you actually believed that. And she's obviously not that innocent moron. Just break up with her and never be this stupid again.

[daisygirl713]

Things would've been perfect for us if she hadn't gone out that night. I don't know what to do now.

the more i live on this earth, the more i believe there are no mistakes. everything is a reflection of where a person is in their life at that moment.

you need to recognize what that action revealed about where she was then. it's too little, too late now, a year later, but the reality was placed on a silver platter in front of you, and you decided to disregard reality for a misguided hope that the future would be better.
fast forward a year later, you're still stuck, revisiting the reality you chose to reject. you know what that reality was? she was not ready to be in a committed, mature relationship. she was either incapable, or not willing to put your relationship above her personal impulses.

i'm not saying this makes her a bad person; i'm just saying there are no mistakes. actions reflect the position a person is in their life, mentally & emotionally. you need to be savvy enough to pick up on that WHEN it happens, not a year later....
Maya Angelou said it best: 'When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.'

and one last thing, OP...you claim that 'everything is perfect'...nothing can be perfect, when it's been built on a fallacy.

wake up. get real. leave.

[trufflepigg]

bro...let me bro this down for you. When have you ever received a 2 second blowjob? If a girl puts her mouth on my dik I'm gonna fuk her.

[MuckSnapper]

So basically it's been a year and you're still fretting over the cheating that took place.

This is EXACTLY why people say it's over when it happens.

End the relationship OP. You already know you're "that beta guy" so why not grab your junk, have more self respect and find someone who won't give out "2 seconds BJ's".

[SymphonyXXX]

the more i live on this earth, the more i believe there are no mistakes. everything is a reflection of where a person is in their life at that moment.

you need to recognize what that action revealed about where she was then. it's too little, too late now, a year later, but the reality was placed on a silver platter in front of you, and you decided to disregard reality for a misguided hope that the future would be better.
fast forward a year later, you're still stuck, revisiting the reality you chose to reject. you know what that reality was? she was not ready to be in a committed, mature relationship. she was either incapable, or not willing to put your relationship above her personal impulses.

i'm not saying this makes her a bad person; i'm just saying there are no mistakes. actions reflect the position a person is in their life, mentally & emotionally. you need to be savvy enough to pick up on that WHEN it happens, not a year later....
Maya Angelou said it best: 'When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.'

and one last thing, OP...you claim that 'everything is perfect'...nothing can be perfect, when it's been built on a fellatio.

wake up. get real. leave.

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[MuckSnapper]

The reason I believed it was because she's of a very honest Catholic background and she was the most innocent person I'd ever met,

although maybe I was wrong

Maybe? MAYBE?

[Mcfreako]

Fukking negged

[US_Ranger]

The only option for me is to leave I suppose, if anyone has anything else let me know

What else is there?

You built a structure on a shaky foundation. It's only a matter of time before it comes crumbling down. Don't base your relationships on false ideals.

"It was a foolish man who built his house upon the sand." -Matthew 7:26

[daisygirl713]

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Maybe? MAYBE?

fck, thread bringing the lols

This is a rare sight, the legendary Elder Cuck has emerged from his dog cage at the foot of the bed to preach

hahahaha this mental image tho

Mirin your girl's ability to make a guy to blow a huge load down her throat in only 2 seconds.

that avi tho...good lawd

[Boffothe]

Well she's part of a religion where all sins are instantly forgiven as long as you eventually confess them to a child molester in a dark room surrounded by gold which is purchased with tax free donations from poor old ladies, so she must be pretty honest and standup

[django0508]

By forgiving her for cheating she knows she can get away with anything and has no respect for you. She's probably cheated more times since then since she knows you have no spine and she can get away with whatever.

[SymphonyXXX]

What else is there?

You built a structure on a shaky foundation. It's only a matter of time before it comes crumbling down. Don't base your relationships on false ideals.

"It was a foolish man who built his house upon the sand." -Matthew 7:26

She's the Catholic.

Not him.

He saw her twat, now he's a belieber.

[ElrondHubbard]

The only option for me is to leave I suppose, if anyone has anything else let me know

What's pathetic is that she didn't HAVE to tell you anything. You never would have known if she hadn't volunteered the information. Sounds to me like she's being honest and trying to put everything out in the open. Half the guys here who say "sloots gonna sloot" would cheat on their own girlfriends in a heartbeat, and then beg to be taken back if they got caught.

Don't listen to any of them. Use your own judgement. It's not like you were in a committed log-term relationship. Sounds like you'd barely started going out.

Do what you think is right, but don't over-react, and don't listen to the drama-queen virgins itt.

[Mcfreako]

What's pathetic is that she didn't HAVE to tell you anything. You never would have known if she hadn't volunteered the information. Sounds to me like she's being honest and trying to put everything out in the open. Half the guys here who say "sloots gonna sloot" would cheat on their own girlfriends in a heartbeat, and then beg to be taken back if they got caught.

Don't listen to any of them. Use your own judgement. It's not like you were in a committed log-term relationship. Sounds like you'd barely started going out.

Do what you think is right, but don't over-react, and don't listen to the drama-queen virgins itt.

oh look, another cuck on the misc

[MuckSnapper]

What's pathetic is that she didn't HAVE to tell you anything. You never would have known if she hadn't volunteered the information. Sounds to me like she's being honest and trying to put everything out in the open. Half the guys here who say "sloots gonna sloot" would cheat on their own girlfriends in a heartbeat, and then beg to be taken back if they got caught.

Don't listen to any of them. Use your own judgement. It's not like you were in a committed log-term relationship. Sounds like you'd barely started going out.

Do what you think is right, but don't over-react, and don't listen to the drama-queen virgins itt.

[Boffothe]

What's pathetic is that she didn't HAVE to tell you anything. You never would have known if she hadn't volunteered the information. Sounds to me like she's being honest and trying to put everything out in the open. Half the guys here who say "sloots gonna sloot" would cheat on their own girlfriends in a heartbeat, and then beg to be taken back if they got caught.

Don't listen to any of them. Use your own judgement. It's not like you were in a committed log-term relationship. Sounds like you'd barely started going out.

Do what you think is right, but don't over-react, and don't listen to the drama-queen virgins itt.

This is a rare sight, the legendary Elder Cuck has emerged from his dog cage at the foot of the bed to preach