Why has this girl caught my attention? what should i do?

TrentSteel · 03-27-2007, 06:54 PM

Ok, i'll give you a bit of background first,

First of I usually come of to everyone as a funny, smart, laid back etc. type of guy. I usually like to make a girl laugh even if it means going to extremes, i don't mean doing something crazy, but i'm not the type of guy to hold my tongue if you know what i mean. I have a girlfriend as well, she's really cool and i have been with her for about 3 years, ups and downs but overall cool. Well here comes my buddies wedding and i get paired up with this girl, and I mean she's cute and everything, but on the day we meet i don't really talk to her just hey i guess were going to be paired up in the wedding together. Comes the wedding day and she looks really nice that day and I'm kind of bugging out, i don't get it I've been to clubs before i talked to girls before who were gorgeous as well but this one somehow just caught my attention. So i try to play it cool giving her some attention making her laugh and talking to her and the more i talk to her the more i get into her. we get to the reception and i'm talking to her some more and i'm getting so into her. I'm beginning to get infatuated with her personality, but im not exactly sure if she's feeling me like i her. my girl is at this wedding too and the girl i'm paired up and the wedding knows and we still talk to each other.

Here are some incidence that happened that night: don't know if they mean anything. i ask her to take a picture with me and wedding couple and i tell her ill wait in line and tell her when to come up and take a picture and she says don't worry about it ill wait with you, and she try's to teach me some dance while we are waiting and we chat it up. I complement her but not overly like a tool, i try to be a gentlemen pulling her seat out etc. she wanted to dance but i said my girl was there and it would be inappropriate she understood and she has a boyfriend too apparently and she goes to a school about 4 hrs away from where i live. end of the night comes and she like looks at me and says i don't know about you, and i was like what ? i give her a hug and kiss on the cheek and thats pretty much it? i don't know if she was into me or not, my buddy who was at the wedding too used to go out with her but just for like a week cause he was really interested in this other girl. she gave him a hug and kiss when she left too. she was kind of friendly with everyone ... don't know... it seemed like it was the kind of personality she had real nice girl..i don;t know i didn't get her number or anything cause i didn't want to look like a dirt bag since my girl was at the wedding too. what should i do guys i can't get her out of my mind, i have a gf, she has a bf, she's really out going so i don't know if she would throw me signals or just being herself. its kind of lame but i really don't use myspace but i do have it just for instances to check stuff out, and she has myspace so i requested her as a friend. but i really don't know where to go from here, its just bugging me out that i got so into her. i don't feel like looking like a lame and spilling my guts.lol. especially since it just end with a simple bye at the end of the night....AHH confused

thanks

Banme123 · 03-27-2007, 06:55 PM

Cliff Notes please.

TrentSteel · 03-27-2007, 06:59 PM

i know if you guys could read it, i would really appreciate... i felt like i need a background story first

Banme123 · 03-27-2007, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by TrentSteel

i know if you guys could read it, i would really appreciate... i felt like i need a background story first

Lol. Don't worry about, I read it all.

Russ-T · 03-27-2007, 07:02 PM

Well i think it might of just been the atmosphere you were in and you were just having fun. Soon enough you will forget about the girl possibly and just keep thinking about your girl, it might've just been a moment sorta thing.

TrentSteel · 03-27-2007, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by RustyNail31

Well i think it might of just been the atmosphere you were in and you were just having fun. Soon enough you will forget about the girl possibly and just keep thinking about your girl, it might've just been a moment sorta thing.

true very true, but the thing is i've go out alot dance with girls and stuff at clubs who are good looking talk to them etc. but this one that night, i just can't get over i'm trying though....but great advice thanks.

BuildUpNow · 03-27-2007, 07:17 PM

No...cliff notes.

Please.

TrentSteel · 03-27-2007, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by BuildUpNow

No...cliff notes.

Please.

common i'll give you a one point rep if your read lol... i would give more but don't have the power yet

Banme123 · 03-27-2007, 07:23 PM

Maybe it's time to look for mrs. right?

aeons · 03-27-2007, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by TrentSteel

common i'll give you a one point rep if your read lol... i would give more but don't have the power yet

can you rep me since i read it?

King Makaveli · 03-27-2007, 07:28 PM

Well you obviously dont think that highly of your girlfriend if you got infatuated with another lady so easily. If it's gonna be like that everytime you see someone that catches your eye you might as well break up with your girl now and live the single life.

Then you could go after whoever you want and bang whoever you want.

Colonel_Clobber · 03-27-2007, 07:49 PM

Uncle Cliffy wants you to provide some notes, gad nab it!

Below 30 · 03-27-2007, 08:13 PM

The mating game is like a war. In a war, you must kill you're enemies to survive. If you all of a sudden get sympathetic towards life and stand around, a sniper will kill you. You must not forget you're mission and how to accomplish it. The mating game is the same. If you stop being a man, you will lose you're edge and the females.

This quick little crush you have on this girl is cool, but think of the facts. She has a man, she lives far away and you don't know her interest level in you. You got a 3 year long girl, who's right beside you. You would toss you're main girl, for a shadow girl. Then shadow girl would say, she just likes you as a friend, because she has a man. Now you got nothing.

This is why personally, I don't bother with any relationships, because I can bounce around females any day of the week, if I feel like it. Since you do choose relationships, honour them, or you will incur a high interest debt that you can't pay back.

TrentSteel · 03-27-2007, 08:15 PM

uncle cliff beat me, i refuse to listen to him

TrentSteel · 03-27-2007, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Below 30

The mating game is like a war. In a war, you must kill you're enemies to survive. If you all of a sudden get sympathetic towards life and stand around, a sniper will kill you. You must not forget you're mission and how to accomplish it. The mating game is the same. If you stop being a man, you will lose you're edge and the females.

This quick little crush you have on this girl is cool, but think of the facts. She has a man, she lives far away and you don't know her interest level in you. You got a 3 year long girl, who's right beside you. You would toss you're main girl, for a shadow girl. Then shadow girl would say, she just likes you as a friend, because she has a man. Now you got nothing.

This is why personally, I don't bother with any relationships, because I can bounce around females any day of the week, if I feel like it. Since you do choose relationships, honour them, or you will incur a high interest debt that you can't pay back.

nice, thanks...is this from a book???

angelfire2005 · 03-27-2007, 08:18 PM

Let it go right now. I would recommend not speaking to her at all even if given the chance for atleast a month or two. It's obvious that you like her and if given the chance would go further, thus ending your current relationship of 3 years. If you value your gf or what you currently have at all you will cut off all contact. It's disrespectful to have thoughts like this while you're with her anyways. Obviously you and your gf have something great in common to be together for 3 years, don't throw it away because you met some girl at a wedding, no matter how cute she was.

Below 30 · 03-27-2007, 08:24 PM

A book? The book of my mind.

It's a culmination of mostly watching other people and then trying it out for myself. I saw results, so I live by these rules.
Reading books is not my thing, thoug. Most video game players avoid that!

TrentSteel · 03-27-2007, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by angelfire2005

Let it go right now. I would recommend not speaking to her at all even if given the chance for atleast a month or two. It's obvious that you like her and if given the chance would go further, thus ending your current relationship of 3 years. If you value your gf or what you currently have at all you will cut off all contact. It's disrespectful to have thoughts like this while you're with her anyways. Obviously you and your gf have something great in common to be together for 3 years, don't throw it away because you met some girl at a wedding, no matter how cute she was.

i always try to keep it cool, but your not kidding, i think if she sent me a message or anything through myspace and it was in anyway hinting anything....well then um you know

TrentSteel · 03-29-2007, 07:01 PM

i feel like im getting lamer by the minute, so this girl added me as her friend on myspace...I NEver use that crap... anyway she didn't send me a comment or anything but seeing her pictures and stuff I just can't stop thinking about her...she's in my mind constantly...i have to talk to her but don't want to send her a message out of nowhere...