I am feeling so depressed *Help*

**h@rdc0re** · 03-22-2007, 07:56 PM

Well ... I havent been posting on here that regularily because I had a boyfriend and kinda neglected all the was important to me. However, my boyfriend broke up with me tonight and I really need some motivation because I feel so bad about myself and I wanna get back into bodybuilding and putting on muscle.

Right now I feel so depressed and bad and I cant explain it! I feel as though I will never love again & I know I will because Ive been through it before but I guess at this state that I am in, I dont feel that way. Ugh ... I just need some inspiration from you beautiful women to help me get back on track.

Im devastated and just need someone to talk to and help me here. I know this might be the wrong forum but its mainly women and they may be able to sympathize with me.

**darkangel** · 03-22-2007, 08:13 PM

We've all been there at one time or another. The best revenge, IMHO, is to come back stronger, sexier and sleeker than ever. Ever notice how many stars lose weight, get in better shape, get makeovers, etc. when they break up with their guys? Jump in there, girlfriend. And the physical activity will help with any lingering depression, too.

BTW, I know it's easy to get caught up in relationships, but it's much healthier to keep some balance to your life. Don't neglect yourself, your workouts, your girlfriends, your hobbies for the sake of spending all free time with a guy. When you're happy, self-confident and self-fulfilled, you'll feel better about yourself and you'll attract a higher caliber guy.

**h@rdc0re** · 03-22-2007, 08:24 PM

Hey there hun! Thanks, your very right, and Im gonna become better!! Im gonna prove him wrong! I repped you.

**TurbulentFluid** · 03-23-2007, 01:28 AM

Aw come on... Look on the bright side! Men are here to waste our time and put us back in our results! You'll have more time for yourself, be able to do stuff you had to pass on, and MOST important, you'll be able to visit places where you can grab random yet firm boy behinds without feeling guilty!

Just kidding, wanted to make you laugh...

**h@rdc0re** · 03-23-2007, 07:30 AM

Thank You =) I repped you as well, I know this will get much easier and better over time

**Xquisit** · 03-23-2007, 08:17 AM

I've placed guys over everything as well..... Big mistake!!

Now that its just you, its gonna be ALL about you.

You come first...always. I don't know how long you were with this guy but its still hard nonetheless.

This is YOU time!! Take advantage of it! And going along with what darkangel said, make him feel sorry for what he lost.

**zinc_apple** · 03-23-2007, 08:58 AM

It is his lose and ur gain... Be stronger, sexier and show him that u can live without him.. ;-)

The problem with us tat we tends to keep our little world around our men and neglected ourselves... Forgetten that we have our own life and space too.. Just learnt that too..

**CelticBhoy** · 03-23-2007, 10:02 AM

Originally Posted by h@rdc0re

Well ... I havent been posting on here that regularily because I had a boyfriend and kinda neglected all the was important to me. However, my boyfriend broke up with me tonight and I really need some motivation because I feel so bad about myself and I wanna get back into bodybuilding and putting on muscle.

Right now I feel so depressed and bad and I cant explain it! I feel as though I will never love again & I know I will because Ive been through it before but I guess at this state that I am in, I dont feel that way. Ugh ... I just need some inspiration from you beautiful women to help me get back on track.

Im devastated and just need someone to talk to and help me here. I know this might be the wrong forum but its mainly women and they may be able to sympathize with me.

I don't mean to chime in on this (I apologize!), but I have to because, I'm going through the same thing! My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago, it still hurts but I'm getting through it.

She wants to remain friends, but I told her I cannot. Each person gets through break-ups their own way. I have to detach myself from her in order to get over her. So I told her, she understood, and that's where it's at.

The gym has become my sanctuary. During the time I was with her, I (and this was my mistake) made her the #1 priority. I wanted to always be there for her and basically do anything that I can. I neglected a lot of my friends, and even my health (staying late, getting up early, not getting sufficient rest, etc) to be with her. Now that it's all over, I realized how much I neglected myself! And I cannot have that happen! So now I'm completely in "uber-gym" mode

Seriously! I know what you're going through because I'm going through the same things.

DarkAngel hit it right on the head:

Originally Posted by DarkAngel

The best revenge, IMHO, is to come back stronger, sexier and sleeker than ever.

Get through this, become a better person, and try not to show (especially him!)that it gets to you! It's all about preserverance!

**Sunshineslynn** · 03-23-2007, 10:19 AM

Originally Posted by h@rdc0re

Well ... I havent been posting on here that regularily because I had a boyfriend and kinda neglected all the was important to me. However, my boyfriend broke up with me tonight and I really need some motivation because I feel so bad about myself and I wanna get back into bodybuilding and putting on muscle.

Right now I feel so depressed and bad and I cant explain it! I feel as though I will never love again & I know I will because Ive been through it before but I guess at this state that I am in, I dont feel that way. Ugh ... I just need some inspiration from you beautiful women to help me get back on track.

Im devastated and just need someone to talk to and help me here. I know this might be the wrong forum but its mainly women and they may be able to sympathize with me.

Hugs lovely....

Been there done that and aint going back. Your 19 you will love again trust me and it will be even better than it was. Just take what you are feeling to move some weight around in the gym. That is what I do eveytime I step into the gym. I am one pissed off momma. I think about my ex and how much of a deadbeat dad he is and boy do I get some freaky workouts in when he makes my oldest girl cry.

Take this as one of lifes lessons what does not kill us makes us stronger. Keep your head up and kick some ass in the gym.

**CrazyKeira** · 03-23-2007, 11:48 AM

I have to agree with most of whats being said here...now will be time for you. You can come back from this stronger and with a better sense of self. Believe me, if you had stayed in the situation where everything was about him you would not be a happy person. As much as it might hurt that you aren't together anymore, if you had stayed together eventually you would have realized you were unhappy. Trust me. I am in this situation and I feel stuck and I haven't been honestly happy for awhile now. I gave up my friends (tho I still see one or two of them every couple months), I gave up all the stuff I used to do for myself (the gym, girly shopping trips, etc) and now I'm in a relationship but feel alone. The whole situation is more complicated because we have a baby. So just take it as a life lesson and try to move on. Make yourself happy first and try to regain friendships, or make new ones if you don't think your old friends will forgive you. If you are happy and living a life that makes you happy you will attract guys that like you for that. A good guy is one that lets you still have your own life....your own friends and lets you do your own thing.

Like Sunshinelynn said you are 19 and you will fall in love again. But right now YOU need to be the most important thing in YOUR LIFE. Don't be depressesd because of this break up, be excited for the oppertunity to move on to bigger and better things. Make your life about you, not about him, because feeling depressed about it and all that is still focusing your life on him! You will get over this, it might take a little time, but it will happen.

**h@rdc0re** · 03-23-2007, 12:01 PM

Hey everyone! Thanks for the replies

I repped u all except the last 2 because it wouldnt let me but when it lets me do so i will

Thanks so much everyone

**Pump_30** · 03-23-2007, 12:05 PM

Take it from a guy......guys want what we can't have. Down the road when u r lookin smokin hot and sexy as hell, he'll want you back; the kicker here is he had you but didn't see ur beauty on the inside.....don't ever take him back that's rule #1.....
now stop feeling sorry for yourself.....you got work to do baby!

Originally Posted by h@rdc0re

Hey there hun! Thanks, your very right, and Im gonna become better!! Im gonna prove him wrong! I repped you.

**h@rdc0re** · 03-23-2007, 02:47 PM

Thank You Pump_30

**nacersusaf** · 03-23-2007, 03:25 PM

... you can start with a new avi... all about you!

**twinnett** · 03-23-2007, 04:29 PM

Yep...I'd love to see a new avatar w/ you looking strong and muscular!!! Just please don't let this allow you to fall back into the trap of not eating enough and doing hours of cardio...lifting and eating are going to make you strong and beautiful!!

**nic902** · 03-23-2007, 04:39 PM

Originally Posted by h@rdc0re

Well ... I havent been posting on here that regularily because I had a boyfriend and kinda neglected all the was important to me. However, my boyfriend broke up with me tonight and I really need some motivation because I feel so bad about myself and I wanna get back into bodybuilding and putting on muscle.

Right now I feel so depressed and bad and I cant explain it! I feel as though I will never love again & I know I will because Ive been through it before but I guess at this state that I am in, I dont feel that way. Ugh ... I just need some inspiration from you beautiful women to help me get back on track.

Im devastated and just need someone to talk to and help me here. I know this might be the wrong forum but its mainly women and they may be able to sympathize with me.

hey girl...dont let him get you down. its time for you to take care of yourself and when you do you'll find someone that truely cares for you that will make for a lasting relationship.

take your anger out on the weights...it will make you look and feel great!

best of luck to you!

**sportyhp** · 03-23-2007, 05:26 PM

hi! i cant really speak from experience since i havent had a boyfriend yet lol, but you really do seem much stronger than you may think! you need to think about yourself now, what makes you happy and find different activities to keep yourself busy. once you are confident and comfortable w/ yourself, more guys will see that!

**h@rdc0re** · 03-24-2007, 06:14 AM

Thank You So Much everyone! All of you ladies have been so supportive, And I am so glad that I have this board to come to when I need support. I plan to change my avatar when I can find a decent enough picture to replace it, thanks so much guys!!

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