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Lately I've been experiencing regret that I didn't Mary the girl I dated for 3 years. Too late now. Then I dated a complete sloot for a year after her.
And now have been basically struggling to come up with a comparable girl since the 3 year one
How can one be in acceptance that they made a mistake in the past ? And not just fume over if everyday and live in regret
Ie deal with it in a healthy way
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02-28-2023, 09:52 AM #1
How does one truly let go and stop suffering from regret in the past?
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02-28-2023, 11:51 AM #16
Every moment of you past was instrumental to getting you to where you are. If you aren't happy with your present then you will have regrets.
If you are happy then you realize you needed mistakes to grow. Work hard and het yourself into a position you are proud of.
Also, I didn't read ****gy OP but my point still stands.Tobacco prostitute
"Grow up Harriet"
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02-28-2023, 11:59 AM #18
I made mistakes in the past but definitely learned from it
You just don't realize as much at the time because people are drawn towards " things they can't have "
I've wisened up these days tho and no longer take anything or anybody for granted
Yeah I fked up badly with her but atleast I get to talk to a new girl now that I've been speaking with
Don't really miss " China girl " as much bc it's hard to miss someone who was never fully committed or kind
It's like part of me doesn't miss the stress of dealing with her but the girl I had before her was admittingly a lot more fair ....but apparently has a new man now and doesn't want anything to do with me
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02-28-2023, 12:00 PM #19
good advice. hard to implement.
some great author who offed himself said "rumination" is what killed him (paraphrasing). DFW btw is the author. Best author in the past maybe 30 years.
edit: my advice...I was just thinkjing about this earlier today. when you are "in love" with someone it seems like i is easily replaceable...in reality it might be the only time you are ever in love.
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02-28-2023, 12:03 PM #21
Cmon brah
With that thread title I was thinking you were re going to post about a deep regret or something Bad
But your posting about a girl!???????
Ffs
And you have the audacity to insult the great ibby for pounding hookers and living with his parents ?
Ever see ibby post somrhivg like this?
Whose the real loser now kiddo.
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02-28-2023, 12:06 PM #24
Did you actually have the opportunity to settle down/marry her or did she just peace out?
You're way too desperate. Your life revolves around trying to get the attention of women, most of whom you admit wouldn't make good longterm partners anyways.
You won't get over it until you can attain another high-quality woman again. You won't be able to keep one unless you grow up and stop being so desperate.
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02-28-2023, 12:08 PM #26
Ibby can't miss something he never experienced
Ibby is all about the act of just sex
He doesn't give a fk to have female companionship so it suits Jim
I just feel like I finally got my chit together in life to an acceptable level and it would be nice to share it with someone lol
I sound like some pght women but you know what I mean lol
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02-28-2023, 12:09 PM #28
The first girl who ever liked me, moved away, and later I found out she became a supermodel, lol.
I wish I had kept in touch!
She was smart and funny too.
Regrets like that, you just can't do anything about.
However, if you make mistakes you regret you can "reframe" them. That means look at them in a new positive way.
All of our mistakes literally are learning experiences, unless we are a sociopath that doesn't learn from mistakes. So, every bad thing that happens to you strengthens you.
I say, I love to be wrong because once I find out I am, I will never be wrong about that subject again.
Beta types are cowards and the saying is "a coward dies a thousand deaths and a brave man only one". That means the coward feels stupid, like a bitch, and so on for failing, but a brave person looks at failures as gaining understanding and is not hurt by them.If you want to ask me a question:
Ask: TheAdlerian
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=150655983&p=1000366043#post1000366043
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02-28-2023, 12:10 PM #29
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No advice helped me, it was only when I had a true near death experience that changed my thought process for the better
Many humans are wired to obsess about the past, we need to "hack" our brains with tricks in order to think differently and control our thoughts
I think the best advice I can give is to go have as many experiences as you can then level up from going through each one
You can't do nothing and just sit there with your thoughts eating away at you, you gotta distract yourself by doing productive things
Cognitive behavioral therapy is another way to change the way you think
I agree with above posters saying psychedelics as well, just do it legally under a doctors care
And given your post history you def need to make some lifestyle changesJournal: https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=139898123&page=240
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02-28-2023, 12:11 PM #30
My memory is hazy on exactly what went down that lead to the demise of it all
I remember one day when the relationship was on its last legs she invited me over but I was giving her attitude and claiming I was busy etc
Bad mistake clearly
Then I remember one day being like " man you hardly even fking reply anymore " I guess she was checking out
And then I found out she got an online bf and now a real one
Her body count is low probably about 5 ~
And then I dated this complete crazy high body count sloot after her that was a headache to deal with...so it's almost like when that ended.. her behavior made my the previous girl look really good
Did i have an absolute shot at locking her down?
Maybe not....but I sure didn't help my case at the time
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