10 years or so ago when I was in the navy they sent me to rehab for drinking, and that’s where I learned about AA for the first time, at the time I really wasn’t ready to change, but the navy definitely was thought I needed to change.
However many years after that when I was ready AA was a good fellowship of men and women who all wanted the same thing “sobriety”
The main basis of the program is alcoholics helping alcoholic. When we help others we learn that it helps us as well.
The only requirement for membership is the desire to quit drinking.
There are fellowships all around the world and like you said even online meeting.
And yes the “big book” is our guidance that provides us with suggestions, and it’s a good idea to find a sponsor who can help you through the book and the steps.
The book will suggest you do some extremely hard things like living a life of honesty and integrity day by day.
Living a life worth living, not escaping from.
Let me know if your interested in know more.
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03-27-2024, 10:35 AM #901Jesus Christ is Lord whether you accept Him or not.
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03-27-2024, 06:27 PM #903
Nice work with getting back up and back on track after a lapse. I know that's hard to do sometimes, especially when dealing with guilt and shame from the lapse.
Congrats on 40 days! Next thing you know, you'll be at the two month mark!
I hope everyone has been well! I've been feeling under the weather for the past several days, so I've just been laying low to recover. I feel like I will be able to hit the gym up tomorrow, so I am grateful for that.Miscer in recovery: clean date 03/30/22
“The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it is connection" - Johann Hari
My Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy1OyYHH6uYzP8FqHGaP-eg
YT Gaming Channel:
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04-16-2024, 04:02 PM #904
Oh damn, the misc is back! I hope everyone has been doing well! I celebrated two years of sobriety on March 30th! I went to go visit my parents last week and it was really nice to spend some time with them. Also, I hope it was nice for them to see my sober and doing well!
Miscer in recovery: clean date 03/30/22
“The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it is connection" - Johann Hari
My Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy1OyYHH6uYzP8FqHGaP-eg
YT Gaming Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmL9RZ6hY9L9jFwb1jOKn1w
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04-16-2024, 05:34 PM #906
Congrats on 9 months sober! I cannot relate to kind of feeling like a fraud, but I wonder if that is possibly your addiction trying to be sneaky and lead you to drinking/using again. My understanding is that everyone who has a desire to be sober is allowed into the meetings. So, you are definitely no fraudster!
Miscer in recovery: clean date 03/30/22
“The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it is connection" - Johann Hari
My Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy1OyYHH6uYzP8FqHGaP-eg
YT Gaming Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmL9RZ6hY9L9jFwb1jOKn1w
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04-17-2024, 10:49 AM #907
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04-18-2024, 11:18 AM #911
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4/20 will be one year since I had any type of alcohol and it feels good.
How you gonna rip it like that son? I don't play that, cause its action, I go... pat, pat, pat 'cause i'm black son! That's right, i'm the black sheep, the real black sheep. I'm the black sheep, the real black sheep. I'm the black sheep, the real black sheep.
Doodle-it, doodle-it, doodle-it-doo!
Doodle-it, doodle-it, doodle-it-doo!
Doodle-it, doodle-it, doodle-it-doo!
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04-18-2024, 12:23 PM #912
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In my heyday I was drinking at least 2-3 beers for lunch and more after work almost every day. My excuse for drinking on my lunch break was that I needed it to take the edge off during work. That was such a fking copout, nothing I did warranted me drinking that much or at all. It wasn't until I was close to 270 lbs with a fd up heart that I realized that I needed to make a change.
Today I'm down to 225ish and unfortunately was laid off so I got a lot of idle time while I'm waiting for call backs and interviews.
Hope you all get to where you wanna be.How you gonna rip it like that son? I don't play that, cause its action, I go... pat, pat, pat 'cause i'm black son! That's right, i'm the black sheep, the real black sheep. I'm the black sheep, the real black sheep. I'm the black sheep, the real black sheep.
Doodle-it, doodle-it, doodle-it-doo!
Doodle-it, doodle-it, doodle-it-doo!
Doodle-it, doodle-it, doodle-it-doo!
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04-18-2024, 03:53 PM #913
Thank you!! It has been a quick journey and it certainly does not feel like it has been 2 years.
I always keep that in mind when I start having thoughts that might go against my recovery lol.
Congrats on hitting one year in two days! I can relate to excusing my drinking and using as a "way to unwind" lol. Nice work on getting down to 225ish! I wish you good luck with looking for work and that you find something soon!!Miscer in recovery: clean date 03/30/22
“The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it is connection" - Johann Hari
My Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy1OyYHH6uYzP8FqHGaP-eg
YT Gaming Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmL9RZ6hY9L9jFwb1jOKn1w
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04-20-2024, 11:09 AM #914
Wow, the promises really are attainable and do begin to come true, early in sobriety, and even greater things come through staying the course. I reached 8 months a couple of weeks ago and suddenly things started to get more vibrant, more energy, and I was more upbeat on life.
I had a difficult 6.5 months of job searching after getting out of rehab, having some close calls, making it to the final round, and ultimately not being selected for a couple of jobs I felt I was an incredibly strong candidate for. I weathered through these and leading up to my 8 month sobriety date had an incredible opportunity that I believed was now dead in the water.
In all the interview processes I was upfront about an alcohol related termination. The last one the interviewer wanted to go indepth about it. Typically the issue of alcohol was adressed briefly when I was asked why I left my prior company. Two to three sentences about my alcohol termination, my decision to go to rehab and the completion of it, and my term of sobriety. In the last opportunity, we had had two prior interviews together, spent time walking around the campus, and it was the 7th and final interview of the process where he really wanted to dig into everything. I was honest and upfront about where I was in sobriety and some of the details of my past that were related, the discussion about alcohol took up about 15 minutes of the last interview. I thought I was probably tanked, but felt at peace with speaking my truth when directly asked and pushed to reveal more.
Weeks go by, I had written it off as another lost opportunity.
Recently got confirmation that I got the job, passed all of the background verification processes and start the job in mid May. It is a job that even in my prior successful career that was clear of alcohol issues I never could have dreamed of getting.
After rehab I had been working a paycheck job as a cashier at a truck stop, cleaning showers, getting yelled at constantly, and dealing with violent angry customers, being degraded by managers and some of the customers. Let's not talk about the things I cleaned up in the bathrooms. There is no thing as a non-noble job, but this was rough. Prior to this I had positions where my lateral colleagues were PhDs, I was considered the expert in the state on several issues, and had presented at large conferences nationally. Several academic papers recognize my for my contributions in the field. It was rough sometimes thinking about how far down things had gone because of my alcoholism. I got through it and stayed sober, focused on my graduate classes and my hope for the future.
Life does get better, and hope, goals, mission, and purpose helped me everyday.
This is just another step on the journey. But good things can and do happen.
Stay the course my friends. If I can do it, anyone can do it.Last edited by Arem24; 04-20-2024 at 11:14 AM.
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