I don't know if this girl is playing games or if she just isn't interested.
We've met a few times through friends, last time she told me it was great to see me and we should catch up soon and added me on insta.
I messaged her a few days later and asked if she was free to go out for coffee and she ignored me.
2 Days later she replied, apologized saying she had a "tough week" and asked if we could catch up another time - she immediately responded asking if I was free to hang out on the weekend.
I responded by proposing we catch up on Sunday night for a drink and it's been 2 days again without a reply.
I get that people get busy, but she's been active on messenger and instagram (posting stories etc).
How do you guys react in these situations? My interest for her has kind of waned now, but I don't know if I'm just being butthurt and over-reacting because she is taking her sweet time to respond. I don't want to hold out and wait for her because I could be making other plans...
TLDR
Girl taking days to respond to messages after proposing we hang out - worth the hassle or not?
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01-28-2022, 01:05 AM #1
Do you "disqualify" girls who play games?
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01-28-2022, 01:39 AM #2
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01-28-2022, 03:05 AM #3
Not worth the hassle. If she has the time to play around on social media, she has 10 seconds to spare to send a text if she was interested. Chicks are always on their phone. It's clear she's either not into you and/or found someone better. I recommend you do the same.
Personally, I'd have given up and moved on after she ignored me for the coffee meet unless she had a legitimate reason and showed enthusiasm for wanted to hang out. Everybody has a tough week, every week so that isn't an excuse.
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01-28-2022, 07:37 AM #4
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01-28-2022, 09:14 AM #5
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01-28-2022, 10:06 AM #6
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01-28-2022, 11:58 AM #7
Honestly depends on how bad ur tryna smash
Personally, I would just move on cuz I dont play around with girls that dont respect my time.
But your response doesnt make sense, if she apologized cuz she had a busy week (likely from work) and suggested to hang out on the weekend why would you suggest SUNDAY????????
Just doesnt make sense at all, you should have suggested friday night or saturday night. Aint no one tryna get yucky on a sunday night before waking up early for work the next day, and usually are already tired from partying on sat night*Toronto Misc Crew*
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01-28-2022, 12:01 PM #8
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Do you "disqualify" girls who play games?
Nupe , never did simply because thats all I was doing and I was a fkng professional.
First off you're fkng up by hanging on this broads every move... you should have a rotation of sloot's that you can waste any given minute on at any time... If flaky bish is interested then she'll be able to sniff out the other Schnizz you are messing around with like a gotdamn bloodhound and only increase your worth in her eyes..
But to save yourself with this one.. forget about her and go on as if it never happened and on to the next one. Flaky Mcflakerton will every expose herself and start blowing you up or she was never that interested in the first place... either way you will of already moved on by the time you figure it out...6'2" @ 247lbs
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01-28-2022, 02:09 PM #9
Thanks for the replies. She did have a legitimate reason initially (said she had to have her dog put down and then was wiped out by a COVID booster) - that's when I gave her a "let me know when you feel up to it text" and fully intended on never contacting her again until she reached out to me, but that's when she replied instantly to suggest a weekend meet up enthusiastically. But now it's radio silence again.
I get the impression she is either not interested enough or she is trying to play games with me and in either scenario I'm really not interested in wasting my time on her. If she replies in the end I'll just decline.
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01-28-2022, 03:16 PM #10
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01-28-2022, 04:15 PM #11
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01-28-2022, 06:44 PM #12
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01-28-2022, 07:03 PM #13
It's simple capitalism to me. I make all my life choices and every decision this way: continue if you can afford it, stop if you cannot.
reasons to continue:
you have no or few options
you are desperate
you want it real bad
you really like this girl
she is totally your type
she is really convenient for w/e reason
you see something in her that is very rare to find
you have a bunch of time to spend
don't do it:
none of the above apply
you have too much pride
All these things are very simple to me. I just check my priorities, check my resources, and then I made a decision based on those two.Goals:
-stop being fat
01/01/2022
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in gradschool
single and hating it
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01-28-2022, 07:47 PM #14
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01-31-2022, 03:27 PM #15
If a girl you're interested in messages you. Are you going to go silent for days at a time? Are you going to flake on her?
She's not that in to you. The excuse of being busy or anything like that is bull. You're telling me you go all day long without sitting on the toilet to pee or poo? You can easily read/send a message during that time.
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01-31-2022, 07:58 PM #16
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02-02-2022, 11:42 AM #17
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02-02-2022, 12:49 PM #18
Women either find you attractive and want to smash or they don’t. There’s no in between, no changing their mind etc.
I’ve been rejected by women when I already had three others in a rotation that I could go bang whenever I wanted to. They can’t “smell” it on you nor do they sense anything beyond vaginal tingles for specific men. If she’s not into you, she’s not into you. It’s as simple as that
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02-02-2022, 01:52 PM #19
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02-02-2022, 02:37 PM #20
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02-02-2022, 04:19 PM #21
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02-02-2022, 04:50 PM #22
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02-02-2022, 07:01 PM #24
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02-02-2022, 11:09 PM #25
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02-02-2022, 11:09 PM #26
She has low interest in you OP
Probably coz your text game is weak, she was keen to see you again when you met in person but after a couple of texts she started ignoring you - meaning the other dudes on her rotation were texting her with more interesting texts. She lost interest in you.
Not worth the effort to bring her interest levels back up.
Just move on OPINSTA: d_breezy_100
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02-02-2022, 11:28 PM #27
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02-03-2022, 12:25 AM #28
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02-03-2022, 05:43 AM #29
So as an update on the above - I ended up going out with some friends and she was there and still hadn't replied to my proposition about going out together. Exchanged pleasantries but it was pretty awkward, I didn't talk to her most of the night but she "teased me" a few times. A mutual friend asked me why I wasn't talking trying to hook up with her because she was "really into me", told her I wasn't that keen anymore as she had been ignoring me.
A few days later I get a loooong message from this girl apologizing to me, stating that she had no intention of ghosting me, that she had just been really busy, that she was confused if I was interested in her or not because I wasn't hitting on her the other night, it wasn't uncommon for her to take days to reply to everyone and she thought I had a thing for her friend instead (wut). She then asked for my number stating she was better at replying to texts. We text back and fourth a few times but it becomes pretty stale, so I just say "we should still go out together soon" and it's radio silence again lmao.
At this point I'm not THAT bothered because I pursued and started sleeping with another girl after this one kept flaking on me. But I just don't understand why she continues to ignore me, then apologize for ignoring me, suggest we meet up soon and then ignore me when I propose a date. What is she even getting from this?
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02-03-2022, 06:38 AM #30
I call bullchit on this for anyone saying it. People respond to people they want to talk to. I had a friend who was a horrible responder and she would say it all the time, however, when it came to the guy she was seeing she was all about texting him and didn't leave him hanging for days.
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