These young guys crave attention/validation/sex so badly they are willing to go to copious lengths to get it, only to realize it was just a short-term fantasy and they either aren't interested longterm or aren't emotionally mature enough for something longterm.
Mature people won't love-bomb you the same way because they know better.
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Thread: Matches have pretty much died ³
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03-09-2022, 02:43 PM #5431
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03-09-2022, 02:54 PM #5432
sucks to have a good connection with someone who is just not in the same stage of life, so you need to protect yourself by not falling into the trap of going out with them. You opened pandoras box, and it sounds like your whole expectation and reward system is out of whack because of it.
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"The strong do what they can, and the weak suffer what they must" -Thucydides
Shall not be Infringed. FUK CHINA.
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03-09-2022, 02:58 PM #5433
You’re right! So many of them love bomb, bounce and then love bomb again. This guy is in the Middle East so it’s not like he’s going to get sex but he says the older women don’t give him the attention I did. Same with this guy who moved across the country.
Meanwhile older guys seem boring because they aren’t as enthusiastic about me. But maybe I need boring over the ups and downs the young guys do. It’s just a tough adjustment.
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03-09-2022, 03:02 PM #5434
You’re right. That’s why my therapist wants me to end it with the young guys as I get emotionally attached and hurt. I mean I don’t want to support them financially either and I’m done with having kids so we’re in different stages of life. My friends have found mature men who are empty nesters so I wish I could find the same. At this point I haven’t even been able to make 1 date with a guy over 30 since May and the ones I’ve talked to I’m not enthusiastic about so I don’t want to waste their time and mine.
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03-10-2022, 12:22 AM #5435
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03-10-2022, 09:52 AM #5436
A big issue IMO is that the more age-appropriate men who would be capable of holding your attention likely disqualify you due to your living situation.
If you have a timeline in place in which you will be able to get your own place, I think you need a fresh opinion (new therapist or dating coach) to help set you up for success once you unburden yourself from your current living situation.
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03-10-2022, 05:54 PM #5437
lol shut the fuk up idiot
your entire post is a cope
just because you managed to find one girl and date her for the past 3 months without breaking up yet, doesn't mean you discovered some scandalous insight or holy grail to dating
there is nothing fundamentally different from a girl who uses dating app, vs one who does not
if your girl downloaded bumble tomorrow, would that invalidate all the characteristics you currently project onto her and change her into an entirely new person?
lmao
btw 60% of people who got married in the past 5 years met online. I guess all those marriages are shams
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03-10-2022, 11:17 PM #5438
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03-10-2022, 11:49 PM #5439
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03-11-2022, 01:17 AM #5440
I find myself telling the age appropriate men about my living situation because I'm not so into them. It's really hard because I'm so used to seeing the young face and those guys are so much more enthusiastic to meet me. But my other thread on here where Nissan contributed makes sense about working on my eating disorder and physique first and getting myself back on track before I meet a man my age. Maybe I'll attract more attractive men with being in better shape as my meal plan is totally different than it was in 2012 (no EOD) as I just took those core foods like greek yogurt and cottage cheese and added a lot of cheese, cereal, honey, etc. to make them taste better, but of course that's extra calories. Then my nutritionist wanted me to add in sandwiches, bagels and sandwiches and that's just not good.
I never was hungry on my former trainer's meal plan as it was full of a lot of lean protein without the additives. Going down to 800 calories a day was dumb too as I lost lean muscle.
Dating apps are totally different from meeting people IRL. People on dating apps have that mentality of "I'll just keep swiping to find someone better" and it's honestly exhausting to swipe for years on end like I've been doing, only to see the same type of character guy on there over and over, usually a player because all you see are looks. You don't see if the guy's personality like if he's funny in person or if you share a similar interest like both playing volleyball or bowling.
I doubt that 60% of marriages are from online dating. I just looked it up and it's 17%.
Dating apps are best for hookups/FWB IMO.
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03-11-2022, 08:29 AM #5441
You're a moron - do you only eat dick or something?
1) I've had multiple meaningful relationships, none have been from dating apps. Most of the girls I've been out on dates with via apps have either been full of red flags, rebounding, losers stuck in a dead end career, or looking for a ONS. I've rarely seen quality on those apps.
2) There is a huge difference between using a dating app or not. Using a dating app is very low effort and therefore lets in a lot of people who don't/aren't willing to put in the effort to date
3) If my girl downloaded bumble tomorrow, it would be because we broke up and she wants to rebound. She also has never used Bumble and used Hinge in the past instead. In Toronto, Bumble is full of whales and <5s. I know lots of couples who met on Bumble, and every time the guy is absolutely getting scammed by a controlling, entitled whale.
4) Where did you get your statistic from? Stanford University survey shows 39% of all couples met online, but not married. Another study shows only 27% of married couples are from online dating, with that source also leading to the highest divorce rates.
https://marriagefoundation.org.uk/re...eting%20online.
Sounds like the only real sham here is you lol
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03-11-2022, 08:33 AM #5442
What kind of nutrition plan is this?
Why is your nutritionist giving you a bunch of processed sugar/garbage?
You'll feel like chit eating that kind of food.
Shop the perimeter of the grocery store. Meat, fruits and vegetables.
Non processed whole foods.
I'd fire your nutritionist.Financial Freedom/Passive Income Crew
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03-11-2022, 08:41 AM #5443
Erm... Do you want to be with someone who wants you for how you look, or for someone who appreciates you for who you are? You should take pride in who you are in addition to your body physique. How much income you make, your hobbies, your kids, your passions, etc. etc. I guarantee that people who want you for how you look will most likely be the ones that also will treat you like a piece of meat since they'll mostly just be thinking with their dicks.
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03-11-2022, 12:06 PM #5444
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03-11-2022, 04:30 PM #5445
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03-11-2022, 04:43 PM #5446
you are literally projecting.
you embody that slut sentiment and wallow in the dream of landing a chad while being a perimenopausal [insert whatever] with a failed marriage and burdened by a teenage daughter.
that's your personal MO on dating apps because of your circumstance in life (or should we say lack of)
you are not the desirable in-shape 20-30 year young professionals out there trying to find their forever person
from your view, of course all man online look from you is a a easy shag. what else is there
please stop interjecting your toxic view for attention and contaminating the minds of the young people out there still with a chance for a true fulfilling relationshipLast edited by stevesteve12; 03-11-2022 at 04:50 PM.
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03-11-2022, 04:54 PM #5447
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03-11-2022, 04:55 PM #5448
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03-11-2022, 04:57 PM #5449
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03-11-2022, 05:18 PM #5450
if you aren't a stock character normie, girls don't understand you. These are things I've heard girls reject guys over
-not having a bedframe
-dirty car
-no trashcan cover
-picture with fish
-flipflops
-blank walls in apartment
-plays video games
-hires escorts
-never had a gf before
-no social life
Women are ****ing apes LOL
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03-11-2022, 05:21 PM #5451
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03-11-2022, 05:28 PM #5452
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03-11-2022, 07:19 PM #5453
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Encountered my first "crazy" last night after all these years on and off the apps...
She showed up a half hour late, was on the phone with someone when we met. (some sort of family trauma, allegedly)
Starts telling me her whole life story how she was married before and it was "emotionally abusive" etc etc
Basically runs a questionnaire by me (annoying/not appropriate for first date IMO)
She's starting on her 3rd beer and I realize her speech is slurred and she could barely walk when getting up to go to the restroom. I asked her if she had been drinking prior to showing up and she said "a little"
I suggested that she get an Uber home since I had to work at 8am. She could barely even operate her phone to set the pickup point, I had to assist her.
I took a video of her getting into the Uber. Had to avoid her attempted kiss. If balconybrah taught me one thing, it's to always have evidence that you did nothing wrong.
Other than her pictures being a little iffy, I didn't see any red flags on her profile/over text. Seemed like an up and coming medical professional who I could possibly vibe with.
I'm done with girls older than me lol
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03-11-2022, 09:02 PM #5454
I don't see her anymore but you'd have to read the book or summaries online of "Intuitive Eating" to understand it. The book has been around since the mid-90s and they've had done a lot of studies since then when people "normalize" food and don't put it in "good food" and "bad food" categories that people are less likely to binge eat or excessively diet. It's written by 2 nutritionists and most in the eating disorder recovery world use it.
So you start off by allowing yourself a donut or bagels and your nutrition goes to mush for a couple of months, but then you realize you feel crappy after eating the stuff and start to crave fruits and veggies again. She's right that I did start to crave salads and lean protein after eating sandwiches so I'm rarely eating them now.
Healthy whole foods is food labeling and is not "intuitive". The book uses a toddler as an example, as a toddler won't binge eat or diet. He or she eats until they're full and that's that.
That book has been around since 1995, but nutritionists are embracing it more lately they say because they realize that diets don't work and 95% of the clients regain the weight plus more. I did it back in 1996 and gained 6 lbs in a month so I dropped it. Obviously it felt great to eat ice cream and donuts most of the day! lol until you see the results and panic......!
I honestly think they don't know how to cure EDs given how we live in a country with obesity so everywhere you turn someone is going on about some diet like keto, paleo, intermittent fasting, etc. But if I feel like having a cookie or ice cream I'll have it. I don't excessively restrict those foods anymore but I don't eat them daily. Maybe once or twice a week.
The book is full of a lot of *crap* (IMO) about size acceptance as even those who eat intuitively can be overweight, according to the nutritionists. So they talk about a lot of discrimination that people get when they're overweight/obese.Last edited by DustinTheHuss; 03-11-2022 at 09:15 PM.
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