I'm gonna be short. I found somebody and we liked each other, being together for 10 months already, living together for 2. ups and downs like every other relationship.
problem is i made a small business with my bf and we got 30,000 eur in 3 months of work. the deal was that if we make it, we split the money equally, so 15k and 15k. nothing was sure.
problem is that now I feel that I am the one who works more and now I feel like a bad girl because truth is I keep asking myself if he is is deserving the entire 15 k.
I feel like I shouldn't feel this way.I don't want to ruin what we have, the fact that we started from 0, failed so many times and still succeeded. However, 2 more gigs like that with my savings and I buy myself a big apartment at 24.
Furthermore, I helped in my life so many people that did not do the same, now I'm thinking that there is no guarantee about us being together further. So I'd be crazy mad to know that we broke up 2 months from now on and I still gave him the money.
he says we should do it together with the house,but I'm 24, I don't want common properties at this age, I am not ready to get married.
also, he is in his mid 30s, much more pressured to do serious things, but I feel that I did not had enough time to play, because I was always serious and focused on making money.
didn't present him to people because he is not attractive, but I fall in love because he trusted me at my lowest mental point, the start of a family drama that's ending now.
but I also doubt that he trusted me because he had no other option, he has no uni degree or amazing job, more on the low income side.
what's your opinion on this matter?
CLIFFS: op made a business with bf, decided to split the profit
op feels that she worked more, feels like bf does not deserve his entire half
but op also doesn't want to break up bcuz has feelings for bf but also some thoughts like : could buy her own apt at the age of 24 sooner if she would exclude him
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Thread: them fking eyes of the devil
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02-24-2020, 06:47 PM #1
them fking eyes of the devil
Last edited by RoxyFoxy22; 02-24-2020 at 07:15 PM.
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02-24-2020, 07:05 PM #12
he worked, but I feel that I worked more. I still think that my part itself is more and he could not do anything to perform more than what he actually did. but I didn't say that in the first place, just now
I agree with you on greed, I shouldn't feel this way. I also don't want to break up with him, I have feelings for him, but also trust issues~~Cardio Bunny ~~ Eastern European ~~
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02-24-2020, 07:06 PM #13
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02-24-2020, 07:10 PM #15
I don't want to give explanation to people, because truly he is 10 years older than me, not rich and he has crocked teeth due to an accident, but then he couldn't afford to fix them because his mom got sick and he put all he had to help her. then his mom died and nobody helped, so the situation continued.
People that know me would not understand, because the physical discrepancy is easy to be seen, i should have said physical differences, not ugly. he's not ugly for me tbh
your mom does
the original condition was 15 k and 15 k~~Cardio Bunny ~~ Eastern European ~~
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02-24-2020, 07:15 PM #16
Deal is a deal, you no honor having bish. You agreed to be partners, you are partners. If you think you are better off without him, pay him his 15gs and move forward on your own. You’re going to deny and pretend like you didn’t need him, but I’m 99% certain, since he’s in his 30s and your a dumb 24 y/o sloot, that it was his capital that started it all.
A partnership is sacred, honor the agreed upon terms then go fuk yourself
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02-24-2020, 07:25 PM #21
ty, makes sense, I tried to open this convo and it went like ''I gave you the motivation, believed in you when you were disappointed, the deal was 50-50, you don't trust me'' so I stopped, because I don't want to lose him.
What I want is more money for myself because I work more, but he will be upset, because even if he works less he still is the one who made me restart working this hard - trusted me when I doubted it so~~Cardio Bunny ~~ Eastern European ~~
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02-24-2020, 07:25 PM #22
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02-24-2020, 07:26 PM #23
He found you at your lowest, accepting you. He failed with you in this endeavor to start. You two agreed upon how the money is split. It is coming time to split money and now your agreement doesn't suit you. He wants to move your relationship forward but you say why I'm young and better looking than him. Split the money 15k each and break up with him.
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02-24-2020, 07:27 PM #24
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02-24-2020, 07:33 PM #25
You split what you agreed on the job and you make a new agreement going forward. That's what a person with principles would do anyway. If you really want to stiff the guy, that's up to you but if he's got his balls intact, he will dump you. I would. Plus you'd be a bad person but w/e.
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02-24-2020, 07:33 PM #26
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02-24-2020, 07:36 PM #27
what you say is partially true, but you may misunderstand some things.
I was depressed at my lowest, but still making my won money, kiccking butt at university and taking care of myself. The depressed side of me was isolation from public places, didn't feel the need to go out, but I was at my dutties better than many non-depressed people.
My concern is that maybe, just maybe he accepted me at my lowest because I was at my lowest still better than what he could pull in their win mode. He saw that I was a hardworking machine, who doesn't want that? Girls at my age are clubbing, I'm working for myself like a horse, giving me attention back then could be his best life investment and maybe this is why he made it
I'm overthinking
Writing this I just came to the conclusion that I am much more mad because I don't know for sure if he loves me or is it really suitable to be with someone like me, and if the second part is happening, it would crush my ego to know that I gave him the money~~Cardio Bunny ~~ Eastern European ~~
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