Yup there are major costs to a relationship. Time, energy, money. Having to deal with their friends and family, having to deal with their problems and issues etc.
That’s why it’s only worth it if it’s really the right person who you really like and enjoy being around.
And I always disagree with the typical dating advice to just settle for someone you’re not really into. Because how could the benefits of a relationship ever outweigh the costs if you’re not even into that person? That only makes sense for people who legit cannot deal with being alone.
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06-25-2019, 11:39 AM #91
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06-25-2019, 11:59 AM #92
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06-25-2019, 12:11 PM #93
Agreed but I think it’s very common. And typical dating advice to women.
Would actually be interesting to know the percentage of relationships where at least one side is only there because they don’t want to be alone or for money or kids or some other external reason. I bet it’s a significant percentage.
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06-25-2019, 12:16 PM #94
You probably just feel like you lose your freedom with the girls you've dated.
Also I realized I won't be able to turn off my attraction to other women, but I can choose not to pursue them or get their #, add them to IG, or stuff like that.
But anyways GravityLee the grass is always greener.A hit was sent, from the President, to raid your residence /
Because you had secret evidence, and documents /
On how they raped the continents, and it's the prominent /
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06-25-2019, 12:18 PM #95
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06-25-2019, 12:20 PM #96
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06-25-2019, 12:27 PM #97
Y'all act like relationships don't require work. Has anything in this world that is ever worth anything required zero work exist? Sure being single is easy but if you actually have a gf/wife that values you and the relationship then you get a lot of benefits that being single will never allow or make incredibly more difficult.
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06-25-2019, 12:32 PM #98
I prefer being in a relationship.
But I certainly work harder, spend more time doing hobbies outside of one, so it's difficult at times.
I agree with people who say that when you're in a relationship you dream of having more time to yourself, but when you're single the grass is always greener. Such is life we always want what we don't have.
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06-25-2019, 12:32 PM #99
That advice is given to women who are actively searching for a relationship, bemoaning "bUt ThErE's nO GoOd MeN lEfT!" If you are a woman, simply by existing, you will have dozens upon dozens of guys pursuing you for a relationship. Thirst is infinite. If you can't find a single one worth your time, that's on you. If you don't want to settle for less than a Disney Prince, that's great, but don't blame a lack of options for your unrealized relationship goals.
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06-25-2019, 12:33 PM #100
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06-25-2019, 12:39 PM #101
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06-25-2019, 12:48 PM #102
I've never been in a rush for a relationship. Not into feeling tied down, pressured, stressed, etc. 32 and I think I've finally met someone worth spending my time with. Not in a huge rush for anything too serious but she's the type of person I could see myself being with long term. Has the following qualities, wouldn't date someone without them.
-Career driven and earns more then I do.
-Completely independent from family.
-Cooks good and maintains an immaculate apartment.
-Doesn't require gifts or me spending money on. Doesn't need to 'go out'.
-Cool with just hanging out cooking at home, watching movies, working out, doing outdoors stuff, etc.
-Cool with the concept of never signing legal documentation to get 'married'.
-Pretty much down for whatever.
-Low social media profile. Pretty much only texts/calls family a few close friends and coworkers.
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06-25-2019, 12:50 PM #103
Been single for about 7 years now and I'm enjoying the hell out of it every freaking minute. Last gf was such a freaking needy downer. Her awful habits, super negativity, inability to accept change, jealousy, and stupidity really messed me up for a long time. Ended up ruining a long term friendship I had with this chick since elementary school. Dated other people here and there, but nothing serious. Eventually came to the conclusion that I'm better off focusing on me, what I want to do, and my own personal goals. I prefer being single, I want nothing serious and I want nothing to do with kids of my own.
Just keep on going.
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06-25-2019, 12:56 PM #104
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06-25-2019, 01:05 PM #105
lol It's not about not settling for less than a Disney Prince. How many mid 40's to around early 50's men do you know that live a healthy lifestyle like I do? I really don't know many and the ones I do know of, are taken. Why would I want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't have similar interests/lifestyle as me?
~ In a world where you can be anything, be kind ~
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06-25-2019, 01:07 PM #106
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06-25-2019, 01:07 PM #107
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06-25-2019, 01:13 PM #108
I'm not even in that age group and can name at least 10 older dudes who I know from the gym, tennis, work, et al. Much more common to see in shape men than women at that age. I know it's still rare, but come on, it's when you stack bodyfat % + tall + full head of hair + millionaire + socially connected + whatever else he needs to be. That's when you run into the "no good men left" problem.
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06-25-2019, 01:14 PM #109
I've dated guys over the past couple of years both with and without kids, and they have had no issue with me being a single mom. I guess it just depends on the guy. I've also made it abundantly clear I'm not looking for anyone to support me or my child, I do just fine on that myself, so I don't know if that factors into it.
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06-25-2019, 01:17 PM #110
A big no brother..
I just ended a 3.5 years relationship and it was the worst thing I ever done.
Why would I prefer to swing on tinder like a virgin FA..
I'm getting older and older.. hair changes (falls), you get fatter..
Why would u want to keep chasing oussy and fck once a month, instead of having someone to be with every day, cook for u, share stories with u, and fxk u 24/7 no questions?
Damn I have a depression because of this chit
Worst decision I ever made.23'
Trying to make it brahs
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06-25-2019, 01:19 PM #111
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06-25-2019, 01:22 PM #112
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06-25-2019, 01:23 PM #113
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06-25-2019, 01:29 PM #114
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06-25-2019, 01:30 PM #115
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06-25-2019, 01:31 PM #116
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06-25-2019, 01:34 PM #117
Advantages and disadvantages to both, just depends on what side of the line you are standing. Sounds like you are standing on the disadvantages side.
Personally the only thing that's kept me from getting into a relationship, since my divorce, is that I have not found a single women that I answer "Yes" to the question: Is she worth making sacrifices and compremises for?" Because, lets be real, it doesn't matter how "perfect" you are for each other, you will have to make compromises and sacrifices.
1.) Age: 23
2.) If you were happy, you would not have broken up.
3.) notice how you write about "general" things about a relationship that you miss? ...because you don't miss her, you just miss the benefits. Think about it and get over it, then move on.Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
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06-25-2019, 01:35 PM #118
Most of the guys in my regular gym are younger. There are a couple that look like they may be my age, but I have no idea if they're single or not.
I don't know anyone at work my age who is fit and into lifting. There are a bunch of 30somethings, but they're too young. Plus married/in relationships. And don't lump me in with the height, hair, money and status requirement gang. That's not me at all.
Same. I've never had a guy have an issue with the fact that I have a kid. When I was actively dating/online he was around 13-14ish. I made it clear I could only see them when my son was with his dad, that even though he was of age to stay home alone I wasn't about that life of leaving him at home to meet up with a guy. They were willing to wait a week if need be to see me.
Sorry I don't date miscers.~ In a world where you can be anything, be kind ~
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06-25-2019, 01:55 PM #119
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06-26-2019, 08:42 PM #120
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