You guys okay with your girl having male friends (srs)

[Sinan09400]

Lol at male 'friends'. These are just orbiters waiting for their turn

[PAU1]

I got texts from several married women, who were former co-workers, on Christmas. I'm not plotting to homewreck but their husbands can't be happy if they know.

[whogotmuhbeers]

Lol do dudes still fall for that?? Chicks with abunch of dude friends always cheat SERIOUSLY.

Do yourself a favor and get done with it now before you catch real feelings and get hurt later.

[suprabum]

not a big deal OP she's just outsourcing penor

[DolphinPilot]

I would take it on a case by case basis. And in many cases the girl entertains guy friends but gets butthurt if she sees you talking to another woman. Funny how that works...

[wasp9166]

Lol at male 'friends'. These are just orbiters waiting for their turn

this

nope


i have no women in my phone , she'll have no men in her phone , tried it , and guess what , you know what


kicked that bish to the curb

[RainingBlood]

Not excited about it, but I wont tell her who she can and can't be friends with. It's all about her actions, and what she finds appropriate when in a relationship. If we don't agree, i'll end it.

Don't be insecure. Trust the person you are in a relationship with, otherwise, what's the point? Trust them until they give you a reason not to. If she cheats on you or does something shady, break up with her.

^Only sensible posts ITT.

Newsflash for you virgins: She will do whatever she wants, regardless of you "not being okay with it". Tell her she can't talk to other guys? She'll get a new snapchat account to text these dudes, and log out every time you're over. She will find a way to cheat if she wants to. Deal with it if it happens.

[Foze]

Doesn't matter whether you're cool with it or not.

If she's hot, she'll have guy friends. Most likely quite a few.

YES, most of these guys will want to bang her (dormantly or overtly)

End of the day, if you're her best option and she's the type not to cheat - she probably won't.

[LordMU]

I don't think it's that bad at all. I've got a few female friends and have no intention of ever making moves on them. They're not exactly 10s so by the same logic I wouldn't care as long as the guys weren't jacked Chads.
Even then I'd just sit on it unless they made moves towards her.

[DolphinPilot]

^Only sensible posts ITT.

Newsflash for you virgins: She will do whatever she wants, regardless of you "not being okay with it". Tell her she can't talk to other guys? She'll get a new snapchat account to text these dudes, and log out every time you're over. She will find a way to cheat if she wants to. Deal with it if it happens.

It's not just that she has some dicks on the side ready and willing to go whenever she wants, it's also that her guy friends will likely try to fuk up the relationship. Speaking from experience a lot of guys out there will feel like she is his girl and you are trying to take her from him. He turns into a territorial dumbass and will try to get in her ear whenever possible. She can ignore it all day long but that kind of chit is going to be detrimental to a relationship one way or another. More often than not she will refuse to break off the friendship with him if he turns into a colossal twat. Again, speaking from experience. Lost a good girl awhile back because her guy friend wouldn't fuk off.

[CaliSuperSport]

Honestly...no marriage, no care. Unless she's trying to spend one on one time with other dudes.

Misc is funny sometimes....we're all well aware of the friendzone but still have zero tolerance on male friends. Use your best judgment....you can tell which dudes are creeping.

[S0Jack3d]

hell no. a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on when you're not around.

[DemiBrah]

Honestly...no marriage, no care. Unless she's trying to spend one on one time with other dudes.

Misc is funny sometimes....we're all well aware of the friendzone but still have zero tolerance on male friends. Use your best judgment....you can tell which dudes are creeping.

The only truth is that on the low all dudes are creeping

[Austanian]

No not really.

A few friends from long ago that they talk to everyone in a while. G2G
Male "friends" that we hang out in a group together with. g2G
Work colleagues that occasionally text work related chit. G2G

There is no reason your girl should be texting a dude constantly unless it is her dad/Brother.

[jbball92]

Eh, I'd be a little uneasy about that many guys texting her. One close guy friend? Maybe. Multiple? Red flag.

this. Sloots gunna sloot

[Prose]

no i dont care, if this kid is texting your girl constantly then that's a problem.

[wincel]

nope

[TreFo]

It doesn't matter. She either chooses u or u move-on if ur looking for an exclusive relationship.


In the meantime, keep meeting other women. Once she invite u into exclusivity if that happens then it'd be fair to drop ur girls.

[johnnytable]

I really don't care what she does as long as her attention is on me and not them. Have to remind her that you can replace her too

[AniMaLizTik]

guys don't text girls that they do not wish to penetrate. let that sink in

[TheAdlerian]

Not too sure what to think, guys are texting her and she has many male friends, help misc brahs. It seems normal in theory that she's got guy friends and texts them, but I'm not too keen on this tbh

A previous people said it was okay to have coworkers, which is okay if they're texting about work.

However, if they're random guys it's insulting. She may be delusional and not think these guys are after her for sex, which will then make her hard to deal with. It will also make you look like the bad guy.

Not much you can do about it, but if guys are saying sexual things, sending pics, etc you must get away from her. I was seeing this girl recently and her messenger was like a porno. She couldn't stop it and would not get away from it. I was tempted to throw her phone away, but then I decided that she is making these choices and continues to accept these people.

No, I have nothing to do with her.

[Silencespeaks]

No I don’t think it’s ok. Unless maybe they’re guy friends that are part of a long time bigger mixed friends group. Like a group of old high school friends or college friends. But then the contact should be in the group, not one on one. Like going out occasionally as a group and texting in a mixed group chat, but not one on one.

No reason for women to be in contact with men one on one if they’re already in a relationship. Most likely the guy wants sex and the girl either keeps him as a backup for if things don’t work out with her relationship, or she is just using him for extra attention. Both are bad imo.

Btw generally women will not admit that their guy friends want sex. They’ll keep denying it, because otherwise they’re forced to admit they are using the guy for a backup or for attention.

[Silencespeaks]

this, always gotta take in mind that no dude talks to a girl to build a friendship unless they're on that ****gy time

for some reason girls can't wrap their heads around that tho

Girls deny it because otherwise they’re forced to admit that they’re either using the guy for attention or keeping him as a backup option. Both make the girl look bad so they’ll deny it until the end.

[Silencespeaks]

You can't control people. Just let her do whatever she wants. If you like what she does, keep her around. If you don't like what she does, dump her ass

Very good and important point. You can’t change people. Either accept them the way they are, or leave.

That’s one of the reasons marriage is so risky btw. If you don’t like their behavior, you can’t just leave anymore without huge consequences. But you also can’t change people. So you’re stuck dealing with it.

[Legz422]

Girls deny it because otherwise they’re forced to admit that they’re either using the guy for attention or keeping him as a backup option. Both make the girl look bad so they’ll deny it until the end.

What if you just genuinely enjoy talking to them? You've never had a friend that you enjoy talking to just to talk and laugh with? No ulterior motive?

[extendlol]

Opinion 1: No respectful guy would text a girl if he wasnt attracted to her, wanted to ****. Childhood friends are exceptions..
Opinion 2: You cant tell your girl who she can and cant talk to.. If she is gonna cheat she will so you best get used to it and trust her.

tldr; Trust your girlfriend to shut down these ******* orbiters, if she entertains them then its a problem

[PoundMobb]

Not OK with me. She will be out the door.

[Silencespeaks]

That was a weird way to word it. Could've said No but instead you said Not really. Do you entertain the possibility of the co-worker being a backup plan, assuming she's attractive?

If your gf's male friends are unattractive then you don't have much to worry about, if you're fine with them pining over her and being weird. But if they're attractive then you need to watch out because I almost guarantee that she sees them as a backup plan.

If they’re unattractive it’s bad too, because that says something about her character. Namely that she’s fine with using people for attention and stringing people along and being insincere about what those guys really want.

[tunafishha]

Im a cuck, so yes. Its even better if they are of African descent.

[Silencespeaks]

Opinion 1: No respectful guy would text a girl if he wasnt attracted to her, wanted to ****. Childhood friends are exceptions..
Opinion 2: You cant tell your girl who she can and cant talk to.. If she is gonna cheat she will so you best get used to it and trust her.

tldr; Trust your girlfriend to shut down these ******* orbiters, if she entertains them then its a problem

Just talking to them is already entertaining them. Orbiters are only around if the girl engages. If she stops talking to them altogether and deletes them off social media, they won’t be around. But she won’t do that because she likes the attention.