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Felt like a beta chit in there talking about my feels and chit. Really fuking gay. They didn't have therapy for the millions of men who fought in WW2. Maybe I am less of a man. Too many feels and not enough strength. They really treat you like a vulnerable child there. What do you bros think?
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12-11-2018, 01:54 AM #1
Does going to therapy make you less of a man?
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12-11-2018, 01:56 AM #2
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12-11-2018, 01:58 AM #3
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12-11-2018, 02:09 AM #4
Nope but does make you less of an idiot.
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12-11-2018, 02:15 AM #5
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12-11-2018, 02:19 AM #6
Bro it really does feel gay being there. It's very emasculating. Men don't cry or talk about their feels. Men are supposed to be strong. I think deep down I am a coward, and it is that cowardice that has held me back from finding that inner strength. If I had been this way during WW2, they'd have just shot me for cowardice. Sad, but true. How can anyone think of being seen as an attractive man, fit to be a father, if he cannot even take care of himself and find his own strength?
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12-11-2018, 02:23 AM #7
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12-11-2018, 02:25 AM #8
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12-11-2018, 02:28 AM #9
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12-11-2018, 02:30 AM #10
A big part of it involves behavioural patterns. "Why do you do the things you do", as opposed to "how does that make you feel?"
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12-11-2018, 02:30 AM #11
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12-11-2018, 02:36 AM #12
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12-11-2018, 02:48 AM #14
This
I did two stints of therapy, one as a young adult for depression and one after my divorce for grief. Both times really helped me out a lot. Just nice to be able to talk about your problems to an impartial person, without burdening or boring a loved one or friend. Helps you understand yourself better.
Btw you can seek out a male therapist if that’s more comfortable. Or maybe a pretty female therapist would be nice too.
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12-11-2018, 03:15 AM #15
No personal experience, but I think that someone who doesn't know you as a friend would definitely have a different outside perspective, which could be beneficial. Also, a therapist isn't an oracle, the goal of a good therapist should be to help you come up with realizations on your own, not to advise and preach.Nuggets of Wisdom
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12-11-2018, 03:16 AM #16
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12-11-2018, 03:25 AM #18
Well I wasn’t really seeking advice. Just was trying to understand myself better and to work through depression and emotional trauma and grief. In my case the therapists provide some guidance but mostly just listened and provided support, more than advice. Plus with grief there’s not much advice to give, it’s something you have to slowly work through with time.
Especially in the case of trauma and grief, it really helps to repeat yourself and tell the story many times to come to terms with it. Not something I’d want to tell a loved one over and over and over, because while they can provide emotional support they have their own life and own problems too, and I wouldn’t want to burden them with talking about my problems over and over.
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12-11-2018, 03:25 AM #19
the only thing worse than being depressed is having to pay someone to hear youre depressed
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12-11-2018, 03:30 AM #20
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12-11-2018, 03:32 AM #21
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The complete opposite.
Its no different than having a certain set of tools to do your job; without them you aren’t doing your job well. A good therapist will help you recognize things that (if applied) can be very beneficial.
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12-11-2018, 03:35 AM #22
Nah you're just insecure because talking about your shortcomings in life makes you face your issues instead of coping by making 1000 ****gy threads full of excuses. Having a conversation about your problems doesn't make you a coward, but all the years of being a stubborn moron and not seeking out help when you clearly need it does.
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12-11-2018, 04:01 AM #24
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You know we wouldn't need so much damn therapy if we could talk about our feelings and **** without ripping each other to shreds. But that's just not the way of men, so yeah, get therapy. Or find some lonely women online and dump on them. Find someone you can talk to who is so far removed from your **** you can deal with it.
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12-11-2018, 04:06 AM #25
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12-11-2018, 04:14 AM #28
I don't think therapy itself is bad, I just don't like the way it's done.
Went to a shrink once sophomore year in college when I was getting seriously depressed over schoolwork. It was one of the most uncanny things I've ever done. They set me up with a PhD student and he just stared at me with this wide-eyed empty stare and this fake smile and listened as I bitched about my life and just went "yeah... yeah..." after everything I said. I don't think he gave a flying fuk. Then he tried to set me up with CBT. I didn't end up doing it cause I didn't want to see that guy again, whole environment seems fake as ****.
The other thing is that I think a lot of shrinks are way too eager to push pills. Sometimes they're the answer, sometimes they're not, but I feel like they're used as sort of a one-size-fits-all solution. The way we hand out SSRIs, and frankly, how cheap and readily available they are (like $5 a bottle even without insurance and any shrink will hook you up with some) is disturbing. It's like fukkin **** for a Walmart-and-Netflix 21st century America.
Addressing your issues head on takes some courage to do - ignoring your problems or worse yet pinning them on other people is cowardice. But me personally, I have always felt that I got better results, if you will, by just having a self-dialogue and asking "why do I want to do this", "why do I feel that way", etc, then having some fukkin shrink give me a wide-eyed stare and nodding at me. To be honest with you bro, I think you are beyond that introspection point, no hate. You've got some hangups to the point where I think you've got to call in the cavalry. Even if it's chitty, even if psychiatry is often really flawed, you've frankly been in a rut for 30 years and it's pretty clear at this point that you aren't going to climb out of it on your own.
But you're not a coward by addressing that. Being a coward would be consciously ignoring the issue even when you know one's there and going "I'm fine, it's women/liberals/other people that cause all the problems!"
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12-11-2018, 04:24 AM #29
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I totally agree with your end point. But you'll be more balanced if you don't keep all of it in. Just don't dump your emotional turmoil where it matters, which is why therapy is useful. Actually it will make you seem more adjusted to everyone else because then you look like more of a rock than you are. It's about the illusion.
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12-11-2018, 04:30 AM #30
No. Mental health is important.
1. Go to therapy and potentially come out with a healthy mind.
2. Don't go. End up with depression/anxiety/whatever.
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