Am I missing something here? (Mind blown at some of my city friends)

[ashin1]

I Went and visited some friends I don’t normally see in a different province(been about 6/7 years since seeing some of these people) and when I ask them how they were doing they openly admitted how much they were struggling financially. So I mention to them that small rural community in remote area were gold mines for higher paying/less stressful jobs. However, despite whatever I say about leaving the city to follow the dollar, majority(only one person, the smartest of the group was interested in moving) thought that wasn’t an option like life wouldn’t cease to exist outside their urban comfort zone.

I’ve lived in the city before and yes it’s fun, but I also enjoy living in rural areas just as much(lots of good to be taken with the bad, for example thingsthat are as abundant in small community would be parking spaces, in the city it can be a nightmare to find close and free parking).

What I am wondering is, am I missing something about the city that makes it so amazing? I like how there is a community of more like minded people, but tbh I’ve grown very accustom to a more independent lifestyle where I’m harder to reach. And I really don’t need to have that many people in my life. One serious draw back to small town living is the lack of wife material girls.
Again not my biggest concerns, so wtf am I missing about the city being so amazing people will live a life of financial hardship just to be in a urban setting?

[midcoastking33]

no, city life is cope. muh energy, muh night life

[wasp9166]

I Went and visited some friends I don’t normally see in a different province(been about 6/7 years since seeing some of these people) and when I ask them how they were doing they openly admitted how much they were struggling financially. So I mention to them that small rural community in remote area were gold mines for higher paying/less stressful jobs. However, despite whatever I say about leaving the city to follow the dollar, majority(only one person, the smartest of the group was interested in moving) thought that wasn’t an option like life wouldn’t cease to exist outside their urban comfort zone.

I’ve lived in the city before and yes it’s fun, but I also enjoy living in rural areas just as much(lots of good to be taken with the bad, for example thingsthat are as abundant in small community would be parking spaces, in the city it can be a nightmare to find close and free parking).

What I am wondering is, am I missing something about the city that makes it so amazing? I like how there is a community of more like minded people, but tbh I’ve grown very accustom to a more independent lifestyle where I’m harder to reach. And I really don’t need to have that many people in my life. One serious draw back to small town living is the lack of wife material girls.
Again not my biggest concerns, so wtf am I missing about the city being so amazing people will live a life of financial hardship just to be in a urban setting?

[ashin1]

no, city life is cope. muh energy, muh night life

I’ve noticed cities have been a breeding ground for people have to constantly go out in “groups” lol

[shmobin]

Would never live in a city crew.


But then again the closest city to me is San Francisco so my view point may be tinted.

[Zackad]

some people cannot fathom living in suburban/rural areas, and need to live in a busy city to feel comfortable.

Maybe their jobs or other circumstances would limit them living further away?

[Issobolic28]

It depends on what you prefer.

Some people like the hustle and bustle of the city.

Some people prefer peace and quiet of the rural areas.

[CaliSuperSport]

"Province"

[ayyy]

relevant vid

[ashin1]

some people cannot fathom living in suburban/rural areas, and need to live in a busy city to feel comfortable.

Maybe their jobs or other circumstances would limit them living further away?

Even if they are experiencing financial hardship?

I know people who have never once lived in a rural setting and have already decide they refuse to give it a chance lol

[wagtail]

Live remote and spend my time basking in my own glory. Last year earned 89k. When I walk my dogs at the beach in the morning, I see 2 or 3 other people maximum.

City life is for suckers.

[MustardTiger17]

Lol at citycels

[Zackad]

Even if they are experiencing financial hardship?

I know people who have never once lived in a rural setting and have already decide they refuse to give it a chance lol

yeah man, some people are very averse to changing their status quo. I'm one of em...but luckily i prefer more suburban areas that are spread out.

I could easily see city-dwellers arguing that moving rural/suburban could be just as expensive once you factor in travel costs, convenience factors, etc. P much just comes down to what people prioritize more

[CoffeeStout]

LOL @ wife material that loves the city life.....
Find you a HBB, make an honest woman out of her, move her out to the sticks to make babies, and then kill her............................................... .................................................. ........................................wait wut?

[ashin1]

yeah man, some people are very averse to changing their status quo. I'm one of em...but luckily i prefer more suburban areas that are spread out.

I could easily see city-dwellers arguing that moving rural/suburban could be just as expensive once you factor in travel costs, convenience factors, etc. P much just comes down to what people prioritize more

So its A comfort zone thing? I figured it was, but tbh from the outside looking in, being financially unstable would make living uncomfortable whether I lived in a city or not. So I just don’t understand, unless the city living truly is just cope

[JoeDelts]

Way less job opportunities would be my guess. If you'll need to commute to the city for a job then what's the point? You're literally wasting your life rotting in traffic. For what? To have a nicer house or bigger property? Not worth it in my opinion.

If I could just snap my fingers and do anything (realistic ) though I think I'd want to be a farmer. Seems like they have the best life. Be your own boss. No overcrowded city and traffic. Do actual meaningful/fulfilling work not just stack endless piles of useless documents. Clean air. +They make good bank.

[Zackad]

So its A comfort zone thing? I figured it was, but tbh from the outside looking in, being financially unstable would make living uncomfortable whether I lived in a city or not. So I just don’t understand, unless the city living truly is just cope

I'd chalk it up to a combination of comfort/convenience/image.

Comfortable because they like the city. Convenient because they're already established, things are close by, and other costs of living are prob lower. Image because people who live in the heart of the city are usually seen as more outgoing, having a better social life, and generally having things to do. VS living in the suburbs, where a standard weekend involves grocery shopping, mowing the lawn, maybe having a basic bbq with a friend or a neighbor, etc.

Of course those aren't fast hard rules, but generally they hold true.

[Droopdx]

Depends what your profession is. If you want to work at a warehouse forever, or a small company then go ahead and live in the boonies. My friend works in finance and has to live in NYC because that’s where the money is at.

[Vexidi]

I live 30 minutes from the closest grocery store and it's glorious. City people operate at a high level of cope but I guess its a natural defense mechanism when you're surrounded by sidewalk chitters, criminals, political activists, etc.

[irollurmom]

I live 30 minutes from the closest grocery store and it's glorious. City people operate at a high level of cope but I guess its a natural defense mechanism when you're surrounded by sidewalk chitters, criminals, political activists, etc.

But you live in Texas.

Try shoveling 2 feet of snow and then driving 25 minutes to the grocery store. Can't wait to close on my condo

[allianc3]

Strong sample size you got there.

[TBO1313]

Way less job opportunities would be my guess. If you'll need to commute to the city for a job then what's the point? You're literally wasting your life rotting in traffic. For what? To have a nicer house or bigger property? Not worth it in my opinion.

If I could just snap my fingers and do anything (realistic ) though I think I'd want to be a farmer. Seems like they have the best life. Be your own boss. No overcrowded city and traffic. Do actual meaningful/fulfilling work not just stack endless piles of useless documents. Clean air. +They make good bank.

Correct on everything about farmers but the making bank part

[irollurmom]

Way less job opportunities would be my guess. If you'll need to commute to the city for a job then what's the point? You're literally wasting your life rotting in traffic. For what? To have a nicer house or bigger property? Not worth it in my opinion.

If I could just snap my fingers and do anything (realistic ) though I think I'd want to be a farmer. Seems like they have the best life. Be your own boss. No overcrowded city and traffic. Do actual meaningful/fulfilling work not just stack endless piles of useless documents. Clean air. +They make good bank.

Most farmers are heavy in debt.

[JoeDelts]

Correct on everything about farmers but the making bank part

I've known 1 guy who grew up on a farm and he told me farmers do pretty well, in part because they get a lot of tax exemptions and subsidies. Beyond that I don't have.much knowledge but I've seen a lot of farmers with what's obviously very expensive equipment not to mention the value of acres of prime growing land. It seems like most of them aren't into flashy status symbols but are smart enough to invest in growing their business.

[ashin1]

My urban move was all for my career. I could have continued living in a less than great community economically speaking, a small town with almost no opportunities, or I could move to a larger, coastal city with a ton of tech jobs and make a fuk ton of money, then eventually move wherever once I hit 35+. Or not, I actually really like it out here.

And there's so much to do. I had to decline one event tonight to make it to a lecture series, then choir, then a dinner with a food critic and well-known chef. Can't say that's a thing I could be doing anywhere but a larger city.

My money would go farther in other places, sure. But when I'm young and not tied down by anything, I'd rather eat glass than live in the sticks.

If it’s for your career that makes sense and understandable. In terms of the op, I am referring to my friends, or those who work minimum wage jobs, or work jobs that don’t nessary evolve your career. Rather it keeps you a float and stagnant.

Living in the sticks ain’t all that bad I mean had it not been for the peace and quiet I probably wouldn’t have learn as much about gardening.

[jasonjb]

would not want to live in butt**** canada with nothing to do

[ImpressiveGainz]

"There's SOOOO much more to do in the big city!"
"We can't afford to do anything because we live in the big city"

Yeah, makes perfect sense to me.

[ashin1]

would not want to live in butt**** canada with nothing to do

A simple mind doesn’t know how to keep engaged and entertained with limited resources. So I can see why you feel that way bruh

[GravityLee]

Ive lived a little more than half my life in small nowhere towns and half in busy tourist destinations.

Living near well populated areas i get asked to hang out so much I have to turn people down. In rural areas my experience has always been the opposite

[Nelly87]

I live abou ~20miles out of a major city.

BRB get that suburban feel and just 2 miles to the southwest and southeast have HUGE state parks to go get lost in.

City is fun to go to games, see shows, occasionally go out. I used to work downtown and took a train in evryday. Got old as phuck quick.

I got best of both worlds.