Spoke with fkbuddy who ghosted me, he wants sex

[Eggiesinabasket]

No.I'm just sad. Nothing is making me happy. I'm tired of crying, a distraction would be good.

Hmmm, I hope you don't get offended if I give my perspective on this. I am making... long shot assumptions--which I acknowledge and do not mean disrespect.

Jay, if you want to read this--its in spoilers. It's a wall of text that I believe most miscers don't want to be bothered by.

Spoiler!

At this moment, you say you're tired and want a distraction...

But let's start at the beginning.

Your shopping addiction was a distraction--temporary "happy" from...something unfullfilling in your life. Sex was a means to keep up that distraction--although this possed many risks which are obvious to most people. You caught an sti as a result. You willfully indulged in destructive behavior for that distraction.

Now here we are. I agree you should tell future partners about your herpes so they can make informed decisions to be with you (good job). However, from what I'm reading this perspective partner still wanted to be with you knowing about your herpes, yet you willingly scared him away/warned him against being with you.

Again, self destructive behavior--he as an adult can decide but you're taking away that decision.

Now you're looking for another distraction. Are you thinking of letting someone have fun with your body? Or starting threads and letting people know about your life on the misc despite all the ridicule?

You're asking why guys run/ghost--I think the more important question you're avoiding is why you're literally self-destructing. Why you don't care and give yourself more love and respect. You're biggest problem and enemy right now is yourself. Take a step back and face yourself head on when you start to do things that hurt yourself. That's just my advice if you want to feel better in the long run and not temporarily with "distractions".

[cookiefiend]

The fuk?

[Fang2]

The fuk?

lol Omega still got you on camp because of what you posted?

[cookiefiend]

lol Omega still got you on camp because of what you posted?

Yeah it's a perma lol. Not really planning on posting back here either, but it was bad timing where I've got a lot of time on my hands tonight and I need something to browse ha

[jay283]

Hmmm, I hope you don't get offended if I give my perspective on this. I am making... long shot assumptions--which I acknowledge and do not mean disrespect.

Jay, if you want to read this--its in spoilers. It's a wall of text that I believe most miscers don't want to be bothered by.

Spoiler!

At this moment, you say you're tired and want a distraction...

But let's start at the beginning.

Your shopping addiction was a distraction--temporary "happy" from...something unfullfilling in your life. Sex was a means to keep up that distraction--although this possed many risks which are obvious to most people. You caught an sti as a result. You willfully indulged in destructive behavior for that distraction.

Now here we are. I agree you should tell future partners about your herpes so they can make informed decisions to be with you (good job). However, from what I'm reading this perspective partner still wanted to be with you knowing about your herpes, yet you willingly scared him away/warned him against being with you.

Again, self destructive behavior--he as an adult can decide but you're taking away that decision.

Now you're looking for another distraction. Are you thinking of letting someone have fun with your body? Or starting threads and letting people know about your life on the misc despite all the ridicule?

You're asking why guys run/ghost--I think the more important question you're avoiding is why you're literally self-destructing. Why you don't care and give yourself more love and respect. You're biggest problem and enemy right now is yourself. Take a step back and face yourself head on when you start to do things that hurt yourself. That's just my advice if you want to feel better in the long run and not temporarily with "distractions".

I see part of it you're wrong about and part of it you're right about. The shopping addiction was a distraction and yeah sex was a distraction.

Telling him wasn't self destructive, he didn't seem to realise the situation because he was just horny so he mind was clouded. I mean he sent me a nude pic after I told him. I do think he too wanted a distraction which is why he's at a bar 3 times a week, sometimes more. I didn't give it up quick which is why he was interested. He himself said he doesn't like easy women at all.

Fun with my body, well it would go both ways but you an the ex fkbuddy are thinking the same thing. He says I'm getting nothing out of the situation. He also wondered why I would want to be in a situation like that.

As for telling others, well I just don't feel shame doing it. I rarely feel shame doing anything really. Once it doesn't hurt others I don't feel bad about doing stuff. But I can realise when something is wrong so I use that judgement to guide my actions most times.

I do care and love myself a lot. It's not intentional really. I do value myself its just to not have a distraction would give me time to face my problems which to be honest there's no solution for, I mean the past can be solved one can only move on from the past. So while I'm trying to repair myself occasionally I need distractions.

[katya422]

No.I'm just sad. Nothing is making me happy. I'm tired of crying, a distraction would be good.

Suggest you might be better served by a non-sexual distraction. Like a hobby, sport, activity...whatever.

And FWIW I understand there are groups/sites for people that are infected already where you might happen to find someone you connect with and with whom this wouldn't be an issue.

[jay283]

Suggest you might be better served by a non-sexual distraction. Like a hobby, sport, activity...whatever.

And FWIW I understand there are groups/sites for people that are infected already where you might happen to find someone you connect with and with whom this wouldn't be an issue.

You're right, might try out boxing.

I've heard those sites suck. That its just.a bunch of people whining and some guys there aren't serious.

[PelvicThrustBP]

getting one of those one pill cures all std's is pretty fkn depressing in itself...

herpes?

holy fuk lol, dunno how id manage. god bless

[Ravishing_Rick]

damn son

[TheRealFLanders]

Jay, I am ghosting you now, k?

LMFAO. Savaúge.

[HoustonMiscer]

Suking diks so you don't think about some guy that you like... Lmfao. Cant you think of another activity besides suking dik to distract you from this chad

[notoriousthug]

What's his misc username op ?

[jay283]

Suking diks so you don't think about some guy that you like... Lmfao. Cant you think of another activity besides suking dik to distract you from this chad

To be honest, don't think anything will really. Every time I'm horny he comes to mind and I'm horny at least 3 times a week. Added to that I see his vehicle parked right across my workplace everyday. So it's frustrating because I can't screw him but don't want to screw anyone else.

I think I was hoping to at least break free from that.

[PowersKenny]

Did not read this thread..I'm all for things but I'm that guy where 50cent drives off with Bert I'm the back seat...this is getting cray cray

[1QWIK7]

What?! You say that now but I'm sure if you were to catch something you would tell the person you sleep with.

Uhh no i wouldn't. Why would I?

I'm not in a relationship. The last couple of girls i had sex with are milfs, for casual sex. No relationship. If they had something, then i probably got it. And if i had something, they probably got it. But i get tested twice a year and i been lucky every single time. Russian roulette? Maybe.

But i know when that time comes, i'm going to keep doing as if i didn't know. What difference does it make if it takes 2 to tango? Now if she asks me if i might have something, different story. But if she doesn't ask, i don't tell.

Until then, raw all day ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRday

[cookiefiend]

Oh my God I just remembered who op is. Not even surprised by this thread now lmao

[SSM12]

Uhh no i wouldn't. Why would I?

I'm not in a relationship. The last couple of girls i had sex with are milfs, for casual sex. No relationship. If they had something, then i probably got it. And if i had something, they probably got it. But i get tested twice a year and i been lucky every single time. Russian roulette? Maybe.

But i know when that time comes, i'm going to keep doing as if i didn't know. What difference does it make if it takes 2 to tango? Now if she asks me if i might have something, different story. But if she doesn't ask, i don't tell.

Until then, raw all day ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRday

Thats sorta selfish bud.

Even if she asks, whats to keep you from lying?

Never had an STD, but I would hope, when I didnt have a gf and was sleeping around, that they would have told me if they had anything. I did ask a few times and everything was cool, but I think each person should be responsible to disclose that stuff.

[selffirst]

You're a pathetic beitch..this coming from a homer...Me.

[TimeTravelerBro]

Condom BJs...?

She got da herps

[jay283]

Uhh no i wouldn't. Why would I?

I'm not in a relationship. The last couple of girls i had sex with are milfs, for casual sex. No relationship. If they had something, then i probably got it. And if i had something, they probably got it. But i get tested twice a year and i been lucky every single time. Russian roulette? Maybe.

But i know when that time comes, i'm going to keep doing as if i didn't know. What difference does it make if it takes 2 to tango? Now if she asks me if i might have something, different story. But if she doesn't ask, i don't tell.

Until then, raw all day ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRday

Nah that ain't the way. Besides knowing my luck I'd probably get killed if I knowingly passed on the shyte by not saying anyway. Besides I believe in being upfront, I like being fair.

It also helps reveal someone's character by how they handle the news. You'd be surprised sometimes persons you would think would be callous about it seem nice
and persons who claim to be super nice are callous about it. However just because someone is nice about it doesn't necessarily mean they are decent.

[1QWIK7]

Nah that ain't the way. Besides knowing my luck I'd probably get killed if I knowingly passed on the shyte by not saying anyway. Besides I believe in being upfront, I like being fair.

It also helps reveal someone's character by how they handle the news. You'd be surprised sometimes persons you would think would be callous about it seem nice
and persons who claim to be super nice are callous about it. However just because someone is nice about it doesn't necessarily mean they are decent.

Like i said i'm not in a relationship so i can't really discredit what you're saying as it does seem like the reasonable thing to do, but when it comes to casual sex, those things shouldn't really be talked about unless the other party asks.

If she doesn't ask, then i don't tell. Plus i already said i get tested twice a year and been lucky all those times so it's not like i have something now, and i'm purposely finding girls to sleep with so i can pass it on out of spite or by being a sick phuck.

When you meet someone with no strings attached, just a get together, then have casual sex, trust me the last thing you want to talk about is, "hey should we get tested for STD's before we sleep with each other?"

It's casual sex, not having sex with a long term partner. If a milf calls me, i kinda know what she wants. I'm not about to ask her, "hey since the last time i banged you, how many other dudes did you see? And did you get tested?"

No, i'm going to meet up with her and creampie the every living chit out of her with no questions asked. On her part and mine.

[jay283]

Like i said i'm not in a relationship so i can't really discredit what you're saying as it does seem like the reasonable thing to do, but when it comes to casual sex, those things shouldn't really be talked about unless the other party asks.

If she doesn't ask, then i don't tell. Plus i already said i get tested twice a year and been lucky all those times so it's not like i have something now, and i'm purposely finding girls to sleep with so i can pass it on out of spite or by being a sick phuck.

When you meet someone with no strings attached, just a get together, then have casual sex, trust me the last thing you want to talk about is, "hey should we get tested for STD's before we sleep with each other?"

It's casual sex, not having sex with a long term partner. If a milf calls me, i kinda know what she wants. I'm not about to ask her, "hey since the last time i banged you, how many other dudes did you see? And did you get tested?"

No, i'm going to meet up with her and creampie the every living chit out of her with no questions asked. On her part and mine.

What kind of casual sex you have boyo? I always used to ask indirectly what the status was if doing unprotected, usually I'd say hell no to unprotected sex if it was casual sex.

Hmm I do get asked if there was a guy in the previous week or so though. Well asked in a roundabout way. I think I'm more likely to give early notice of my condition because I was somewhat given it intentionally in that the guy had an outbreak at the time and was hiding it.

So I know first-hand how that feels so can't do that to someone else.

[Jestbrah]

Suking diks so you don't think about some guy that you like... Lmfao. Cant you think of another activity besides suking dik to distract you from this chad

I mean whenever I have been heartbroken over a girl, having some amazing sex was always a good cope