Kids or No Kids? Tell me why you made the choice. (Older Miscers Welcome!)

[Luc1fer]

Too much truth. My girl and I decided years ago to not have children. Just never felt the desire, but definitely felt the pressure. One of our close friends has a 2yo and all she does is post on IG about her daughter. They got a sitter one night got trashed (had to call an uber) and all they talked about is how tired they are and how envious they are of our life. We travel extensively and outdoors every weekend.

Anyways because we never felt the desire to have kids, we dont feel like we are missing out. Its not that we dislike kids, whenever we have get together, parents and their kids are welcome. The one thing that does agitate me is todays parents are hyper focused on their kids. Cant have a conversation without the kids interrupting in 2 mins. When I was kid, when adults came over I was told to be seen and not heard. I loved it...great opportunity to go play....not todays kids....holy chit.

Advantages of not having kids: Build wealth faster, life in general is just easier. Travel more. Life isn't centered around just one thing (kids). Sex life is better.

That's all well and good until you're old, what age are you and her?

[wasp9166]

52, no kids, never married

i'll never be backed into a corner by a woman , ever

half my ret cuz i had a kid or two with you? while you bounce on fresh shlong?

child support for you to buy panties?

gtfoh

fool's game , sad, but the truth


things can change in life , gota protect yourself

the person you love today could very well be the one you hate tomm

life was not meant for a man to be railroaded by poosy

i'd rather die with everything i worked hard for and a dog

[Luc1fer]

52, no kids, never married

i'll never be backed into a corner by a woman , ever

half my ret cuz i had a kid or two with you? while you bounce on fresh shlong?

child support for you to buy panties?

gtfoh

fool's game , sad, but the truth


things can change in life , gota protect yourself

the person you love today could very well be the one you hate tomm

life was not meant for a man to be railroaded by poosy

i'd rather die with everything i worked hard for and a dog

You may be just extremely paranoid.

[wasp9166]

You may be just extremely paranoid.

or a realist

[Luc1fer]

or a realist

There are happy marriages and families out there too.

[redmelly]

52, no kids, never married

i'll never be backed into a corner by a woman , ever

half my ret cuz i had a kid or two with you? while you bounce on fresh shlong?

child support for you to buy panties?

gtfoh

fool's game , sad, but the truth


things can change in life , gota protect yourself

the person you love today could very well be the one you hate tomm

life was not meant for a man to be railroaded by poosy

i'd rather die with everything i worked hard for and a dog

That's called chittin' in tall cotton. What kind of women do you date? Do they already have kids?

[Ratfish]

Age: 35

chose to skip

only had one GF so far who didn't want kids so i pretty much date them until it self destructs based on no marriage/no kids

fine by me, since by then they've run out of stories and i know all of their sex moves

i see absolutely no reason why i would crank up the stress/pressure rheostat to max for no reason

[Rabbitjb]

Some people enjoy repetition ..long may it last

This thread is for us homies who haven't had kids, but probably will (or at least haven't made up their mind).

Can everyone tell why you chose to have kids? OR why you chose to not have kids?

I really want to hear from the guys/girls who were torn and then did it.

I still got a few years before I want to have a little Clydesdale, so I'm curious.



Thanks for your replies.

-Clyde

It’s a whole phase of life that I would regret not experiencing. It’s normal to grow through phases and doing the same thing over and over gets dull

Full on, close your eyes and leap into the dark new thing that throws your life upside down

I’m richer in spirit and joy being a parent ...made great friends and experienced consistently ridiculous new stuff

And I spent a long time swearing I wouldn’t ever have kids ..now I just swear at them ..the little feckers

It’s worth it ...I haven’t missed out on any human experience..I’m less selfish, more complete and I know what being single and a non parent felt like ..I have a direct comparison ...having kids is better (for me) than not

[Autopilot]

No kids and I'm not going to have any. I'm not against it but I'm in my mid 30s now and it just never happened. My current SO is 28yrs old and cannot have kids and I'm totally fine with it. I'm not really worried about passing on my genes. No one is going to remember who I am a couple years after I die anyway.

[Ratfish]

No kids and I'm not going to have any. I'm not against it but I'm in my mid 30s now and it just never happened. My current SO is 28yrs old and cannot have kids and I'm totally fine with it. I'm not really worried about passing on my genes. No one is going to remember who I am a couple years after I die anyway.

doesn't it get tedious to always have all the money you need to buy whatever you want and not have the stress of making ends meet?

makes me tear up just thinking about it

[Autopilot]

doesn't it get tedious to always have all the money you need to buy whatever you want and not have the stress of making ends meet?

It's rough having so much money. And don't get me started on all of the vacations I have to take.

[arn710]

My wife told me very early on in our relationship that she did not want kids. She has held firm to that stance for almost 15 years now.

After she we got married, she stopped taking her birth control to help combat some other health problems. We agreed then to let the cards play out from there

So yeah, one or both of us is infertile or we skipped the day in sex ed where they talk about how to actually make a baby

There are times when I feel like I would like to have a child but its not a strong desire for me. We're very happy as we are

We have a big family that we get to enjoy too. My wife has 6 nephews and my first niece/nephew from my side is due in May. I'll just spoil them instead

[Ratfish]

It's rough having so much money. And don't get me started on all of the vacations I have to take.

that's brutal. what about not having to work until Age: 75 because you put 3 ingrates through college?

[Rabbitjb]

It's rough having so much money. And don't get me started on all of the vacations I have to take.

We take 2 -3 family vacations and 1 or 2 long weekend breaks as a couple most years

It’s rough having joint incomes and options

[GiveMeTheD]

Not sure whether to have kids or not. I am 29 now, girlfriend is 27... I know she will want kids eventually, but she is happy for us to enjoy ourselves travelling the world at the moment.

When I see my sister with her two kids, I almost get anxiety at the idea of your whole life revolving around someone else for the next 18 years. But then the idea of looking at another person and them being an extension of you, helping to mould them, is fascinating to me.

And obviously if you raise your kids well, you will be rewarded in retirement when you get to see the little grandkids running around at christmas etc.

Its a tough one.

[arn710]

We take 2 -3 family vacations and 1 or 2 long weekend breaks as a couple most years

It’s rough having joint incomes and options

Must suck having strangers raise your kids so you can have a few extra beans in your pocket

What's the point?

[Autopilot]

We take 2 -3 family vacations and 1 or 2 long weekend breaks as a couple most years

It’s rough having joint incomes and options

What does having a joint incomes have to do with having kids? I own a home with my SO and we make $200K+ a year combined. I have plenty of options.

[Rabbitjb]

^^ responding to your implied parental poverty post of how wealthy you are without kids

Must suck having strangers raise your kids so you can have a few extra beans in your pocket

What's the point?

I stayed home with them the first 7 years ...When they were in primary husband took them into school and I worked hours where I was home when they got home and every holiday, now I’m home within an hour or two of them getting home and all school holidays

My kids have never been in childcare ...apart from eldest when he was a baby and I had to go back to work for 10 months to help secure a merger and decent pay off to fund extended time at home

Next question ?

[redmelly]

Not sure whether to have kids or not. I am 29 now, girlfriend is 27... I know she will want kids eventually, but she is happy for us to enjoy ourselves travelling the world at the moment.

When I see my sister with her two kids, I almost get anxiety at the idea of your whole life revolving around someone else for the next 18 years. But then the idea of looking at another person and them being an extension of you, helping to mould them, is fascinating to me.

And obviously if you raise your kids well, you will be rewarded in retirement when you get to see the little grandkids running around at christmas etc.

Its a tough one.

Regarding the grandkids, it sounds good in theory but once the grandkids came around the old folks were nowhere to be found. They were too busy vacationing, relaxing, drinking their wine. My siblings and I have had a heck of a time getting grandparents to even babysit. They are just too damn old and want to relax, not deal with a whining or screaming kid.

A lot of what they tell us about how things will be with starting a family just don't pan out the way we think it will.

[Vexidi]

Two sons, 17 & 12. I love being a dad and doing all the father son chit but I might be singing a different song if I had daughters.

[melDorado]

Having kids is like growing your own best freinds for me. Mine are grown up now and id rather hang with them than anyone. Theyre really fun

[arn710]

^^ responding to your implied parental poverty post of how wealthy you are without kids

Next question ?

Why did you craft such a smug response to a post that you weren't even involved in?

[Rabbitjb]

Why did you craft such a smug response to a post that you weren't even involved in?

That’s how forums work ..people post chit and anybody can respond with their experience or perspective

You must be new to the internet

[Vexidi]

Having kids is like growing your own best freinds for me. Mine are grown up now and id rather hang with them than anyone. Theyre really fun

Sounds like you raised 'em right.

[arn710]

That’s how forums work ..people post chit and anybody can respond with their experience or perspective

You must be new to the internet

Nope. Not new to smug bitches either

[Rabbitjb]

Nope. Not new to smug bitches either

Seem pretty new to irony tho

I find it interesting that I used almost exactly the same wording as him in my response, on purpose from the perspective of a parent, and yet you choose to call me out as smug ...

Wanna know something...I am fukken smug ...but like anyone it’s been a roller coaster and it could all go up in smoke tomorrow...that’s life son

[Frank Drebin]

doesn't it get tedious to always have all the money you need to buy whatever you want and not have the stress of making ends meet?

makes me tear up just thinking about it

It's rough having so much money. And don't get me started on all of the vacations I have to take.

How you fellas feel about married folk with combined incomes that quadruple what you do?

[Jibt3ch]

Don’t have kids unless the woman you’re with is somebody you’ll want to be with for the rest of your life. Even if you break up you’re going to be dealing with her until you die.

[Vexidi]

Nope. Not new to smug bitches either

Don't be russled. She's just a sassy british bird who needs a good old fashioned over the knee.

[Rabbitjb]

Don't be russled. She's just a sassy british bird who needs a good old fashioned over the knee.

Fuk you Texas..let him be rustled if he chooses to be