Kids or No Kids? Tell me why you made the choice. (Older Miscers Welcome!)

[Clydesdale1991]

This thread is for us homies who haven't had kids, but probably will (or at least haven't made up their mind).

Can everyone tell why you chose to have kids? OR why you chose to not have kids?

I really want to hear from the guys/girls who were torn and then did it.

I still got a few years before I want to have a little Clydesdale, so I'm curious.



Thanks for your replies.

-Clyde

[hxa]

Can't really tell you why i chose to have kids. But my son is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Can't put it in words how much he means to me and how awesome he is.

edit: I probably had him because I don't want to be alone when I'm old.

I want to have 100 kids, so I can have 100 friends... Seriously, this song probably helped me decide to have kids

[hendrixfreak70]

My children are my life, brah. You're never truly rich until you experience fatherhood. My son is 11 and he loves throwing the football with me and shooting rifles. My daughter is nine and looks up to me as her protector. They bring meaning to my life. They're literally the reason I wanted to be a better person.

[DesiredUserphag]

Never kids. I've spent my whole life getting rid of things that cause me stress. I'm reminded that I never want them every time I'm at a store and someone's kids are screaming or crying for no reason. I'll save myself a life of embarrassment, stress, worry, etc. Just not for me.

[Smashiin]

Never having kids because of my mental Illness. I have enough to deal with as it is.

[EdDibb]

Life has no meaning if you don't pass your genes forward. It's the basic drive of every single living being on earth.
If you don't have children, you're basically losing the evolution game.



inb4 "But we evolved past animals and I'm a thinking complex individual and muh *tips fedora*"
yeah fukoff

[DSTEE]

Most people get their meaning in life from having responsibility (which a kid brings you). People also prefer to have some kind of growth in life (something to look forward to) and not stagnate. Most of the young people I know who has gotten a kid have jobs without much room for growth in them so imo they get a kid because they don't want to feel stagnated in life. Plus empathy and chit towards a kid feel good on the vagus nerve cuz



Around 1/4 of men don't have kids for whatever reason. No plans for it here in the coming decade at least

[screwnuts]

I have 2 kids and another one on the way. I just knew after a certain point in my life that I wanted kids. It's a lot of work, but I think it's worth it.

Don't let anybody else talk you into kids if you don't want them, because you're doing the kids a disservice if you aren't going to be a fully committed parent. I've seen this with a few friends. Some of them ended up getting divorced because one partner didn't give a **** about the kid(s).

[Entropia]

My wife and I have four, all of them under twelve. Our first was unexpected, but we tried for the others. Really were just going for three but ended up with fraternal twins.

Three boys and a girl. They are my world. I have no regrets; sure, My wife and I missed out on some of the things childless couples get to do early on in their marriages, but the vacations I get to take with my family more than makes up for it.

Plus, when I'm old and decrepit, I'll have a bunch of kids and maybe grandkids to take care of my old ass.

[WorldWarZ]

Chose not to have kids because I love the way my life is and cannot see how kids will benefit that. Sure they're great and all but I don't want to make the necessary sacrifices one needs to make when they become a parent. Also no girl will let me willingly impregnate her.

[SerbianSickKant]

Not interested in that lifestyle, just not for me
I do admire good parents
I do hate chitty parents who only got kids so their whole life wouldnt be a fail

[soaponarope1]

Life has no meaning if you don't pass your genes forward. It's the basic drive of every single living being on earth.
If you don't have children, you're basically losing the evolution game.



inb4 "But we evolved past animals and I'm a thinking complex individual and muh *tips fedora*"
yeah fukoff

I have no kids but probably will in a few years, don't really agree with life having no meaning if you don't pass genes on.

In an uncertain amount of time humans will not exist at all, so no genes having been passed on will matter. I think the meaning of a persons life is unique to them, and has to do with specific things they want to accomplish in life. Whether that is to climb the tallest mountains, raise 8 kids, have a successful business, whatever.

This isn't 80,000 BC where there is a real risk of the species dying out if you don't breed. In 2018 you should only have kids after giving it some very serious thought and finding a completely compatible partner.

[Jonphinguyen7]

Your biology urges you to have kids as a way of preserving your DNA.

Having kids is GOAT and not raising a child is one of the worst mistakes you can make srs

[Gt3x24x7]

No kids. Anyone who says I should worry about preserving DNA or genes is a fool that thinks linearly. We're overpopulated and frankly, I'd rather make a **** ton of money and treat myself to what I want. I'll let other people have kids and then live in poverty, stress, pay check to pay check, and more. You don't need blood to be family. Open to adopting though. I make my own meaning of life. Not my lifestyle, see no benefits to having kids, and make sacrifces for my own benefit. Respect great parents doe srs

[Redwine006]

Don't have any but definitely want a son.

Scared to have daughter dead srs.

My dad is my hero in every way. Steady as a rock. One of the best cowboys I've ever seen and taught me everything I know. Hope I can even be half the man he is and hopefully my son will look at me the same way.

song used to make me cry when I was little and still hits my feelers to this day

[redmelly]

This thread is for us homies who haven't had kids, but probably will (or at least haven't made up their mind).

Can everyone tell why you chose to have kids? OR why you chose to not have kids?

I really want to hear from the guys/girls who were torn and then did it.

I still got a few years before I want to have a little Clydesdale, so I'm curious.



Thanks for your replies.

-Clyde

If I could give any advice I"d say do not have them while you are young.. Wait until you are at least into your 30's. Get your travel done (traveling with kids sucks). Fully appreciate your ability to be completely selfish. Once the kids come, here is what goes:

- Sleep - big time. Just the whole lack of sleep is really horrible. Being woken up every couple of hours.
- Ability to do what you want, when you want
- Self improvement - at least for the immediate aftermath due to inability to get enough sleep and their needs are enormous. Moms expect the dads to help. It's hard to workout when you are on 3-4 hours of sleep.

I'm not even going to get into the expenses.

Those are the main points I'd make. Other than that, if you want them go for it. You will not regret it. However, if you decide to not have them, you can have a great life as well. Don't be pressured.

[samsbolton]

I have no kids but probably will in a few years, don't really agree with life having no meaning if you don't pass genes on.

In an uncertain amount of time humans will not exist at all, so no genes having been passed on will matter. I think the meaning of a persons life is unique to them, and has to do with specific things they want to accomplish in life. Whether that is to climb the tallest mountains, raise 8 kids, have a successful business, whatever.

This isn't 80,000 BC where there is a real risk of the species dying out if you don't breed. In 2018 you should only have kids after giving it some very serious thought and finding a completely compatible partner.

This.

Lots of great men and women never had kids. I may squire a young filly in a few years just because, but at the moment I'm not fussed and would rather stack paper. At the end of the day your kid will almost certainly be the complete non entity that most of us are.

[MichelleLnne]

8 years as a parent and i still get mind blown when i think about it. how

[SerbianSickKant]

8 years as a parent and i still get mind blown when i think about it. how

probably cuz you spend 20h a day on the misc

[anonkunbrah]

No kids. I've been trying forever with my tranny gf and she still can't conceive

[wooosh3]

i still gotta get my chit together before i even think about spreading my seed

[MichelleLnne]

probably cuz you spend 20h a day on the misc

i have 11k posts in over 7 years. Must not spend that much time on here


edit- also you're really starting to annoy me(which is hard to do) so from here on out i wont be responding to you anymore.

[redmelly]

I didn't really answer your question, so why I chose to have kids: I knew that if I didn't have them I might regret it later. I also knew that I probably wouldn't regret having them because they are a part of me and we are biologically wired to love our kids more than ourselves.

[sg1976]

My son wasn't actually planned but that's ok because at the end of the day it was worth it. Don't get it screwed up though brahs it's an exhausting job. You'll be tired. Youll have to deal with a miserable woman for a few months. The kid will scream. You'll change diapers what feels like every 3 minutes, but when you see the kid smile at you for the first time it all changes.

Also since we are posting songs, this is my fatherhood song

[Frank Drebin]

I never entertained the thought of not having kids, not since I was a kid myself. It was just a matter of when.

I wasn't what I thought it would be like. Its better, srs.

Since we're posting songs

[OntheClockNE]

My daughter is 20 and a sophomore in college, my son is 17 and is a Jr. in high school. I have been divorced 5 years, and the kids were the best part of that 21 years of my life. I know folks who have no kids and are happy as can be, each person is different. It is very fulfilling for me to see them achieve things and getting to instill strong moral characteristics into them.

I would do it all again, with a surrogate, knowing what I know now. Don't get me started on marriage....

[MichelleLnne]

My son wasn't actually planned but that's ok because at the end of the day it was worth it. Don't get it screwed up though brahs it's an exhausting job. You'll be tired. Youll have to deal with a miserable woman for a few months. The kid will scream. You'll change diapers what feels like every 3 minutes, but when you see the kid smile at you for the first time it all changes.

Also since we are posting songs, this is my fatherhood song

[Youtube]outube]

this song makes me cry every time i hear it..lol so yes somewhat tearing up right now

[bigbutnothuge]

5 conceptions and 1 live birth and 1 step-kid between 1998-2007. I wanted kids. Have a boy and a girl and that's it for now. I think I might have more when I'm older and get a younger chick(s). Still married right now and my wife definitely isn't having any more.

[bigbutnothuge]

Youll have to deal with a miserable woman for a few months.

That's if you are lucky. You are likely to end up dealing with a miserable woman for 18-life.

[sFunk]

Who the phuk CHOOSES to have a kid? Should just have one at some point after banging your partner over time, even with contraception.

Had one 2 months ago, best thing that ever happened to me, even though it ruined my life. That is, it destroyed any plans that I had for myself previously, however my new plans are 10x better now that they are not all about me.

The only trick is to not knock up a crazy person or else your life will suck. Definitely made a good decision on that point.