Need serious advice, I’m married and young

[Olympia2018]

Okay I am new to the form, I’ll try to write this out best I can.

I have been married now for 3 months, I’ve fallen in love with this woman so much. We are inseparable when times are good, she has helped me buy a new car, covered bills for me to move here and supported me here as I went from making 6 figures a year to giving it all up to be with her which is what she wanted and I did too as long as we are stable,

however the bad times comes more often then it should and this is where I am lost and don’t know what to do.

I had moved states away after a long distance relationship to be with the love of my life. She is Filipino, she is a nurse. Her family (brother mother and father) live all together in a tiny house. We had plans before I moved here to get our own place. Since I have been here now for 4 months I can see that she is not ready or willing to do so, she always puts her families needs before me, she fights with me 1-2 times a week and when she does, she will not respond to my phone calls, my texts, or anything. We live together (or I live with her it seems like) and she may start a fight or I may start one but when we do I immediately always go “look let’s not fight or do this” what she does is then will not respond, she will sit there without saying a word, this will go on for DAYS, and as this is happening I am sitting in her house (or the gym or store or wherever) waiting for her to talk to me. When she gets off of work I am sitting in the room, she will go take a seat out in the living room with her family in this little tiny house where there is not only room for me but even if I stood out there they will not even say a single word to me and speak in a different language. I just sit here in the room and wait and wait. This will go on for days. I have tried everything, I have gone as far as giving her space, to apologizing even when it’s not my fault to begging her to talk to me. It’s like a game to her to punish me. What’s worse is she is paying all the bills so it’s like I’m trapped here. Every time I go look for a job we fight somehow and this hapless to where I feel like leaving back home states away and starting over. Please I need sincere advice I don’t know to give up or what, I have tried everything and she refuses to not stop ignoring me and pretending I don’t exist for days when In the first place (NOT ALWAYS) it may be her fault for the fight to begin with. I love her with every thing in me


Cliffs

Moved states away to be with love of my life

We fight 2-3 times a week and when it happens she will ignore me for days

It’s a difficult situation because of living situation

[atjoblin]

Can't argue if she's dead nomsayin

[WillBrink]

And that's after 3 months of marriage? Didn't get to that level 'till years of dating or marriage, the one time I was dumb enough to do it. If that's what you're experiencing after 3 months, you done goofed. If you have a kid with her, well, you're life will take on a level of suck you can't even fathom right now. You have been warned.

[TheFuarkingBoss]

Men don't fight with women.

Read the book 'way of the superior man'

[dimassive]

im sorry bruh but it seems that she will never change and will always put her family before you.
people make mistakes, you should really think about ending the relationship srs

[Tormoz]

It takes two to tango.


Two player can play the game


etc

[Muzzlrpress]

How long were you dating?

[BigAnusBoy]

Thats the asian way, you will be living with her parents until they die

[Cass40]

I'm sorry to say but I don't see that relationship working out.

[dbluevette]

You're going to need to man up and get a job and be the provider of your family. If she pays all the bills and rent and you contribute nothing, there's no wonder why she resents you. You're just like another mouth to feed, or a child really. Step up and be the man of the house.

[iabs]

Your first mistake was to marry a Filipina if you are not Filipino.

[Olympia2018]

No kids. I expected her ignoring me like I don’t exist to get better. And it did at times. But now I feel like the more commitment I put in (which is everything) the easier it is for her to manipulate me and do this.

Here’s how the last fight went down;

She doesn’t ever want to cook with me she always goes home and eats some nasty Filipino food her parents made her, I suggest for once we cook together as when we get our own place she’ll have no choice too. So I say let’s go to the store and let’s find something together. She argues she won’t eat what I eat. I said we can try. She then proceeds to say “find someone who will do that for you”

I pull over and say “what right do you have to say that to me? I didn’t say anything for you to say this” she then proceeds to tell me to find someone who will. I get mad at this point and say I already have (which I have no problem before her this is one of the reasons I was so upset in the first place. What girl doesn’t??) she then says good to go talk to them. I angrily agree. A couple silent moments pass by and I go “look let’s not fight and do this and just pick some food up and enjoy each other and be happy”

I haven’t heard from her since and I have asked at least 100 times for her to stop ignoring and fighting me and let’s move on. It’s been 3 days no word, nothing. This type of thing happens every single week literally. She promised me she would communicate with me and not do this, and has not and it’s gettinv worse

[hoganrulz]

Men don't fight with women.

Read the book 'way of the superior man'

men dont read, they just are superior.

[RushEm]

i really hope we're toastin in a delicious roll bread right now

[itsBloc]

My condolences, OP. Seems like you're in a quicksand situation..The longer you stay in it, the worse it's going to get.

[Olympia2018]

It’s not that way trust me. I was making 6,000 paychecks bi weekly before and this problem was WORSE then. It’s not the $ situation. She makes over 100,000 a year now as well.

[ClevageGobbler]

Get's married and the agreement is to be together forever
brb bitch acts like you dont exist for days at a time lol

Cut all ties with that dumb broad and just call it a loss. You're young, it's nothing much but a small mistake

[iabs]

3 days ignoring you and not saying a single word??

Wtf, you need to THINK this one out and stop “listening to your heart/dik”.

[N0rds]

Man, so many red flags for your relationship, You're in a pretty bad spot, and I'm not sure how much the misc would be able to help.


arguing that often is not healthy, especially if shes only happy with you (hell, even speaking to you) for 1 or 2 days of the week.


Can you imagine spending the next 50 years with this only getting worse? I have a feeling you dun goofed when you married your oneitis.

[Olympia2018]

I hadn’t seen her for two weeks after a fight and I left. When I came back I drove over 20 hours straight no sleep to see her. When I arrived we had plans to hangout obviously, her brother invited her to the mall and she tried to ditch me to go hangout with him and told me to meet her there with them and that’s us spending time together. This happened a couple weeks ago

[W1LLW]

Okay I am new to the form, I’ll try to write this out best I can.

I have been married now for 3 months, I’ve fallen in love with this woman so much. We are inseparable when times are good, she has helped me buy a new car, covered bills for me to move here and supported me here as I went from making 6 figures a year to giving it all up to be with her which is what she wanted and I did too as long as we are stable,

however the bad times comes more often then it should and this is where I am lost and don’t know what to do.

[supersystem3]

i really hope we're toastin in a delicious roll bread right now

Same

[Olympia2018]

I went through a marriage kinda like this, when times were good things were great. When times got hard it went to chit real quick. Walking on eggshells, fighting over meaningless bs, not wanting to be around each other, etc.

Divorce sucks but its better than being in a terrible marriage.

Have you thought of trying counseling? Also how did it get so bad in 3 months?

She refuses to go to counciling with me, she refuses to talk to anyone about me when “she’s hurt” but if someone says hi or a friend ask he’d something she’s all happy and acts completely normal

[N0rds]

I hadn’t seen her for two weeks after a fight and I left. When I came back I drove over 20 hours straight no sleep to see her. When I arrived we had plans to hangout obviously, her brother invited her to the mall and she tried to ditch me to go hangout with him and told me to meet her there with them and that’s us spending time together. This happened a couple weeks ago

This is beyond fuked up, to the point she is using you for something. Is she a citizen? Are you being her sugar daddy with your savings from previous job?


You sound more like some dude she uses as a relationship bootycall.





edit: are we getting rolled?

[goingcia]

No pics of bobs and vagene?

[BearTactics]

You done goofed when you gave up your career for her. Then you goofed harder my moving in with her without options. You took all your leverage from yourself and now are at her mercy. NEVER BE AT THE MERCY OF A WOMAN. A man leads and a woman follows, not gives up his life while she makes no concessions. This point alone is worth hauling ass right now. Get the fuk out of there

[Better Unborn]

It's not cheating if it's just twinks off craigslist.

[Olympia2018]

This is beyond fuked up, to the point she is using you for something. Is she a citizen? Are you being her sugar daddy with your savings from previous job?


You sound more like some dude she uses as a relationship bootycall.





edit: are we getting rolled?

No sir no roll bread, I haven’t been on here in a long time Ill post pictures of what I have from the relationship to prove, is it [pic] then [/pic] right?


I’m not going to lie, I am her first love ever, I am in ways a god to her as sh

[TimDF]

What state did you move to?

[dbluevette]