Need serious advice, I’m married and young

[optimus1]

She does not love you. She loves that you love her. Think about this, and I guarantee you will see proof of it.

Please just leave now. Don't wait until the 1st. She doesn't own you any money, and hopefully wouldn't knowingly give you money to leave with. Sell something, panhandle at gas stations, whatever it takes to get out.

She sounds very much like an ex of mine, which seemed to have borderline personality disorder as Optimus1 mentioned. I understand that you love her and wish it weren't how it is. Unfortunately it is how it is. There is NO fix for this. GTFO. The only other option is to have a kid before she divorces you. This is not getting better. I'm very happily married and take marriage seriously. I wouldn't give this advice lightly.

Yes, the sad reality that you need to accept is that things will never really get better and she will never really change as much as you'd like. What you're experiencing now you will literally experience for the rest of your life. There may be nice moments as well, but she will always find a way to make you miserable again.

[Luc1fer]

You're asking why a 2 year old acts like a 2 year old. It doesn't have to make sense. She liked him, now she's tired of him. She still wants him for the social aspects of being married to a white guy, to show off to friends, having at social gatherings, take pictures with, etc. But as a person, she's bored with him and either wants a new toy or is just back to focusing on her close knit family.

So there's some rationale to it, like OP mentioned she does like to take pics and smile, and act like her life is amazing. Sad really.

And I know so many women like this. Social media is such a joke.

[optimus1]

So there's some rationale to it, like OP mentioned she does like to take pics and smile, and act like her life is amazing. Sad really.

And I know so many women like this. Social media is such a joke.

Commitment means nothing nowadays. It really is all about appearances.

[PisseninMisc]

You live in Carson? Lol that's the saddest part about this post if you came from a 2 story house + 6 figures from texas...

Dude, jokes aside I feel sorry for you. I mean holy fuk what is WRONG WITH YOU *******? I truly hope this is an elaborate troll thread cause it hurts me to see someone in this position. You're better than this you dumb kunt. You were the man, you had the house, girls doing your laundry, 6 figures... and you gave it up to be bished at by some filipino hooker and her ****gy family? Are you fuking kidding me? Do you not have any bros in real life to kick your ass? You're a cop for fuks sake, what did the guys from your department have to say about these retarded choices?

Fukin hell man I haven't been this rustled in a very, VERY long time. My jimmies are on fukin maximum rustle mode.

End it and walk away before she straps on a plastic dik and literally fuks you in your anus. Get out now.

[LoydChristmas]

sucks man. I feel bad for you.

[SxeSam]

You live in Carson? Lol that's the saddest part about this post if you came from a 2 story house + 6 figures from texas...

Dude, jokes aside I feel sorry for you. I mean holy fuk what is WRONG WITH YOU *******? I truly hope this is an elaborate troll thread cause it hurts me to see someone in this position. You're better than this you dumb kunt. You were the man, you had the house, girls doing your laundry, 6 figures... and you gave it up to be bished at by some filipino hooker and her ****gy family? Are you fuking kidding me? Do you not have any bros in real life to kick your ass? You're a cop for fuks sake, what did the guys from your department have to say about these retarded choices?

Fukin hell man I haven't been this rustled in a very, VERY long time. My jimmies are on fukin maximum rustle mode.

End it and walk away before she straps on a plastic dik and literally fuks you in your anus. Get out now.

Strong username to thread to post. PMed OP and offered to hear him out in person and buy him and beer. Wanted to confirm for the misc but my doubts are growing with every post

[Maximus93]

Speak to a lawyer BEFORE letting her on that you're even remotely considering a divorce. They'll be able to help you hold on to as much money as possible. I'd suggest going the abuse route as well, will help in divorce court. You can cite how you moved across the country to be with her and she became emotionally manipulative. Record dates, events, get word from the councillor if you can that you sought help into your relationship that never eventuated (due to her refusal). Reference her love of material items and how she'd constantly brag to her friends about you while treating you badly. You would never share YOUR household since she would be with her family.

I think you have a solid case for emotional abuse.

[KingKringe]

I went from making 6 figures a year to giving it all up to be with her

chittt son

[seanb1979]

she sounds psycho - what woman doesnt talk for days?

[paul_v]

You need to start planning an escape route as others suggested.

But until then play her games. Reverse psychology works well. My wife and I went through some tough times. She wanted to get a divorce. Instead of begging her not to I was like "ok" and I shrugged it off. I started hanging out with friends (no cheating!) and started doing my own things. I basically showed her that my life can go on without her. Worked like a charm and she changed her mind. Right now our marriage is stronger than ever.

[PisseninMisc]

Strong username to thread to post. PMed OP and offered to hear him out in person and buy him and beer. Wanted to confirm for the misc but my doubts are growing with every post

Honestly tempted to hit him up too. Manhattan beach crew, if I wait for the 405 to clear, can make it down to Carson in 15 mins.

Told myself never would meet up with any miscer cause tons of psychos out there, but this guy sounds like he is in dire need of help. Or he could be a troll. I don't want to believe this thread cause it's just fuked up.

[optimus1]

You need to start planning an escape route as others suggested.

But until then play her games. Reverse psychology works well. My wife and I went through some tough times. She wanted to get a divorce. Instead of begging her not to I was like "ok" and I shrugged it off. I started hanging out with friends (no cheating!) and started doing my own things. I basically showed her that my life can go on without her. Worked like a charm and she changed her mind. Right now our marriage is stronger than ever.

Don't give OP hope that things might change, they won't. Also, I'm with others thinking this might be troll bread/Gmisc bull**** going on based on later responses.

[Luc1fer]

You need to start planning an escape route as others suggested.

But until then play her games. Reverse psychology works well. My wife and I went through some tough times. She wanted to get a divorce. Instead of begging her not to I was like "ok" and I shrugged it off. I started hanging out with friends (no cheating!) and started doing my own things. I basically showed her that my life can go on without her. Worked like a charm and she changed her mind. Right now our marriage is stronger than ever.

wow really, I would've thought you'd be stuck in that cycle.

[GravityLee]

Ive been going through the entire thread and OP what it seems like for your wife:

A.) She is cheating on you (longer work hours, etc.) and keeping you as the burden at home..

B.) Using emotionally, loves the game of manipulating you and knows she can keep you on a short leash, thats why she treats you like chit, because she knows you wont leave, you DEPEND on her not the other way around ( you have no job, etc .)

C.) treating you like chit as a form of psychological resentment towards men as in the story of her father cheating on mother, etc..

The fact that she is refusing to seek counsellation, couples therapy etc says a lot how she gives no chit about it and likes things the way they are.

In any case OP what ever the reason may be, GET OUT , I would slap the chit out of you for your own good. Just pack your bags , dissapear, dont text, dont call, nothing. Serve her those divorce papers and get it over with..

At first it may hurt, youll feel out of your comfort zone, but brother, you will feel the burden release after a few weeks and save yourself a life of misery and pain in the long run.

This 100%. Most women ive met that act this way were

[A] hot but entitled trash
[B] abused as a child and permanently damaged irreparably

[fknmisc]

I’m 25 and I did college with a 4.0 gpa and been in more relationships and woman then I’ve ever counted too. I have never been in love and never in love with a different culture or dealt with someone like this

No OP, youve never been treated like **** like this in your life. You feel its hard to leave her because of your feeling of dependance on her which she created by making you her dog. Your not in love, your scared to lose your comfort zone that you created as she provides for you. All those loving memories are bull****, you can create it with any girl, SRS. Stop wasting your time, life and energy, better to leave ASAP, like in as im typing this.

[CheetahMac]

Please provide a followup on this OP. Situation totally sucks and I hope the best for ya. Good luck with everything.

[keithsweatshirt]

Boy if youn getcho ass

[SinaloaPaisa]

I've banged probably 10-12, haven't done the math in awhile. But I have also worked and known on a platonic level many more than that. I used to work in the medical field and they are very common there. Like I said earlier, I have known 2 that were totally legit, quality girls that I regret not staying with. One is in an apparently happy marriage to a guy that looks a lot like me but older. The rest were definitely sketchy and I know for a fact that several of the ones I worked with cheated on their husbands. I have also dated thai and indonesian. Chillest asians are thai girls. Craziest are indonesian. The filipinas are in the middle. Can be fun, but kinda like spanish girls they can be very emotional, irrational, and will cheat if you piss them off. If you can find yourself one of the rare quality filipinas though, you will be very happy. Great at cooking, good in bed, and fun personalities. Unfortunately most of them, esp. the heavily Americanized ones, are simply not relationship material. And unfortunately I am not particularly attracted to white, black, italian, eastern european, scandinavian, indian, etc. women. Mostly just asians and spanish chicks, who sadly are hell in relationships.

I banged 10-12 in my first 2 month trip to Philippines back in 2012. Lived in Korea for 3 years where married Pinays accounted for 70-80% of my lays. Then after finishing my contract every year I return to the Philippines for another 1-2 month vacation. Where I bang 3-4 new girls every week. Even ones with boyfriends or husbands.

Now, i am living in Vietnam and still banging Pinays that live here. All total, ive ****ed maybe 70 pinays since 2012.

Pinays put their happiness and family 1st (not happy in relationship = cheat) (want to get some new sponserhsip money help take care of momma and or sibling = cheat)

[katya422]

Wow, what a thread.

If this is real tea then I suggest you read up on narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder. I'm leaning toward borderline.

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/m...y-disorder.htm

I say this because of the push-pull thing that seems to be going on where she is giving you the silent treatment and tells you to go find someone else, but then wants you to come back when you leave and multiple mentions of abandonment. Borderlines fear abandonment and yet also can also create it in their lives.

If that looks right, and you still want to try (leaving is a completely reasonable choice) then you need her to open up and actually commit to you. Right now it sounds more like she is committed to her family and you are an accessory.

On board with all this? Then maybe tell her that you can't continue this push-pull dance with her. You do love her and are willing to try, but she has to meet you part way and that means she risks leaving her safe space with her family and comes to stay with you in Texas and you work on this together.

You should see which state would be better for you to file divorce in and probably start the process.

If she wants to halt the divorce then she can come to you on your terms.

Unlikely I think, and still a hard road. Only offer this because you seem to have such strong feelings for her and there is the chance that she is a basically good person that has a treatable problem.

[scythiss1]

OP you are either trolling or the most beta person on the planet. I believe you are trolling, filipino women are very very very submissive. Even if they are born and raissed in the states their culture still sticks strong. I am half filipino and have never met one dominant filipino girl. If this is all true OP you need to quit being a sissy la la and bounce. Have some damn pride and dignity.

[Luc1fer]

Every woman’s bad behavior, without failure, gets diagnosed with BPD/NPD by the misc experts. It’s comical at this point.

[katya422]

Every woman’s bad behavior, without failure, gets diagnosed with BPD/NPD by the misc experts. It’s comical at this point.

I totally admit that seeing a PD in every crappy relationship has become a thing. First time I've ever suggested it though because it really seems to fit with the push-pull thing.

Would otherwise just go with passive aggressive witch who cares more about her family than her spouse.

[optimus1]

Firstly, OP see this:



I believe you have already made the move based on words discussed. You will have to make big decisions to get out of this. And by this, I mean you should accept to live together with her family and provide for them all. She is being a good daughter and has a tight knit family. You should think about this too.

I don't move for girls, since I only believe in defining and making my own destiny. You took from her, so you will need to return her gestures as an obligation if you are a decent human being. Suck it up or pay her back and never move for a girl again.

Wtf?? I really hope you are just trolling and not actually this stupid.

[4ea]

you should have dated her longer before getting married and seen these warning signs. she wont change.

now, you can either stay with her and be miserable, or divorce her and find a bitch who acts right. your choice, but if i were you, id divorce her. i can not tolerate a bitch who acts like that.

[BearTactics]

you should have dated her longer before getting married and seen these warning signs. she wont change.

now, you can either stay with her and be miserable, or divorce her and find a bitch who acts right. your choice, but if i were you, id divorce her. i can not tolerate a bitch who acts like that.

The ol BBAR philosophy..


Bish better act right

[miscallday12]

Dam OP this is some serious sht... If you do decide to leave her and she calls you, tell her to move to Texas. You should state your case saying how you felt mistreated ever since you moved to CA and will not put up with it any more and she can move Texas if she actually cares

[Aristotelian]

Hopefully OP actually reads some of the (few) quality posts in this thread which are essentially reducible to: tell her that her behaviour is unacceptable now and must change or you will leave.

Worse though, these threads always become some kind of cesspool for ridiculous commentary, such as these:

A man leads and a woman follows

or

Bish better act right

Which truly exemplify the foundation of a happy relationship. What a quality poster.

Sadly, I even read this:

Commitment means nothing nowadays. It really is all about appearances.

Commitment does mean something to some people, but it's not always an easy thing to find someone with the proper moral character, or character attributes that make things like "loyalty", "commitment", "honor", "respect" actually mean something. You have to search for them, but it doesn't mean that commitment no longer means anything.

[A-GAME]

You sound like a cuck tbh. She's walking all over you because you let her.

[CityJaeger]

Why did you give up a 6-figures paid job for a woman ?

No such thing as "the woman of my life" son : You dun goofed.

She's showing her true colors now and since you are dependable and clearly infatuated, you are doubly screwed.

This is going down the drain : She's clearly immature, passive-agressive and no good for a long-term perspective project called marriage.

My only advice would be : Get a job, get divorced and move on. You'll learn your lesson and never give up your life for the pussy.

[TheAsianMan]

lol shes walking over you cause she knows you wont leave her.

GETTING CUCKED.