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09-12-2017, 02:20 PM #64
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09-12-2017, 02:20 PM #65
This is true.
That said, OP you are too young to be settling down. Just be straight with her.
Why is this? Wolfinger can’t say for sure. But, as far as the pattern goes, he asserts that “its existence is beyond question.” When he replicated the finding using data from the 2011-2014 NSFG, the same trend emerged. After five years of marriage, couples who married as teens have a 38% risk of divorce; those in their early twenties are also highly vulnerable (27%), but then there’s a strong decline for couples who marry between ages of 25 and 29 (14%) and ages 30 to 34 (10%). Once again, though, couples who got married in their mid-30s saw an uptick in their divorce risk: Couples who wed for the first time at 35 or over had a 17% risk of divorce during their first five years of marriage.
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09-12-2017, 02:53 PM #73
I have only had one relationship that I can draw any long term experience from. We were together 3+ years, and lived together for pretty much all of it. I can honestly say, that even towards the end, I was still totally in love, totally attracted to her and our sex never really cooled off. It may have gotten less frequent (this was mutual and not a bad thing) but it was always good. I liked how things were, we knew each other front back, and I've never been so comfortable and secure in a relationship. It didn't work out for various other reasons, but I was never bored.
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09-12-2017, 02:59 PM #74
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See that to me anyway seems like an example of two individuals who were the right people for each other. Obviously you said there were reasons it didn't work out and that's totally fine to not get into that. But other than that it's seems like you guys had good chemistry together and definitely loved each other.
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Yea my divorce was final 2 weeks ago. I drove myself to alcoholism and depression at the thought of wasting my entire life with someone that I had no feelings for. The sex was bad, no passion, no flirting, no good conversation. We were like coworkers just raising our daughter. I finally made the decision to leave and haven't questioned it once. I met another woman and things are great. It makes me wonder if I ever really loved her considering I married her at 22 years old.
2 years in was fine. We still went out, danced, had fun. I just got sick of dragging her through life. 10 years after we met she still made the same amount of money. I didn't enjoy her company and wasn't attracted to her at all anymore. It was time to go.
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09-12-2017, 03:13 PM #82
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Thanks bro. I met someone this past December (so just 4 months after I separated) and it's been somewhat rocky but I'm crazy about her. The sex, the conversation, the connection, and even the drama is worlds different than my marriage was. I can't believe I'm saying it but she actually makes me feel like I could be married again.
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I always break-up after 3-6 months, for some reason I just get sick of them after X amount of time and have to move on. Did that a few times, now I just do FWB. Life is much easier, no one to answer too, don't feel lock down. It all comes down to what you're willing to compromise, in the end I'd rather just have 100% freedom.
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09-12-2017, 03:17 PM #86
Now you got me thinking.
Care to elaborate on the never been in love part? Did you always just feel forced to show affection/didnt actually have feelings for him or were the feelings just not strong enough to consider love? Did the relationship feel bland and like you were just some person you happened to live with? I hear about never actually loving someone but never understood where the line between love and care starts**Purple Nips crew**
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09-12-2017, 03:24 PM #87
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09-12-2017, 03:53 PM #89
I'm actually very affectionate toward people I'm dating. I make sure they know I think they're amazing/sexy. I could be chasing a high that doesn't exist. I didn't feel trapped in any of the relationship, I liked all of them just fine and cared (still care for some of them - friends wise) for them deeply. I was just never *in love*. Being around them is nice, but a lot of the time being without them feels nicer. That's what happened with my last ex. He moved away, and instead of being sad.. I was very happy with all the free time I have now, hanging out with myself, etc. I take "I love you" very seriously. Will never say it unless I didn't mean it (made the mistake once, and it led the guy on way too much). I know infatuation and crushes don't last forever. I guess my problem is I keep going for the guy that seems "right", nice, affectionate, caring but the chemistry isn't all the way there.
I'm pretty easy to have chemistry with, chatty, open, and flirty, but I don't think I've ever dated a guy that actually managed to take me out of my comfort zone, make me grow, etc.They said she's gone too far this time
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09-12-2017, 03:57 PM #90
Oh boy,the similarities...
I'm on the same boat as you OP, and she is expecting the same things from me but I can't see myself spending the rest of my life with her without cheating.Many times,I had thoughts of doing something behind her back in order to get those sloot urges out of my system but that would be very disrespectful to myself but also her,considering she's been loyal to me.
For some reason I can't cut her off of my life,she has become family and she has all the wifey values someone could ask for.
So what do?leave her to satisfy my biology needs and regret it down the road or stick with her and wonder what if?
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