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Thread: Official Misc INTJ Thread
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11-23-2017, 03:24 AM #421
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11-23-2017, 03:30 AM #422
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11-23-2017, 03:46 AM #423
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11-23-2017, 03:48 AM #424
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11-23-2017, 03:53 AM #425
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11-23-2017, 04:47 AM #426
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11-23-2017, 05:12 AM #427
Yeah i never talk in groups because of the fakeness of the conversations and i hate how people try to compete with others when there are more people around. Not only that but it's hard for me to listen to people when i don't find the topic interesting. My brain completely shuts off.
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11-23-2017, 05:37 AM #428
Yes I find groups very difficult. I don't like group dynamics like how people take on roles of leaders/followers and like you said competition for social status etc. It's hard to explain to my two close friends because they are very social and like to be in groups. So it's difficult to tell them I like being with them one on one but I don't like being with their groups.
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11-23-2017, 06:12 AM #429
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11-23-2017, 06:23 AM #430
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11-23-2017, 06:40 AM #431
Yeah, it's weird how i start to change when i have to be around people's friends. I get all quiet and the conversations become awkward. Mostly because i just don't care for their friends, or can't relate to them at all.
This is a big reason why i'm afraid to get close to anyone. I know i will have to deal with their friends.PC specs
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11-23-2017, 08:56 AM #432
yeah...... you were never actually introverted to begin with. There was something else going on that made you more socially withdrawn. Talking is easy for anyone with any social skills the difference between introverts and extroverts are deeper and more complicated then that
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11-23-2017, 12:48 PM #433
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11-23-2017, 12:54 PM #434
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11-23-2017, 05:21 PM #435
Last edited by eod8989; 11-23-2017 at 05:46 PM.
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11-23-2017, 05:45 PM #436
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11-24-2017, 09:10 AM #437
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11-24-2017, 09:13 AM #438
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11-24-2017, 09:23 AM #439
Yes I like that you can just go from thread to thread in and out of conversations. Not being stuck with people you don't want to talk to or getting stuck in conversations that are not interesting.
Yeah I think misc is slow nowadays but it's the only forum I use. I used to read some forums related to work and work life balance etc but that was years ago.
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11-24-2017, 09:29 AM #440
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11-25-2017, 05:17 PM #441
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11-28-2017, 02:43 PM #442
I don't know about you brahs but i am too old to give a damn about meeting new people. I don't want to hang out with groups of people and all that. I just want one or two people that i can do my hobbies with. Hard to find that though as a foreveralone introvert.
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11-28-2017, 03:04 PM #443
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11-28-2017, 03:33 PM #444
LOL same here. I have a different view on life than most people. Seems like everyone else just likes giving each other **** and making jokes. I like talking about **** like Joe Rogan does. Not all the time, but i don't think normal people think like that. I never see people engage in deeper conversations. And if i do start talking about that stuff they think i'm weird or something. Feels bad.
I've only met one person that liked talking about this stuff and he was a 40 year old IT workerPC specs
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12-03-2017, 01:21 PM #445
Think of your interactions at work as a means to an end. Most things in life are. You should have a picture of what you want to be doing, where you want to be in life. Mingling in the work place can be a positive experience for everyone. No one likes a shut in. People don't like those who don't fit their community, it can become a toxic work environment with tension. If you can't make simple small talk, then how do you expect to have any kind of success at your job? Do you not see yourself as becoming successful? Do you have a better idea on how to do that then if you can't interact with people. If you enjoy interacting, the more the likely you'll make a good impression and it's a better chance for a promotion (often times an easier job with less work to do).
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12-04-2017, 11:53 AM #446
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12-06-2017, 03:26 PM #447
It's such a chore to have conversations and make friendships these days. It's easier to just get on your phone or listen to Spotify, or misc
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12-08-2017, 03:44 PM #448
Mind is blown how boring socializing is. It only works if you really connect with a person as an introvert. For some reason i want to socialize but i don't even try. I could go out to eat or something but i don't even like doing that because i will have to small talk and all that
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12-08-2017, 04:04 PM #449
I was thinking about this today in financial terms. Since social interaction is draining for introverts it is a cost.
When you are doing it for a good reason like for example brief interaction or small talk with people proving services for you in stores/restaurants/around the house etc it's like a transaction fee. You are buying a service and paying an additional fee in energy for the small social interaction but you are getting the benefit of a service.
When you interact with people at work it's likewise a fee or tax on your employment that goes with the job and you're getting the benefit of a salary and career etc in return.
When you interact with the few people you actually like being around you get the immediate benefit of enjoyment and you are also investing in relationships that are important to you.
But when you interact socially on other occasions without direct benefit you'd have to strain to find a more indirect benefit to outweigh the energy cost.
For example that you are practicing your social skills, or that it's good mentally to not isolate yourself, or that the interaction might lead to something else like meeting someone else for a friendship or relationship etc. It's only a possible indirect benefit.
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12-08-2017, 04:28 PM #450
Yeah i don't mind socializing if i have to, like working retail for example. If i worked there i wouldn't mind talking to people to help them. Or if someone asks me a question i will happily answer them because i have a reason to talk and i can help them. But just going places to talk about subjects with people i don't really care about......that is very taxing. It isn't worth the reward no matter what if i have to put myself in those draining situations. That's why i don't like to go out to eat and stuff. I just don't care to talk to the waitress and all that lol. There has to be a reason for me to talk or i just don't. I wish i could change this but it just takes too much energy.
It's very hard to sustain any kind of social life at all when you are like thisPC specs
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