The No Contact Thread V.4: Fresh Year, Same Problems..

[AJ010]

Yes we all go through that, IMO take a few months off women and focus on yourself. It was very beneficial for me to realise who I wanted to be as a person, and how to be by myself.

Thanks man. It's so hard to go from constantly getting sex multiple times a week, to nothing. It's starting to become an obsessive thought, I think I might have an addiction. I'm just trying to casually date to satisfy that need, and just to have fun. I want to be where you are, where you can actually become vulnerable again with another girl

[mgBsportsfan25]

I fight the urge to contact my ex every day. Glad I've seen this thread and realise it's not just me. I have to see them in work every day nearly and it's what stops me from moving on. AnnoY's me more they're on my mind all the time and they have lost all attraction for me.

Been going through the same thing the past few months and I know the feeling in terms losing attraction and having them in your mind still. It definitely stalls the moving on process seeing them everyday at work compared to not having to run into them again.

Just keep doing what you're doing and be professional/cordial when you run into him at work. If he is like my ex and starts to ignore you (she did this for a couple of weeks after I told her I didn't want to be friends), don't let it get to you and just keep focusing on moving on.

Like all the common posters here say, improve yourself and when you are ready, start testing the waters and meeting other people.

[jfrdl]

But it once again shows what NC can do. I am sure before you started this one month of NC, she never showed any signs of this. One month seems to be about the time when ex's start to squirm and show signs of interest again.

Not sure if it was the NC. I don't think anything makes a girl more insecure than dating someone better than them. NC definitely exacerbates it, because all kinds of thoughts rush into their heads and their imagination gets the best of them.

[jotenko]

NC is for you to move on. If you're using it as a game on purpose you should open a thread for your own story instead of polluting this place, which is made for people to actually move on.

[FrostyGazz]

Two weeks of no contact after rejection when we spent half a year by very intimate relationship, I keep hearing from our mutual friends that she misses me, they even showed me text of her saying it. I know she won't text me since she's really shy and also because I told her that I don't want to talk with her anymore. I'm trying to move on, but she started giving me some signs of interest (I can't avoid her since we go to same school), I caught her watching me couple of times, she blushes a lot around me, yesterday I went around her she said that she almost finished watching one series which we started watching together. Should I text her? I still have strong feelings for her, is it good idea?

[CPTFreedom]

Should I text her? I still have strong feelings for her, is it good idea?

If she rejected you, then no. That would be a bad idea.

[jotenko]

I still have strong feelings for her, is it good idea?

This is the same thing as saying "I'm about to play an ice hockey match without protection, is this a good idea?"

[FrostyGazz]

This is the same thing as saying "I'm about to play an ice hockey match without protection, is this a good idea?"

Yeah, you're right... It just sucks, everytime I feel like it's already over, but then something happens and I'm back at beginning. I'm glad that I found this forum. Thank you

[jfrdl]

NC is for you to move on. If you're using it as a game on purpose you should open a thread for your own story instead of polluting this place, which is made for people to actually move on.

Nothing I said indicates I'm using NC as a manipulation tactic. In fact, my comments are perfect for this thread. No contact > Try to Move on > Find someone new > Move on and no longer give a **** about your ex.

[SpliTT]

I thought i'd never be the one to go through this again...Im completely depressed, emotionally drained, can barely sleep, can't eat... Let me explain what happen..


I met AN AMAZING girl last year, I didn't know that I would emotionally grow attached to her and fall in love, she literally does everything for me, she would take the train (which consist of an hour) to see me almost every other day , she would cook for me everyday, do my laundry , clean my house, be clingy (always be all over me , show me so much attention), help me out with life. I truly loved this girl but i neglected her,, while she was giving me 100%, i was giving 20%. Everything went down hill 3 days ago, she told me that her friend (girl) was taking her out to chinese restaurant for her birthday... so I was being immature and i replied ''okay have fun..being a hoe''. Next thing you know it's 4am and I got worried so i called her, kept calling...to find out she is at a bar, a guy picks up her phone and this is whathe says .. 'Whats up bitch? stop calling her phone, she is with all family right now, stop ****ing calling'' at this point i went crazy, i lost my mind. I literally grabbed all her clothes and threw it in the alley out in the rain. I felt so bad hours later and i picked up all her stuff in the alley, i also called her, she was having multiple anxiety attacks on the phone it sounded like she couldnt breath. Now I'm not claiming innocence, i would do a completely 360 for this girl and change me behavioral issues and give her 100% but its to late. Im writing this post to get help from you guys. Im seriously hurting.

I tried talkign to her all day yesterday, I got some responses, but the typical she doesnt want to be with me ever again, she cant go through that again she said. She said she needs to find 'HERSELF'' again and that she just wants to be ''ALONE'' she also said that I should do the same, that I should change not for her but for myself. The worst thought the floods my mind is that she is going to back to her exboyfriend who only lives about 9 blocks away from her, last time we had a serious breakup 5 months ago, we didn't talk for a month and i found out she went to her exs house, slept there, kissed him and everything, (she says they didnt fuk) i dont believe it but when me and her got back together she didnt want to have s3x with me as well so it's 50/50

Anyways im hurting bad, im apologized so much yesterday, wrote paragraphs , tried my heart out and i got called physcho for it. My goal is to ignore her and go NO CONTACT, she didnt block me on social media and see my posts. Im fine in the day time, but when it hits night time im a complete mess. I live alone so I dont have anybody to vent too, and just the thought of me trying to sleep with another girl to get my mind off it wont work because she will just be in my mind, tried watching some trent shelton videos to make me cry, no luck. I can't cry, i want to cry. i want to let it all out. I want to feel better again. I tried doing everything that would take me guilt off this, i apologized so much admit all my wrongs. I need help.

[darwinia]

I thought i'd never be the one to go through this again...Im completely depressed, emotionally drained, can barely sleep, can't eat... Let me explain what happen..


I met AN AMAZING girl last year, I didn't know that I would emotionally grow attached to her and fall in love, she literally does everything for me, she would take the train (which consist of an hour) to see me almost every other day , she would cook for me everyday, do my laundry , clean my house, be clingy (always be all over me , show me so much attention), help me out with life. I truly loved this girl but i neglected her,, while she was giving me 100%, i was giving 20%. Everything went down hill 3 days ago, she told me that her friend (girl) was taking her out to chinese restaurant for her birthday... so I was being immature and i replied ''okay have fun..being a hoe''. Next thing you know it's 4am and I got worried so i called her, kept calling...to find out she is at a bar, a guy picks up her phone and this is whathe says .. 'Whats up bitch? stop calling her phone, she is with all family right now, stop ****ing calling'' at this point i went crazy, i lost my mind. I literally grabbed all her clothes and threw it in the alley out in the rain. I felt so bad hours later and i picked up all her stuff in the alley, i also called her, she was having multiple anxiety attacks on the phone it sounded like she couldnt breath. Now I'm not claiming innocence, i would do a completely 360 for this girl and change me behavioral issues and give her 100% but its to late. Im writing this post to get help from you guys. Im seriously hurting.

I tried talkign to her all day yesterday, I got some responses, but the typical she doesnt want to be with me ever again, she cant go through that again she said. She said she needs to find 'HERSELF'' again and that she just wants to be ''ALONE'' she also said that I should do the same, that I should change not for her but for myself. The worst thought the floods my mind is that she is going to back to her exboyfriend who only lives about 9 blocks away from her, last time we had a serious breakup 5 months ago, we didn't talk for a month and i found out she went to her exs house, slept there, kissed him and everything, (she says they didnt fuk) i dont believe it but when me and her got back together she didnt want to have s3x with me as well so it's 50/50

Anyways im hurting bad, im apologized so much yesterday, wrote paragraphs , tried my heart out and i got called physcho for it. My goal is to ignore her and go NO CONTACT, she didnt block me on social media and see my posts. Im fine in the day time, but when it hits night time im a complete mess. I live alone so I dont have anybody to vent too, and just the thought of me trying to sleep with another girl to get my mind off it wont work because she will just be in my mind, tried watching some trent shelton videos to make me cry, no luck. I can't cry, i want to cry. i want to let it all out. I want to feel better again. I tried doing everything that would take me guilt off this, i apologized so much admit all my wrongs. I need help.

What the fuk are you doing brother

Stop acting like a girl first of all. You know the deal, it's time to pack up and move to North Carolina, the place of healing. But for real give her space, don't contact her, let her figure it out for herself but in the meantime try and move on. Also let this be a lesson, don't treat people you care for poorly.

[SpliTT]

What the fuk are you doing brother

Stop acting like a girl first of all. You know the deal, it's time to pack up and move to North Carolina, the place of healing. But for real give her space, don't contact her, let her figure it out for herself but in the meantime try and move on. Also let this be a lesson, don't treat people you care for poorly.

I am going to North Carolina, Im going today, but Id appreciate some more encouraging advice.

[dimitri1013]

3 months NC bro, think about her everyday. Wonder if she even thinks about me at all, such is life I guess. I been stupidly every night saying to myself that I love and miss her and wishing it was her beside me in my bed.

[jimmyk21]

Well I'm back boys. I had a thread going on my situation, but I don't even know if I want to bump it now. Cliffs:

-broke up end of August
-I reached out around November
-we slowly reconciled more than I even thought we would
-basically back together although never making it official, talked marriage, kids, the whole nine
-About a month ago we got in a minor fight
-she does complete 180 over minor fight, blows my mind how quickly and drastically things changed for her
-I struggled pretty bad for a few weeks, havent heard a word from her since a text like 2.5 weeks ago saying she needs to think
-realizing it probably was inevitable for that to happen at some point regardless of what it was over.
-still feels terrible but accepting it now.



Onward boys.

[SpliTT]

3 months NC bro, think about her everyday. Wonder if she even thinks about me at all, such is life I guess. I been stupidly every night saying to myself that I love and miss her and wishing it was her beside me in my bed.

wow 3 months.

[jotenko]

I thought i'd never be the one to go through this again...Im completely depressed, emotionally drained, can barely sleep, can't eat... Let me explain what happen..


I met AN AMAZING girl last year, I didn't know that I would emotionally grow attached to her and fall in love, she literally does everything for me, she would take the train (which consist of an hour) to see me almost every other day , she would cook for me everyday, do my laundry , clean my house, be clingy (always be all over me , show me so much attention), help me out with life. I truly loved this girl but i neglected her,, while she was giving me 100%, i was giving 20%. Everything went down hill 3 days ago, she told me that her friend (girl) was taking her out to chinese restaurant for her birthday... so I was being immature and i replied ''okay have fun..being a hoe''. Next thing you know it's 4am and I got worried so i called her, kept calling...to find out she is at a bar, a guy picks up her phone and this is whathe says .. 'Whats up bitch? stop calling her phone, she is with all family right now, stop ****ing calling'' at this point i went crazy, i lost my mind. I literally grabbed all her clothes and threw it in the alley out in the rain. I felt so bad hours later and i picked up all her stuff in the alley, i also called her, she was having multiple anxiety attacks on the phone it sounded like she couldnt breath. Now I'm not claiming innocence, i would do a completely 360 for this girl and change me behavioral issues and give her 100% but its to late. Im writing this post to get help from you guys. Im seriously hurting.

I tried talkign to her all day yesterday, I got some responses, but the typical she doesnt want to be with me ever again, she cant go through that again she said. She said she needs to find 'HERSELF'' again and that she just wants to be ''ALONE'' she also said that I should do the same, that I should change not for her but for myself. The worst thought the floods my mind is that she is going to back to her exboyfriend who only lives about 9 blocks away from her, last time we had a serious breakup 5 months ago, we didn't talk for a month and i found out she went to her exs house, slept there, kissed him and everything, (she says they didnt fuk) i dont believe it but when me and her got back together she didnt want to have s3x with me as well so it's 50/50

Anyways im hurting bad, im apologized so much yesterday, wrote paragraphs , tried my heart out and i got called physcho for it. My goal is to ignore her and go NO CONTACT, she didnt block me on social media and see my posts. Im fine in the day time, but when it hits night time im a complete mess. I live alone so I dont have anybody to vent too, and just the thought of me trying to sleep with another girl to get my mind off it wont work because she will just be in my mind, tried watching some trent shelton videos to make me cry, no luck. I can't cry, i want to cry. i want to let it all out. I want to feel better again. I tried doing everything that would take me guilt off this, i apologized so much admit all my wrongs. I need help.

My man, you created one of the most mythical threads on RH (this one, lol). What would you say to another fellow Miscer in your situation?

I guess you know what to do.

[AJ010]

Got some action with girl #1 tonight, boys. She disclosed some serious red flags, so definitely not rship material for me. But she was really cool, with that aside. Date with girl #2 on friday. She's been really into me, talked on the phone twice already. In the works for a third girl who seems into me too.

I'm thinking about my ex less now after tonight. I know I'll still think about her though. But it's been really nice to see what's out there so far, and how much different these girls have been from my ex. You know what kind of blow my ego took from my ex, because I used to do freaky things with my ex and then that stopped over the years? I'm talking, making out for hours, begging me to cum in her, wanting to **** in public....And then she didnt even like me kissing her neck anymore, or even making out? I can understand the sexual relationship becoming tamer...but not even wanting to kiss??? Probably should have ended the relationship at that point. Maybe that's a bipolar depression thing. I always thought it was that, and let it slide. But maybe it was her actual feelings towards me. I really didn't understand why my own girlfriend, for the last 2 years didn't "enjoy" kissing anymore. And then this girl tonight is ****ing loving every second of it, and compliments the hell out of my kissing and my ability to get her off pretty fast? I think I needed this. I really started to think I lost my skills, and that I was a bad lover.

[darwinia]

Got some action with girl #1 tonight, boys. She disclosed some serious red flags, so definitely not rship material for me. But she was really cool, with that aside. Date with girl #2 on friday. She's been really into me, talked on the phone twice already. In the works for a third girl who seems into me too.

I'm thinking about my ex less now after tonight. I know I'll still think about her though. But it's been really nice to see what's out there so far, and how much different these girls have been from my ex. You know what kind of blow my ego took from my ex, because I used to do freaky things with my ex and then that stopped over the years? I'm talking, making out for hours, begging me to cum in her, wanting to **** in public....And then she didnt even like me kissing her neck anymore, or even making out? I can understand the sexual relationship becoming tamer...but not even wanting to kiss??? Probably should have ended the relationship at that point. Maybe that's a bipolar depression thing. I always thought it was that, and let it slide. But maybe it was her actual feelings towards me. I really didn't understand why my own girlfriend, for the last 2 years didn't "enjoy" kissing anymore. And then this girl tonight is ****ing loving every second of it, and compliments the hell out of my kissing and my ability to get her off pretty fast? I think I needed this. I really started to think I lost my skills, and that I was a bad lover.

She lost attraction to you and emotionally detached, but stayed in the relationship for comfort or whatever. Exact thing happened to me too, went from freaky sex to avoiding any affection. When they no longer initiate game is over.

[AJ010]

She lost attraction to you and emotionally detached, but stayed in the relationship for comfort or whatever. Exact thing happened to me too, went from freaky sex to avoiding any affection. When they no longer initiate game is over.

Damn man. It almost feels like I'm playing the game with cheat codes now. Like, I've been there and done that. I know how to screen these girls now. I know how to control my emotions better. I have a sense of where I ****ed up with my ex. I still think part of it with my ex was her bipolar. A few days before we broke up, she initiated a bj with me...I did 0 initiation in that event. But Im skeptical now if she was only doing that for some ****ed up reasons beyond me..like "he's going to pressure me for sex later..im going to be tired...lets just get this over with so i wont be anxious". It's not too far fetched of an idea, given what I know about her.

[Schlumpf]

Here comes a long one

It's been months I think since I've updated.
So last time i posted was right before my exams. Anyways the weeks passed fast when I had to study for them, I didn't think about her that much anymore. Exams came, passed 3/5 with a fugged up mind, not bad tbh. So then I had semester break for almost two month. Boy were they long. I've found a part time job at a gas station, so I spent my break with working there, chilling at home and not being able to lift since I had a huge injury in my hamstring. All my friends were busy with life so I had no one to chill with also. Coming home from work to no one was really depressing. It kept getting worse and I've became reaaallly depressed for a while. Even had problems in my family in that time as well. But I gave my best not to give a fugg. But she really came into my mind in that time way to often, I kept thinking about the good times I had with her. I really wished that it would come back etc etc the usual ****gy **** etc
So the weeks passed, and the semester started again 3 weeks ago, I also started getting physiotherapy around that time. My therapist was this hot blonde mid twenty chick, and oh lawd getting massaged and stretched by her in my underwear really got my test back up
My hamstring feels kinda good again and im looking forward to start going ham in the gym again.
So going back to starting university, god fugging dammit, all those hot girls on campus, I've already went to a party from uni and made out with a girl there, my head keeps turning looking at all those good looking girls, I keep flirting with them on campus etc. The last two weeks were insane for my mind, like a full 180° turn. Just because of female attention. I don't think about that piece of chit ex anymore at all, seems like i just missed pussy on demand. feels good man tbh ladfam

[Schlumpf]

I thought i'd never be the one to go through this again...Im completely depressed, emotionally drained, can barely sleep, can't eat... Let me explain what happen..


I met AN AMAZING girl last year, I didn't know that I would emotionally grow attached to her and fall in love, she literally does everything for me, she would take the train (which consist of an hour) to see me almost every other day , she would cook for me everyday, do my laundry , clean my house, be clingy (always be all over me , show me so much attention), help me out with life. I truly loved this girl but i neglected her,, while she was giving me 100%, i was giving 20%. Everything went down hill 3 days ago, she told me that her friend (girl) was taking her out to chinese restaurant for her birthday... so I was being immature and i replied ''okay have fun..being a hoe''. Next thing you know it's 4am and I got worried so i called her, kept calling...to find out she is at a bar, a guy picks up her phone and this is whathe says .. 'Whats up bitch? stop calling her phone, she is with all family right now, stop ****ing calling'' at this point i went crazy, i lost my mind. I literally grabbed all her clothes and threw it in the alley out in the rain. I felt so bad hours later and i picked up all her stuff in the alley, i also called her, she was having multiple anxiety attacks on the phone it sounded like she couldnt breath. Now I'm not claiming innocence, i would do a completely 360 for this girl and change me behavioral issues and give her 100% but its to late. Im writing this post to get help from you guys. Im seriously hurting.

I tried talkign to her all day yesterday, I got some responses, but the typical she doesnt want to be with me ever again, she cant go through that again she said. She said she needs to find 'HERSELF'' again and that she just wants to be ''ALONE'' she also said that I should do the same, that I should change not for her but for myself. The worst thought the floods my mind is that she is going to back to her exboyfriend who only lives about 9 blocks away from her, last time we had a serious breakup 5 months ago, we didn't talk for a month and i found out she went to her exs house, slept there, kissed him and everything, (she says they didnt fuk) i dont believe it but when me and her got back together she didnt want to have s3x with me as well so it's 50/50

Anyways im hurting bad, im apologized so much yesterday, wrote paragraphs , tried my heart out and i got called physcho for it. My goal is to ignore her and go NO CONTACT, she didnt block me on social media and see my posts. Im fine in the day time, but when it hits night time im a complete mess. I live alone so I dont have anybody to vent too, and just the thought of me trying to sleep with another girl to get my mind off it wont work because she will just be in my mind, tried watching some trent shelton videos to make me cry, no luck. I can't cry, i want to cry. i want to let it all out. I want to feel better again. I tried doing everything that would take me guilt off this, i apologized so much admit all my wrongs. I need help.

i went through similiar emotional chit. i know exactly how that 'i need to find myself' bullchit hurts, but be glad she said it. because a person with a personality like that can never keep a man.

[dimitri1013]

wow 3 months.

I don't know man it's hard sometimes. I have a chance to hook up with this girl who wants me but I just can't do it even thinking about actually going through with banging other women makes me sick

[Ken-O]

Some of you may already know my story, posted like 20 threads about it on the misc since i was so shocked. I think shock is gone, and im ready to enter the stages of grief.

NC: 7 days.


Long story short, i didnt want to marry, she got tired, then met a guy that did want to marry while still being my GF, and she left me for him. Tried to get her back a week ago, and she said no again after thinking about it for a day, so she's very invested on him. Found out a bunch of lies she said at the end from her own mouth and started NC then.

Here's the thing, im the best fukin guy i know, srs. May be the most arrogant ass you will see ITT, but even after all the beta **** i did for her, still consider myself A FUKIN CATCH, the kind of man you meet once in a lifetime. This is why i was so shocked at first, couldnt understand why she left me for some guy just because he was older and ready to marry.

She was once deeply in love with me, almost crazy in love, and it faded away with time because of routine and because of her desperation. I know her better than anyone, so i can say NC can end in two ways: she starts thinking about me in the next few weeks, starts missing me, realizes im out of her life and enter in panic mode, realizes she made a HUGE mistake and comes back after me like a crazy freak doing anything to get me back.

Option two is the most likely one, i keep NC for a few weeks/months, then i find out she's engaged to this new guy and she did really move on and completely forget about me.

Id say there is like 20% chances of her trying to come back, the rest is of her moving on with his new dude.


Im going to keep NC here and wont break it for ****, but imma be completely honest with you guys right now, my brain wants her to move on and never bother me again, but my hearts wants her back. It could be my pride talking though.

NC is a blessing because it lets you figure **** out and know what you want.

[jimmyk21]

Im going to keep NC here and wont break it for ****, but imma be completely honest with you guys right now, my brain wants her to move on and never bother me again, but my hearts wants her back. It could be my pride talking though.

NC is a blessing because it lets you figure **** out and know what you want.

Repped, I'm in a similar boat. My head says I need to move on. I'm being ghosted by someone who claimed to love me, I don't get it. Anyone have any comment on my long cliffs above? Tell me to man up and NC and move on. Halp.

[AJ010]

Repped, I'm in a similar boat. My head says I need to move on. I'm being ghosted by someone who claimed to love me, I don't get it. Anyone have any comment on my long cliffs above? Tell me to man up and NC and move on. Halp.

Dude, today is day 17 NC with my ex. **** them, man, they don't want us! Think about it like this. Our exes don't want us. They don't respect us. They won't suck our cocks just because they want to please us. I had a girl so happy to slobber me off the other day. Think about what we've been missing out on dude. It's probably too late for us to get back with our exes. But, we can move on, and learn from our mistakes, and learn what is not acceptable behavior from our girlfriends. If you're like me, and getting attention from other girls helps, go for it. I wouldn't try for anything serious, just have fun and be the same guy that attracted your ex...maybe even better. You'll reinforce those good qualities in yourself again, and when the time is right, your next girlfriend will fall in love with you

Lol, so girl I'm seeing tonight revealed she lives with her ex and they're "best friends". Great, second girl with gigantic red flags. Will still have fun with her and get over my ex

[Ken-O]

Dude, today is day 17 NC with my ex. **** them, man, they don't want us! Think about it like this. Our exes don't want us. They don't respect us. They won't suck our cocks just because they want to please us. I had a girl so happy to slobber me off the other day. Think about what we've been missing out on dude. It's probably too late for us to get back with our exes. But, we can move on, and learn from our mistakes, and learn what is not acceptable behavior from our girlfriends. If you're like me, and getting attention from other girls helps, go for it. I wouldn't try for anything serious, just have fun and be the same guy that attracted your ex...maybe even better. You'll reinforce those good qualities in yourself again, and when the time is right, your next girlfriend will fall in love with you

Lol, so girl I'm seeing tonight revealed she lives with her ex and they're "best friends". Great, second girl with gigantic red flags. Will still have fun with her and get over my ex

I have no libido right now, whatsoever. Wake up every single morning from a dream involving her. Go to bed wondering if shes thinking about me, then i snap out of it and realize she's probably texting "good nigh xoxo" to his new guy.



Its a struggle because im addicted to her, and still am. The memories of the sexual **** we did on our last week is too much, it was amazing. Two roadheads without me even asking (just because she noticed i was tired), then last day of RS fuked twice, put a buttplug up her ass while fuking her doggy and she went nuts. Then out of nowhere its over, i cant even touch her skin anymore.

You may think "damn man why youd let that go". She was a manipulative liar, and could be super crazy, plus she left me at the end. Good riddance at least thats what ill think.

[awilll]

Well I'm back boys. I had a thread going on my situation, but I don't even know if I want to bump it now. Cliffs:

-broke up end of August
-I reached out around November
-we slowly reconciled more than I even thought we would
-basically back together although never making it official, talked marriage, kids, the whole nine
-About a month ago we got in a minor fight
-she does complete 180 over minor fight, blows my mind how quickly and drastically things changed for her
-I struggled pretty bad for a few weeks, havent heard a word from her since a text like 2.5 weeks ago saying she needs to think
-realizing it probably was inevitable for that to happen at some point regardless of what it was over.
-still feels terrible but accepting it now.



Onward boys.

That's rough that you got back together and it ended again, going through that whole process twice. I think you've just gotta accept that she's not the one for you. If she's really the girl of your dreams would she break up with you twice over a minor fight? Also I'm sure the issue with her was something else it was just the fight that gave her an easy excuse to end it. I know it's rough but keep up NC and try to move on. I know you think she's great and all but there's tons of girls out there better than her.

Some of you may already know my story, posted like 20 threads about it on the misc since i was so shocked. I think shock is gone, and im ready to enter the stages of grief.

NC: 7 days.


Long story short, i didnt want to marry, she got tired, then met a guy that did want to marry while still being my GF, and she left me for him. Tried to get her back a week ago, and she said no again after thinking about it for a day, so she's very invested on him. Found out a bunch of lies she said at the end from her own mouth and started NC then.

Here's the thing, im the best fukin guy i know, srs. May be the most arrogant ass you will see ITT, but even after all the beta **** i did for her, still consider myself A FUKIN CATCH, the kind of man you meet once in a lifetime. This is why i was so shocked at first, couldnt understand why she left me for some guy just because he was older and ready to marry.

She was once deeply in love with me, almost crazy in love, and it faded away with time because of routine and because of her desperation. I know her better than anyone, so i can say NC can end in two ways: she starts thinking about me in the next few weeks, starts missing me, realizes im out of her life and enter in panic mode, realizes she made a HUGE mistake and comes back after me like a crazy freak doing anything to get me back.

Option two is the most likely one, i keep NC for a few weeks/months, then i find out she's engaged to this new guy and she did really move on and completely forget about me.

Id say there is like 20% chances of her trying to come back, the rest is of her moving on with his new dude.


Im going to keep NC here and wont break it for ****, but imma be completely honest with you guys right now, my brain wants her to move on and never bother me again, but my hearts wants her back. It could be my pride talking though.

NC is a blessing because it lets you figure **** out and know what you want.

I think you've gotta let go of the fact that she could think of you in the future and come back. I know that's probably what you want to happen if you're honest with yourself but if you keep that in the back of your mind it's gonna eat you alive. Keep up NC and just try your hardest to get over her. Ideally you'll get to a point where you don’t even care whether she gets engaged or comes back to you. Who knows what’ll happen in the future. Maybe she will come back and then you can decide if you’re willing to get back together but stop banking on that happening. Move on and someday you’ll look back at this and laugh. Tons of girls out there better for you.

[AJ010]

I have no libido right now, whatsoever. Wake up every single morning from a dream involving her. Go to bed wondering if shes thinking about me, then i snap out of it and realize she's probably texting "good nigh xoxo" to his new guy.



Its a struggle because im addicted to her, and still am. The memories of the sexual **** we did on our last week is too much, it was amazing. Two roadheads without me even asking (just because she noticed i was tired), then last day of RS fuked twice, put a buttplug up her ass while fuking her doggy and she went nuts. Then out of nowhere its over, i cant even touch her skin anymore.

You may think "damn man why youd let that go". She was a manipulative liar, and could be super crazy, plus she left me at the end. Good riddance at least thats what ill think.

I know man, I miss the crazy freak my ex was. She was the innocent, antisocial shy girl too so it was EVEN HOTTER. I know what you are feeling. Youre picturing her with another guy, being that freak she used to be. I. thought like that too, hard, the first week.

Just remember, the BEST chance of "getting her back" or even moreso, getting yourself back, is NC. Day 17 and Im not caring anymore. Doing new things, and hooking up with new girls has helped tremendously for me.

[Ken-O]

I think you've gotta let go of the fact that she could think of you in the future and come back. I know that's probably what you want to happen if you're honest with yourself but if you keep that in the back of your mind it's gonna eat you alive. Keep up NC and just try your hardest to get over her. Ideally you'll get to a point where you don’t even care whether she gets engaged or comes back to you. Who knows what’ll happen in the future. Maybe she will come back and then you can decide if you’re willing to get back together but stop banking on that happening. Move on and someday you’ll look back at this and laugh. Tons of girls out there better for you.

I knew the thought would eat me from the inside, that "what if she comes back", thats what i said my goodbyes forever 7 days ago, told her i have to say bye for ever if i wanted to move on, thanked her for everything, forgave her for everything, etc. Basically closed the doors for her. I really want to move on from this girl because she's honestly not good for me. Doubt shell ever come back though anyway

I know man, I miss the crazy freak my ex was. She was the innocent, antisocial shy girl too so it was EVEN HOTTER. I know what you are feeling. Youre picturing her with another guy, being that freak she used to be. I. thought like that too, hard, the first week.

Just remember, the BEST chance of "getting her back" or even moreso, getting yourself back, is NC. Day 17 and Im not caring anymore. Doing new things, and hooking up with new girls has helped tremendously for me.

How do you deal with hooking up with new chicks though? I just dont see myself sharing a bed with someone else, i know it sounds beta as fuk but i got used to her, im a very introverted person

[AJ010]

I knew the thought would eat me from the inside, that "what if she comes back", thats what i said my goodbyes forever 7 days ago, told her i have to say bye for ever if i wanted to move on, thanked her for everything, forgave her for everything, etc. Basically closed the doors for her. I really want to move on from this girl because she's honestly not good for me. Doubt shell ever come back though anyway



How do you deal with hooking up with new chicks though? I just dont see myself sharing a bed with someone else, i know it sounds beta as fuk but i got used to her, im a very introverted person

I think I accelerated the process by going on road trips since the breakup started. I went to a lot of new places, hundreds of miles away. I found excitement and happiness, and I think thats the first step to opening yourself up to new girls. That might just have worked more for me specifically, because we have fought over going on vacations. She didnt ever want to go anywhere, yet she didnt want me to go alone either. I reassured her I wasn't looking to cheat, traveling and seeing new places is very important to me. I have only one life, and I want to explore this world. So I said **** it, a few months ago, and went somewhere. I didn't even go for a whole week. I did like Sunday-Wednesday, days we wouldn't have hung out anyway. I thought that was really fair. This was after waiting almost a year for her to agree to go on a vacation. And no, she never agreed to go anywhere with me. We almost broke up over it, but that was the turning point in my relationship where I honestly felt I was respected the most in a long time. Im not gonna hold back my life because she has way too much anxiety to go somewhere with me. So in my case, its almost like a big "**** you" because of all the places Im going. Seriously, you could have yourself another freak. Maybe our exes will come back. But just remember, theres nothing you can do about it.