The No Contact Thread V.4: Fresh Year, Same Problems..

[Deadpulse]

That's just her coping mechanism, plus she likely wants to get the stimulus of you trying still and if you don't she cant help but think 'why isn't he'. But they have to figure out that part on their own, hence why you should follow NC.

They will say **** that isnt true trying to convince themselves they are doing the right thing, because they don't want to feel pain and will do whatever is necessary to not feel it. Don't think about anything logically, thats a waste of time.

Thanks dude, been a week now and it's definitely starting to hit me more now...hopefully after the second week I'll feel better.

I'm just trolling myself now, like I miss the girl & want her back but realistically she was pretty awful to me and threw everything back in my face during the break up (telling me I wasn't good enough, ****test relationship and I had to pick my game up a lot for her to want to be in a relationship, even though she initiated it). Sucks not being able to get someone off your mind, especially when they are acting like I never happened and I'm nonexistent.

I just can't understand the mentality, myself and my family literally gave her everything when she literally had nothing. A family that loved her, gave her a place to stay & literally would have done anything to help her! (She's never had a family).

Had a bit of a breakdown last night, because there was literally no closure at all and just threw me to the side - I just know in 6 months time she will be in the exact same position.

I agree with you though, her blocking me on everything is her way of coping especially slowly blocking me on everything over a week. Definitely think she thought I'd be there begging for her back, but no bingo and I reckon that's really rustled her. I hope for her sake (even if I don't know about it) that she realises somewhere in the future what she threw away over something so trivial.

[SpliTT]

i believe im dating a hoe, i need t o get out of this relationship asap

[darwinia]

i believe im dating a hoe, i need t o get out of this relationship asap

Yep

[darwinia]

Brothers I gotta say it hurt a lot to hear my ex had a new bf already but until then I wasn't able to move on, I kept imagining it working out. Now I know it's done forever I have stopped ruminating on my thoughts and accepted its done, feeling a lot better. Anyone else like this?

[NedStark]

i believe im dating a hoe, i need t o get out of this relationship asap

Bro If you think, you KNOW

PLEASE Believe me.

My most recent ex was literally a hoe, an escort.. I had no idea... she kept it so lowkey... even had a sugar daddy. I was hitting that raw for 2 months. (Very short relationship got over it after 2 months nc hence me being in this thread and being under someone else)

But believe me, when my gut started acting up and saying those same things you're saying? Yea I wish i had jumped the gun SOONER. Leave bro, leave with self respect. Leave fuk that, you don't want that pointless pain. Don't get attached to this one.

Brothers I gotta say it hurt a lot to hear my ex had a new bf already but until then I wasn't able to move on, I kept imagining it working out. Now I know it's done forever I have stopped ruminating on my thoughts and accepted its done, feeling a lot better. Anyone else like this?

Yes, honestly.. the worse they do to you the easier it is to move on.. eventually.

[naesob]

Any tips on how to get better at embracing/facing reality and remembering why things ended, rather than replaying the good moments even after going NC?

[Kefloxin]

Feeling weak today. Ex and I broke up a month and a half ago and I've been NC since. For the most part I feel alright but I catch myself thinking of her or missing her quite often. I miss the cuddling, intimacy, and the sex. I've tried to get matches on Tinder, OKC, and Bumble but haven't even been able to get a first date which doesn't help.

[naesob]

^stay strong man. Just think, those first dates that you're wanting to go on could have been letdowns and made you feel worse. Hang in there

[YellowBullet]

Horrible day today. My ex had surgery on her left ear yesterday. It's a long story. Basically her left ear got seriously damaged (and it looked horrible) in a car accident when she was a kid. Her hair covers her ears, so you can't see it, but it still made her feel insecure and she always wanted to get this surgery done to make it look good again. She used to talk to me about it a lot, since the beginning of our relationship over 4 years ago and I helped her plan this surgery in the last months of our relationship. It hurts that she doesn't want me to be there for her right now. I even would not have known she had surgery if her sister hadn't told me.
Staying strict NC. Have not contacted her in any shape or form since the break-up on december 14th (including ignoring her bday). She contacted me once, 10 days ago, congratulating me on a promotion I made at work, and that's all I've heard from her since the break-up. She also ran in to my sister last week and asked my sister to say hi to me.

Feeling weak today. Ex and I broke up a month and a half ago and I've been NC since. For the most part I feel alright but I catch myself thinking of her or missing her quite often. I miss the cuddling, intimacy, and the sex. I've tried to get matches on Tinder, OKC, and Bumble but haven't even been able to get a first date which doesn't help.

You're doing perfect dude. Stay NC and stay busy. Hit the gym, hang out with the bros and focus on your career.


Also sorry for my bad English, French dudes really suck at it lmao

[Deadpulse]

Feeling weak today, how can i miss someone so much? When i know they've moved on and DGAF about me or how I feel.
Been about 10 days of NC, haven't spoken since the break up. But god dam its killing me, I have serious abandonment issues (dad committed suicide...) which is making it so much worse for me at the moment.

[Kefloxin]

^stay strong man. Just think, those first dates that you're wanting to go on could have been letdowns and made you feel worse. Hang in there

Thanks bro, trying to stay positive but it's difficult.

Horrible day today. My ex had surgery on her left ear yesterday. It's a long story. Basically her left ear got seriously damaged (and it looked horrible) in a car accident when she was a kid. Her hair covers her ears, so you can't see it, but it still made her feel insecure and she always wanted to get this surgery done to make it look good again. She used to talk to me about it a lot, since the beginning of our relationship over 4 years ago and I helped her plan this surgery in the last months of our relationship. It hurts that she doesn't want me to be there for her right now. I even would not have known she had surgery if her sister hadn't told me.
Staying strict NC. Have not contacted her in any shape or form since the break-up on december 14th (including ignoring her bday). She contacted me once, 10 days ago, congratulating me on a promotion I made at work, and that's all I've heard from her since the break-up. She also ran in to my sister last week and asked my sister to say hi to me.



You're doing perfect dude. Stay NC and stay busy. Hit the gym, hang out with the bros and focus on your career.


Also sorry for my bad English, French dudes really suck at it lmao

Yeah man, I know it's the right thing to do. What I did was block my ex completely so there's no way for her to contact me. When they send those "innocent" texts, it usually brings feels back and ruins your day so I'd rather just not know if she's trying to reach out or not.

Feeling weak today, how can i miss someone so much? When i know they've moved on and DGAF about me or how I feel.
Been about 10 days of NC, haven't spoken since the break up. But god dam its killing me, I have serious abandonment issues (dad committed suicide...) which is making it so much worse for me at the moment.

**** man, stay strong. If your dad commit suicide around the same time, maybe it'd be a good idea to look into some kind of therapy. Anyway keep strong, you realize people are fickle and selfish and you should look out for yourself as well. We all have the weak moments, gotta keep working on yourself and be strong for the next one. And next time, set strong standards for yourself in a girl and stick by them.

[EvilEmpire36]

Feeling weak today, how can i miss someone so much? When i know they've moved on and DGAF about me or how I feel.
Been about 10 days of NC, haven't spoken since the break up. But god dam its killing me, I have serious abandonment issues (dad committed suicide...) which is making it so much worse for me at the moment.

Sucks but it gets better every day. Breakups make you feel like you'll never find another as good again but somehow you always find better. Right now you're probably only thinking of her good qualities but soon you'll start to lose focus on those things and begin to see with clarity that you probably dodged a bullet by her not being part of your life anymore. Atleast that's how it works for me although I'm pretty heartless and get over things pretty quick.

[SitchNoHomo]

Sucks but it gets better every day. Breakups make you feel like you'll never find another as good again but somehow you always find better. Right now you're probably only thinking of her good qualities but soon you'll start to lose focus on those things and begin to see with clarity that you probably dodged a bullet by her not being part of your life anymore. Atleast that's how it works for me although I'm pretty heartless and get over things pretty quick.

1 week NC and I really feel like this. But funnily I don't miss her that much.

[khatskevitch]

I maintained NC on her birthday but my god since then i have been a complete wreck.I will still continue to maintain NC but the feels have come back and hit me so hard.These have been the 3 toughest days of my life post breakup i must say.And i wake up and always feel miserable.Every morning i remember her teddies and her face and her morning habits and all those cute faces.And for some reason my television is full of movies that i had seen with her and all the memories keep piling up.And no girl out there seems to compare.Downloaded tinder and i feel like a douche watching these stupid duck faces and stuff.I think i will probably have to spend a few years in monk mode.Farrrk the world is collapsing.



Phew! I still maintain my composure and nobody knows but damn i am literally drowning inside.With time this should have become easier but i feel like its getting tougher.Feels good venting.

[SitchNoHomo]

I maintained NC on her birthday but my god since then i have been a complete wreck.I will still continue to maintain NC but the feels have come back and hit me so hard.These have been the 3 toughest days of my life post breakup i must say.And i wake up and always feel miserable.Every morning i remember her teddies and her face and her morning habits and all those cute faces.And for some reason my television is full of movies that i had seen with her and all the memories keep piling up.And no girl out there seems to compare.Downloaded tinder and i feel like a douche watching these stupid duck faces and stuff.I think i will probably have to spend a few years in monk mode.Farrrk the world is collapsing.



Phew! I still maintain my composure and nobody knows but damn i am literally drowning inside.With time this should have become easier but i feel like its getting tougher.Feels good venting.

What a poet we have here cheer up fella is gonna be fine

[jotenko]

Oops. I meant I asked her out, she said yes. Then she curved me saying she had something to do the night before, and we basically ignored each other for a couple days. We both work at the same place, my boy was working with her when she was telling all the other girls how I asked her out and how she wanted me to stay as a friend yada yada yada. Basically we're in high school so at lunch she used to always come up to my table and talk to me, but what she's been doing lately is coming to my table and flirting with the dudes there. Lately I've been trying to ignroe her but she's been coming out talking acting like nothing ever happened.

You're still a kid. She's playing you and stringing you along. Move on and don't say cheeet to her.

Feeling weak today, how can i miss someone so much? When i know they've moved on and DGAF about me or how I feel.
Been about 10 days of NC, haven't spoken since the break up. But god dam its killing me, I have serious abandonment issues (dad committed suicide...) which is making it so much worse for me at the moment.

What would you say to me if I just wrote that post? Deep inside you know that your father did not abandon you, he just couldn't handle his own problems. Pretty sure he loved you, but sometimes a man becomes to week to deal with his inner turmoil. Just like it happens with abusive parents, they can't get their **** together.

About that girl, she's nothing, she's absolutely meaningless, she's just one girl in the middle of millions and millions of girls. Work on yourself and stop searching for women right now, you clearly have greater issues.

Search for "Evolving Self-Confidence" book, and read it.

I maintained NC on her birthday but my god since then i have been a complete wreck.I will still continue to maintain NC but the feels have come back and hit me so hard.These have been the 3 toughest days of my life post breakup i must say.And i wake up and always feel miserable.Every morning i remember her teddies and her face and her morning habits and all those cute faces.And for some reason my television is full of movies that i had seen with her and all the memories keep piling up.And no girl out there seems to compare.Downloaded tinder and i feel like a douche watching these stupid duck faces and stuff.I think i will probably have to spend a few years in monk mode.Farrrk the world is collapsing.

Phew! I still maintain my composure and nobody knows but damn i am literally drowning inside.With time this should have become easier but i feel like its getting tougher.Feels good venting.

Just stop. Imagine the outcome independent, confident man you idealize in your head. The man you want to be. Now imagine that that same man would write the post above. After re-reading everything back, realize how ridiculous it is.

It's fine to feel like cheet, but - while accepting it now - you have to consciously realize that it is not acceptable in the long term and that you WANT to get over that ****.

Listen, brah, I am quite sure that while you walk on the street, when you're inside the subway train, whatever the place it might be, there are lots of girls watching you discretely and wondering about you. Instead of looking at a confident man, they can see through you that you are broken inside. Same thing applies to that oneitis of yours, once she sees you again.

Want to get confident again? Disregard that biatsh completely, adopt a NGAF attitude towards women and work endlessly towards your goals, without looking back for one sec. That b1tsh? She's probably off getting fuaked, sorry to say. However, in some months from now she'll still have nothing else to offer besides her looks, but you won't be in the same situation, you know why? Because you're the ****1ng man, so act like one and work towards the person you want to become.

The only acceptable oneitis is lifting, lifting, and lifting.

[darwinia]

Jotenko has to be the biggest legend I've seen on the misc, helping all the brothers who are down and out. Thanks 🙏🏼

[vullnet15]

You're still a kid. She's playing you and stringing you along. Move on and don't say cheeet to her.

You're right, thanks.

[Deadpulse]

What would you say to me if I just wrote that post? Deep inside you know that your father did not abandon you, he just couldn't handle his own problems. Pretty sure he loved you, but sometimes a man becomes to week to deal with his inner turmoil. Just like it happens with abusive parents, they can't get their **** together.

About that girl, she's nothing, she's absolutely meaningless, she's just one girl in the middle of millions and millions of girls. Work on yourself and stop searching for women right now, you clearly have greater issues.

Search for "Evolving Self-Confidence" book, and read it.

Yeah I know just rough finding him, pulling his tongue out the back of his throat, and then when he wakes up in hospital calls me and promises me it'll never happen again, then yeah a year later get the knock on the door....

Yeah I'm going to stop looking for girls for a while - I've got some issues I need to work through prior - currently in therapy for them. I just keep finding myself wanting this girl back, when i know deep down it wont work out and she's actually legitimately crazy. Just sucks when you wear your heart on your sleeve and it gets thrown back in your face. I guess her problems have just worked me down to the point where they've been projected onto me in a sense. I just hope the following weeks I start to feel a bit better about myself.

[AngelKing1992]

lmao, n i thought i had probz... reading this thread makes me feel better about myself, knowing that somewhere.. out there.. there is a lonely miscer that's worse off than me lololol

but srs. get better guiz.. we're all gonna make it

[jotenko]

Yeah I know just rough finding him, pulling his tongue out the back of his throat, and then when he wakes up in hospital calls me and promises me it'll never happen again, then yeah a year later get the knock on the door....

Yeah I'm going to stop looking for girls for a while - I've got some issues I need to work through prior - currently in therapy for them. I just keep finding myself wanting this girl back, when i know deep down it wont work out and she's actually legitimately crazy. Just sucks when you wear your heart on your sleeve and it gets thrown back in your face. I guess her problems have just worked me down to the point where they've been projected onto me in a sense. I just hope the following weeks I start to feel a bit better about myself.

You can't accomplish something if you don't experience failure.

Embrace and be thankful for what that b1sh did to you. If it wasn't for that, you would not end up here and, probably, you would never get the chance to obtain the knowledge to get rid of those beta ways that have dragged you down.

[lupus002]

It's gotten better with time, and I have no desire to ever contact her again. However, I still have the hope that one day she texts me. I want that to go away with time also, but in the back of my mind im always secretly hoping to see her number pop up on my phone one more time.

[darwinia]

It's gotten better with time, and I have no desire to ever contact her again. However, I still have the hope that one day she texts me. I want that to go away with time also, but in the back of my mind im always secretly hoping to see her number pop up on my phone one more time.

Why? She's a girl she will only text you when she's feeling bad and wants attention, you don't want that. Block her number and you won't have to worry about it.

[khatskevitch]

What a poet we have here cheer up fella is gonna be fine

Poems.Majority of poems have love as their theme and quite a few are on lost love.Helps put things into perspective i guess.This chit has been going on since dinosaurs time and bishes been iffy all the while!!!

Just stop. Imagine the outcome independent, confident man you idealize in your head. The man you want to be. Now imagine that that same man would write the post above. After re-reading everything back, realize how ridiculous it is.

It's fine to feel like cheet, but - while accepting it now - you have to consciously realize that it is not acceptable in the long term and that you WANT to get over that ****.

Listen, brah, I am quite sure that while you walk on the street, when you're inside the subway train, whatever the place it might be, there are lots of girls watching you discretely and wondering about you. Instead of looking at a confident man, they can see through you that you are broken inside. Same thing applies to that oneitis of yours, once she sees you again.

Want to get confident again? Disregard that biatsh completely, adopt a NGAF attitude towards women and work endlessly towards your goals, without looking back for one sec. That b1tsh? She's probably off getting fuaked, sorry to say. However, in some months from now she'll still have nothing else to offer besides her looks, but you won't be in the same situation, you know why? Because you're the ****1ng man, so act like one and work towards the person you want to become.

The only acceptable oneitis is lifting, lifting, and lifting.

As usual you are right on the mark jotenko.And that last line is pure gold.

The only acceptable oneitis is lifting, lifting, and lifting

Sig material this.

[cipix64]

Fck this girl liked me
I ignored her. Asked her out. Used her for pleasure
Now she doesn't trust me and I miss her attention wtf!
She was my trusty little slave!

I'm working on gaining her trust back but wanna take it slow so that she misses me.
She's so cute and classy. I miss her!!!

[cipix64]

A broke hoe can only point down to a rich hoe

[naesob]

Got a text from an unsaved number that just said "hi" yesterday. From my ex's area code and she's the only person I know from there so I'm positive it was her. Deleted it and didn't reply. Like an idiot, I started thinking about her, and technically broke NC. I briefly unblocked her on IG, and she's got a new boyfriend, posting gushy relationship stuff and religious stuff. She was anti religion 2 months ago when I still knew her, so that was weird to see. By the looks of it, she got into a new relationship 1 month after dumping me.

I'm mad at myself for breaking NC, but in a way also really happy that I did - feel like that chapter is fully closed now. I never saw signs of monkey branching, but she's got some issues if she needs to latch onto someone else so quickly and especially if she feels the need to be public about it. I just figure she's going to get rid of the new guy when someone else comes along. My ego is a little hurt that she moved on so quickly (at least from what she posts), and I feel disrespected, but it's also validating at the same time. These hoes ain't loyal. Just venting, good luck bros

[darwinia]

Got a text from an unsaved number that just said "hi" yesterday. From my ex's area code and she's the only person I know from there so I'm positive it was her. Deleted it and didn't reply. Like an idiot, I started thinking about her, and technically broke NC. I briefly unblocked her on IG, and she's got a new boyfriend, posting gushy relationship stuff and religious stuff. She was anti religion 2 months ago when I still knew her, so that was weird to see. By the looks of it, she got into a new relationship 1 month after dumping me.

I'm mad at myself for breaking NC, but in a way also really happy that I did - feel like that chapter is fully closed now. I never saw signs of monkey branching, but she's got some issues if she needs to latch onto someone else so quickly and especially if she feels the need to be public about it. I just figure she's going to get rid of the new guy when someone else comes along. My ego is a little hurt that she moved on so quickly (at least from what she posts), and I feel disrespected, but it's also validating at the same time. These hoes ain't loyal. Just venting, good luck bros

Bro that wasn't really a bad mistake IMO, even after a break up its sometimes hard to accept its over until you see they have a new boyfriend. Now you know rationally and emotionally its done, you can move on. Now go NC forever, and listen to this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Th0V-fxo9CE

[jotenko]

Got a text from an unsaved number that just said "hi" yesterday. From my ex's area code and she's the only person I know from there so I'm positive it was her. Deleted it and didn't reply. Like an idiot, I started thinking about her, and technically broke NC. I briefly unblocked her on IG, and she's got a new boyfriend, posting gushy relationship stuff and religious stuff. She was anti religion 2 months ago when I still knew her, so that was weird to see. By the looks of it, she got into a new relationship 1 month after dumping me.

I'm mad at myself for breaking NC, but in a way also really happy that I did - feel like that chapter is fully closed now. I never saw signs of monkey branching, but she's got some issues if she needs to latch onto someone else so quickly and especially if she feels the need to be public about it. I just figure she's going to get rid of the new guy when someone else comes along. My ego is a little hurt that she moved on so quickly (at least from what she posts), and I feel disrespected, but it's also validating at the same time. These hoes ain't loyal. Just venting, good luck bros

She's just showing the trash she is. Texting you while she's with another guy. She doesn't respect you or him. Hope you realize this. Move on.

[cheapWiFi]

New breakup, new feels, starting NC again. Happened about an hour ago and I'm feeling pretty down. She didn't think she could give me what I wanted/deserved and I agree. I should have ended things a long time ago, but I was stupid.

We had some good times, some arguments, some good sex, and some good memories. I think I'm mostly sad about losing the routine and having to start dating all over again. I hate asking people out, going on bad first dates, getting to know someone all over again, etc.. I am prone to serious depression so I hope to stay focused on lifting and other hobbies until I feel better