When the guys think we cant lift because we are girls--

[AliGip]

So I found it a little annoying but humorous at the same time last night so I thought I'd share.. First of all - I am rather new and my lifting is not heavy in comparison to a lot of experienced ladies by any means. I was loading the smith machine with simply a 10 pound weight on each side for my reverse grip bench press.( I started out barely doing just the bar.lol) . when up comes this man to inform me that the weight was " too heavy for me" and I am going to "hurt myself".. this was actually the first time I had this particular exercise so I really had no idea if it was or wasn't so I just responded with -- well, lets see.. I did my reps/sets with my little 10 pounds on each side. I will admit because I am in fact a weakling that it was burning and I am extra sore today. lol.. but I was not about to lower it -simply because of his comment. And yes- he annoyingly watched me lift the entire time.. Then proceeded to try to tell me how he has his wife just doing some cardio and 5 pounds for her arms and that's all I need. -- I just walked away. .. I know a lot of times the guys will try to help you put the weights on or change out a handle on the cables even you don't need them to help you -- but this guy was just too far. Ridiculous. If he does it again I may have to be rude. Do you ladies have the same type things happen with men in the gym? Most of the men at ours aren't like that , and I do think this man is one of the "new year" people.

[Fiction2Fitness]

I have been going to the gym for a couple of years now, which has involved a couple different gyms and in different states. So far haven't had someone say I shouldn't do anything because it was too heavy. Most annoying that I had in my first year was some older gentlemen trying to make sure i knew that I could do wrist curls using the back of an upright bench, which was true. However, I was doing them seated for a personal reason. So, it wasn't wrong or bad, just his approach and attitude was off-putting. Other than that, I don't get people approaching me at the gym except on occasion a couple guys have complimented what I'm doing, usually when I'm working on lighter weight days.

Never know what will happen in the future. But just shrug is off as they are going off their own perceptions.

[kitpapa]

Never had someone say anything negative.
No matter what gym if someone speaks to me, it has always been nice.

The looks I get on the other hand..well let's just say not all of them are nice.

[itsagoodday]

People are people, just ignore or avoid the annoying ones or tell them to leave you alone. If he's part of the New Years crowd, he'll be gone soon enough anyway.

I have on a couple of occasions seen guys bother pretty girls at the gym with "no honey, you should do it THIS way" kind of thing, clearly just trying to find a reason to talk to them. (Bad idea guys... treating a chick like she's stupid will not get you laid.) Some people are also just know-it-alls, and they'll argue with anyone. I once had a guy watch me do Pendlay rows and then came over to tell me I was doing barbell rows wrong. When I tried to explain to him what a Pendlay row was, he told me there was no such thing.

[Rabbitjb]

I love gym dudes...generally leave you alone if you have your buds in, nod in acknowledgement and do their own thing

Also love when they're spacing between sets and suddenly twig they've been staring

Also love spacing between sets and suddenly twig I've been staring

[AliGip]

I love gym dudes...generally leave you alone if you have your buds in, nod in acknowledgement and do their own thing

Also love when they're spacing between sets and suddenly twig they've been staring

Also love spacing between sets and suddenly twig I've been staring

normally all the guys are nice or just don't say anything .. I was just appalled that this guy had the nerve to say something like that- especially being he doesn't know me - not even in passing as a regular. It takes all kinds of kinds I guess.

[Partyrocking]

Legit have never had an experience remotely like this. Then again, I'm a chubby powerlifter, so people usually aren't too surprised when I move heavy things.

**** him. Lift for you!

[McNeelz]

No one has ever tried to tell me I couldn't lift something or tried to give unwanted instructions on how to lift. Usually if someone speaks to me, it's positive. The few exceptions were guys seeing me at peak pump and telling me that I was "getting too big." It's only been 2-3 guys and I think all of them were older. They don't realize that I take that as a compliment though.

Just do your thing and don't worry about it. If he's new at this time of year, chances are that after a couple weeks, he won't be back until January 2018.

[megdaig]

Lucky for me everyone at my gyms know me, at least the regulars do.

I've only had one person TELL me I was doing leg press wrong...I was using high foot placement for glute work.

And the only other time I got [unwanted] "help" was when I was squatting "heavy" like 4 months post-op from my ACL reconstruction and this older guy thought it'd be nice to help me re-rack the weights by lifting up on only one end of the barbell. I promptly chewed his azz out...I was just lucky that for once I was using collars.

[TrampasaursFlex]

Legit have never had an experience remotely like this. Then again, I'm a chubby powerlifter, so people usually aren't too surprised when I move heavy things.

**** him. Lift for you!

This. Who gives a f*** what some idiot stranger thinks about you at the gym? You do you.

[jsari23]

how irritating!

I go early am and its the same crowd 99% of the time, mostly everyone just nods, says hello, happy this or that and minds their own business. The two 'friends' i have spotted me last week on squat and encouraged me to do another set with more weight

Although this is this one guy whos generally nice but often tells me to be careful bc I am squatting to low and might hurt myself

[LunaLifts]

If he does it again I may have to be rude.

Be rude the first time, it was rude of him to comment in the first place. You're not obligated to be polite to people who are d*cks.

Tell him you hope he drops a plate on his pinky toe.

[sy2502]

I have only received compliments from guys on my lifts. The last one was when I was loading the bar for deadlifts and a guy stopped by and said "is that for your biceps curls?" and I answered "yep, one for each hand".

My favorites are the couples at the gym, especially the new couples, with the guy that is going to take his GF to the gym and teach her everything. Except he is completely out of shape too, but he has to impress her. So first he's going to do the exercise, to show her how it's done, and he loads up an ungodly amount of weight to show her what an alpha macho he is. Then, after bursting a hernia and giving himself a stroke, he hands her the 5lbs dumbbell. And I am like "dude, her wallet probably weighs more than that..."

[McNeelz]

My favorites are the couples at the gym, especially the new couples, with the guy that is going to take his GF to the gym and teach her everything. Except he is completely out of shape too, but he has to impress her. So first he's going to do the exercise, to show her how it's done, and he loads up an ungodly amount of weight to show her what an alpha macho he is. Then, after bursting a hernia and giving himself a stroke, he hands her the 5lbs dumbbell. And I am like "dude, her wallet probably weighs more than that..."

Lol! I've definitely seen that. We also have a couple that I see at the gym on occasion who are WAY too touchy. They make out in front of people. And if I had to guess, they're late 30's-early 40's. Way too old for that.

[Rabbitjb]

Things I can't do cos girl



Hang on it'll come to me




Gimme a minute

[Mumra]

at the commercial gym I go to sometimes it's only the girls with the exception of like 2-3 guys that look like they have a clue what to do in a squat rack. so take comfort in knowing if anyone is telling you that you don't know what you're doing at one of those gyms that they really don't have a clue themselves. just watch him "train" for a minute. chances are he'll expose himself for being a fool.

[maeva27]

I've never had comments like this. I love my current gym, most people see me there quite often (and vice versa). Oh, one out of shape man told me I didn't have to lift heavy (wtf?). But he likes to give unwanted 'advice'.

Once I trained at the YMCA in the city though, because I was waiting for my BF and had nothing to do, so the trainers there did not know me. I was doing deadlifts with 45s and one trainer (a woman) just stood there next to me. I felt like she was worried I might hurt myself or something. She didn't say anything though and eventually walked away.

Even during my pregnancies when I kept lifting, most comments I got were positive.

[f00d]

I have only received compliments from guys on my lifts. The last one was when I was loading the bar for deadlifts and a guy stopped by and said "is that for your biceps curls?" and I answered "yep, one for each hand".

My favorites are the couples at the gym, especially the new couples, with the guy that is going to take his GF to the gym and teach her everything. Except he is completely out of shape too, but he has to impress her. So first he's going to do the exercise, to show her how it's done, and he loads up an ungodly amount of weight to show her what an alpha macho he is. Then, after bursting a hernia and giving himself a stroke, he hands her the 5lbs dumbbell. And I am like "dude, her wallet probably weighs more than that..."

Haha I've had that happen before. I was doing ATG sets of 3 with 205 and this guy in the rack next to me put 245 on the bar and started half squatting it for 2 reps. He then loaded the bar to 55 lbs for his gf who of course squatted it to depth with good form like it was nothing but when she told him she could do more weight he told her it was dangerous. She had at least 50 more lbs in her for sure. It made me giggle.

People who are new to the gym sometimes don't notice the difference between a half squat and one to depth which is really bad, because it might lead them to think a half squat is good form when its not and its actually horrible for your knees. I would never unrack something I didn't plan to take to depth.

[drumlinegirl]

Oh I have SOOO many stories. Both good and bad, I guess I am pretty approachable or something, lol! Even though I am very shy and quiet and always have my ear buds in.

Anyways, once incident I will never forget is when I was bench pressing VERY light. Probably 65 lbs, where my heavy bench is 185-195. I'm always safe and if I bench heavy I get a spotter. So here I was pressing light weight when suddenly a man's head appears in my line of vision (I'm on my back on a bench). He was standing behind my head trying to spot me. I had headphones in and couldn't hear what he was saying to me. It startled me and messed up my set. Now, like I said, I am VERY shy and quiet but when I racked the bar, I pull out my ear buds and he starts saying "you should ALWAYS have a spotter, you're going to hurt yourself." I told him I'd been lifting for years, I knew what I was doing, and he distracted and startled me, which is more dangerous. I was so pissed lol!

[Jammer02xd]

Forget those kind of people OP. Real men don't mind seeing women lift some iron!

I love gym dudes...generally leave you alone if you have your buds in, nod in acknowledgement and do their own thing

Also love when they're spacing between sets and suddenly twig they've been staring

Also love spacing between sets and suddenly twig I've been staring

I do this all the time. I space for a little bit than realize it probably appears like I'm staring at someone. Opps!

[sy2502]

I have had a couple of guys asking if I needed a spot, and several times, when I found a machine or a bar with the plates still loaded, guys have come by to help me get the plates off, which was nice. I think I had only 1 guy approach me when I was at the very beginning of my training, and I was doing DB overhead presses, and this guy says "let me show you something" and he starts doing lunges with overhead presses, then he says, you can also do this, and he does lunges with biceps curls. I said something like "ok, thank you" and kept doing what I was doing.

[dsm246]

Most guys seem to recognize that I know what I'm doing and leave me alone. If they stop to say anything it is to say the lifts look good or ask a question about my shoes.

I did once have a guy come up and try to help me unload the plates from a bar - he thought someone had abandoned the bar fully loaded. I had to explain that, no, i had put that weight on the bar. He the waited and watched me squat it - which was pretty annoying.

The guys training their girlfriends can be pretty entertaining. Saw one guy have his girlfriend squat with something like 20 pounds on the bar. He then way overloads the bar for himself. Told her he was going for 5 reps. Goes down for the first rep and the bar just crushes him to the ground and he has to crawl out from under the safeties. He then tells her: "That happened because I squatted too low."

[sy2502]

I did once have a guy come up and try to help me unload the plates from a bar - he thought someone had abandoned the bar fully loaded. I had to explain that, no, i had put that weight on the bar.

LOL that's so badass!!!

I remember once I was doing deadlifts and a guy in the rack next to me was doing olympic lifts. He waited for me to finish my set then asked me if I could help him figure out his form and why he was having trouble with a lift. I was flattered as phuck, but had to tell him I don't know chit about olympic lifts. He didn't even look like he was making it up to hit on me or anything, he genuinely thought I could give him some help.

[Cass40]

I had a guy tell me once that I was squatting with too much weight.

But he was right!
When I took a video, my form was breaking. In general I like to be critiqued because I can't see myself.

However, if someone told me to go do cardio and lift 5lbs., I'd punch them in the face!

[kimm4]

The only time anyone ever said anything to me was when I was 2 weeks out from my show.

Gym owner: Kim you really should lighten your load.
Me: That is my lightened load.
Gym owner: Oh Jesus.

[LisaSkinnoble]

Mr Flexy just gave me this shirt for the gym:

[cat10595]

It's the same crew most afternoons at my gym, and I'm one of the only girls who actually lifts any sort of reasonable weight, so I tend to get compliments more than anything. And I've been going there long enough that I'm friends with half of them anyway.

I did once have a guy tell me I shouldn't lift heavy because he didn't like chicks who lift heavy...I told him I didn't give a damn and added more weight.

[sy2502]

I did once have a guy tell me I shouldn't lift heavy because he didn't like chicks who lift heavy...

"Good thing I wouldn't go out with you if you were the last dude alive then..."

[Cass40]

I did once have a guy tell me I shouldn't lift heavy because he didn't like chicks who lift heavy...I told him I didn't give a damn and added more weight.

He he..comedy gold!

That's what I do too...I just walk up to strangers and say stuff like "you shouldn't smoke because I don't like guys who smoke" or "cut that beard off, I don't like guys with beards" or "you are little bit skinny to my liking, you should gain some weight" etc...

Or was this someone you knew?

[cat10595]

He he..comedy gold!

That's what I do too...I just walk up to strangers and say stuff like "you shouldn't smoke because I don't like guys who smoke" or "cut that beard off, I don't like guys with beards" or "you are little bit skinny to my liking, you should gain some weight" etc...

Or was this someone you knew?

Nope, just some random I'd never seen before, and I don't think I've seen him since! To make it extra amusing, he was the "load the bar up too heavy and half rep everything" type Like that's going to impress me!