Positive thinking is legit, life has completely changed in 2016. Story + habits.

[kingreyez]

Can confirm. Whenever I meditate regularly everything just seems to work out for me. Less stress, work goes by fast, I catch girls noticing me a lot more, and I do better in school and with finances

[ThailandBrah]

nominate for biggest troll bread of 2016

in b4 tai lopez

[Nicklol]

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[Manletbolic]

Good post op. Unfortunately 99% ppl who lurk here wont get it

They depend their happiness on a woman filling that empty void
They conform to others opinion
They start threads such as "LOL at....."
They believe balding, anything under 5'9 you, arent ceoing 10k a day you are failure at life.
They look up to role models who have issues themselves and arent exactly contributing to society eg; zyzz, chad, anyone who is just aesthetic.
They complain their gfs are cheating, cucking them, yet only shoot for superficial hbbs
Ect.ect

[Desi_guy]

Mods, how do I rep OP again lol? Good thread and some amazing replies. Ill rep a lot of you guys here as I have subscribed to it

[YungSiddhartha]

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yeah, this is nothing new. Throughout the year, I sometimes doubted the impact of mindset. When I did, I'd try to watch an interview of someone who has accomplished a lot or seems to be successful. Every once in a while, someone would talk about the year they turned it around. They reflected on hard times where they stayed fired up no matter what happened. I wrote this, because a thread like this on the misc could've given me another few weeks of faith when things werent going how I wanted.

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I really dont like the "bla bla bla" motivational stuff. Shut the fuk up, what makes you so enlightened? Yes, we get it, you should try to be happy. But as I wrote above, this thread wouldve helped me at one point.

nominate for biggest troll bread of 2016

in b4 tai lopez

brb cringing at the comparison.

[YungSiddhartha]

Good post op. Unfortunately 99% ppl who lurk here wont get it

They depend their happiness on a woman filling that empty void
They conform to others opinion
They start threads such as "LOL at....."
They believe balding, anything under 5'9 you, arent ceoing 10k a day you are failure at life.
They look up to role models who have issues themselves and arent exactly contributing to society eg; zyzz, chad, anyone who is just aesthetic.
They complain their gfs are cheating, cucking them, yet only shoot for superficial hbbs
Ect.ect

yep, I avoid those threads. Dont need that chit in my brain.

[KingofLifts]

Can I ask you: How do cultivate a positive mindset when negative things happen to you? I understand looking at life through a positive lens, but how do you do that when crappy stuff happens?

What if it's something life-altering? or a disability of some sort?

Side note: Thanks to this thread I started a journal, although I'm not quite sure how im gonna structure it yet. I'm for sure gonna record what happened that day, but I might make a seperate journal for my goal-setting and how I felt about my progress that day.

Any other tips on journaling? I want to feel that cathartic release of getting my thoughts straight on paper (e-paper lol)

[vinilzord]

Ofc it's legit OP. NLP works
Repped because positive thinking is the only way man

[excess34]

Can I ask you: How do cultivate a positive mindset when negative things happen to you? I understand looking at life through a positive lens, but how do you do that when crappy stuff happens?

What if it's something life-altering? or a disability of some sort?

Side note: Thanks to this thread I started a journal, although I'm not quite sure how im gonna structure it yet. I'm for sure gonna record what happened that day, but I might make a seperate journal for my goal-setting and how I felt about my progress that day.

Any other tips on journaling? I want to feel that cathartic release of getting my thoughts straight on paper (e-paper lol)

i personally definitely recommend separate journals to help keep it organized. also recommend not doing this electronically, i think the effect is more powerful when hand writing especially if you're a frequent internet/computer user

[YungSiddhartha]

Can I ask you: How do cultivate a positive mindset when negative things happen to you? I understand looking at life through a positive lens, but how do you do that when crappy stuff happens?
In short, try not to see things as negative things. Try to find some lesson or meaning in the "crappy stuff". Example, getting cheated on shows you that you're with the wrong person. Finding out feels like it'll fuking kill you, but it sets you free, and with that freedom comes the opportunity to meet the right person.

What if it's something life-altering? or a disability of some sort?
I mean you're gonna feel negative emotions in those situations. But 99% of the time we are bothered by trivial things. If I have my health, I am very lucky. IF I DONT have my health, well, idk how to deal with that.

Side note: Thanks to this thread I started a journal, although I'm not quite sure how im gonna structure it yet. I'm for sure gonna record what happened that day, but I might make a seperate journal for my goal-setting and how I felt about my progress that day.

Any other tips on journaling? I want to feel that cathartic release of getting my thoughts straight on paper (e-paper lol)

Tips on journaling: just do it. Type as you think, dont even think about how it sounds, dont worry about spelling, dont stop to figure out how to word things. You can do that in a recap in the end. Just get your thoughts out.

[Cadet4life]

nice OP
+1 for the worry journal, i have something like that

[KingKringe]

uhh i dont know about that buddy.

[Freeze2000]

In4l8er

[ProboscisMonkie]

Motivational as fck

[DreAsh]

Great thread, will be applying some of your tips to my life. Thanks!

[zombiecure]

I always have a habit in not putting 100% effort into something so then I just end up wasting my time. Idk how to explain it

[SitchNoHomo]

Herman Hesse wrote a book about you

[CrimsonSteel]

Law of attraction.

"The Secret."

You reap what you sow.

Karma.

Your thoughts shape your reality.

There's a bit of truth to it, OP. Glad to hear you're doing well. My 2016 turned out for the better towards August.

[Desi_guy]

Repped, and bumped for others to see

[YungSiddhartha]

I always have a habit in not putting 100% effort into something so then I just end up wasting my time. Idk how to explain it

Do you never put 100% in or do you go all in for a short spurt of time? DO you put 100% into things you care about?

[21stCenturyKid]

This is just a trick of the brain; perhaps the alteration of certain neurochemicals that can (maybe) result in you making choices that you would not have made otherwise, that can lead to certain (positive or negative) events that you would then attribute to "positive thinking". So on the other hand, please do not tell me that positivity has some sort of magic-like-quantum-effects that alters the physical world. Tomorrow you can think positively to your hearts desire, but end up slipping on a staircase and shattering your skull in pieces. Everything in existence is predetermined; remember that.

Even your positivity.

[KingofLifts]

This is just a trick of the brain; perhaps the alteration of certain neurochemicals that can (maybe) result in you making choices that you would not have made otherwise, that can lead to certain (positive or negative) events that you would then attribute to "positive thinking". So on the other hand, please do not tell me that positivity has some sort of magic-like-quantum-effects that alters the physical world. Tomorrow you can think positively to your hearts desire, but end up slipping on a staircase and shattering your skull in pieces. Everything in existence is predetermined; remember that.

Even your positivity.

I would argue the opposite.

[AyMayne]

Affirmations and positive thinking are legit. They've worked for me whenever I managed to commit to them for longer periods of time.

That being said, I don't believe in them as some magical force that summons good fortune into your life. I see them more as something that primes your subconscious mind and your human pattern recognition software in such a way that you're aligned with your goals and you recognize opportunities that you might normally have overlooked. And constantly reminding yourself of what you want keeps you focused and headed in that direction, whereas when you're just going with the flow, it's easy to forget and lose sight of everything and go off track.

Same goes for the opposite, with negative thinking. You're going to have your own confirmation bias working for you, actively seeking negativity to prove your beliefs right, and steering you in that general direction.

[YungSiddhartha]

This is just a trick of the brain; perhaps the alteration of certain neurochemicals that can (maybe) result in you making choices that you would not have made otherwise, that can lead to certain (positive or negative) events that you would then attribute to "positive thinking". So on the other hand, please do not tell me that positivity has some sort of magic-like-quantum-effects that alters the physical world. Tomorrow you can think positively to your hearts desire, but end up slipping on a staircase and shattering your skull in pieces. Everything in existence is predetermined; remember that.

Even your positivity.

ooh. You believe in predetermination? Can you go more indepth? Its a cool idea, and I think in practical terms it could be true. I do not believe that thoughts alter the material world in a direct sense. Behavior is the mediator. I can think of a chair all day, a chair will not appear. But I can think of a chair, take the action to build one, and in effect I will have thought the chair into reality.

If you have perfect woodworking skills, you can build a chair directly from a thought. Thought is as much a part of that chair as wood is. The chair will only be as good as your vision of a chair.

In the "thoughts can change your life" idea, behavior is still the mediator between thought and material world. A lot of people possess the mental capacity to envision a great life, but might not spend the time it takes to refine that vision. We have the behavioral capacity to do a LOT more than we think. The limiter is the clarity and quality of the vision. As you cultivate a stronger vision, you start to identify what skills you need in order to build that vision in the real world. You also identify skills or resources that you currently do have that could build one part of that vision, or at least take you a few steps further down the path.

Tthe secret/law of attraction type documentaries present the idea as a quantum mechanical TRUTH. Obviously this isnt true, its quite a stretch of some sketchy physics understandings. But if you choose to believe that is the case, you will spend a lot of time refining your vision and feeling excited about it. Behavior follows naturally. People say its effortless because in the way they frame their task, it doesnt require any willpower. When you're focused on a visualization you're sure you'll achieve, you take deliberate action and its fun. There is no urge telling you to stop. You may even forget to eat you get so into it. That doesnt feel like effort.

As with all religions and spiritual philosophies, things will be presented as facts that are meant to serve as symbols. No, prayer doesnt work, visualization isnt magic. But, if you believe it does, you are sure to stay focused on the life you want to build. For that reason it is smart to offer some sort of undeniable PROOF. You choose to take it as PROOF and rely on that faith when things in the real world are challenging your vision.

Lincoln said "If you give me 6 hours to chop down a tree, I'll spend the first 4 sharpening the axe". When you take the time to visualize and get yourself fired up about your goal, you are sharpening the axe. When the time comes to metaphorically chop down a tree, your tool will be able to do that job well. Most of us would say just take the ax and chop away till its down. Thats normal go to school, get a job, try to make money, try to retire. Its hard, it takes forever, and its a bad way to do it. BUT if you go through that same life trajectory with a sharp ax, you will accomplish much more in less time. Nobody is telling you to ignore the tree, just sharpen the ax first. Since traditional thought is just chop away, these ideas focus SOLELY on the ax, because you should already know the trees will appear and the chopping will be necessary.

/Ramble

[Yero91]

Glad to hear everything went well for you. 2016 has been a winning year for me as well. Cheers bro

[YungSiddhartha]

Affirmations and positive thinking are legit. They've worked for me whenever I managed to commit to them for longer periods of time.

That being said, I don't believe in them as some magical force that summons good fortune into your life. I see them more as something that primes your subconscious mind and your human pattern recognition software in such a way that you're aligned with your goals and you recognize opportunities that you might normally have overlooked. And constantly reminding yourself of what you want keeps you focused and headed in that direction, whereas when you're just going with the flow, it's easy to forget and lose sight of everything and go off track.

Same goes for the opposite, with negative thinking. You're going to have your own confirmation bias working for you, actively seeking negativity to prove your beliefs right, and steering you in that general direction.

insert page of 100 emojis.

[TrotonKat]

I would love to meditate, I was thinking about going with a friend to a Buddhist Temple and learn just haven't got around to doing it yet, also it is a bit of a hike from my house.

Every time I try to at home, my mind does not switch off

[Tongyo]

in on positivity thrad

[YungSiddhartha]

I would love to meditate, I was thinking about going with a friend to a Buddhist Temple and learn just haven't got around to doing it yet, also it is a bit of a hike from my house.

Every time I try to at home, my mind does not switch off

It takes practice. Dont try to get to a certain state and dont try to switch your brain off. Just sit somewhere comfortable and set a 5 minute timer and count your breaths. Focus on breathing, das it. Over time 5 minutes gets easy and you move up to 10. Takes a while to get accustomed to that. But over a few months you'll start to notice that the timer goes off and youre like ohhhh fuk I was in a zone. Then you bring timer up to 15.

Download calm or headspace, it can be helpful. I find the breathing exercise in the Pacifica app to be a good way to get relaxed in like one minute.

My personal routine:

In mornings I do some khapalbati breathing, 3 rounds of fifty quick breaths, then settle into a normal breathing pattern. If my mind drifts I might do another round.

After every workout I sit in the sauna for 10 minutes and focus on the temperature. I usually get out feeling very calm. Then sometimes I'll hang out at this park walking distance from the gym and do another 10-15 minutes while the endorphins are still flowing.

Gotta find waht works for you. But to start, just commit to 5 minutes of counting your breaths. 1 inhale, 2, exhale, 3 inhale etc. Go back to 1 after 10. If you keep counting your mind gets focused on the number and you lose count.