The ordinary life of the married man

[mrhold80]

I am here to share with you all my experience with marriage. I am aware that 99% of the population will just get married because "thats how its ment to be" without any thought of asking yourself "Do I actually want to get married?"

This is how it unfolded for me:

I was pretty much single up untill the age of 26. I used to go out most weekends and travel abit, slaying bitches pretty much every weekend.

Met a girl who I believed was "the one" and that there is no one out there that would be a better soul mate then her.

It was a typical relationship everything was going well and like any normal couple, we went through the stages of a relationship.

We got married at 30 and signed a mortgage contract till pretty much I die. This is when the relationship started to decline. It was like the thoughts were " I now have this person locked in and its time to let my self go and my love for my partner isnt much anymore because I am comfortable" Our sex life declined from having intercourse 3-4 times a week to once a month and even then I feel like she see's it as a chore while she imagines jamal deep inside of her (who know's she could be having jamal on the daily behind my back) she barely works, while I slave myself 60 hours a week trying to be a good provider. I masturbated daily in the work bathroom to fulfill my sexual urges. We had 2 kids which took up even more of my time. My life is horrible, my whole life is committed to pleasing others doing things I don't want to do having no free time. I believe I was sold the fantasy. If I apparently ticked off all these things on this fantasy list my life would apprently be complete but the more I tick off these box's I feel more and more empty inside.

If I could do it all over again I would do the following:

Create my own online businesses and become a digital nomad

Not lock myself in a lifetime contract with the bank while they **** me over on the daily

Not have kids, I know this sounds harsh but the financial and time commitment is unbearable


Live in a cheaper country. There is alot of cheap safe countries out there that could be great for nomads


CLIFF NOTES:

Don't follow what every else does. Think for yourself!
Don't get a lifetime contract with the bank. It traps you for life
Don't waste your life being a wage slave, you only live once there is no such thing as RISK! get that stuck in your heads
Stop thinking your precious little bae is the only girl in the world that can be your partner, she isnt as different as you think!

Start living! I hope you all can learn something from what I have said

[DatingInTheDark]

99% of men will cheat if someone attractive and even slightly compatible comes on to them

[stardewvalley]

You had kids? Did they die?

Did you get a divorce?

Holy cow, where are the married brahs with a positive vibe to come and counter balance this?
What do you do for work?
Have you thought of cheating on your wife?
How old are your kids?

[mrhold80]

You had kids? Did they die?

Did you get a divorce?

Holy cow, where are the married brahs with a positive vibe to come and counter balance this?
What do you do for work?
Have you thought of cheating on your wife?
How old are your kids?

No divorce
I work in an office, pretty much an office jockey
All the time, my life sucks and sexless I want to feel loved again
they are both under 10

[crupiea]

Every young man should read this because this is 100% accurate and how it happens in real life.

[Fuqdatass]

Another uplifting tale from the misc

[anonkunbrah]

can you sum up your post in 1 sentence?

[mrhold80]

Every young man should read this because this is 100% accurate and how it happens in real life.

100% People need to wake up and realize this is how it actually is! its terrible and I don't want to see anyone else go through it

[mrhold80]

can you sum up your post in 1 sentence?

Dont waste your life following the norm

[Misanthropic91]

Another uplifting tale from the misc

lmao this

so because OP married the wrong woman and is now a cuck we should all be wary?

married and have sex anywhere from 1 to 5 times a day crew, u mad OP?

[Firefightn24]

Stopped at "slaying bitches every weekend"

Lmao this place, I swear. Never any novelty as it's just one tard rehashing what the last one said.

[RougeProdigy]

Cliffs of cliffs: Don't get married

[2020Wellness]

Every young man should read this because this is 100% accurate and how it happens in real life.

This is what happens to people who have an LDAR attitude when it comes to their relationship, yes. This is not what happens to people who actually enjoy each other, make smart financial decisions so they aren't forced into working 60 hours a week, and keep up with their own personal passions.

It isn't hard to do those three things at all.

Notice when things started going south for the OP? They started going south when he got the 'I'm locked in and don't care anymore' attitude.

[SirBetalot]

lmao this

so because OP married the wrong woman and is now a cuck we should all be wary?

married and have sex anywhere from 1 to 5 times a day crew, u mad OP?

You are the exception, not the rule.

[JT11RTR]

First thing you need to do is tell the wife the dead honest truth. You feel she is letting herself go, needs to have an interest in sex, and you want an actual relationship not just to be mom and dad. No matter how she reacts or what she says, you need to stress to her the way you feel. BUT no matter what happens, please be a great father to your kids. They never asked to be brought into the world and have no say on their lives right now. The worst thing for a kid is to grow up in a family where the parents hate each other and neglect or take it out on the kids.

[mrhold80]

lmao this

so because OP married the wrong woman and is now a cuck we should all be wary?

married and have sex anywhere from 1 to 5 times a day crew, u mad OP?

INB4 Cucked by jamal

[mrhold80]

This is what happens to people who have an LDAR attitude when it comes to their relationship, yes. This is not what happens to people who actually enjoy each other, make smart financial decisions so they aren't forced into working 60 hours a week, and keep up with their own personal passions.

It isn't hard to do those three things at all.

Notice when things started going south for the OP? They started going south when he got the 'I'm locked in and don't care anymore' attitude.

so why is it like 99% of marriages are like this? Please explain

[JB05]

Yea OP, being a loner with nothing to look forward to but the next fap is the GOAT way to go through life

[mrhold80]

Quit crying and act like a man, you're a disgrace to the male population do us all a favor take out a life insurance policy on yourself and eat a bullet. Honestly it's the only way I see your kids having good memories of you versus seeing you as a soft weak cuck feeling sorry for himself.

INB4 your a wageslave cuck also who lies to himself

[mrhold80]

First thing you need to do is tell the wife the dead honest truth. You feel she is letting herself go, needs to have an interest in sex, and you want an actual relationship not just to be mom and dad. No matter how she reacts or what she says, you need to stress to her the way you feel. BUT no matter what happens, please be a great father to your kids. They never asked to be brought into the world and have no say on their lives right now. The worst thing for a kid is to grow up in a family where the parents hate each other and neglect or take it out on the kids.

Of course I will be good to the kiddies. I have to take responsibility for being a parent and look after them, I do love my kids but hate my life. I want to warn other people though.

[CrookedDink]

It's a shame many young men arent redpilled til it's too late. By 30 you should definitely know all of that.

[Misanthropic91]

so why is it like 99% of marriages are like this? Please explain

beats me chief, all i know is if my wife would neglect giving up the poosy and let me hit it once a month i'd be having a serious conversation.

No results? bye felicia

honestly it almost sounds like neither of you really truly care, personally i cant imagine how hurt i'd be if my wife wouldnt wanna have sex with me for a month on end because that clearly means she no longer really feels all that attracted to me.

[2020Wellness]

so why is it like 99% of marriages are like this? Please explain

To be fair, 99% of marriages aren't like yours. Some are, some aren't. Those composed of people who become complacent are. Those composed of people who don't become complacent aren't.

Like I said, your opening post clearly illustrates the turning point.......it's when you became complacent and didn't care when things started going downhill as a result. It isn't like you went from weekly sex to sex every few months overnight. First it had to have been a single week drought, which you were cool enough with to accept. Then it moved to two weeks, which you were obviously cool with too. That's not how it's done by someone who cares about how their life is going.

You talk about working 60 hours per week. I'm 100% confident that with great financial decisions, you could be working less and having more time to enjoy yourself and your family (dates with your wife, fun with your kids, fun with your family, doing something you love to do by yourself, etc).

You mention kids being a huge financial burden. YOU choose how much you spend on them. If they run you, it's going to be alot. If you take charge and raise them to appreciate fewer things, they'll turn out better and you'll have more money.

These are just a few points I can make here, but it really just comes down to you marrying someone you felt great about and then let things go. Apparently she did the same. That's not the attitude of 99% of married people, I promise you that.

[mrhold80]

It's a shame many young men arent redpilled til it's too late. By 30 you should definitely know all of that.

I want to make people aware of this. 99% of marriages are like this, my friends feel the exact same as I do

[GMiscer]

Meh, just another thread trying to make all marriage sound like a bad idea
It works out if you marry the right woman
Been married for about 6 months now and it's way better than being single
Refusing to ever get married because you think "you've got it all figured out" is pure cope
Can't even related to my single friends anymore because one you get married you become cliquey friends with other married folks and have less and less in common with single people to the point they become irrelevant

[headturner1]

Is this a bish alt account? Seems like it

[Flexxo32]

That sucks, I am happily married, have 3 kids a home and 2 cars and my life kicks ass.

Sorry yours doesn't OP.

[meenman83]

INB4 your a wageslave cuck also who lies to himself

contractor dunski, you get the life insurance policy paperwork going yet or you still on your woah is me trip cuck.

[hermes3893]

Meh, just another thread trying to make all marriage sound like a bad idea
It works out if you marry the right woman
Been married for about 6 months now and it's way better than being single
Refusing to ever get married because you think "you've got it all figured out" is pure cope
Can't even related to my single friends anymore because one you get married you become cliquey friends with other married folks and have less and less in common with single people to the point they become irrelevant

GMiscer breaks his cover

[mrhold80]

Meh, just another thread trying to make all marriage sound like a bad idea
It works out if you marry the right woman
Been married for about 6 months now and it's way better than being single
Refusing to ever get married because you think "you've got it all figured out" is pure cope
Can't even related to my single friends anymore because one you get married you become cliquey friends with other married folks and have less and less in common with single people to the point they become irrelevant

I am sure you will enjoy having no time when the kids arrive