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08-11-2016, 07:38 AM #121
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08-11-2016, 07:50 AM #122
Thanks good post. The difference between myself and supreme gentlemen is that SG felt entitled to what he wanted and was actively mad at those who had what he didn't.
I am not entitled, I understand that you get what you deserve most of the time in this life and if you can't well that's life. But that doesn't make it feel any better when I wake up everyday knowing I have to settle because I can't do any better
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08-11-2016, 07:52 AM #123
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Just because someone visually has a better life, does not mean its better.
Perspective is that I feel I am near the upper top of the middle of everyone. Focus on being better for myself and not care about other people and what they have. Put meaning into things that have value.
So ask yourself, is having the newest iPhone more important to yourself, or to everyone around you when you pull it out?
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08-11-2016, 08:00 AM #124
1. Most people feel they are "upper top of the middle of everyone", it's a cognitive bias and there are studies that suggest people get depressed without it because they can't handle reality.
2. I'm not that hung up on consumerism/material things. I'd love to be rich if I could but what makes me happy doesn't require being rich.
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08-11-2016, 08:55 AM #125
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I'm better looking than 97-99% of the population...
Thats how I do it.
I'd rather keep my looks and be a broke bum than be an ugly millionaire.
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08-11-2016, 09:06 AM #126
There is working hard, and there is working smart. This is way more prevalent than windfall, which you think to seem is happening to everybody. Huge stroke of luck is uncommon, most people get to where they get to, by working smart.
You can study for 8 hours on your own for a test, or study for 8 hours in a group, with a TA guiding it. You spend the same amount of time both ways, so you are working hard, but which will lead you to a better outcome?
P.S. social media is an amazing tool for life gains, and you'd be stupid to quit it.Living a happy life
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08-11-2016, 09:11 AM #127
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08-11-2016, 09:25 AM #128
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OP is fantasizing on what 2% or less of the population has.
These dreams aren't realistic. And no, you cannot "be anything you want", the odds are impossible.
What you need to do is make yourself happy in the bubble you exist in. It's all relative.ï‘‘ God of POF Crewï‘‘
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08-11-2016, 09:27 AM #129
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08-11-2016, 09:29 AM #130
Sometimes I get jealous, it is only natural, but I realize I have a better and more successful life than most people and I work everyday to make my life better so I'm content with where I'm at. Maybe it is a cope on my part but it is still comforting to know I'm making a conscious consistent effort to improve my life rather than LDAR
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08-11-2016, 09:32 AM #131
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08-11-2016, 09:37 AM #132
Learn to focus on your strengths and capitalize on them instead of dreaming about fantasy.
You're 26. At this point, your being pro @ soccer dream is just stupid. You should've probably moved on from it about 6+ years ago because usually if you're not very talented @ the sports by 18 or so, you might as well forget about it.
Sorry if I come off harsh, but I figured some tough love might be needed to wake you up from dwelling over nothing.**AC Milan**
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08-11-2016, 09:44 AM #133
No worries, guess I wasn't that clear I gave up hope on that goal when I was in college since I was only borderline good enough to make a D1 team. But it's still what I wish I had. If you asked me today what I actually want to do with my life, that's what it would be.
I realize most people have similar "fantasy" lives they want, but for me lately I'm having a hard time looking at my life and realizing the best I can do is settle for s*it I dont even want
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08-11-2016, 09:57 AM #134
There's nothing out there that I care enough about though srs. So then my thought was to just try to make as much money as possible but the routes that were available to me (I banking and other s*it with high salaries but horrible work-life balance) weren't for me. I srsly think I just need to lay down and rot.
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08-11-2016, 09:57 AM #135
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08-11-2016, 10:06 AM #136
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08-11-2016, 10:15 AM #137
Bold is the biggest point that needs be said ITT.
Life is a long, well thought out and proactive scam. OP is just one of the few people who is completely aware of his inferiority and its killing him.
The only way you can get rid of this feeling is by deluding yourself of your mediocrity like everyone else is doing, or bite the bullet and just complete and totally accept your position and circumstances.
I think you are already heading towards the latter. You'll probably feel a lot better in a few years breah-Chad in my dreams crew
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08-11-2016, 10:16 AM #138
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08-11-2016, 10:19 AM #139
You try your best to strive to be better than them. Hopefully along the way you start to understand exactly what it is you want, in which case it doesnt matter what they are doing or how successful they are, so long as youre ok with how you spend your time
Really, you only dislike it because youre insecure where you currently stand. If you were trying your best and living life to.its fullest it wouldnt matter
Just for what its worth.. ive sewn you post a lot. Youre definitely depressed. It makes no sense now and you think youre in this never ending hole - but its only because youre in it. You CAN change your circumstances it just takes hard work
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08-11-2016, 10:26 AM #140
I know those feels OP.
I've got a relative of mine around my age who comes from some real money. His dad is a VP of something at a major insurance firm, I'd be shocked if his family didn't pull in 300K annually.
Anyway, this guy is a liberal arts major at a private school where his parents pay full tuition, but he's got an internship at his dad's firm working with retirement plans or something. And he knows jack **** about finance. He was telling me about how it makes no sense to invest in a 401(k), you should just put all your money in a Roth and pay those taxes up front. I just smiled and nodded. But guess what, that guy's going to party his way to an English degree and instantly start on the fast track of corporate finance, just by an accident of birth.
My parents got on my case the other day about why I never go outside and do anything interesting, and why I don't have an internship this summer. I just went off, saying that I have to work to pay for my own school and that I could easily be doing the job that my relative's doing right now if my parents had connections and didn't make poverty-line money.
Made me look like a giant ****head, I know. But **** that, stuff like that is just unfair, and I get that life's not fair, but when people start saying "well why aren't you like that", then there's some outside circumstances to factor in.FA Crew
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08-11-2016, 10:27 AM #141
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08-11-2016, 10:27 AM #142
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08-11-2016, 10:31 AM #143
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08-11-2016, 10:40 AM #144
Did what I always wanted to do since I was a kid
Respected, good money, excelled at it, got awards and recognition, had a purpose
It defined me as an adult
Life happened
Bye bye all dat stuff
Spent next couple years trying to figure it out
Moved around, started and stopped schools, random jobs etc...
I was depressed about it, probably still am. But I understand major factors in life happening are uncontrollable
Ended up landing a good job, put my head down and just grinded it out for the last almost 2 years and was offered a management position, co workers always asking me why I smile so much at work or why I enjoyed being there all the time and none of them know that if i hadn't found a little purpose in this job/life I would of killed myself.
Just be happy to be alive brah and focus on you, everyone has something ****ed up in their life. Whether your closet is the trunk of your car or a entire room in a mansion they all have skeletons in them.
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08-11-2016, 10:48 AM #145
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08-11-2016, 10:54 AM #146
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08-11-2016, 10:54 AM #147
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08-11-2016, 11:15 AM #148
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08-11-2016, 11:19 AM #149
Jealously is not something you just get rid of, you just learn to live with it. There will always be someone better, stronger, luckier, and in that persons eyes there will always be a person luckier, faster, better than them.
Be greatfull for what you have, and do the best you can. Also remove fb that is a cancer for jealous I have removed it the last 6 months and I am SO MUCH HAPPIER.CPA
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08-11-2016, 11:30 AM #150
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Ehhh IDK I guess I'm naturally humble. I only care about what makes me happy, and I'm fortunate enough to be able to do those things.
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