Do Men Ask Women Out Anymore?

[drvillain]

[drvillain]

"Shy" Coworker UPDATE

So yesterday we were both working, so I said fuk it, and was just gonna flat out ask her out. Knees weak, arms were heavy, there was vommit on my sweater already etc... When I found her, before I could even speak, she invited me out for drinks that night after work (wot m8?). We had a GOOD night, and vibed really well, but now I'm realizing that she may not be as shy as I thought. She claims to be, but I'm just not buying it anymore. Anyway, we both agreed not to let our business spread at work, and we are gonna go to dinner sometime this week.

now i find out that she's been with women. wtf

[sneakyflute]

Talking to women (or people in general) becomes much easier when you realize how weird and flawed human beings are.

[Shortstop36]

now i find out that she's been with women. wtf

just invite this sloor over then. Don't be paying for meals cuz

[XXLAFLAME]

lol @ asking a girl out thru social media

only asked my previous gfs out in person

[drvillain]

just invite this sloor over then. Don't be paying for meals cuz

i still don't think she's an easy smash

lol @ asking a girl out thru social media

only asked my previous gfs out in person

gjdm, you're probably better for it

[Azmine]

Yes, but then again I live in NY where you get catcalls/cold approaches, because its so densely populated.


Nevertheless, the guys I ended up being into are shy asf.
Had to make the moves on my bf.

[Kabamaro]

I do approaching from time to time and I don't see other guys doing it often

Maybe once every 50 times I go out I see someone trying to spit game (outside parties/clubs/bars)

I don't like pure cold approaching. I prefer seeing signs first before approaching, but the less aesthetic you are the less signs you're going to get.

[drvillain]

Yes, but then again I live in NY where you get catcalls/cold approaches, because its so densely populated.


Nevertheless, the guys I ended up being into are shy asf.
Had to make the moves on my bf.

shy men? do you feel in control in the majority of your relationships?

[Azmine]

shy men? do you feel in control in the majority of your relationships?

This was recent, I think my past relationship made me feel that way.

Also, alot of my interests etc are usually very male oriented and more "outgoing" males want a woman who is ..more dainty I guess?

idk I've had men tell me that in the past so. *shrug*

[kratosbrah]

i still don't think she's an easy smash


gjdm, you're probably better for it

Breh she's a freak, hit her up and tell her instead of going out to come over and you'll cook her something, have her sipping on some henny & just go to pound town

I just saved u a 100 bucks, God bless

[drvillain]

Breh she's a freak, hit her up and tell her instead of going out to come over and you'll cook her something, have her sipping on some henny & just go to pound town

I just saved u a 100 bucks, God bless

As of right now, I'm not treating her like a sloot, and our dating has been pretty ideal. Feels like I'm dating a best friend (no homo)

[drvillain]

^welp she's my girlfriend now.

[Kabamaro]

Pretty women get asked out all the time, srs. Grocery store, gym, appointments, in work...

True but most guys that hit on them are on that beta time, they don't get hit on by cool dudes often

[drvillain]

True but most guys that hit on them are on that beta time, they don't get hit on by cool dudes often

i dont know man, it takes balls

[TaterSaladJr]

i dont know man, it takes balls

Usually when I ask women out in person, which I will admit is not often. Usually they agree and flake on me the day of the "date", more than once I've gone to the designated place and been stood up. They act like nothin even happened and some have even have the gull to ask me "when are we hanging out"

[drvillain]

^welp she's my girlfriend now.

this chick made me her complete bitch; LMAO never google your username misc.

[wincel]

this chick made me her complete bitch; LMAO never google your username misc.

lol my top result is this thread: https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=174616871

[Silencespeaks]

Old thread but good topic worth continuing.

Since I've been single I've only been asked out once in person, and twice over text by irl connections set up by mutual friends. And then online a lot of course but that's different.

[drvillain]

lol my top result is this thread: https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=174616871

lmao @ your response.

Old thread but good topic worth continuing.

Since I've been single I've only been asked out once in person, and twice over text by irl connections set up by mutual friends. And then online a lot of course but that's different.

I do think that this is worth continuing. The "major apps" have completely changed everything I'd say. It's too convenient, but the men that aren't favored on the apps are rotting instead of taking advantage of the lack of approaching going on these days.

[eod8989]

I don't think they do. I think ppl just meet as coworkers or mutual friends and then they just agree to hang out. I don't think ppl really just go up to ppl they don't know well and ask them out. Ppl these days are way too closed off these days. And men's confidence is at an all time low these days.

[Rabbitjb]

this chick made me her complete bitch; LMAO never google your username misc.

Storytime?

[drvillain]

I don't think they do. I think ppl just meet as coworkers or mutual friends and then they just agree to hang out. I don't think ppl really just go up to ppl they don't know well and ask them out. Ppl these days are way too closed off these days. And men's confidence is at an all time low these days.

I hear ya, but in the event that you're also speaking for yourself; think of how much you stand out for asking women out in person. Even if you are faking your confidence, that's a huge leap ahead of other guys relying on tinder.

[drvillain]

Storytime?

Not much to it.

- We fell for each other pretty hard and fast, I put her on a large pedastool & ignored things that bothered me because I didn't want to further complicate her life; due to how much sexual trauma and family issues she had. I went full beta (I saw her as this weak little thing; big mistake) for most of the relationship til she lost interest.
- She says things like I don't see you long term, but this is fun. Which hurt my feelings.
- I tell her I finally had enough of her ****, and we break up.
- She tells me she only wants to be FWBs (hurts my feelings again lol)
- I agree, life is good, she starts getting feelings and breaks it off
Drama & back & forth

An Opportunity arises at the best time, so I move to a different state which helped me get out of that mess.

Now she is dating a girl

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=174004701

^about same girl

[Eggiesinabasket]

Not much to it.

- We fell for each other pretty hard and fast, I put her on a large pedastool & ignored things that bothered me because I didn't want to further complicate her life; due to how much sexual trauma and family issues she had. I went full beta (I saw her as this weak little thing; big mistake) for most of the relationship til she lost interest.
- She says things like I don't see you long term, but this is fun. Which hurt my feelings.
- I tell her I finally had enough of her ****, and we break up.
- She tells me she only wants to be FWBs (hurts my feelings again lol)
- I agree, life is good, she starts getting feelings and breaks it off
Drama & back & forth

An Opportunity arises at the best time, so I move to a different state which helped me get out of that mess.

Now she is dating a girl

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=174004701

^about same girl

Jesus... sounds like unnecessary drama you don't need in your life. I hope you feel like you are better off without that one--from my perspective I think so. There's other women who know what they want and won't play games.

My personal experience: my boyfriend was the one who asked me out through text. I met him once at school and then he detectived my school email and sent a message the next day. Not going to lie--was a bit suspicious at first.

I think that was the only time I've been asked directly on a date.

[drvillain]

Jesus... sounds like unnecessary drama you don't need in your life. I hope you feel like you are better off without that one--from my perspective I think so. There's other women who know what they want and won't play games.

My personal experience: my boyfriend was the one who asked me out through text. I met him once at school and then he detectived my school email and sent a message the next day. Not going to lie--was a bit suspicious at first.

I think that was the only time I've been asked directly on a date.

I'm definitely good now. Everyone that knew both of us kept telling me to GTFO, but I was blinded by emotion and how physically attracted to her I was. Now I want to slap myself for putting up with it.

As for your situation, I'm a little surprised that the detective thing didn't turn you off completely lol. That's impressive stuff, and I'm happy its working out so far. I feel like other miscers need to see that a lot of men aren't asking women out like they think. Even the "chads"

[Legz422]

I can't read the whole thread cause no time, but OP you're doing it right! To me, a real man approaches in person. It shows confidence.

For all the guys that are scared, so what if she says no? As long as she's polite about it, it shouldn't make you feel bad. So what if she says she has a boyfriend? She just may, and if she's fibbing at least she's not being a jerk about it by acting like a B. Just freaking do it if you want to. I'm not online and I don't really do social media so I'm not getting asked out online, for me it's great when a guy asks me out in person. Even if I'm not interested, I am always polite and never mean to them.

Oh sheesh! Didn't know this was an old thread that just got bumped. lol

[Legz422]

I hear ya, but in the event that you're also speaking for yourself; think of how much you stand out for asking women out in person. Even if you are faking your confidence, that's a huge leap ahead of other guys relying on tinder.

This! This! This!!!!!!!!!!!! Guys! He's so right!

[Fang2]

Yes if you like a girl, ask her out before someone else does.

[Brozart]

brb you: date = lets hang out with no real plans... This is how some men steal your girls. for real

^ded srs. gotta plan them dates, bitches love that chit

lol @ asking a girl out thru social media

only asked my previous gfs out in person

lol @ gfs in 2017

I was blinded by emotion and how physically attracted to her I was.

so homie... now that she gon, where them pics @

and lol @ the updates ITT. funny how this chit plays out over time hey, looking back