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07-20-2016, 07:49 AM #121
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07-20-2016, 08:14 AM #122
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07-20-2016, 08:18 AM #123
Holy fuk OP has issues lol. Trying to date a damn 20 yr old that would hide a child? Jesus some people on this forum are hopeless. She hasn't even hit the prime sloot it up years...and will certainly be hiding that from you.
Feels after 3 mos? Yet claims to slay all this young py.
No hate at all, smashed a 21 yr community college soccer player...body was fresh. However, I would never ever imagine dating. Like said above, they are dumb, broke and priorities are nowhere near where a grown mans should be.
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07-20-2016, 08:21 AM #124
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07-20-2016, 08:46 AM #125
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07-20-2016, 08:56 AM #126
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07-20-2016, 09:14 AM #127
Yeah I didn't think it was relevant to the discussion, but that is the case. I went from looking like a **** to looking like a handsome ****.
Well I just texted her saying I discovered on FB that she has a kid. Again, this whole situation is mind boggling - we've been virtually inseparable for two months, and no mention of a kid at home.
Just waiting to see what her response is, then it'll be time to block and move on-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
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07-20-2016, 09:16 AM #128
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07-20-2016, 09:16 AM #129
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I anticipate her putting you in your place and reminding you that you didn't 'discover' anything since it is plastered all over her social media. You keep acting like she is posting up that she has a kid on some secretive board meant to be hidden from you like some big secret. It's fukkin ******** you dinosaur. She probably never would have thought that you were such an inept luddite that you hadn't looked at her social media.535 deadlift.
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07-20-2016, 09:21 AM #130
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07-20-2016, 09:21 AM #131
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07-20-2016, 09:21 AM #132
Hey chit head, you do understand this dude is a complete stranger and has no real relevancy to your life, whatsoever?? Not everything needs to be taken personally and until a few hours ago, the OP never clarified how it all went down. Jezuz. Some of you need to chill the fuk out and remind yourself there's bigger chit in the world than this dudes issues, he created himself.
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07-20-2016, 09:31 AM #133
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07-20-2016, 09:32 AM #134
I completely agree with what you're saying, but if you're dating a chick who has a kid for 3 months and she NEVER once mentions the kid or anything, that's odd. The fact that it's plastered on ******** tells me she would be just as open about it in her real life, especially towards someone she (presumably) has feelings for and wants to be in a relationship with.
Regardless though, you're right. OP didn't just discover some deep dark secret the world had never known. Anyone with fingers could have found her ******** and known.
But 35 y/o dating a 20 y/o. GJDM.Everything depends upon execution; having just a vision is no solution.
Performance and performance alone dictates the predator in any food chain.
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07-20-2016, 09:37 AM #135
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07-20-2016, 09:41 AM #136
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07-20-2016, 09:43 AM #137
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07-20-2016, 09:49 AM #138
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07-20-2016, 09:59 AM #139
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07-20-2016, 10:01 AM #140
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07-20-2016, 10:03 AM #141
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07-20-2016, 10:14 AM #142
I could see this happening but at the same time she never once mentioned the child, which should have been done on her part. You don't ONLY talk about your child on social media unless it's just a front meaning she's ashamed or something over having a child. I know a woman who's my age with a child, and she sent the child to live with her parents in Texas (she lives in PA!!!!!!) after signing over custody. she was 25 and just never grew up and started acting like a parent... There are some girls/boys (I call them this because they don't choose to grow up and be a parent) who don't ever have that click inside their head that they are responsible for another human being and fail to grow up. Perhaps this GF of the op's is the same, and if that's the case just walk the hell away.
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07-20-2016, 10:16 AM #143
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07-20-2016, 10:30 AM #144
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07-20-2016, 10:30 AM #145
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No, but you said:
Sure, you want to trust someone before you reveal your cards. But if you're dating someone for 3 months, that's time enough to develop feelings. So someone gets dragged along thinking there's a future with this person without knowing some serious details about their life such as...oh I don't know...already having a kid.
Don't twist logic around just because you have secrets you might be hiding. If you think of yourself as damaged goods, so be it. It's not fair to the other person (dating means there's another person involved) by screwing him over and not telling him these things. If you make choices in life, deal with that and accept it for what it is while finding someone else who will do the same. Don't drag someone along, have him develop feelings and then drop a bomb on him so he's emotionally wrecked by not knowing what to do. Jesus christ that's shady.
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07-20-2016, 10:33 AM #146
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07-20-2016, 10:33 AM #147
While I agree with you in this situation in particular, this is something he could have quickly found within the first day of knowing her. What she did was wrong. But on another hand, you have a 20 yr. old girl that got knocked up at 16 and living with her parents. Then you got a brain dead 35 yr. old with peter pan syndrome that can’t pull his head out of his azz long enough to maybe realize there’s a reason she’s keeping him from her family. To the point where it took 3 fuking months to start looking at her social media. Then he comes on here with the victim syndrome “Mannnn I don’t understand why this 20 yr. old girl living with her parents, (who I could never meet) isn’t upfront with me” I mean for fuks sake! Why he’s running around trying to play house with a 20 yr. old is a issue in itself, but then to sit their like a idiot wanting sympathy for a situation that could have easily been avoidable is just insanity. I judge the OP more than the girl. She’s 20 years old and dumb enough to get knocked up at 16. This mentality is expected. The OP’s just trying to fulfil a post hair transplant fantasy he never got 15 years ago, and now suffering the consequences of that.
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07-20-2016, 10:37 AM #148
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No offense bro but you don't seem very smart. I hope you don't take that as just an insult and move on without registering what I'm saying. Seriously, you need to use some common sense. I'm around the same age as you so I get that social media wasn't a big thing. But you need to use common sense tools in front of you to save yourself time and heartache. It's basic **** that takes about 30 seconds to do.
Also, I like dating younger women. Still, a 20 year old you have to pick up from mom's house? Dude. That's reserved for smashing only. No way at 35 years old you should be actually dating someone who you have to pick up from mom's house unless it's some sort of crazy event that made her move back home while she figures it out. Granted, she had that (a kid) but you didn't know and you didn't bother asking BASIC (very basic) questions that would lead her to either say it or not.
I can't imagine the **** you guys talk about as I'm very familiar with the younger crowd and the lack of common interests but you should still have deeper conversations that would lead to this type of thing being explained ahead of time.
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07-20-2016, 10:41 AM #149
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No one is arguing with this statement you're making here. Plenty of people are ragging on the OP too, myself included. What you're doing now is moving the goal posts and changing the target. This is standard with plenty of women I've dated too and it's frustrating.
1) OP is dumb.
2) OP should have checked social media
3) The girl fcked up when she was 16
^---Those things everyone agrees with. The problem is that you've moving the rest of it.
a) You've hid stuff in your past before and you're guilty about it so you don't find this as a big deal
b) You don't want to fully admit that hiding something from someone is a bad thing because that means you have to accept that you've done shady things before
^-----Those are the issues you need to deal with. If you're guilty of the same thing, so be it. Just don't come here and twist logic around to justify your actions. Accept you did it, move on, be better in the future. All of us have fcked up before. All of us. I still feel guilty about things I've done. Guess what, I don't do those things anymore because of that guilt. Maybe try that approach instead of justifying someone's actions because you feel bad about doing the same thing before.
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07-20-2016, 10:47 AM #150
This guy gets it ^^
In any case, she texted me back saying "I thought you knew I had a daughter." (That's pure nonsense)
So I texted back "Why have you never mentioned her? We've been on tons of dates and this is the first I'm hearing."
Some of you guys are in full potato mode. Just because some info is available on ******** doesn't remove the obligation to tell the person you're dating. I mean how far does this logic extend? "Derrr I'm not going to tell my boss I finished the quarterly report because I posted a mention of it on ********." I'd end up having to find a new job, just like this girl now has to find a new boyfriend-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
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