Just found out my gf has a secret child living with her parents

[LurkoLantern]

Been dating my chick for about 3 months, and I honestly thought everything was too good to be true. She's young, beautiful, fun to be around. We're having the time of our lives. I caught major feels. We're at the point in the relationship where we refer to each other as bf/gf.

Thing is - I've never been much of a social media guy. I go on ******** like twice a year at most. But tonight I finally google my chick's name - I find her and her fb has tons of photos of her with her daughter, who it looks like she had when she was 16 (she's 20 now).


Well fuk. Right now I have the sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. I haven't texted her tonight yet - dunno what I'm going to say or do. So far she doesn't know that I know.

Dang it, I wanted to have something real with this chick. I put a lot of emotional investment into her, and she kept this this all a secret from me At the same time, it's pure 'tardedness to raise someone elses kid.

I don't know what I'm going to do. North Carolina's the only real option, isn't it, misc?

[HouseOfISRAEL]

Been dating my chick for about 3 months, and I honestly thought everything was too good to be true. She's young, beautiful, fun to be around. We're having the time of our lives. I caught major feels. We're at the point in the relationship where we refer to each other as bf/gf.

Thing is - I've never been much of a social media guy. I go on ******** like twice a year at most. But tonight I finally google my chick's name - I find her and her fb has tons of photos of her with her daughter, who it looks like she had when she was 16 (she's 20 now).


Well fuk. Right now I have the sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. I haven't texted her tonight yet - dunno what I'm going to say or do. So far she doesn't know that I know.

Dang it, I wanted to have something real with this chick. I put a lot of emotional investment into her, and she kept this this all a secret from me At the same time, it's pure 'tardedness to raise someone elses kid.

I don't know what I'm going to do. North Carolina's the only real option, isn't it, misc?

THE AMERICAN jezebel strikes again, call it a loss or raise my son boyo

[S0Jack3d]

any woman who doesnt raise her own child and dumps it on her parents IS NOT WIFE MATERIAL.

smash her out, have your fun, then dump her as soon as possible because she wont make a good wife or mother.

[motilynn]

Believe me when I say, there's worse secrets she could have had. If you love her as much you say, then maybe you give it some time. Why is the child being raised by her parents? How much involvement does she have with her daughter? Maybe you could try and get the back story on it.

[Vhagar]

Lmao

Strong relationship skills to not find that out after 3 months. Clearly not a secret if it's plastered all over ********

[OnYourKneesPlz]

She deceived you. That's messed up

[MadDocker]

Congrats OP, you're a Dad now.

[Aaron4Prez]

Don't be a cuck. Buy a one way plane ticket to the beautiful land of North Carolina.

[guest89]

Believe me when I say, there's worse secrets she could have had. If you love her as much you say, then maybe you give it some time. Why is the child being raised by her parents? How much involvement does she have with her daughter? Maybe you could try and get the back story on it.

The fact that she's keeping a child secret is shady as hell. Every single mother I've ever met has always brought up their child and mentioned how important their child is to them, etc. Also if the kid is being raised by the parents thats an eyebrow raiser too.

[WafflesBrah]

yikes all that text and no pics to show for it. negged

[Turbomunkey]

The only real problem with the situation is she hid that ****. I mean how the fook do you even hide having a kid from the person you are dating? Thats some calculated shiv, just like how she mixed radiator fluid in with your gatorades and slowly killed you then took your house....

[HerculesGhost]

End it. Seriously, fukk anyone who says otherwise. This is a huge deal. Imagine what else she would keep from you. And imagine the kind of weak character she has that she feels she has to hide her own child to maintain an illusion with someone she's known for only 3 months. Fukk that.

Break it off, be classy about it if you want, but break it off.

[motilynn]

The fact that she's keeping a child secret is shady as hell. Every single mother I've ever met has always brought up their child and mentioned how important their child is to them, etc. Also if the kid is being raised by the parents thats an eyebrow raiser too.

Idk... idk. I agree with you, but there's an element there we don't know. Did the Op say he confirmed with her she has this daughter living with her parents? (I also agree that's a red flag)

But, there are circumstances where she maybe didn't want the child, but the parents are the kind that forbid abortion and adoption, and only gave her the choice for them to raise her... maybe... I mean 16?? You're still young as hell.

[bromioso]

In for lulzy advice from mixers and also to see if the misc are powerful enough to convince this confused boyo to go to north carolina.

[MadDocker]

Not too young to have a bastard child apparently.

[Clinos]

Lmao

Strong relationship skills to not find that out after 3 months. Clearly not a secret if it's plastered all over ********

This.

I don't know one female that doesn't mention their kid at least once in a conversation, its what adults/parents talk about. 3 months? And it's all over ********? You weren't paying attention.

[RyGla]

how do you know its her daughter?

[Nicklol]

Thats fukn awful

[crupiea]

That sucks but better to know sooner then later.

If she will hide a human from you, what else will she hide?

You can speak with her about it but what is the answer you want to hear? The only thing would be that its not her child.

Also, why would a perfectly healthy young woman not raise her own child? perhaps it as inconvenience that is cramping her fun.

[S0Jack3d]

women who dont raise their own children are truly selfish. ask yourself this, what do you have that a selfish person would want? money? posessions? guarantee thats what shes mostly interested in.

[Alkosh]

Believe me when I say, there's worse secrets she could have had. If you love her as much you say, then maybe you give it some time. Why is the child being raised by her parents? How much involvement does she have with her daughter? Maybe you could try and get the back story on it.

Lol. Not sure if srs. That's a big secret. But wait you're a female. So your logic and thinking can/is unbalanced.

[motilynn]

Lol. Not sure if srs. That's a big secret. But wait you're a female. So your logic and thinking can/is unbalanced.

Or maybe my own life is so fukd up, this is incredibly mild to me. Which is incredibly fukd up in its own.


OP, are you positive it's her child and have you talked to her?

[Vhagar]

Still waiting for OP to explain how pictures all over ******** = hiding her daughter.

pretty huge secret if a Google search showed you everything in about 3 seconds

[Aperture]

[anonymous]

Motilyn legit?

Follow my twitter is so @oochriso

[40ozDrank]

Strong wtf. ******** pics of gf?

[Manowar11]

Don't be a cuck. Buy a one way plane ticket to the beautiful land of North Carolina.

This x1000000000000

[motilynn]

Motilyn legit?

Follow my twitter is so @oochriso

I have no social media except this. Thank u tho.

[outfoxxed]

how you know its her daughter and not her sister or neice or something?

[anonymous]

or you could raise it and give it a strong father figure in its life like a real man would