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07-20-2016, 01:31 AM #91
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07-20-2016, 01:38 AM #92
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07-20-2016, 01:57 AM #93
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07-20-2016, 02:35 AM #94
If a girl doesn't say she has a kid the first time you meet, tapdance the fuk outta there son.
There's no reason to omit that information unless she's asshamed of her own kid. In that case fuk her, since she's not wife material anyway.''The fight is won or lost far away from the witnesses, behind the lines, in the gym, and out there on the road; long before I dance under those lights.'' - Muhammad Ali
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07-20-2016, 02:41 AM #95
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07-20-2016, 02:54 AM #96
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07-20-2016, 02:55 AM #97
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07-20-2016, 02:55 AM #98
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07-20-2016, 03:16 AM #99
My brother in law went through this. She ended up hiding TWO kids. He still married her. They had two more. They are now divorced because she is a POS and we all called it from the start.
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07-20-2016, 03:17 AM #100
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07-20-2016, 03:34 AM #101
A real man is raising a kid that's not his just to have no legal rights to see them? No thanks. Dealing with the real father, who 9/10 brings drama or is a loser or (at best) is dead or out of the picture. You end up paying for everything. Meanwhile a couple years down the road the kid gets mad at you and ultimately says "I DON'T HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOU, YOU'RE NOT MY REAL DAD!!!"
The fact you can go several months without her mentioning her kid is beyond comprehension. Even if she don't want to hurt her kids, the fact that she doesn't even acknowledge their existence is a total deal breaker.
"I can't go out tonight because..."
"I gotta pick X up from his grandparents house"
You'd think she would say SOMETHING about the kid.
That just says she could lie right to your face with no remorse.Last edited by jamesovercome; 07-20-2016 at 03:41 AM.
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07-20-2016, 04:01 AM #102
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07-20-2016, 04:15 AM #103
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07-20-2016, 04:22 AM #104
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07-20-2016, 05:28 AM #105
I made the original post and then went to bed (slept pretty badly - I was all torn up). I think I may not have explained the situation very well (again, I just found out).
- She's 20, and I'm 35. I'm firmly in the "once women go past 26/lose their glow, they're no longer marriage material" camp. So this isn't unusual for me - my last few girlfriends have been 21-25.
- She also lives at home with her family. Sorry I didn't explain that one well beforehand. I would always pick her up in front of her house, but she never wanted me to go inside. But she and her daughter live in the same house as the rest of her family, so she didn't abandon her kid.
- She would talk about her family in the context of her parents & two brothers. Zero mention of anyone else.
- Again, I'm 35 - ******** and social media in general came along AFTER I graduated from college. It was never a big deal to me, and I'd log onto FB only once in a great while. So last night was the first time it popped into my head to "Hey, lets have a look at the gf's ******** page."
- On her fb page she describes herself as a single mother, lots of pics of her with her kid (who she identifies in the captions as her kid).
Y'know, I've actually dated a few single moms before. It's not desirable by any means. But the main issue was that she never revealed she had a kid to me (her supposed bf). We met on Tinder. No mention of kid in profile (or photos). First date, second date, fifteenth date, still no mention of having a 4 year old daughter.
For the past 3 months this girl has been my perfect sexual outlet, to the point where I've actually had to tell her some weekends, "no, no we're having too much sex. My dik needs to recharge/rest". Now I'm wondering if she was just trying to rope me in. I knew it was all to good to be true.
Sigh...a lie by omission is still a lie. I suppose I should be glad I found out sooner rather than later. I'm going to ask her what's up, why didn't she mention such an important detail on the first date. But the inescapable reality is: if she kept this from me, what else is she capable of hiding?
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07-20-2016, 05:37 AM #106
You should give her another chance OP
everyone makes mistakes, and that child needs a good father figure like yourself
take one for the team and do your job as a man to clean up this problem for society
people on this forum would call you a "cuck", but I beg to differ, I think instead you'll be a "hero"
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07-20-2016, 05:43 AM #107
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07-20-2016, 06:39 AM #108
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07-20-2016, 07:21 AM #109
girl im talking to is 22 and im 29. and it's a bit hard to find **** to talk about at times. i can't imagine a 15 year difference.
tour might be over for opie. not many girls with "glow" are gonna want to marry someone with a 15 year difference. and i mean like legit, not cause the 35yo has money, ect...
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07-20-2016, 07:24 AM #110
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07-20-2016, 07:26 AM #111
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If she has it plastered all over her social media then she clearly isn't trying to hide it from anyone. How in the blue fuk did you come to that conclusion.
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07-20-2016, 07:26 AM #112
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07-20-2016, 07:28 AM #113
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07-20-2016, 07:28 AM #114
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07-20-2016, 07:31 AM #115
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07-20-2016, 07:31 AM #116
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07-20-2016, 07:35 AM #117
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07-20-2016, 07:43 AM #118
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07-20-2016, 07:45 AM #119
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07-20-2016, 07:48 AM #120
On the one hand: how have you known her for months and never once looked at her ********? That's basic intel gathering to see what kind of person she is and the kind of **** that she posts.
It's also sketchy as **** that she has a child and never directly mentioned it. I'm a father and if I was dating someone new they are going to know from day one that I have a child. Any parent who is dating and doesn't mention this outright is being dishonest and I would steer clear of IMO.
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