I stand up for friends wedding then 2 weeks later get bill for purchased suit, wut do

[gunshow101]

Fukn weddings are disgusting.

I would not consider him a friend and since he is a fancy lawyer, ask him for the agreement that you signed stating your intent on buying the suit. When he can not provide any sort of agreement, you tell him to kick rocks and to call you on his divorce day.

Weddings are such a crock of chit.

tradie detected.

i can tell your wife left you and took half of the scratch tickets.

[jwlee7ucla]

i do more for my friends of <3 years, than your ex-friend of >15 years does for you. All I'm saying is, now your friend circle has an open space, and you can fill it with someone thats worth your efforts.

[velvetmudhole]

This is a 10 page thread.

[Frank Drebin]

Sounds like all you guys are ****ing cheapskates honestly. You get "a bill" for the bachelor party? From who? You object to paying $75 to pay for a guy that you STOOD IN HIS WEDDING but had an issue with $75?

No brag but when I hosted my buddy's bachelor party (best man duty) I threw down at least $7k to ensure it was a blast. Other friends paid me what they could but I wasnt worried about it. Just wanted my friend to have a good time. You sure you guys consider each other friends?

*no brag* but every one of your posts implies that you're loaded, which I believe you are. I'm not sure you can relate to a guy that thinks $500 is significant.

[J411]

Thats pretty terrible. I think its pretty socially acceptable for people to pay for their own tux rentals. I have been in 4 weddings and I paid to rent my own tux each time.

You sure it wasn't a rental and you forgot to return it so they charged him the full price? Or maybe you were supposed to give back to him to return it?

I remember my rental place the last time I rented a tux telling me that if I didn't return it I was going to be charged about 500.00 or something like that.

[MrBourbon]

lol cowardly as **** emailing it to you and never mentioning it prior

Red is right, OP. Cowardly chit right there.

[Swamp Dog]

What the hell does "stand up" mean?
I mean, I know what it means but never heard of it in wedding context.

Bruh, please

[xmeandix]

What the hell does "stand up" mean?
I mean, I know what it means but never heard of it in wedding context.

This. Read the whole fukin thread and all these people in here saying "stand up" I figured everyone else was saying it because OP did and everyone else thought this was the term. Never heard of it in my entire life. It's calling being in the wedding party or groomsman

[Yero91]

To offer a different perspective, OP, you just threw away a 15 year friendship over $500. Is $500 a lot of money? Yeah, but lets be realhere, you'll probably piss that amount away at your local bar within the next couple of months. You sound pretty close to him as well, you've mentioned talking to him multiple times a week prior to this incident and even helping his dad get a job. You just severed multiple ties, including at least another groomsmen. I think you may look back on this and regret it. As you get older, friends get harder to come by and 15 years is a significant amount of time. In the grand scheme of things, $500 is nothing.

[meteoraniac]

This is a 10 page thread.

6 pages

[cookiefiend]

To offer a different perspective, OP, you just threw away a 15 year friendship over $500. Is $500 a lot of money? Yeah, but lets be realhere, you'll probably piss that amount away at your local bar within the next couple of months. You sound pretty close to him as well, you've mentioned talking to him multiple times a week prior to this incident and even helping his dad get a job. You just severed multiple ties, including at least another groomsmen. I think you may look back on this and regret it. As you get older, friends get harder to come by and 15 years is a significant amount of time. In the grand scheme of things, $500 is nothing.

Is he throwing it away because of the money, or is he throwing it away because his friend has outed himself as a monumental twat?

This. Read the whole fukin thread and all these people in here saying "stand up" I figured everyone else was saying it because OP did and everyone else thought this was the term. Never heard of it in my entire life. It's calling being in the wedding party or groomsman

I've also never heard it but understood it from context.

[fox994]

Send him a bill for your attendance, bill him for whatever his hourly rate is. My last lawyer was about $375/hr for people that walked in, he charged me $250 since I knew him. Add it up and send it to him, say you'll deduct $500 for the suit.

[jonnicola]

Charge him for your wedding gift.


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this

also go NC coz he sounds like a chitty 'friend'

[WhirlwindTobias]

I shall celebrate the day where it becomes a cultural norm to just say "Hey guys I'm getting married at x place at x time on x day, feel free to turn up".

The people who really value you will attend, and people who don't value you so much won't but there won't be any hard feelings about it - you just know who you can consider close to you.

In the current format you have all these phucking formalities which end up breeding resentment and force people to put on faces for a day when they don't even want to be there. In what right mind do people want to force attendance on someone...oh wait people are up their own arses.

[doughnutking]

Whateva op, i have been to a family wedding which was arranged at two weeks notice and everyone who was attending was expected to pay for it, the bridesmaids had to buy their own dresses, the father was asked to stump the bill for a fancy hotel for 100 guests and he is a peasant and had to put it on a credit card.

[cookiefiend]

Whateva op, i have been to a family wedding which was arranged at two weeks notice and everyone who was attending was expected to pay for it, the bridesmaids had to buy their own dresses, the father was asked to stump the bill for a fancy hotel for 100 guests and he is a peasant and had to put it on a credit card.

How is this relevant? If those people agreed to that that's their problem.

[doughnutking]

How is this relevant? If those people agreed to that that's their problem.

It is relevant because some people in this world get what they want and some people... like op... foot the bill.

With my scenario above the couple told the families they needed to be married asap so they could emigrate to get some great job so everyone chipped in to help them out. They never did emigrate...

all dat emigration wedding money bought a nice Audi tho.

[sharepass11]

how about you tellem to go fukc himself

youre an idiot if you pay him 500$

[cookiefiend]

It is relevant because some people in this world get what they want and some people... like op... foot the bill.

With my scenario above the couple told the families they needed to be married asap so they could emigrate to get some great job. They never did emigrate...

all dat emigration wedding money bought a nice Audi tho.

Your point wasn't clear originally. But in any case op refused to foot the bill so he's not a sucker like those people.

[Prose Edda]

Lawyer ends friendship of 15 years over a messily $500? He clearly wasn't a very good friend.

[doughnutking]

Your point wasn't clear originally. But in any case op refused to foot the bill so he's not a sucker like those people.

You are right it wasn't clear, or even relevant.

[noisybrah]

lol awkward OPs friend found this thread though.

[Swamp Dog]

This. Read the whole fukin thread and all these people in here saying "stand up" I figured everyone else was saying it because OP did and everyone else thought this was the term. Never heard of it in my entire life. It's calling being in the wedding party or groomsman

So I'm not crazy and there is no such thing as "standing up" in a wedding.
Op is not Shakespeare, can't just go around making words up.

[hermes3893]

I enjoyed a delicious 3 course meal at a friend's wedding last year, it even had lobster tail and then some insanely amazing cheesecake for dessert. I told her it was delicious and her response was "the catering cost $140,000"

Who the fuk was the caterer? Bobby Flay?

[KMadigan777]

So I'm not crazy and there is no such thing as "standing up" in a wedding.
Op is not Shakespeare, can't just go around making words up.

Here you go: http://www.learnamericanenglishonlin...ocabulary.html

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I had another friend I talked to after this all went down and he had a good point that for people if they want a reason to end a friendship they can find one. That was clearly the case here, wanted to 'last word' so to say, esp after I called him out over the email.

[arn710]

Its pretty comical that someone was dumb enough to actually take the advice of the misc and it cost him a 15 year friendship over a pittance of money for a wedding

I'm glad OP is not my friend

[Swamp Dog]

Here you go: http://www.learnamericanenglishonlin...ocabulary.html

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I had another friend I talked to after this all went down and he had a good point that for people if they want a reason to end a friendship they can find one. That was clearly the case here, wanted to 'last word' so to say, esp after I called him out over the email.

Repped, learned something new